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| Photos are a must from the start!!! (technicalists don't fret, your photo gets mine, if I like what I see and decide to pursue a dialogue with you) If you are approaching me with any hopes of moving forward then a proper letter of introduction is in order as well.
NO ONE LINERS PLEASE!!!
A direct quote from the profile of NixorPercipio here on collarme:
"I am a realist. This is a very long and steady process. It's hard to find the right match, to find two people who truly understand each other at this level. There are many who find flash in the pan, but that's play rather than a deep D/s connection."
Can it be any clearer than that?
About me:
I am a new Domme, I am looking for a quality slave, one who knows what he wants and is able to articulate it, (this is a must) for a possible ltr.
I am very vanilla society oriented still, I do not go in for the fetish wear, I like to maintain a low-key persona to the outside world, I like being real people, my sub must have this trait as well, meaning he will behave as men and gentlemen do in public, in private he is who and what I need him to be at any given time.
Although stern, when I deem appropriate, I am also fair and very willing to nurture the right one/ones, no married or attached persons need bother to apply, let's not waste one anothers time, you will automatically not be the right one.
My dominance for me is a natural part of who I am, meaning that I am not here looking for one to merely have role-playing sessions with, if you are hung up on the the costumes and the outfits, I am not for you, having my way is essential to my existence, serving and being at my beck and call should be a natural and essential part of who he is, he must have an unwaveringly loyal and devoted nature, he will be tested often, many times unaware that he is being tested, he must crave subservience as I crave dominance.
Do not write if you are only looking for kink, I am no BDSM booty call, There are many aspects within this life, that I want to explore, if what I've written so far holds any intrique for those that read it, do not be shy about contacting me.
If I am interested we will become acquainted through chat, possibly to phone then to r/t at my discretion and my discretion only, I will not compromise on this.
In addition, if you are merely looking for sexual thrills with nothing of substance involved, kindly move on to the next profile.
In addendum:
When contacting me kindly anticipate that I will naturally want to view a photo, do not prompt me to have to email you to request it as I find this tedious, do not write with one liners or emails containing only a syllable or two, say something of substance about yourself and by all means feel free to be honest, I mean it when I say you must be able to articulate yourself, I may not respond otherwise and this would be rude, something that I'm not easily given to.
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You know, here's what gets me. This IS a dating site so to speak, where you win some, you lose some, rejection is going to be the name of the game sometimes for all of us. If you're writing someone waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay over from East or West Kakalaky somewhere and your desires, needs, etc. don't match, plus your kinks don't rhyme to boot, why get pissed when the person on the other end says "No Thank You" then come back into that person's email being all snarky. For one thing it makes NO SENSE to me, the second thing, it makes the person on the other end breathe a sigh of relief for obviously having dodged what may have been a very unstable bullet. |
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Need to meet a compatible pc geek for future use. |
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Almost lost CM. Whew!!!!
How many of yall went into panic mode?
Either way people get your stuff just in case....lol. |
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Ladies Beware!!! seekWHAPwoman
A rude little man who responds with nastiness when he is rejected. This person is obviously unstable.
My Exchange with him....
HIM:
10/31/12 8:47 AM
i am a devoted slave of over 30 years, i was a 24/7 slave to my late wife for 24 of them i am well trained in many areas and understand what it means and takes to be a true slave. i hope we may talk Maam i will serve your needs and desires, it is all about you
ME:
on 10/31/12 at 8:56 PM:
Sorry do not understand WHAP.
Take care and good luck with your continued search.
HIM:
on 10/31/12 at 9:20 PM:
then you are obviously clueless no surprise here
ME:
on 10/31/12 at 9:39 PM:
Was that necessary? Now that you've given me your rude and unasked for opionion here is mine, instead of living in the past missing your dead wife and looking for her clone, why not present yourself as a clean slate to a potential new owner, willing to be molded as SHE sees fit?
HIM:
on 10/31/12 at 10:33 PM:
my dead wife had more class up her ass then a dumb cunt like you. now go away, you are boring the crap out of me
ME:
on 10/31/12 at 11:47 PM:
Oh I see, anyone who cannot or will not give YOU what YOU want becomes a cunt? Your wife probably died to get the hell away from you, STAY AWAY FROM YOU? Listen here LONELY little man you emailed me with your rude and boorish bullshit. Bore? I think it would take a bore to know a bore, now you stay the hell out of my email as this is not the first time that you have written me.
He is now blocked.
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Until further notice, only interested in bi-sexual or bi-curious male slaves. Still not interested in players, kinksters, fetishists, switches, married men or wankers. |
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I dunno folks, as I look around this site, I see all types of art, that I know wasn't created by the profile owners, yet CM is constantly removing my art, even when I explain that I have permission to use the work.
Now the folks who run CM have tried to get me to do their job on some level by telling them who else has art dipicted as main photos on their profiles, something that I will not do. Why? Because frankly, I enjoy alot of the art that is being shared here as well and frankly again, it is not my job to police this site for that sort of thing, nor do I desire to make trouble for others who want to share the art that they find around the net etc..
According to the folks at CM, it appears that I am being singled out because, well someone around here has a problem with me sharing my art and is trying to keep me from doing so by complaining to the administrators of this site.
The photo in question this time is the lady in the red dress, a work done by "artfemus" as I already said a member of this very site, he sent me the art in an IM exchange about a month ago, he told me to use it, he also invited me to his myspace page to see more, at the time, I selected 3 pieces, then I decided to share a fourth as well.
I shared the art, because I wanted the work of this very talented gentleman to have some exposure to others in our community.
Apparently whoever is complaining about the art is either jealous or just some very evil individual with nothing better to do with themselves than to make trouble for others, while the administrators overlook ALLLLLLLLL the other profiles who are displaying pretty much in the same vein and I'm pretty sure without permission from the actual artist.
CM will probably delete this entry as well, as it has at least two other entries in the past. |
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In honor of black history month, I would like to share some of the work of a very talented friend of mine, hopefully this will be ok with the CM administrators.....His name is artfemus, aka Maxart, he is also a member of this site, so I do have his permission.
There are three pieces here by him, his work is a celebration of the beauty and strength of the black woman, I find his renderings to be classy, very modern and bold and quite frankly just so beautiful to look at, I hope some of you here enjoy his work as much as I do. |
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Honest to God, I think there must be a full moon out tonight......Everybodies howling.
ARRHOOOOO!!!!!!......LOL.
Come on people, it ain't that deep all the time. |
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Another Pearl By Elizabeth Wurtzel and something to make you go HMMMMM.
In Praise Of Difficult Women.
"The world simply does not care for the complicated women. The ones who seem too dark, too deep, too vibrant, too opinionated. The ones who are so intriguing that new men fall for them every day. Most, in the end, don't quite have the stomach for that much person."-- Elizabeth Wurtzel
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Oh WOW!!!!! It's been awhile since I've shared any pearls of wisdom, or things to make you go HMMMMM....So here we go, a new pearl of wisdom that was shared with me, one I'd like to share here.
It's a quote from the book "Bitch" by Elizabeth Wurtzel.
"Beauty is only innocent if it's chaste and yet the first thing any man wants to do to a beautiful woman is to fuck her silly, thus rendering her used, sullied, discardable and therefore possibly angry and furthermore most likely dangerous. Man in his suspicion creates woman in her danger." |
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New Rant, possibly the first in a series of new rants:
After much reflection and much time searching here, I think maybe my initial profile is not as clear as it could be.
I think many respondents to me do not fully understand that sex and submission are two different things, I do not seek the “only, or very submissive in the bedroom sub type” (actually most men are anyway, this is not unique) to me this is dominance on command, which translates into I am only your whore and in some twisted way YOUR sub only when and where you (the so-called sub/slave, HAH) wants it.
I feel naturally dominant all the time; you should feel naturally submissive to me all the time, once we have gotten to know one another. My training will extend beyond the bedroom (no, it won't start there either) and will permeate many if not all aspects of both our lives. If your only offering is body worship and having me instruct you constantly on the various ways to orally service me and nonsense of that ilk, I am not interested in that alone or depending on who you are and what my needs are at any given time, maybe not particularly with you at all, anyone with proper training can develop some sort of so-called bedroom skill, if I need my toenails polished, you can send me to the salon, I do not need you to run my bath per se or wash my body, I can do that myself, a child can do that, this is not a skill either, so if so called sensual pampering is another one of your so called skills and this is all that you can bring to a potential relationship with me, I am not impressed by this alone either.
If this is your only offering, I also have to ask myself how safe are you for me to be with in that regard anyway, surely, I will not be the first woman you have engaged in this practice with every chance you got, (btw anyone that I choose will be willing to be tested for stds). I am also not interested in the very one-dimensional types who have these fixed fetishes that need servicing by anyone available and who is willing to settle for the first one who is game to play the game their way.
Sex is the easy part, anyone can do it, so vanilla, and when you really think of it, maybe this is why that which starts out seemingly so easy always ends up so complicated, because the focus is only in one place.
Being sensual only in the bedroom does not make one subservient; it only makes you self-servingly horny and in my view a health and safety risk, you may as well be on AFF or some other site of that ilk and I’m sure many of you are. I also find that people of this type never stop searching, one bedmate will never be enough, this is not submission.
Submission to me goes beyond the games, the kink, the play and the sex, real submission takes work and dedication and the ability to allow yourself to trust, a true desire to serve a Mistress in ways that really count, this is not an easy task for many, unless your motivations are true to begin with. At some point this will become my lifestyle with whomever I choose, when I find him or them.
I love the man who is strong and secure enough within himself to acknowledge that it takes a real man to understand and accept who he is and what he truly needs and to pursue that in all honesty no matter what, I am interested in a true female led relationship where I am deferred to all the time, one that will include complete service to me in all ways imaginable and at my choice, ultimately, all the time, I desire more than a boyfriend or a fuck buddy, these are so easy to find, I realize I am not for everyone, nor do I care to be.
The real glory of this lifestyle should be how we can connect, support and empower one another to be what each of us needs all the time, as well as the best that each of us can be over-all, it takes dedication from both or all involved, with your dominant always respected at the helm, these feelings should flow from us and between us in the most natural way possible. If the bedroom or even the dungeon for that matter is the only place where we are ever compatible or can even communicate, where does that leave us the rest of the time? I would think in a pretty stale and boring place over time, in fact I know this to be true.
I do not believe in NSA as well, I come with plenty of strings, ropes and chains. I take my decision to be here very seriously, anyone who reads this, should think long and hard before contacting me, I know I may sound intense for many, as I said I am not for everyone and this is ok, because I am worth it. |
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Sitting here perusing profiles on any given day, I often find myself wondering where are all the nice to good looking men, where are the decent, realistic, reasonable, sane men, the ones who really get it?
Just a little something to make you go hmmmm? |
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An excerpt from the profile of Richard744 here on CM.
Where did subs lose their manners?
I love it. Have to love a scene that has become so big that being polite is a bonus. Silly Boys in this scene nice polite boys do very well. Sleazy disrespectful ones do not.
Never forget ones place.
Hmmm, rocket science or just plain old common sense?
Thank you Richard. |
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Pearls of Insight about blocking, from the journal of DAPONY16, here on CM......I smiled when I first read them, while thinking to myself, how many times have I had these thoughts myself, I don't know folks, with me it's always the plain and simple that strikes the chord.
The gist of the first one for me.
To me, blocking someone is cowardly. When I discover that any individual resorts to blocking as a way to, either get in the last word, or avoid confrontation, I lose whatever measure of respect I had for them to begin with.
Number two
The childishness that some exhibit astounds me. Daily.
If you cannot take criticism, then do not hold yourself out as one who seeks guidance.
If you are so inmature as to need to block someone after you send them a message, just do not send that last one. Go ahead and block them... but by sending one, and then blocking you only show your own insecurity.
For all of us that this has happened to, while we sit there thinking...WTF???? Here's some confirmation, that we are not alone..............LOL!!! |
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I've read some profiles where the subs say that it is the sub who does the choosing, if that were solely the case, we would all be hooked up by now, don't ya think? |
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On the subject of playmates only, not really interested in that, these people should be seeing the pros, this is a use, use, scenario at best, also, I honestly don't understand how anyone could allow another person they barely know, to take control of them physically, for a few hours or whatever in time without knowing who they are dealing with. When I think of the subs/slaves and even Dommes/Doms who are willing to meet over coffee/dinner/whatever, then run right off to play, it makes me shudder. To quote a line from the profile of MzMia, by the time anything kinky happens "we will know that we are in a relationship" whether that relationship is a very good friendship or maybe more, the bottom line here is nothing will happen until I am ready for it to happen, by then we will both be very comfortable with one another. |
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My feeling is this, if you haven't gotten the race issue fully worked out, I don't want to hear from you, if you are a sighted person, then it is obvious from the picture next to my words that I am black.
I also do not want to hear from those that for them, my color is part of their fetish fantasy.
This is not to say that if I should choose you that the topic of racial differences and cultural differences in all their little subtleties can never be broached, as part of an intelligent conversation, on the contrary, I think that as we progress as human beings daily, that discussing these things may sometimes be unavoidable and often times enlightening and interesting as long as we remember to respect one another when doing so, I am also aware that on occasion these conversations can lead to hot debate, which for me simply gets the imagination going and the blood flowing.
I am not asking anyone to become an ostrich on certain matters either, what I am asking is for anyone choosing to contact me, that over-all you really must be color blind in your mind and in your heart, it should be as if we are living our lives in braille when it comes down to how we relate to one another, in braille until you read about the color, you don't know there is any, the only thing that matters is the human story.
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To Louis of Bucks County.
How would you feel if the Black Panthers visted your email spewing racist rhetoric? It felt like the Klu Klux Klan had visited mine. Bitter? Oh yeah. Now you obviously wanted an encounter with me, you got it and it didn't cost you a dime.
Now, consider your ass SPANKED!
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Just got a few emails today in my inbox from the same so-called sub, one liners of course.
The first one I didn't respond to, (you'd think that would've been the first clue) second a one and a half liner I guess, I took the time to respond with a one liner of my own, I thanked this person for his interest and informed him that I wasn't interested.
He then sends a photo of his so-called home in Hawaii, as well as another of him and a woman (the profile says he is from PA) though.
Let me put this out there, I DON'T CARE IF YOU'RE RICHER THAN BILLY GATES AND OWN A HOME IN EVERY STATE IN THE US, IN EVERY COUNTRY IN THE WORLD!!
If I perceive that you're not a nice person, a creep or an out and out snake, I DON'T CARE WHAT YOU HAVE!
If you contact me not complying with my rules of contact as stated in my profile and then have little or no profile to boot (I know I've said this before) you do stand a chance of not getting a reply, a very strong chance.
If you write me in a smug, smirky way bordering on disrespect, as if you got this already, if I feel that you feel that I am for sale because you think that your deep pockets can buy you whoever or whatever, you stand a very strong chance of not getting a response, now I like money just as well as the next person, but neither my body or my soul is for sale to ANYONE.
A creep is a creep and snake is a snake and no amount money can change that.
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I feel I need to be clear about the age thing here, at this time I am not interested in ANYONE under 35, at my discretion over 55, my search is for a male sub. Women if I see one I think I can use, I'll let you know.
Would prefer someone fairly local to me, if you are from another country, please be crazy wealthy, with your own private jumbo sst jet or the means to fly to and fro at will, as that is the only way we will ever meet.
Ok, so that turned into the age, sex and location, location, location and scam, scam thing.
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Once again pictures from the very first contact are an absolute must!!!!
Also, one liners in my email bore me, this is especially true if you have little or nothing at all written on your page about yourself.
Those who are fond of sending one liners stand every chance of not getting a response, as do those who insist on ignoring my request regarding photos.
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I guess I don't spend enough time reading all the profiles that I should but I just ran across a couple of profiles, one where the male sub is wondering, what more would a Domme want from a sub besides a built in Everyready bunny type playmate......Well what about real people? Real relationships that incorporate true balance with realtime needs?
Another was wondering why the female Domme needed to be pursued if she were really Domme.....Well in my opinion being a sub shouldn't make a male sub any less of man and being a Dominant woman shouldn't make a her any less of a woman. People please!! Aside from the different needs that bring us here in the first place, we are still men and women at our very cores first.
Which brings me to another thought, it appears even here that the battle of the sexes rages on.....I mean think about it, men want control by saying they want to give up control to some woman, but they mainly want it on their terms, women don't mind that so much but they want substance beyond the kink....What's wrong with that? If man doesn't live by bread alone, then why should woman need to live by kink alone just to have a sub? |
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To all the teenyboppers and post teenybobbers, not interested, no REALLY not interested, I am not looking to raise no more young-ins.
People in far off and exotic lands, looking to come to America and think I may be the ticket for getting you here....lol....Boy are you all barking up the wrong tree, so don't bother.
Virtual slaves, nope, not interested in anything that doesn't ultimately lead to real time...Oops I better be careful, virtual slaves, just forget about it. |
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I have talked to dozens of men on this site who once I agree to chat with them are only interested in hearing about what I will do to them and telling me about what they like or do not like.
NOT INTERESTED IN YOU!!!!!!! DON'T WASTE MY TIME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
If you contact me, please be ready to have a real dialogue with me, I will want to know more about you besides what kink you're into and what past experiences you've had, I will attempt to try to get to know you on a human level, I take my time, if you are in a hurry to meet and play, then don't bother me.
We all realize already that we are here for some sort of kink and other interests beyond the norm, that should almost go without saying, discussing them to find compatibility is expected as well, but it should not be the only thing discussed each and everytime we talk.
Unless I feel we are able to connect on other levels beyond the lifestyle, I will not be interested in meeting you r/t.
You must be able to hold a decent and enlightening conversation on a host of topics, with something to say to me besides yes ma'am (while I carry the entire conversation pratically alone) in an effort to show me who you are, you must be able to relate to me the way you would any other person that you would happen to meet anywhere else in the entire world, because we are meeting on a bdsm site does not give us carte blanche to forget we are people first.
I will not sit and weave fantasy after fantasy for you either, while you sit at your pc screen jerking off.
Many write to me saying how sane I sound, they are right, I am a real person who happens to be very sane, please remember that and you be the same.
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Today I had an interesting if brief encounter in chat with someone who at first called himself a sub then a slave, I don't think he knew the difference.
When we first started chatting, although he had just written me yesterday, he'd seemingly forgotten who I was, initially when the conversation started he seemed very distracted, you know taking awhile to respond, I noted that he was on the site while chatting with me, so I asked him if he were busy and might we try again at a more convenient time, you know because of the lulls in his response time, he assured me that he was there, before I could start my interview he started his. You know "are you still looking? Do I want to own entirely" I responded to that.
I interjected with a question of my own, it was overlooked, he wanted to know what types of d/s things do I enjoy, I pointed out that I had asked HIM a question, at this time he responded, I then asked him how long he'd been in the lifestyle, he took awhile to respond again, lots of lulls here in response time, I really didn't feel as if I had his full attention so I ask him again if this is a good time, once again he assures me it is, but he seems anxious to cut to the chase of it all, he asks me again about my d/s interests, so I ask him what are yours, and I will lead this for now....I'm starting to get the feeling that who I am as a person and human being first and foremost have no interest to him at all, only what sort of play I will indulge him with. He tells me what his interests are, I point out that if he has read my profile, he knows a bit more about me at this point than I know about him. (his profile is limited and only says what he wants)
He told me he dated a Dominant lady briefly over 2 years ago, she went back to London.
I asked about his training while with her he told me what he'd experienced under her and said that before she left she had more planned like strap-on, taking into account that he was new, I asked him what him what he was looking for now, (I am trying to get a sense of him and where his head is) he tells me he wants to be owned mind, body and soul, to serve totally, I ask him what that all means to him, he says to put the needs of the Mistress first, I tell him to wait and I go back a bit, I ask him if he knows that I am a sadist, based on his earlier answer in regards to what he was looking for now, he ignores that and asks me if I enjoy strap-on, because thus far in our conversation I'm getting a feeling that he is more concerned about how I plan to play with him, I let him know that I am not looking for mere play-partners, I point out that there are profiles from Dommes who only want that, he says this is not true, yet our conversation up to this point is leading me to think otherwise.
I told him he only seemed interested in how I can serve him, he says this is not true, he was only asking about interests I might have, to me it felt dominating as if he were trying to control the flow of our conversation, I had already told him that was my job. I cautioned him to watch that when talking to future Dommes, he told me that what I was doing or saying I gather would be an "enormous turn off to anyone" (Oh and I'm not at this point?)
I was starting to be turned off almost from the start actually but I like to be fair and try my best to enter a real dialogue before I give up.
He beat me to the punch...Goodbye and goodluck "you are too jaded for me" Be well he says, we are not a match he says.....I agree I tell him, you'd think this would be the end of it, but no it isn't, "you could not recognize a great one if it dropped in your lap, you are too obsessed with finding time wasters rather than really high quality subs/slaves, you are too jaded, take a break for a while" I tell him now you are pissed, you need to evaluate yourself my friend. He goes on a little bit longer, which causes me to have to point out that he is not really submissive, that I felt he had a misguided experience with his last Mistress, I told him he was a spoiled little boy he seemed livid that I was intent on maintaining control even in conversation....
The moral to this story for anyone who has read this far is this......When you talk to me, I am in charge! If I choose you, it will be this way....I'M DA BOSS AND YOU DA HOSS!
So how you like me now? |
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Hmmmm, what do you all think it means when I state in my profile, that when writing me, that one or two liners will not do, that you must say something of substance about yourselves?
Ok, little hint, it means to tell me about yourself, introduce yourself, tell me who you are etc........This is especially true for those with nothing written in their profiles.....DUH!!!!!!
Ok, I guess that was a big hint....Trying to help the reading comprehension challenged with all my might......SO SO TEDIOUS. |
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Just received an email today (from a dom) criticizing that I was asking for photos while not having one myself, of course I had to point out to this person, that had he first read the journal entry from the 8th (reading is a skill) then he would have known that a new photo is on the way, yes he did write back apologizing for the oversight, yet pointing out that he still stood by his word, I replied that I intend to stand by mine as well......I guess he felt that from the 8th until now was a little long for his preference, I didn't realize that I had to live up to anyones' ideas of promptness in this regard but my own. ...Go figure. |
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New main photo coming soon. |
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New email....Now this very same Canadian man from my journal entry of 6/23/2008 has decided that I am worth harrassing, and he calls me sick? I would love to name this guy but CM does not allow this, for any female Domme interested in knowing who this obviously very unstable person is, just write me, I will give his name at the drop of a hat.
No, I will not take the time to write him back, I will just post his craziness here for one and all to view.
If this continues, I may have to give these journal entries a name.
New email from Canadian gentleman:
Hey there. Are you still into putting your fist into a man's asshole? You have class baby. By the way, you are unblocked now.... Write away if that's good for you.... but I am not reading more than the first phrase. That's as far as I went with your journal entry and mail you sent. That's enough to get the idea. But please wash your hand before typing... or you will have smelly (shitty) keyboard.. Playing rough with a man's asshole..... just trying to picture you in action.... no, I don't think so. You have every right to your kinks.. :) :) I just tought you had class... my mistake.
Ever tried playing piano, or the flute. Now, that's class. But playing a man's ass??????? Just wanted to start the week on the right foot. Have a nice day now. You hear. And wash your hands, please. |
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Today I awoke to find in my email a very critical email message, I know this person will eventually come back to read my journal entries so this is mainly for him, (and those who find that they are like-minded) he saw fit to try to hoist his intolerances on me and then block me from responding, why do Canandian men keep accosting me in this way? I mean can't we all just get along?
His 1st message:
Good morning. For a while now, I had you in my Favorites. I loved the screen name Sweet Dominance, loved your photos and what you wrote. Although contact and reality was impossible because of distance and work, I still regarded you as the perfect owner. Once awhile I would look at you and imagined that it would be great to please, serve and worship you. But it was just a fantasy. But I just read your journal entry Mad black Sadist - There a few things I do not understand in life - like sadism - taking pleasure in hurting someone - ans Assplay - fisting ???. I have too much respect for people - surely do not want to hurt them - so I think it takes a somewhat sick person to enjoy doing it. Assplay, anal stretching, pain... is not my forte. Just don't understand it. I had you as a model for a possible owner... but not you are off my Favorites list. - Not that dream owner anymore. Not the reference to look up to. Good luck to you.
My 1st response:
And you felt so compelled to write and tell me that? Who are you to judge and show intolerance? In a lifestyle where tolerance is key? I do not engage in any activity with anyone that is not consensual by both parties.
You held me as a model based on your fantasies, if I had lived up to them then who would be servant to whom at that point? It would not be about who I am and what I want as Mistress it would be me pleasing my sub from the top, which is partly what many of my journal entries are about, sick? Many who view this lifestyle from the outside would say that you are sick. That entry Diary Of A Mad Black Sadist, was written because of the many sickos that I get writing me with what I consider sick activities, yet I do not criticize them, I am simply not the one for them, which I am obviously not the one for you, no problem however, I probably would have never chosen you either.
What did you imagine I would want from you? To have you come and rub my feet? To run my bath and massage my back? To allow you to crawl between my legs and lick my private area at will? (I can get that from any vanilla man, I do not need this lifestyle for that) Yes a very lovely thought and useful as needed I suppose but it is a dime a dozen all over this site, as far as sadism it is obvious you don't understand that but it is a reality, there are many people who cannot function without pain in their lives they find it erotic, cannot live without it, I am tailor made for them, I do not force myself in anyway that I am not welcome, what do you find erotic?
Sick? I am as sane as anyone, I'm raising a beautiful and intelligent daughter, I care for my elderly mother how sick can I possibly be? Do not criticize me because your all consuming image of someone you did not know and never even talked to fell through, you are sick for building someone up to such a high place in your mind and obviously your heart, without ever finding out who they are, you let your fantasies become some sort of reality for you so much so that you felt compelled to write a total stranger and tell her that she let you down, as if she ever owed you anything at all......Typical male ego at work on one hand and just downright Psychotic on the other.
Good luck to you as well,
His 2nd message:
From what I know now, you should change you screen name from sweetdominance to angrysadistbitch - that's the concept. It would more in tune with the real you.
My 2nd response which never got sent because he blocked me at this point, apparently he is one of those who can dish it out but cannot take it:
LOL.
Angry? Once again there you go assuming, you still don't know anything, I'm not angry about a damn thing but you obviously are, you can write a complete stranger and sound off on that person once again without knowing anything about them, but when they write you back and point out your obvious short comings you can't handle it, not very submissive at all I would say, just another wannabe wanting his way is more like it, or perhaps another one of the many fakes looking for their own brand of kink.
Why not try to grow in your lifetime beyond what you've been conditioned to think and believe instead of passing judgement about things and people you obviously have no knowledge of, there is great opportunity here to learn and understand about the world that you've chosen to be a part of, why not research the very thing that seems to make you so uncomfortable before you decide, (although I do not know how that will help you with your overall personality) you sound like a very small minded vanilla person with no tolerances at all of the differences in people that help to make up a world, you also sound somewhat abusive to me.
It reminds me of the early days of racism and sexism.
Once again the typical male, angry that things aren't the way he would like them to be or thought they were.
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Diary Of A Mad Black Sadist...Entry 2
Role playing, what is that? I don't get it, no really, not trying to be funny. |
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I think I shall call this journal entry "Diary Of A Mad Black Sadist" Entry 1.
I find that I have to keep repeating myself within the space of my journal entries because my entire ad is obviously not being read.
I am a Sadist, although still budding, yes I seek a sub/slave, of course I do, but one or ones who are very capable of wearing multiple hats as needed, he must be able or at least willing to explore this side of me with me, he must also be creative in helping me to discover new ways to inflict physical pain in a safe and sane manner. I am also developing an interest in fisting, anal stretching etc. you get the picture. If you are only about sensuality which I've found for many here translates into something sexual like having me spend hours sitting on your face or something similar, please see any student of Elise Sutton, I am not interested, the Sadist in me couldn't care less about how wonderful your tongue supposedly is or anything else you think you may have that causes a much inflated ego to think that I really care.
You must crave, absolutely crave to be cuckold to me on some level, I will explain to any who are seriously interested and who have a genuine desire in regards to the aforementioned requirements to sate my ever increasing lust to inflict physical and even to some measure mental and emotional punishment.
My stating this at this time in my journal does not mean by any means that I have become available for play to one and all, the basic profile requirement is still in effect, this entry is to merely clear up any confusion in regards to my sexuality somewhat. Conversation once again initially will start through chat and should clear up any other curiosities.
Further although I am not seeking some sort of fantasy Adonis, it would be nice if you were nice to look at, you know, half-way decent physique, with highly preferably a face that doesn't make me wonder "Who da hell left the gate open"?
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Awhile back, I promised to share what I consider to be jewels of insight from other profiles on this site, I would like to share another at this time from the profile of Ladysilverfoxx, once again saying something better than I ever could. I found this entry in her journal to be quite thought-provoking, I hope some of you find it to be so as well.
"This might help you on your journey in finding true satisfaction and peace. This is not an all in all, but might help you ask the intended the important questions:The Levels of Submission Written by Diane Vera and published in The Lesbian S/M Safety Manual, from Lace/Alyson Press Within the S/M subculture, different people use the words, "submissive and slave" to mean many different things. When submissives say, "I want to be your slave," sometimes they mean only that they want to be tied up and whipped. Many professional dominants routinely refer to their clients as 'slaves'. Tho they are usually not 'genuinely' submissive. At the other extreme, there are people who want to be full-time personal servants, and who truly want to exist solely for their Dom/me's use, pleasure and convenience. And there are many > shades in between these two extremes. 1. THE OUTRIGHT NON-SUBMISSIVE MASOCHIST or KINKY SENSUALIST. Not into servitude, humiliation or giving up control; just pain and/or spiced-up sensuality, on the masochist's own terms and for the masochist's own direct pleasure (i.e. turned on solely/mainly by one's own bodily sensations rather than by being "used" to gratify one's partner's sadism). 2. PSEUDO-SUBMISSIVE NON-SLAVE. Not into even playing "slave", but into other "submissive" role- playing e.g. schoolteacher scenes, infantilism, "forced" transvestitism. Usually into humiliation, but NOT into servitude, even in play. Dictates the scene to a large degree. 3. PSEUDO-SUBMISSIVE PLAY SLAVE. Likes to play at being a slave; likes to feel subservient may in some cases like to feel one is being "used" to gratify partner's sadism; may even really serve the dominant in some ways, but only on the "slave's" own terms. Dictates the scene to a large degree; often fetishistic (e.g. foot worshippers). 4. TRUE SUBMISSIVE NON-SLAVE. Really gives up control (only temporarily and within agreed-upon limits), but gets her/his main satisfaction from aspects of submission other than serving or being used by the dominant. Usually turned on by suspense, Vulnerability, and/or giving up responsibility. Doesn't dictate the scene except in very general terms, but still seek mainly her/his own direct/pleasure (rather then getting one's pleasure mainly from pleasing the dominant). 5. TRUE SUBMISSIVE PLAY SLAVE. Really gives up control (though only temporarily; only during brief "scenes" and within limits) and gets main satisfaction from serving/being used by dominant-but only for FUN purposes, usually erotic. May/may not be into pain. If so, is turned on by pain indirectly, i.e. enjoys being the object of one's partner's sadism, on which the submissive places very few requirements or restrictions. 6. UNCOMMITTED SHORT-TERM BUT MORE THAN PLAY SEMI-SLAVE. Really gives up control (usually with-in limits); wants to serve and be used by the dominant; wants to provide practical/non erotic as well as fun/erotic services; but only when the "slave" is in the mood. May even act as a full-time slave for, say, several days at a time, but is free to quit at any time (or at the end of the agreed upon several days). May or may not have a long-term relationship with one's Mistress, but, either way, the "Slave" has the final say over when he/she will serve. 7. PART-TIME CONSENSUAL-BUT REAL SLAVE. Has an on-going commitment to an owner/slave relationship and regards oneself as the dominant's property at all times. Wants to obey and please Dom/me in all aspects of life-practical/non erotic and fun/erotic. Devotes Most of time to other commitments (e.g.job) but Dom/me has the first pick of the slave's free time. 8. FULL-TIME LIVE IN CONSENSUAL SLAVE. Within no more than a few broad limits/requirements, the slave regards herself/himself, as existing solely for the Dom/me's pleasure &/or well being. Slave in turn expects to be regarded as a prized possession. Not much different from the situation of the traditional housewife, except that within D/s S/M world the slave's position is more likely to be fully consensual, especially if the slave is male. Within D/s S/M world, a full-time "Slave" arrangement is entered into with an explicit awareness of the magnitude carefully, with more awareness of the magnitude of power that is being given up, and hence is usually entered into much more carefully. With more awareness of the possible dangers and with much clearer and more specific agreements than usually precede the traditional marriage." |
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Oh gosh where do I start this time?
Another beware notice! This time for the younger females on this site, please take notice of the latest email scam going on here at CM......
Hello pretty,
how are you? hope you are fine. i am john mrcus an international modelling agent for elle magazine based in London with branches in europe. i saw your profile and your pics. i must confess i love it. i would like to seek your permission to allow me to use your pic for a magazine production.. am asking you this because i need a picture of a beautiful lady like you for a magazine production for my clients. the name of the magazine is called elle model, it portrays the beauty, lifestyle and education of women in our society.
please let me know if you are interested in the deal because you stand a chance of making money from this deal. at least $500 for a start.
let me know if you are interested. bye and hope to hear from you later...
you can email your pics to: elleinternationalmanager@gmail.com
Thanks
john marcus
elleinternationalmanager@gmail.com
elle magazine
http://www.elle.com
+447031883849
Please take note of this persons' name at the end of the email , which is also the same name he/she (one can never be sure in these cases) uses on their profile page, also take note for those of you who have received this particular email that it says the person is from Cali , yet they have listed an overseas phone number, this is a scam to bilk gullible women out of their money, I have reported this profile to CM, hopefully they will trace this person/persons to their isp providers and end this type of stuff once and for all. Why they thought an oldhead like me would fall for this though is beyond me. |
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It's occured to me that a good amount of the so-called sub/slave men on this site are full of shit! I mean you guys don't really want Dommes who want what they (the Domina wants) but rather want what you want her to want, in other words you are looking for a bunch of fantasy women to serve YOU from the so-called top!
I'm beginning to understand that outside of the realm of a man's Fantasy Land filled with never-ending kink, lust and sex, there probably is no such thing as a truly submissive man, well not one that doesn't look as if his face has been caught up in a draw bridge and as if he's been given a new chinese nick name "Die Young"!
If there is one just one who actually thinks they get what this is all about, I challenge you to write me and tell me all about it if you can......But beware, I can smell BS many light years away. |
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Not interested in players (You all know who you are) don't waste my time or yours. I like generous men but I am not a pro, you players need to stop being so cheap and spring for the pro.
If you insist on falling into my email as if I am some type of BDSM booty call, I will respond to you based on the way that I was approached or not at all.
For the umpteenth time, one liners, rude one liners, one liners with no photos, even photos with one liners are not acceptable, the best way to NOT gain my attention is to do or be any of the above.
For the umpteenth, umpteenth time PHOTOS ARE AN ABSOLUTE MUST!!!! I do not care what you have in your profile about why you don't include photos in your emailings, based on who you are in your community, job or whatever the reason, if you cannot send a photo, do not write me, I will not compromise on this, you know what I look like, it's only fair that if you want my honest consideration, that your photo be included from the start when making contact with me, in addition to that doing as requested in my profile shows the capacity/desire towards obedience. You are not contacting me blindly sight unseen, take into consideration that I would want the same opportunity in regards to you. No nude or headless shots however, I abhor this, it is an insult and disrespectful, it says volumes about the character of a person to send this in an email to someone they do not know.
Finally for now, CM has a new feature, where members can request to be added to a person's page as a friend, unless we have spoken and gotten to know one another somewhat, we are not friends, the sender of this invitation in this way becomes to me just some random person on a quest to make themselves more appealing to the populace here by filling up their page with the faces and names of people, they've never even spoken with. I do not indulge in this type of activity, I will not aide you in what I consider an effort to generate false impressions about yourself in some attempt to help you beef up your popularity here.
Once again I will guide all back to my main profile, what I expect is all right there, unless you are reading comprehension challenged, I think you should read it, then do what it says there if you want to contact me, the rest of you who are reading comprehension challenged, (I do consider reading a skill) don't bother. |
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Once again photos must be included when making contact with me, otherwise I cannot guarantee a response. |
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Dear Ladies and Gentlemen of the Collarme site, following is an email I received from a very obviously unstable individual, I only wish I could expose his latest handle here but alas this newest and exhausting proposal he has sent me shall have to serve as warning enough, I will only display this for a short time, because it is so long and lengthy, so here goes for your viewing pleasure or not....
Dear Exaulted Lady Dominant,
This message to you constitutes my online profile here on collarme. Which will remain hidden because of threats and abuse concerning its contents. Do not bother to respond back it the contents herin are in any way negative to you.
I am approaching you with a proposal which involves a financial incentive and which may well satisfy you in all three dimensions of your feminine being and enhance your dominant nature. This proposal is not unique but it is certainly unusual. It will require considerable thought before being entered into if that is the pathway you select. It is most certainly not for the feint hearted and would appeal only to the most dedicated female dominant and professed sadist.
My real given first name is. (had to delete his name folks sorry, you all know why.)I would like to know your own first name when you feel it is right for you to give it out to me.
I make the following suggestions that can be accepted or rejected by you within the content of my proposal.
You can still work and so obtain a salary also with all the attendant benefits that employment offers. You would also be guaranteed $3000 payable on the first working day of the month into your checking account for keeping me in enforced captivity for 12 calendar months which would automatically be renewable with a 5% increase at the beginning of the next year if neither party chose to terminate the arrangement. £10.000 would also be allocated during the first month of the first year to purchase restraint and disciplinary equipment and pay for any soundproofing and other alterations or the inclusion of a locked cell within the locked room. You can check the website links to see which if any items may be suitable. I would rent out my own home during my stay and you and any female partner you may choose to join with you in the undertaking would be given a general power of attorney to act on my behalf and deal with my financial matters and more besides. Any rent from my home would also be payable into your checking account during each individual year.
I am writing to dominant women to ascertain if anyone amongst you would be willing to consider an almost unique offer that I am proposing. I expect only one or two will be interested enough to respond and clearly the lady who is the most mature of outlook will be the one that I will conduct prolonged dialogue with and eventually meet face to face with.
Background History:
I am a young man in my early thirties who is in excellent health and extremely fit and mentally alert. Nonetheless, I am a troubled man. Outwardly I appear normal but inwardly I am in turmoil. One is possessed of negative thoughts that revolve around the perpetration of violence towards people for no apparent reason. In particular they also involve sexual violence towards women. These are not just passing masculine fantasies about dominating women and exercising masculine power and authority. They are far more deep rooted than that. There is no past life history of abuse towards me by the feminine gender, quite the contrary in fact. I also have outbursts of abusive language and threatening gestures from time to time which I cannot control. I have so far not physically harmed any women and I do not ever wish to do so.
I have consulted with Psychiatrists and clinical psychologists. They cannot come up with any actual recognisable diagnosis because my symptoms do not completely match any recognised mental illness or personality disorder. I have been prescribed medication which did not alter my thought processes but did make me drowsy. I have attended one to one counselling sessions and group therapy but all to no avail. I have been admitted for short term evaluation but the hospital stays proved inconclusive for a definitive diagnosis and there was no legal reason for them to have cause to detain me.
I developed a degree of interest in BDSM quite by accident in my early twenties and became a masochist. That in itself is peculiar because a masochist thrives upon pain and yet I don’t like pain but nonetheless keep being drawn back to experiencing suffering and having another person take complete control of me to indulge their sadism. I regularly attend once a month for whole day long detention with flogging thrown in during the day and occasionally this has involved overnight detentions over the two day weekend.
I have thought long and hard about both of these matters. One posing no problem and the other becoming a more prevalent and troublesome problem that is embarrassing and potentially dangerous for those I come into contact with, be they strangers or people known well by myself. I am also under no delusions. I am awere that captivity will not be a pleasing experience and will ultimately cause harm to my mental and physical health over many long years. That must be measured against the public safety and the prevention of harm to any individual person. Sadly, draconian measures are the only sensible solution and remedy when all else has been tried and has failed. At this stage if you feel you don’t want to read further then feel free to delete this message and block me from potential further contact. A practicing Psychiatric Nurse aged 57 informed me that up until about a decade ago when the federal government brought legal actions against state governors and mental hospital managements, things were grime for long stay mental patients and particularly sex offenders. They were kept confined for life. Some were even restrained for months at a time. Al were locked in isolation cells and having no visitors were frequently physically assaulted and sexually abused by staff who were encouraged by the hospital managements to think of them as beasts and not people. She said she enjoyed those times and the power she had over the patients. It was her who suggested I enter this website and try to find a sane, sensible, intelligent dominant woman who would jump at the chance to incarcerate me.
Proposal:
I have given considerable intellectual thought and soul searching to my problem and explored various alternative strategies for its containment or elimination. None bar one offer me a solution. The one that does is quite unorthodox yet certainly not unheard of. It would require the implementation of a statutory legal instrument in the form of a power exchange between me and another person and possibly the awarding of adult guardianship of me to them by a court after a competency hearing. There are other alternatives but they don’t have legal protection.
I am a man of simple tastes and who lives quite a frugal existence but who is quite wealthy. This is entirely due to the fact both of my now deceased parents left me well provided for in their respective wills. They had both owned a number of motels in different states. I sold the business because I am not business oriented. Has a consequence of that and my legacy I am quite wealthy. I can afford to do whatever I please in life.
I wish to offer a certain arrangement to one or more dominant women. They must be mature of mind, sensible, intelligent, resourceful women who are genuinely dominant and also female supremacists. They must be willing to accept me into their life and daily care as a voluntary but nonetheless long term and possibly irrevocable prisoner. This means that they must have now or be willing for me to pay to acquire the proper facilities for my detention. I have budgeted for a period of 30 years and this includes a 5% inflation increase per year. I offer her or they, $3000 a month tax free to keep me confined, naked and in full body restraint shackles within a locked cell or room. I would pay up to $10.000 for refurbishment or the purchase or restraint and chastisement equipment they may need. I would increase my life, health, accident and funeral insurance policies and take out any additional policy that may be needed. I do not expect ill treatment but regular physical chastisement once or twice a week for up to one hour if they wish to use me to placate their own inner demons. I have worn a sensory depravation hood and mittens for 24 hours before now and found the device helped me clense my thoughts. Also I have been given moderate electric shocks to the genitals which was painful but took my mind away from the thoughts of violence. I would expect to wear a locked chastity restraint device at all times during my captivity. I would only expect to be fed twice a day and to have water readily available between times. A chemical toilet or actual flushing one could be installed in the room along with a shower. Apart from any emergencies or future medical appointments I would expect to be confined in the cell/room at all times. All this sounds drastic and somewhat draconian and indeed it is, but sadly it is also necessary. Many other people are confined indoors outside of prisons and mental institutions around the world so why not I? One would not be seeking this if one knew it was not necessary or appropriate. It will have a gradual and profound effect upon my mental and physical health in the long term but that must be balanced against the benefits of preventing any violence from being perpetrated against women by me in the future. Far better safe than sorry. Better that I submit to humane confinement than dangerous freedom of movement that may result in serious injury or death of a woman. I don’t want to be no Ted Bundy or hillside strangler.
Certainly there will be times of depression for me during my incarceration along with times of despair. But that is far preferable to me being out on the streets as a potential or actual threat to womankind.
The lady or ladies who elect to take to care of me need fear no violence from me. My movements can easily be strictly controlled and my restraints should be left on 24/7. I can wear leather wrist and ankle cuffs to protect my limbs over which can be placed stainless steel metal shackles. When transferring me from one set of restraints to another the existing restraints would remain on until the replacement restraints were in place before being removed.
I have no close living relatives in the USA. All my surviving relatives live in Europe or Oceania and I hardly know them having not seen them in decades. I have no friends being a loner by nature.
Those electing to take care of me would not be required to be with me 24/7. I only need to be checked on several times a day for a few minutes at a time, save for when under supervised shackled bathing. So maybe 2 hours a day on 4 to 6 visits. If they wish to avail themselves of me as a BDSM tool then they can spend further time as necessary. So I won’t need constant care or supervision. A CCTV can be installed so can be viewed remotely if necessary and an intercom system with loud speaker to speak to me remotely also. A radio can be placed to give some kind of stimulus for me. A long chain secured to a wall strong point could also be welded to my shackles and permit me to move about my cell/room. A hospital restraint bed could be used to contain me to sleep each night.
If you are still reading this then it is now up to you to contact me or just move onto the next profile so to speak. I will not engage in the idle curiosity gossip. I will not go into the psychology of why I want this for myself. I seek dialogue with one or more ladies from the same household who will have a genuine interest. After discussions here and in messenger and later on the telephone we can meet, thereafter we can contact lawyers if need be to get the ball rolling. The $3000 is none negotiable and will be paid directly from my checking account into your checking account during the first working day of each month.
If after 4 years duration I am still in your custody then you will be obliged to apply for guardianship and my permanent captivity in your custody. This will mean that my home would also pass into your hands and become your property. If you decide to have a close friend to join with you in this undertaking and I am kept in captivity under your room then she will receive $1000 a month to assist you in overseeing and managing my custody regime and myself. She would also get a proportional cut of any proceeds from rent from my home or a share in the property if guardianship is taken out. You may also wish to get a young apprentice dominatrix to assist you in looking after me when one of you is on vacation or otherwise out of town. She could be taught how to handle one such has me and be taught safe BDSM techniques using me as a training tool. She could be given free accommodation and pocket money for doing so. Keeping me in captivity should not disrupt your working or social lives which should continue as normal. I will require the minimum of supervision and can be left alone for long periods. You could install a web cam linked to a computer or even an advanced cell phone so that I can be viewed and checked upon remotely when you are not at home. Alternatively/additionally you could install a CCTV monitor and camera linked to my cell. This could have an intercom with a loudspeaker so you could converse without entering the cell. You would normally only enter the cell to feed me and to ensure my personal hygiene. Also when Administering a therapy or executing physical chastisement either has part of my treatment regime or simply to rid you of your demons caused by accumulated stress during the week or again has a demonstration tool when teaching people correct BDSM techniques. Within the cell locked inside a cupboard could be a thermometer, pulse machine, blood pressure machine, stethoscope to monitor my health at least once a week. You should regard me not only has being a prisoner but also has being your actual property during the year. You will have carte-blanche, sovereign dominion over me to do with me what you please within safe and sane limits. I will surrender to you and once in captivity will have no say in whether or not you treat me with kindness and compassion or with callous cruelty or a mixture of both. There should be no sexual content to my captivity. It must be remembered why I am being placed into enforced captivity for each 12 month period. It is to prevent me from having the opportunity to harm any child by keeping me in captivity under strict conditions to restrict my movement and contain me within my cell. My captivity should incorporate certain elements:- (a) It should remove me from society and thus remove any potential danger I may otherwise pose. (b) It should be to ensure that I receive any essential therapy protocols to modify my behaviour and thought processes. (c) It should act as a form of punishment for harbouring such thoughts are it my own fault or caused by illness beyond my control.
(d) I should receive physical chastisement has deemed necessary for whatever reason to make me realise that my thought processes are evil and cannot be tolerated and must be eradicated. Captivity: This should be humane but not comfortable. I should be devoid of any and all personal freedom of movement, human rights or civil liberties for the duration of each 12 month period. I should only be released from my shackles and captivity in a case of extreme emergency or when being taken to counselling unless arrangements are made for a counsellor to enter my cell and conduct a one to one session with me. I should be physically inspected and checked upon at least twice a day, preferably at meal times. I can be remotely checked upon at other times unless you wish more than twice a day physical inspections. I should be kept in my birthday suit (naked) 24/7 other than for the emergencies above. I should be placed in a made to measure locked chastity restraint device 24/7, even during emergencies. I should wear wrist and ankle leather cuffs over which stainless steel full body shackles can be locked into place. These shackles can have a welded extension chain leading from them to a strongpoint on the wall. At night I could be transferred too a hospital restraint bed to sleep. When transferring me from one set of restraints to another the original restraints should remain on until the new restraints are in place before being taken off. This will maximise security and safety. The cell door must be locked at all times except for when or leaving. The above suggestions are humane, mature and sensible and would ensure my captivity and the safety of children and you also. Not that I would ever want to harm you. At times a sensory deprivation hood and mittens could be placed upon me so my thoughts cease and I be in a limbo for a time.
My cell should be sparten except for the wall mounted restraint shackles, the hospital restraint bed, any ceiling suspension shackles or devices. A chemical toilet could be placed inside the cell. The walls could have various types of impact disciplinary equiptment hanging from hooks on them. A small shelf or cupboard could house health monitoring devices has I mentioned yesterday. The cell should be soundproofed. Wooden shutters should be placed over the window. Soft but different colored lighting should be used which is subdued rarther than bright. Heating should be installed that is neither too hot or too cold. I could be made to listen to tapes that help to calm and relax me and which help to modify or change my thought processes. Also tapes that may be used to coerse BDSM slaves to obey their owner without question or argument. Other tapes exaulting me to ride with the pain during theraphy or punishment sessions.
A hazard that has the potential to become a danger which must restrained, monitored and controlled to prevent the danger from emerging and causing serious injury to people. I am such a potential hazard and so should be treated accordingly and subjegated in a place of secure safety and confinement in maximum restraint for my own protection and that of the general public. Such a draconian measure is not one I relish because I know it will be difficult for me and I will come to regret my decision. Loss of freedom of movement and their attendent human rights have serious phychological and attendent mental health implications. That said it is still the right decision given all the circumstances and the protection of the public must always take precedance. Once I have made my bed I must lie upon it. I am to remain in captivity until cured or until I die. That captivity must be meaningful. The custodial fees that I will pay or only sensible and reasonable to cover all costs incured, such has labor, food, heating and lighting, restraint and chastisement equiptment and much more besides.
Is this all too much to ask of you please? Above all is it all sensible?
I should be devoid of any and all personal freedom of movement, human rights or civil liberties for the duration of each 12 month period. I should only be released from my shackles and captivity in a case of extreme emergency or when being taken to counselling unless arrangements are made for a counsellor to enter my cell and conduct a one to one session with me. I should be physically inspected and checked upon at least twice a day, preferably at meal times. I can be remotely checked upon at other times unless you wish more than twice a day physical inspections. I should be kept in my birthday suit (naked) 24/7 other than for the emergencies above. I should be placed in a made to measure locked chastity restraint device 24/7, even during emergencies. I should wear wrist and ankle leather cuffs over which stainless steel full body shackles can be locked into place. These shackles can have a welded extension chain leading from them to a strongpoint on the wall. At night I could be transferred too a hospital restraint bed to sleep. When transferring me from one set of restraints to another the original restraints should remain on until the new restraints are in place before being taken off. This will maximise security and safety. The cell door must be locked at all times except for when or leaving. The above suggestions are humane, mature and sensible and would ensure my captivity and the safety of people and you also. Not that I would ever want to harm you. At times a sensory deprivation hood and mittens could be placed upon me so my thoughts cease and I be in a limbo for a time. I believe that a television or radio will do me more harm than good during my captivity. I need to be brainwashed into modifying or changing my thought processes. during my captivity no matter how long or short it may be. I should be devoid of any and all personal freedom of movement, human rights and civil liberties. My single or duel carers must regard me at all times has being their own personal property owned by them. They should also think of, speak to and treat me as being a beast rarther than a human person. Theraphy; This could and will take many diverse forms both positive and negative. The negative though essential theraphies should include: Being subjegated to superior authority, Being privately and publically humiliated. Being trained to adopt certain submissive posteurs. Being subjected to the execution of physical chastisement. Being tortured by use of nipple clamps and genital clamps. Being delivered of moderate electric shocks to the genitalia. Being denied access to the outside world save for emergencies. Being kept in the dark about the day,week, month, season of the year. Being kept gagged for certain periods of time. Being mocked and prodded by small groups of invited people. Being kept in a state of perpetual naturism. Being kept in locked restraints 24/7, 365. Being kept in a locked chastity restraint 24/7, 365. Draconian? yes absolutely. Necessary? Yes absolutely.
Now I ask you is this crazy or what?Now this person has written me before and I have always tried to be kind in my responses to him.....Rejection doesn't seem to go over too well with this guy anyone who has ever received his emails under different names will know who this person is, but to be fair, I will let you all read my response to this person, this time around....lol....I'm sorry folks but this time I wasn't so nice to him well hey once he gets rejected he is never nice either......
Yadda dadda doo da day, ( a reference to how he has written to me in the past) How many more names will you make up today?You are incredible and very imaginative......For one thing why not get that 57 year old nurse to do it, she seems game? Secondly you have so many rules for that paltry amount of money per month you're offering one has to wonder at a certain point who the slave really is in this whole wild scenario, I think anyone would be as crazy as you have convinced me that you obviously are to go along with an arrangement confining to them to a life where they obviously become the one on a leash, surely no sane thinking, ie MATURE....LOL, or real Domme in her right mind would ever enter into such a Devils' pact, lastly, kindly refrain from ever writing me again in any incarnation.
Idea! You want confinement and a little brutality? Go and commit some minor crime, they'll lock you up for awhile and the boys on cellblock C will give you everything you need and more, it won't cost you a dime!....lol. |
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Ladies and Gentlemen, this was his response to my response, by the way they have all always been rather insulting when he doesn't get whatever it is he is going for.
Dear Nutter. IT IS NOT ABOUT SLAVERY YOU GOD DAMN IMBECILE AND INSULTING WHORE. iT IS ABOUT CAPTIVITY AND RESTAINT.
I will say reading his various fantasies has been amusing but thinking about them from a realistic point of view, who becomes the slave in these scenarios? Ladies Beware! |
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Photos are a non-negotiable requirement if you seriously hope to gain my attention or even a response, also Hello Ma'am and nothing more does not meet my contact requirements, if this is all you have then do not waste my time. |
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The following is this same Canadian person who tried to solicit me as a potential Domme, is this what I get for trying to be polite enough to try respond to everyone who writes me?
"you colored mistress whore, go to hell, i hate black mistress''
This even though he didn't fully comply with my rules of contact as outlined in my profile, I was already warned not to try to respond to everyone, I guess it really is true, I shouldn't try to be gracious enough to acknowledge all the people who contact me.
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Ladies Beware!
There is a Canadian gentleman (or not) on this site who claims to be a fashion designer, he says he can design clothes and boots in any fabric, he is very rude and obviously in his heart prejudice against Americans, he wrote me, I declined very politely, when I have to decline I always do so very politely, my reason being because of distance, he wrote back very angry asking me have "I ever heard of relocating" then he goes on to say but what should he expect from a stupid American.
Just thought you ladies you should be on the look out for this one.
Gentlemen often times when being turned down a woman will find a polite way to do so, this may not always be her true reason for doing so but it may be a kind way of doing so, kindly be gracious enough to see this. |
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People once again, I do expect photos from the very first contact, please do not try to change my mind in this regard and do not become upset when I enforce it, I will handle how you contact me my way not your way.
In addition do not send me emails asking for chat, I will not do this, until I deem so, you must write me seriously saying things about yourself that will give me something of substance to consider about you, if you are married don't waste my time.
Oh almost forgot, do not send a photo and have nothing to say. |
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Sometimes while reading my emails, it occurs to me that all of us here truly are in search of something one way or another, then I think wouldn't it be so much easier if we took the time to read the full profiles, not just check to see who is on, not merely gloss through them but actually read them, then upon reading them in their entirety set about actually understanding what we read?
Wouldn't that be wonderful?
I think if we could all just do that and then respond to one anothers' profiles carefully and considerately, accordingly, appropiately, seriously and above all respectfully, that perhaps this search wouldn't seem so futile at times.
To get an email that appears to have nothing to do with ones' profile is so insulting, even more so, the standard letters, that seem to be manufactured for one and all and then sent out in bulk to anyone who happens to be on-line is even more so.
It makes the one who sent it appear desperate, as if compatibility was not even considered at the time, any port in a storm so to speak, just a body will do.
As I read various profiles throughout the community, there seems to be seething barely beneath the surface of them a slowly growing trend towards first despair then anger, sometimes vice-versa, it's not hard to imagine why many may end up in anger management or in therapy long before we ever meet the one we seek here....so sad. |
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Lately I've read some very good stuff here on collarme, perhaps I'm just not very good at saying what I need to, sometimes I read a profile and I find that others are saying what I feel better than I ever could, I think on occasion when I find these jewels I will share them with anyone else who reads my profile, the first one is from a very perceptive young man who calls himself NixorPercipio:
I am a realist. This is a very long and steady process. It's hard to find the right match, to find two people who truly understand each other at this level. There are many who find flash in the pan, but that's play rather than a deep D/s connection.
I told him, I was jealous I didn't think to say this myself, something so plain, so simple, so hard to misunderstand.
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My rules about making contact with me are clear, I do believe they are CLEAR aren't they?
If you see me on-line and I get an email requesting chat, I will not respond to this, I will not chat so do not ask, if I want to chat with you I will tell you when and where.
Clarification on rules regarding contact with me:
Write me in email, say something of INFORMATIVE SUBSTANCE about yourself, tell me who you are, your name, your experience within the lifestyle, what you are looking for in a Domme, what you hope to explore within the lifestyle, then tell me of your vanilla interests, this is always of interest to me as well, in fact it is my main interest at all times when first meeting anyone, do not approach me as just a body, I WILL be insulted.
PHOTOS FROM THE VERY FIRST CONTACT ARE AN ABSOLUTE MUST!!!!! If you write me without it, I will not respond, I will assume you are testing my resolve and I will not respond.
When sending photos, do not send me nudies, you don't know me, I don't know you, do not assume that because we are on this site, that you can forget about the basic etiquette of meeting someone, I expect to be approached in the same manner you would someone of vanilla persuasion in any other setting, if this is your normal way however, YOU are not what I seek.
Ok then, so have a good day everybody. |
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Question!
Any real subs/potential slaves in the house?
Is there anyone here for real? Granted I am Novice but even being as new as I am, I can understand this is not all about sex.
For any man here thinking that I am here simply to play your little sex games and satisfy your lusts, you need to think again, this lifestyle to me is not a game, go back to your vanilla girlfriends/wives buy them the fetish outfits you so desperately desire, then continue to control them in pretty much the same fashion you've been raised to believe in, I'm sure they will be more than able to fulfill your empty fantasies to your complete satisfaction, (after all it is only a game?)
Unless you are ready, willing and able to turn complete control and I do mean complete control over to me then don't even bother, unless I ask you I don't care what you want, so do not send me emails telling me about your wants, I will hit the delete key so fast, it will be like you never sent it.
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*ATTENTION EVERYBODY*:
HOLD UP!!!! JUST SLOW DOWN YOUR LITTLE MOJOS THAT ARE WORKING, YOU'D BETTER READ THIS FIRST!!!!!
Did I say masochists only need apply? HMMMMMM! Yes I think I did, now let me put a lil clarification on this, I am still looking for a submissive possibly slave personality.
What I am not looking for are merely bottoms, people looking for a lil physical interaction here and there, "this would be my equivalent of the wham bam thank you ma'am" if this is what you are in search of forget about me, I am in search of a real relationship containing many of the vanilla life dynamics as well as the bdsm for those of you who are even bothering to read this far, the masochist I seek is not just a physical masochist but he will be masochist on whatever level I choose, he will also be extremely subservient by nature.
For those of you looking merely for some uninvolved no strings attached play, *check this out: If you approach me as you would a pro, then I will respond as a pro would and require that we sit down and talk tribute?
So all of you bottoms not looking for a pro but looking for some dumb Domme to indulge you every now and then for free or the price of dinner, lol...no way, You have the wrong Sistah!!!!!
And for those of you who think that because I am non-pro I don't have requirements in regards to real time generousity, I caution you as well to think again before contacting me, I am like every one else, I just adore a generous man and I adore him even more when he is generous without being prompted.
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SIGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
How many times do I have to say this?
NO SWITCHES EVER!!!!!!!!!!!!
NO PHOTO, NO RESPONSE EVER!!!!!!!!!
I'm starting to sound like Faye Dunaway in "Mommy Dearest"
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Once again fellas no photo no response, at this point I will not even open the email.
New Entry: I am only at this time looking for masochists to explore my sadistic curiosities with, that would be physical as well as mental, in addition to training them to serve me on other levels, it would also be nice if you have a vivid imagination and plenty of your own gear or at the very least, the means to supply it and the desire to do so.
*If you are not a masochist do not contact me.
What I am not looking for: Anyone who is only interested in kinky sex or sex, sex for the sake of sex, sex again and some more sex, so no sensual slaves or oral personalities wanted or need apply.
I will decide what rewards you will or will not be granted in that area, so do not write me saying "I want" I am also not looking for those renegade types who are trying to have more than one Domme as they travel along the countryside, once you are mine you are mine.
Lastly: *NO SWITCHES, NO MARRIED OR ATTACHED PERSONS........EVER! |
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Unless you really do not want a response to your emails, do not contact me without complying fully with what is specified in my profile, meaning once again do not contact me with one or two lines saying nothing about yourself and if there is no photo up front from the very first contact, I will not respond. |
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| Age: 19 |
| Nashville,
Tennessee |
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