Just got done changing the brakes on the car.. A crappy piece of work to do, but hey.. now I can actually break again;)

...And to all a very Merry Christmas! :)

"Learn to obey before you command"
 - Solon

You know, I find some of these profiles on here sorta comical.. I mean, obvious whenever there's a profile with "princess" in the name somehow, you just know the person is gonna want money as the primary purpose of being here.. Apparently it's expensive to be royal.
But what I find quite a bit more amusing is some of the Domme profiles on here, that have demands that are.. shall we say specific in a certain way:
Some of the Dommes want a submissive that is intelligent, educated, financially stable and very importantly: From the upper class. Now, that sorta gets me laughing a bit.. I mean, most of the profile that state this, don't have any pictures and post absolutely nothing about themselves. Which leads me to believing that they themselves are none of those things. So riddle me this: What makes them believe they would fit in in those surroundings? I mean, it's not as if they're golddiggers, but obviously they want to live the life of the rich and famous - more or less..

But an old saying goes: You can take the girl out of the trailerpark, but you can't take the trailerpark out of the girl. So, how about some realism folks..

And the Domme replies in kind.. Which inspires me to make yet another contribution... But hopefully a shorter one this time.

She goes on about how a lot of people make a living through this lifestyle - webdesigners, fashion designers, artists and whatnot.. And of course Prodommes.. But what she apparently failed to understand is, that my beef is not with those people. I have only respect for Prodommes(and the rest of course, although I generally don't see that many of those on here)! They have made a choice and designed their lifestyle thereafter - if anything, they actually live the lifestyle, whereas the rest of us merely try to copy what they have.

No, my issue is with those that are not Prodommes, that don't live the lifestyle, but who has a profile that starts with "if you want to talk to me, send me an Amazon gift card, or I won't reply" - and the like.. They are not Prodommes. They are not enjoying this lifestyle.

Of course, if this was unclear in my previous journal entry, then I'm deeply sorry for any Prodommes I might've offended. You all make a very valuable contribution to society - just see how many prominent politicians you've nailed;) I kid.. But still, the lifestyle just wouldn't be the same without you.

But still, I don't want this to be some debate between me and some nameless Domme, who apparently was offended that I used her as my anonymous inspiration and felt she had to retaliate against something that was never directed at her personally. So, I won't keep replying her - even if she feels the need to prove that the choice I made to use my freedom of speech was wrong.

Hmm, just saw a Dommes journal entry, that inspired me to write my own.. It was about Findomme and whether or not such a thing exists as free serving.. Well, it got me to thinking: Despite the fact that I can accept financial Domination as a fetish that some might have - and god bless them - why is it some(and in here an evergrowing number) thinks it's only fair they demand money for, well nothing really? I mean, when exactly was it decided that being the Domme is the part that deserves to get paid? Hypothetical situation, we start at a blank space before all "norms" was established: How would you decide what party is the one "deserving" of getting paid? The one part wields the whip, the other accepts the strokes. I ask you then: Which is more deserving? Granted, the Domme does an actual movement of the wrist/arm, whereas the sub merely gets flogged. But seriously, is that enough to justify the believe it's worth money? Professional subs do exist as well after all - so who's to say it isn't us subs that should demand money for our "services"?

But we don't.. And why is it we don't? Because we don't do it for money - we have other, far more ridiculous reasons: We actually enjoy it. As I'm sure all the true Dommes do their "role" as well. It's more or less a simbiotic relationship - the one can't exist without the other. Otherwise you Dommes would just be flogging pillows, and let's face it - how fun is that?

Anyways, my point is: Either you're only in it for the money, or else you actually belong to the lifestyle(with the few exceptions where Findomme in fact is part of the chosen lifestyle). So, I offer you all this choice: Which are you? Lifestylers? Or posers wanting money?

And for those of you "Dommes" demanding money just to have subs talk to you - feel free not to comment, as there's no way in hell I'd want to reply(Let's just say I can't afford it).

The rest of you, however, please comment! I'd be happy to get others input - who knows, I might be way off...

Is it not true that major events in our lives come in threes? It seems to me that life cannot be so merciful as to offer us major events in small doses - but dumps a huge smelling load on our heads all at once.. How is one to fathom it all at once?

Guess it's just a question of taking each thing one at a time.. Even those things that cannot be taken so easily. Gods I hate it some time..

And on a different and totally unrelated note: Read "Venus in Furs" today. Great book. A bit disappointing size - I was imagining it would be like 800 pages(or 666) and weigh like a ton. Instead it's this tiny pocket book that's read in a jiffy.. But the recommendations weren't wrong - it is good, inspirational and quite fantastic to be honest..

Peter Piper picked a peck of pickled.. what?!:D

...And to all, a very Merry Christmas!!!

Be safe out there, and make sure you enjoy the holiday:)

Hmm, I've been thinking a bit.. And I've come to realise that one of the things I'd like the most to get out of Collarme is more friends in the lifestyle! I mean, you're never too young to learn even more..


So please, feel free to make me all the more wiser...

Help?!

Okay, so I need a bit of help here..

It's a tricky situation, and it's not even BDSM-related.. But it does involve half the worlds population(or more): I need to get to know the female psyche better..

It's a complicated thingy, and please do start running straight away... But the thing is, I've fallen for this girl who does harbour some feelings for me as well.. Now, however, I need to learn how NOT to fuck up things the way I've done so many times before.. The thing is, how does one properly(and that's probably the keyword here), act on say a first date? For instance, kissing goodbye at the end of the date, is that a big no-no to you? But also most other things..

I see how it might sound a bit helpless what I'm asking, but you know how once in a while you meet someone, who just seems.. well for lack of a better word, perfect! It's in those times that you would do anything to not mess up things! And well, for starters I figured that most of the people in here used to have a vanilla-side to them, so perhaps some help could be found here? Or not.. anyways, I figured it couldn't hurt, right..

And I'm not asking because you are Dommes or subs here - I'm asking you all as women, for help..