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Every so often someone implies that because I've exceeded some perceived shelf life here, I must be a 'bad submissive'. Firstly, what the fuck is that??? You get so wrapped up in the labels that you forget that we are all still entirely unique individuals. There may be subs who would be a bad fit for you, but don't run around telling them that you deem them to be 'bad submissives'. That's just dommy dickery. Most submissive women are very sensitive, and as men who are Dominant to such women, you are responsible for treating them w care. Whether they're yours or not. Hold yourselves responsible enough that you tread lightly. And I'm not sure what porn dream you guys are buying into, but a woman's submissive nature, is really only revealed in hand. There may be glimpses, but certainly with me, my submissiveness is well hidden until it's completely dripping from my lips. Suck on that;) |
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Shout out to you lovely guys who take an honest explanation of why you don't feel like a good fit to me, with the grace with which it was intended. I love that. There's no need to force anything. Either we belong to one another or we don't. |
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For me, without an intellect, a penis is entirely ornamental;) |
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To cap or not to cap. Occasionally I wrestle w this. There are few who inspire this struggle, but when one comes along, here's my internal debate. I'm seeking out my Him, and He already has my respect and supplication, despite the fact that we have yet to meet. But I also don't know you NOT to be Him. I don't cap casually, and I don't do it to stroke your dommy egos, I cap for that elusive One, and I reserve that respect for Him. |
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If you're sending a series of tumblr images as some sort of high schoolish attempt at communicating with me, I'm taking it as evidence of your communication style or lack thereof, and responding with my unwanted collection of dick pix. Enjoy. |
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Completely needing my head pressed into a floor. Or just hold me down on the sofa next to you while you read your book. After about ten minutes I'll be settled and then I can curl up in your lap and really distract you from your reading. There are great rewards to giving a submissive what she needs. A grateful slave wholly worships her Master. |
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I'm loving this season of Vikings. Ragnar's relationship w his chinese slave is a little piece of cinematic genius that my eyes have been yearning for for ages. So lovely to see an authentic looking dynamic. I could watch their interactions over and over. But the sadist Earl leaves me completely un-sated. He's so single dimensional. There's none of the nuance. Such a missed opportunity w that character. Nonetheless, I'm fucking loving the overt nature of it all. Sub porn. |
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One would think this was obvious but apparently it's not. If you look like a serial killer in your pix, perhaps it's time for retakes. |
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I love reading screen names. The name chosen to represent you can speak volumes. And so many of them are outright hilarious. |
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You know how there are some memories that stay completely fresh throughout your life? Certain memories just feel more visceral,... they're kind of burned into the soul. Anyone know if there's a term for that? |
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Anyone else get totally turned on watching Vikings? Might as well be sub porn. They had a scene last week where Floki is chained in the center of town by the throat...all I could think of was, who's the deviant genius who gave him no slack in the line;) |
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"Looking for a replacement sub" Dude. Reword that. We are not interchangeable parts. |
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While youth has its advantages, nothing beats experience. We smooth our edges over the years. We learn what works and what doesn't. While honing our abilities to capture the attention of our chosen prey, we also learn what's not worth doing in our relationships. We become less willing to contribute to the bullshit and the drama, and learn to spot and avoid the people that bring that energy with them. |
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Just stumbled onto a male doms profile where he calls himself a findom. Sorry babe, that ain't dominance, it's hooking. Leave that shit to the girls. |
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I wonder if collarspace is responsible for deion ending up in the urban dictionary. |
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I have so many lovely conversations here. There's something about being forced to communicate through the written word that makes us more thoughtful about what we put out there, ...and somehow more willing to share our vulnerabilities. |
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You've grasped what I perceive as the whole draw for a submissive...the free fall. That's almost the whole game, finding someone who you feel safe enough to fully fall into. And that's when the fun starts for both, the blooming of a soul in the hands of another. It's perfect synergy. |
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Best line ever from a Dom; I'm not a complete nazi. |
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I've solved the mystery of the 'Overuse of Deion'...well I had help;) Apparently the CS message system is a sneaky bugger, who enjoys replacing a frequently used synonym for illustration w deion. It's dropping the s.c.r.i.p.t. part of the word. |
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It's astonishing to me how many people message me without even reading my profile. Apparently any girl will do. The whole reason I have my snark on full display is to serve as a heads up that I'm a fucking handful. |
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I don't 'block' people. I mean if someone was repeatedly threatening or something, I would. But if I'm dealing w someone unpleasant, I'm perfectly capable of reading and moving on. Blocking feels a bit like hiding under the covers to me. |
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'Hi' is not a conversation starter. It's barely even a greeting. I love finding new folks to talk to, but they all have a couple basic things in common. Intelligence and the ability to communicate. 'Hi' bodes of neither.
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There are some amazing submissive women here. I don't know why you guys bitch that there aren't. Keep your eyes open, and wade thru the rubbish. |
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When exactly do the morons on the collar space technical squad (loosely used) intend on fixing the mobile interface??? They must think we enjoy punishment so much that we won't notice their ineptitude. |
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I'm kinda disgusted by the entire concept of 'financial domination' and I'm calling bullshit on the terminology. It's whoring, plain and simple, to a subset who have specific, often non sexual needs. You would never find a self respecting male Dominant who would employ such a practice. That should serve as a measuring post. |
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Blank profiles baffle me. You're not even baiting the hook. Whatever the intent,...it comes off as lazy and not serious. Take the time to write a thoughtful and considered profile statement. Think of it as your online handshake. First impressions count. |
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Interesting how the simple act of posting here and interacting w the various players involved forces one to sharpen their understanding of themselves. It enables reflection and reassessment of what your true needs are. Without that detailed assessment, finding that which will satisfy those needs is impossible. |
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I need to be pressed into a wall. |
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I have found some lovely people to converse with through this experience. I'm grateful for that. Sure, I had to wade through the septic system but I'm no worse for wear. And even the predators have been entertaining. I'll actually miss this place a little when it's no longer appropriate to be here. |
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This site loses about half of my replies. I write a long, thoughtful response and it just disappears into the ether. I only notice if I check the sent mail folder and it's not there. When interacting with anyone in this disease infested chum pool, remember that the glitches are probably more responsible for a failure to reply rather than reading as disinterest or rudeness, ...or some personal failing in your approach. |
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My submissive senses are tingling. Nothing quite like when a legitimately powerful man walks into the room. There's a sharp intake of breath, a flutter in the belly, and my eyes are transfixed. |
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Where are all the psychopaths today? I'm disappointed I didn't get to mouth off yet;) |
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I'll never understand why male subs contact female subs to request humiliation. I get these offers routinely. Surely there are profile categories much more suited for these endeavors. Male subs seem like an entirely different animal to me. Interesting to think about how ones gender shapes these roles. For me, being under a Doms wing, so to speak, is a big part of the dynamic, but that is biologically driven and would probably be much less important to a male. Fascinating how physiology plays its part. |
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You know that little pic of whoever the site randomly chooses to show with your profile? Yeah. I hate that. |
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My new favorite thing is addressing the charmers in here who think they can call any submissive whatever they like, and propose whatever weirdness,...without any foreplay. If I were yours you could, but I'm not yours. This approach means you get to meet me without my manners. |
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If your intention is to teach something, but you decline to hold a conversation with anyone who doesn't wholeheartedly share your views, perhaps teaching isn't really your intention at all. Learning wasn't my intention either...I just really enjoy climbing into rabbit holes. |
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What an interesting little microcosm we have here. To the left we have the real deal psychopaths, sidling up with invitations to your own funeral. These guys make me fearful for the naives ...and even more so for those who have kink tendencies that make those offers tempting. They are a surprisingly large subset judging by my mail.
Just off center from the psychopaths are the pretenders. They are normally also easily spotted. They always seem to lead with their vast experience, but when probed fall very short of the mark. Btw, most men identifying as Doms kinda dislike being probed. Probe them often. I find myself wondering what these folks do when they get an authentic submissive in hand...there's only so many times you can spank a girl before she gets bored. To the pretenders I offer a reminder; Everyone starts somewhere, embrace where you are as you seek out who you'd like to become, there are those who will happily support you in that journey.
To the right we have the obvious sex addicts, they lead with cock pix and really uninventive innuendo. Say that ten times quickly. No emotional connection required or possible, just a series of empty holes needing to be filled, figuratively and literally.
In that teensy weensy corner over there are the sapiosexuals. Don't pester them,...they're having intense conversations. I'll return to this corner often and drop the word genuflect as frequently as possible.
Huddled over here are the deviant deviants. They come in a variety of flavors,...and odors. Someone light some incense in this bitch, the whole place smells like feet.
And roaming freely about the room, we have the alpha males, bcuz you can't keep these mofos in one place, they go wherever the hell they want. Beautiful bastards.
It's like a potluck dinner, choose what you eat carefully and moderate yourself with the probability that food poisoning is part of the bargain. |
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The ego stroking on some of your profiles is so telling. True confidence is quiet, it doesn't need to announce itself, you just feel it when it enters the room. That's the difference between power and posturing. |
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Damn. You guys attack just like sharks in freshly chummed water. Happy feasting. |
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