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Hetero Male Submissive, 35,  Los Angeles, California
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SubbingYetDoM

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I don't have a face picture due to the nature of my work, but am willing to send one along once I know. I am a good looking guy.
I'm particularly looking for a Domme / Mistress to serve on a real life basis. I'm open to numerous different dynamics, but I especially would like to find a Domme who I connect with and really enjoys the psychological aspects of D/s and who possesses a genuine enjoyment in using a submissive male.
Despite my screen name, at this point, I very much associate as a pure submissive.
This is new ground for me. I am very experienced with BDSM on the other side of the coin, but looking looking to submit fully to a woman.
In my day to day life, I am very alpha. This requires me to really subdue my instincts and give myself over to another, but that is why I find this rewarding. I want to step out of myself that way. I want to willingly take on the sub role and work not to fight it.
Having been a Dom and owning a massive toy box, I'm also more than willing to be a training tool for any new Domme and serve the role of instructing as well a submissive. That idea also has unique appeal to me. That said, if you're a Domme or Switch and there is any particular technique, fetish, or particular scenario you would like to learn or try, I could probably show you and be your submissive practice toy. So you know, I happen to be particularly fantastic at cooking, and am very adept at massage, oral, business, arts, and am extremely educated and intelligent.
I look forward to talking to everyone and eventually serving. And in terms of "The Interest Section," I have experience with almost every fetish, but only from the Dom side, so many I put "beginner" on because I'm a beginner as a sub. Also, I didn't want to go too heavy on all my interests in music, sports, activities, etc. only because it would be a mile long list.

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 SubbingYetDoM

 Submissive Male

 Los Angeles 

 California

 Willing to Relocate

 6' 2"

 175 lbs

 35

 Hetero

 Caucasian

 03/18/15

 

Actively Seeking:

Dominant Female

Submissive female

Switch Women

Domme/Dom Couples

Female Led Couples

A Poly Household

 Lives For:

 Intellectual Discourse (Expert)

 Loves:

 Art Galleries (Expert)

 Anal Play

 Enemas

 Being humiliated by you

 Writing (Expert)

 Likes:

 Bar Hopping

 Beachcombing

 Fine Dining (Expert)

 Movies

 Museums (Expert)

 Being allowed to beg you for things (Beginner)

 Being blindfolded (Beginner)

 Being allowed to worship your body

 You tying me up (Beginner)

 You disciplining me with a cane (Expert)

 Being allowed to wear your collar (Beginner)

 Electrical Play (Expert)

 You punishing my gentials

 Local BDSM Community (Expert)

 Being allowed to be your servant

 Erotic touch

 Hair Pulling

 You putting me on a leash

 You wearing masks

 Being allowed to give you massages (Expert)

 Medical fetish play

 Being allowed to be obedient to you

 Objectification

 You deciding when I'm allowed to have an orgasm

 Pony/Puppy Roleplay (Expert)

 Role Playing

 Being spanked by you (Expert)

 You telling me when I'm allowed to speak

 You using a strap-on on me (Beginner)

 Theatrical Scenes

 Being allowed to use a vibrator on you

 Whips (Expert)

 Tolerates:

 Cages (Beginner)

 Munches (Expert)

 Maid / Butler Service

 Tickling

 Wax Play

 Curious About:

 Breast Play

 Corner Time

 Eye Contact Restrictions

 Fire Play

 Gags

 Housework Service

 Masks (Wearing)

 Mental Bondage

 Modern Primitivism

 Sensation Play

 Plastic Wrap Bondage

 Sensory Play

 Shibari

 Suspension Bondage

 Hard Limits:

 Exhibitionism

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Journal Entries:
8/25/2016 4:15:34 PM
Just know, I'm very submissive and very genuine about finding someone, but there are certain requests or red flags in messages or profiles that are almost always a sign of some sort of scam and which means that I won't write back.  I want to list those things just in case you're a rare case of an actual, genuine Domme who accidentally responded with one of these big red flags that meant I assume you were a scammer. 

These are:

1) Clear indication that English is not your first language without referencing in your profile that you're from somewhere else originally or English isn't your first language.  This include syntax that is just not how any American, even a less literate one, would phrase something.  If I see that, 90% of the time, you're not where you're saying you're from and who you say you are. 

2) Any message back to me that suggests you didn't read my first message and instead just did a cut and paste response back that is sent to everyone.  There are a lot of porn site marketers on here who give people s of what to say.   

3) Asking for me to send you an email or text you in the very first message.  May be legit, but 90% of the time on this site it's someone who has faked a profile and is phishing.  That's more appropriate after trading 2 - 3 messages.  Those asking for me to email them or text them after one message usually are trying to move things off this site so they won't get caught scamming.  Those who actually have a convo over a couple messages and then trade info are actual people. 

4)  You ask me to tribute in your first message, particularly as a pre-condition to talking more.  That's almost always a scam.

5)  Just anything that doesn't pass the "real person" or "real Domme" test.  Messages like the ones you get saying, "I'm looking for a big cock tonight.  Are you up for getting dirty and fucking me.  I'm so horny," which is a response that likely no real person would say, particularly to a random stranger or in response to an my usual types of first messages which are about getting to know someone. 

So if you are a real person and do one of these things and I don't respond, message me with a real message.  Know, this isn't me being a flake, it's the fact that 90% of the profiles on here are scammers or fakes.  I have met a Domme on here in the past, so it's the 10% who are real that I'm here for.

5/5/2016 4:39:07 PM
Funny enough, tributes get my attention also, but then so does hello.  

4/15/2016 3:24:55 PM
I'm a submissive, not an idiot.  

You'd be crazy to send a sum of cash to a perfect stranger who I have no proof is even who she says she is nor any way to insure follow through a sum of cash?  Do you send mass emails that you're a Nigerian Prince in your spare time, because that is basically as likely to be the case as what you're saying.   

Or do you really think that I'm going to agree to absolutely no limits and no safe word prior to even knowing you or having any trust?  First, do you even know what no limits could actually consist of?  Broken bones, physical damage requiring surgery to sensitive areas, permanent marks, ruining someone's ability to ever work again in their field, total destruction of every aspect of someones life, the destruction of numerous people around someone, getting charged with a felony.  For that matter, it could easily involve you as a Domme being charged with numerous felonies as safe words and limits are actually a legal requirement to avoid jail.  

Do you not get that any sub could theoretically agree to your no limits, then if you didn't permanently imprison them or kill them, blackmail the hell out of you with threat of jail time and totally ruin your entire life?  

Get with reality!  

2/17/2016 8:04:41 PM
Note to Dommes:  If you set a tribute as precondition to speaking with someone, you're essentially screening for pathetic, desperate, gullible idiots. Look, I'm not a cheap person in the least, but really?  You expect someone with a brain to send you money sight unseen with no guarantee?  That's what a scam is called.  

1/7/2016 4:18:34 PM
For those always interested in ideas:  One thing did for a newer Domme in the past was that I put together a "submissive menu" filled with different tasks, fetishes, games, etc. which she could order of me.  Of course my Mistress could always order anything off the menu too, but for this Mistress who was newer, it took the stress off her to coming up with ideas.  For me as a sub, it was a turn on putting it together and imaging different things, plus provided the nervous thrill of guessing what she would order next, knowing that I put a broad a selection of ideas on, including those I feared.

10/29/2015 1:49:48 PM
While I'm primarily looking for a Domme I can serve on an ongoing basis, one interest of mine is traveling for a weekend of submission and serving 24/7.  

Essentially, a vacation of full submission.  Do write me then if you're in another state or country and would be interested in such a thing.  Of course, we'd get to know each other first.  

9/1/2015 9:36:49 PM
The newest message I should send to every findom profile: 

Dear Mistress, 

I would like to be your submissive.  I have come into a great amount of wealth as I am to inherit the a large Nigerian oil fortune amounting to $10M.  Unfortunately I am currently caged at another Dommes house who is to release me at the end of the month, and unable to wire the money.  I will tribute you $5,000 in Amazon gift cards if you will wire the $250 to the address I give you.  

Upon doing that, I will serve as your sub and you may control all $10M and spank me everyday as I worship you as a Goddess.   

-Your Sub

8/28/2015 7:49:37 PM
At this point in my life, I am most definitely Submissive.  I don't have any intent of Domming again anytime soon.  I want to fully give myself over to a Mistress for her pleasure, satisfaction, entertainment, devious desires, and / or service needs.  Not into findommes, but pay for dinner and going out.  

4/2/2015 9:18:30 PM
Huh, with all these FinDoms, perhaps I should become the first finsub.  Suddenly I'll write at the top of my profile: "If you want to be my Mistress, you must first send me an Amazon gift card and I may get back to you and serve, but only if you tribute enough." 

And I'll say stuff like: "Your power should be shown by your pocketbook, which I will submit to fully.  I dedicate my true submission to that Mistress who really shows me the full amount she Dominates transactions." 

Not saying it would work, but make just as much sense as blindly sending money to a supposed Domme I've never met and is probably catfishing.  If being swindled in the most humiliating dumb way was what I was looking for, I'd have just skipped this site completely and taken the more direct path wrote back that Nigerian Princess who emailed me about a significant inheritance. 

So you're looking for an intelligent sub who isn't so pathetic and stupid he'd fall for that, I'm your man.  Free.  I'd say that's a good deal.

3/21/2015 2:59:27 AM
I put curious down on almost all the fetishes that I have any interest in.  Most I technically am an expert on from the Dom side.  

The majority I have not had done to me, except in a very limited sense to know how things felt such that I could practice them safely on others.

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