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Pan Female Dominant, 57,  Kempner, Texas
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I find that I have had to add this disclaimer after I found my profile and pictures on sites that I did NOT sign up for. It was in Russian for fucks sake! WARNING: Any person(s), institution(s), organization(s), group(s) using this site or any of its associated sites for studies or projects - You do NOT have OUR permission to use any of my profile or pictures, information, or statistics in any way, shape, form or forum both current and future. If you have or do, it will be a violation of my personal privacy and will be subject to legal ramifications.
I am an outspoken, blunt and sometimes brutally honest person. Don't say I didn't warn you.

Married? Attached? Separated? Move on. I'm not dealing with you. Read the profile. Just don't look at the picture and write. You'll get all the answers you need before writing.

Reading my journal before writing is also a great idea!

If you have a spouse or S.O. and they do NOT know that you are looking to fufill your desires/needs outside of your relationship, then move on to another profile.

I also am not interested in someone who smokes. It is a health issue for me and my family. I will admit to smoking a Cigar or two a month and then sometimes go for months without one. If smoking also bothers you, I will not do it around you, nor reek of smoke when I'm with you.

I am NOT someones "dirty little secret". I value myself to much to allow that to happen. If you can't afford to be seen with me in public, in a vanilla setting, then move on. There are plenty of women on here that love messing around with your type, but I'm NOT one!

Things I am NOT

1. A Sugar Momma
2. A Bed & Breakfast
3. Your ticket to a new life in a new place
4. An instant Green Card
5. Interested in "saving" anyone
6. Interested in an on-line romance
7. Interested in a long distance relationship
8. Interested in on-line training
9. Interested in being a 1 night stand
10. Interested in being your "Nurse"
11. Interested in someone who can't get it up at all. I don't care about the reason. I care about being able to play with a fully functional cock.

If this is what you're looking for, move on to another profile.

My husband is FULLY aware of what I do and each time one of us leaves the house to spend time with others, we know where and with whom the other is, at ALL times. To do other wise is disrespectful to all parties involved and I will not tolerate it. We use safe calls and expect you to also. You may meet or speak with him at any time.

I am a FemDom, a LeatherWoman and a Sadist, pure and simple. I tried being a Switch, but found that my heart was truly not in it.

I am married but he will NOT play with us unless he is there as a "spotter/second" for some kind of edge play. His being there as part of a threesome is always up for discussion.

I am polyamorus and if I can find a play partner AND a new love all in the same person, then I will be a person blessed. Do you have to become my boyfriend for us to play together? NO.

I play with many people that I have no desire to form that kind of bond with.
I'm a FemDom and a Sadist deep in my decadent heart.
I have only found a few hard limits so far and I will respect and honor your's.

That does not mean that I will not push at your soft limits. I say this because some of the things that I said "No fucking way" to when I first started are now some of the things that turn me on the most and I'd love to help you find that joy as well.

What do I want in a submissive or a bottom?

Someone who enjoys the rougher types of play. I can get quite physical and I love to bite and scratch. I have been called an Evil Sadistic Bitch and I'm proud of it. I was given a patch for my vest that says "Fabulously Evil". I've also been called The Grandma from Hell and the Martha Stewart of Pain! Trust me, they fit! I am indeed, the deep end of the pool and their is no lifeguard on duty.

Does that mean that I'm always a "balls to the wall" type of player? No, It just means that I play intensely, no matter if the scene is one of service, sensuality, training or going to the edge.

I'd like to find a partner that is willing to learn, grow and explore with me.

I am also bisexual and I will Top women, but for me to take it further than that, there has to be a deeper connection between us.

I've added a few things that may help you to know my softer, vanilla side.

I LOVE to dance, read, go to the movies and the theater, ride horses and motorcycles, swim, travel, as well as stay in with family and friends. I'm part American Indian and I love going to Powwow's.

I'm not sure what else to tell you. I guess you'll just have to drop me a line so that we can talk more. *S*
WHAT I'M LOOKING FOR I'm looking for a person who knows how to share.

Share me with my husband and share them self with me, totally. Mind, Body, Heart and Soul.
Someone who has interests of their own that they can possibly share with me or be fine alone with when our separate lives keep us apart.

I'd like a person who can laugh at them self and the world around them, but still take things serious enough to be an intellectual.

I respect a person who can hold a conversation, state their opinion and yet be open-minded enough to allow someone the right to their different thoughts.

I'd love a person I can go out and do things with or just stay at home and cuddle on the couch with.
Yes, I do love football and I may be one of the few women around who yell louder at the Ref's than men do! *L* I love the Cowboys and the Packers! A person who likes a woman with some meat on her bones and some wisdom behind her age. I like mature people. Age matters not. It all depends on the person! A person who is adventurous, in and out of bed. Someone who is not afraid of trying something new. Adventures do not come just in the great outdoors, but in many places.

I am who I am and what I am...a woman with some curves and I don't want any one who is going to try and change me or attempt to make me feel bad about myself. I wouldn't DREAM of disrespecting them like that and I want the same in return. When and if I change, it will be for myself and no one else.
They will receive, love, loyalty, respect, and friendship in return for granting me the same. A person that will communicate with me, openly and honestly and always tell me the truth, no matter if that truth hurts my feelings. I will do the same for them. I do not believe in playing games. Games are for children. I want a full grown person. If we end up being friends, that's is wonderful. If we end up being more, that is wonderful too.

I married my best friend 37 yrs ago and we are still married, so I put a great deal of stock in being friends. *S*












 Dominant Female



 5' 2"

 230 lbs






Actively Seeking:

Submissive Female

Submissive Male

Switch Women

Switch Men

Sub/Sub Couples

Friends Only

A Poly Household

 Lives For:

 Shopping (Expert)

 Dancing (Expert)

 Horseback Riding (Beginner)

 Genital Punishment (Expert)

 Being Massaged (Expert)

 Domestic Service (Beginner)

 Hair Pulling (Expert)

 Whips (Beginner)

 Polyamory (Expert)





 Coffee Shops  (Beginner)

 Movies (Expert)


 Musical Theater (Expert)

 Renaissance Faires


 Blindfolds (Expert)


 Breast Play

 Cane / Crop Discipline



 Electrical Play

 Local BDSM Community

 Fire Play (Beginner)

 Fisting (Beginner)

 Foot Worship (Beginner)

 Leashes (Beginner)

 Massage (Giving) (Expert)


 Plastic Wrap Bondage

 Public Play

 Sensory Deprivation (Beginner)

 Spanking (Beginner)



 Wax Play

 Board Games

 Card Games

 Online RPGs

 Science Fiction

 TV Sports

 Web Surfing

 Intellectual Discourse


 Lifestyle BDSM (Beginner)

 Old Guard (Beginner)

 Eighties Music


 Nineties Music


 Rock Music

 Seventies Music

 Horse Racing


 Amusement Parks

 Art Galleries

 Bird Watching (Beginner)

 Clubbing (Expert)

 Fine Dining (Expert)

 Gambling (Beginner)


 Camping (Beginner)

 Tai-Chi (Beginner)


 Anal Play (Beginner)

 Begging (Beginner)

 Body Worship (Beginner)

 Crossdressing (Beginner)


 Public Exhibition (Beginner)

 Needle Play (Beginner)

 Obedience Training (Beginner)

 Orgasm Control

 Oral Service (Beginner)

 Outdoor Bondage (Beginner)

 Strap-Ons (Beginner)

 Comedy Shows

 Puzzle Games (Beginner)







 Alternative Music


 Classical Music

 Country Music

 Hip Hop Music

 New Wave

 Opera Music


 Pop Music



 Show Tunes




 Antique Shows

 Bar Hopping


 Aerobics (Beginner)


 Humiliation / Degradation

 Medical Play


 TV News

 Cross Stitch

 Female Supremacy (Beginner)


 Heavy Metal Music

 Industrial Music

 New Age Music

 Punk Rock Music


 Auto Racing

 Curious About:

 Going to the Opera (Beginner)





 Sailing / Yachting

 Scuba Diving




 Erotic Hypnosis

 Knife Play

 Masks on Partner

 Mental Bondage

 Pony/Puppy Roleplay


 Suspension Bondage

 Vacuum Stimulation

 Alternative Medicine


 Art Collecting



 Body Art

 Candle Making








 Soap Making






 Liberal Politics












 Body Building


 Kick Boxing






 Housework Service

 Role Playing


 Romance Novels




 1950s Lifestyle


 Goth Lifestyle


 Blue Grass

 Folk Music




 Street Hockey







 Hard Limits:




 Gas Masks (Beginner)

 Hoods (Beginner)


 Horror Movies

 Conservative Politics

 Gorean Lifestyle


 Ice Hockey

 Sky Diving

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Journal Entries:
8/21/2013 8:49:53 PM

WOW... I can't believe it's been so long since I last wrote in here. Things have happened, both good and bad. I have met and lost some wonderful people in the past few years. The one I regret the most was my boy J. If it hadn't been for his lying, cheating cunt wife, we would still be together.


Right now, I'm NOT looking for a relationship, but will not run from one if it should happen. What I AM looking for is what I call a Chew Toy. Someone to play with, to experiment on, to take to parties and work over.


Could this be you? You will either enjoy the night of your life or it could be the start of the ride of your life.



9/4/2009 10:23:45 AM
I am trying to keep my postings in a positive vein but I have to say this...

PLEASE stop writing to me if you don't live, at the very least, IN the state of TEXAS.

8/6/2009 9:39:39 PM

Some of you that visit my blogs often will notice that all but one is now gone. There is a reason for that. I'm trying to change my attitude in how I deal with things.

I attended a discussion this past weekend that got me to thinking. While I may not change the "attitude" of my profile, as I believe in "truth in advertising" I am going to examine and try to change my attitude in my blogs and how I deal with people.

Stay tuned, this could be fun...

7/2/2009 2:01:43 PM

To my fellow Dom's who view my profile. I'm flattered, but seriously, do you not know how to use the search features on here?

It seems that I didn't give full consideration to some of the reasons that my fellow Dom's are viewing my profile. Thank you dear Sir for pointing out my error in thinking. Proof again that you are never to old to learn something.

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