Took a little trip to alt com with Alice in Wonderland, who knows the place. Penthouse, losing profit in the zine biz, bought alt com's parent, FFN, and entered the scam biz.... 

In its early years, I was an alt com Dom. Now it's a glossier marketplace--with the economy moving online and BDSM becoming popularized--filled with profiles of models (reverse image search) that hustle members for commissions.... 

In the digital jungle of phantom personas, online adventures can be titillating and instructive, their own reward, but fall flat without plausible interaction, becoming dreary business. Whatever happened to the real life? So many ploys, so little time.... 

With nostalgia for Yahoo Personals....

Google EFF Secure Messaging Scorecard and also check out Shut Up and Dance (Black Mirror, Netflix)--credible caveats.

FREE! Practice ESL and photo search on CS and make big bucks!! Be the first in your neighborhood or local cyber cafe.

Fifty Shades of Banality between two boring people. I didn't read the book and only saw the trailer, but I trust my intuition. The Story of O (1975) is better, and almost does justice to the book within the limits of theater-going.... 

D/s runs from insipid to extreme. Tumblr has photos of someone waterboarding a blonde. Did she really get off on that? Hard to imagine....

Sensual sadism and a dance of control are sublime recreations, but banality and brutality aren't on my list of aphrodisiacs.

Dog days. Some say they're into anything, but sometimes it's only fantasy to escape a miserable reality. It's understandable. We all have pain. Like most endeavors, D/s needs give and take, candid exchange and honest opinion, beyond sexual wonderments. To do D/s, you have to show up. In the age of twitter, it can all be terminated by clicking the x button. Next. New fantasy. Those with hands-on experience in D/s are becoming more scarce on CS.

Pity the poor mistresses who with vapid pouts and goddess language serve schlubs for a living. On the other hand, meenakshi6 of Delhi captures the essence: "What turns a mistress on? Other profiles would say so many things but in the end, what turns a mistress on is simply obedience." [update: nakedburns of Perth/Manila probably wrote the original in a version far more complete and eloquent. Plagiarism is flattery, from one Domme to another, I guess.]

Intrepid forays into the local BDSM community usually feel like cruising Times Square after it's been theme-parked by Frederic's of Hollywood. Wear a persona, go through the motions, and make it your life. "I was whipped three times on the cross by a Master and Mistress dressed all in leather who really knew what they were doing." But darling, your true suffering comes from loss of intimacy....

Maybe jaded vision makes these events look like parades of Harlequins. I remember when bdsm was for outlaws and the decadent elite. Free love was for free spirits. I think Brooklyn boy Clive Davis has monetized all that. 

How many variations on a theme can hold our interest, when really, the eyes have it. Psychosexuality transcends roles, props, toys, whips and chains. Lust knows no Top or bottom. Empty roles can't replace emotional chemistry.

CM the muse. It's free. Pick it up and put it down. In a global cast of characters, some are even real and worth meeting.

Yoni puja rules male4female on CM. So-called Doms jump through hoops and wave pedigrees like dogs hoping to get a taste. So says brownbitch in India, who's a bit extreme, but probably near target.... 

Lingam worship might rule female4male on CM, but I doubt it. Some so-called subs are demanding when sorting the pack: Serve me by spanking me just right. Seems backward, but reflects reality. Ultimately, the sub controls the Dom to protect consensual from criminal. So-called ownership begs an issue: What are the walking rights? Which raises issues of manipulated needs, etc..... 

Women are iconic in sex arenas. In other arenas, they strive for full citizenship, sometimes adopting a masculine mindset to prevail. This might apply to sex arenas as well.... 

In any case, liberating or addictive, gender power plays beyond vanilla can be fascinating.

BrokeAssDominant says it all, or most of it, anyway.

I support the boilerplate caveat to social researchers that appears in some profiles, but would still like to see some stats. I'm guessing male/female 2:1, doers/wishfuls 1:10, with the usual percents of 12-year-olds in Omaha who are seasoned Masters, waitresses in Florida who are Financial Dommes, and undercover moles who are scary-sick snuff girls. Here in CyberLand.