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Time for an update, I suppose. I am married to the love of my life. After trying various relationship styles, we seem to have settled on "monogamish". This means we both put each other first, but understand that fun with others can be, well, fun. :) We both strongly identify as dominant, and understand that using others to satisfy our need to dominate is not a betrayal of trust. So I guess I am looking for others to have some fun with. As far as the "lifestyle" goes, I have been involved, off and on, for 15+ years. I haven't been very active lately, but I think I would like to find a partner for parties, events, etc. I am not entirely sure what that relationship looks like right now, but if you think that you might enjoy going to BDSM events and parties with me in some kinky way, drop me a line. As far as who I am in the real world, I think my OKCupid profile does a decent job of describing me:
My self-summary
So, I am tall, attractive, intelligent and creative. I love to ballroom dance, shop, sing in the car and have a great sense of humor. I have a great job, wonderful friends, and I have found my "place" in life. I am extremely affectionate, commitment oriented, giving, and patient. I don't have a jealous bone in my body. I am kind to small animals, love to stop and smell the flowers and I when I drink, I get happy and never start fights. I love to dress up and do things that require a costume (Rocky Horror, Renaissance Festival, Costume Party, etc). I own a kilt, and I am not afraid to wear it. I tend to be a take-charge kind of guy...natural alpha male...but I don't let that turn me into an asshole. I usually end up the leader of the group, but no one knows how it happens, and no one really minds. This take-charge attitude permeates other aspects of my life, if you know what I mean...if you don't, just ask. :) I drive a convertible, and try not to think too much about what that says about me. I love the summer and I love the fall. I like the spring and tolerate the winter. I have a lot of friends, and really love a fair number of them. Once I love, I never let go. Loyalty is very very important to me. You are looking for an interesting group of people to hang out with in Rochester. I am a bit of a "cruise director" and like to set up events like karaoke, Rhinos games, wine tours, etc. If you are looking for a social scene, I am your man!!!
What I’m doing with my life
Trying to get it all together. I often have many irons in the fire, and can forget that they are there. I have also decided that I want to get my profile up to 100%. To get to 95%, I have to have 1000 words in my profile, so I guess that means it is time to ramble...luckily, as an English Major with a concentration in Creative Writing, I am good at rambling.
I’m really good at
Ballroom dancing...I won a world championship in 2002. (Video of me dancing) Association Football (Soccer)...I play 3-4 times a week and coach a co-ed team. I am a goal keeper, and love to throw my body around. Volleyball...I play once a week. It is great cross-training for football. Kissing...I put my entire focus into a kiss. I could kiss for hours...kiss until my lips were tired and a bit chapped. Kissing is the appetizer, the main course, and the dessert.
The first things people usually notice about me
My height. My cocky attitude.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Fight Club. Stranger in a Strange Land. Star Wars. Sushi. Thai. Mika. Ludacris. I watch a lot of European Football (soccer) and I am a huge Arsenal supporter.
The six things I could never do without
(in reverse order of importance)
Dance...ballroom, ballet, or just booty shaking. I love to move to the rhythm.
Music...couldn't dance or sing without it!
Lust...I am a sucker for that animal reaction between two people.
Love...Romantic, platonic, epicurean, you name it, I love to love! I love my friends, love my family, love my cats, and I love my life!
Friends...I love my friends and would do anything for them.
Passion...I need to feel, and feel deeply. I need for those around me to know what it is to have their blood race and their hearts pump. I don't want to live in a passion-less state.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Evolution. Value systems. Spirituality, or lack thereof. Technology. Sports. Women. Food. Dancing. The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I believe trust is more important than monogamy.

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1/17/2014 12:28:31 PM

I am not going to delete the journal entry below this one, though it no longer presents a fair representation of what I am looking for or who I am.  In the years between that post and this, I have mellowed quite dramatically in my style of domination.

Today, I am seeking a partner in a power exchange dynamic, not a slave to own.  I seek to be made richer by what a submissive brings into the relationship, not made to feel more powerful by her grovelling. 

I can no longer put into a bulleted list the things I need from this relationship.  I am still unquestionably dominant and need to feel that power in my connections, but I am willing to see it form organically, and not through contracts and rituals.  I need to laugh and relax and find the connection that is intrinsic to both myself and my partner.


1/15/2008 9:32:27 AM
Hmm...a journal entry?  Oh why not...

So here is what I am looking for:

1) You should be a slave.  You should revel in being owned.  You should desire your position under me and mine.

2) You should have organization and housekeeping skills.  I need someone to help organize the chaos that is my life.

3) You should understand that my word is law.  You will not question, you will do.

If this is you, please contact me...

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