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38 y/o Sensory Pain Dom who's into most everything. When it comes to kinkiness, I'm there... (Email me to find out more). I looking for someone who's kinky like me. I'm also looking for someone who loves to be touched, caressed, kissed all over, flogged and spanked. (For pleasure, naturally).

While I'm a Loving, Caring, Respectful Dom, I'm also be a PAIN Dom too. There's a huge difference between flogging someone and leaving her for the night, and flogging someone and then massaging her down with massage oils, and holding her all night. It's this distinction, a.k.a. known as Before-Care, and After-Care, that makes Me a STRONG Dom.

Also, I've found that I'm a sensual Dom. This means that I like to explore heavily in sensory deprivation. Restricting someone's movement, sight, voice, and hearing...Then, caressing her, (with My fingers, floggers, toys, chains, etc.) WOW!

At this point, I don't necessarily need sex, although, I'd never turn it down, mind you... *Smiles*

I've found purpose and pleasure? leading women into the "sub-space" they need to be in.

Allow Me to lead you to where you want to go, to complete surrender. Allow Me to love you by leading you there.

As I 'm sure you can tell, I'm only looking for submissive/slave women, (sorry guys..), and I'm looking for women that I can see often, Phoenix area (and perhaps Tucson).

If you're kinky, submissive, and in need of having that sub-space high, with flogging, love, affection, spanking, bondage and passion, then send me that message!

(Also, I'm on , so you might find me there (under the same handle), you never know...) *smiles*

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12/10/2012 11:06:14 PM

Wow! So I just had the most emotional weekend I've had in like four years.
So, I meet this really hott subbie on ALT. She has "rommate" who's a "Dom" but who's not "her Dom" anymore...I completely trust her on this and arrange a meeting...
We needless to say hit it off and she fell into My arms (and alright My heart)... She tells of how she's looking for a Dom who understands a very simple equation:
Respect + Trust = Love.
I can't argue with this, as I couldn't have put it better Myself.
Now, when I get home, I get this email:
"I told my roommate about our date.  His response was that I am allowed to play with you, so long as permission is granted first."
So, when I asked her about this, it seems that she was under the impression that she was free to date whoever she wanted. He apparantly was under the impression it would be vanilla dating and not dating another Dom.
So, I sum it up for her: "So, you were unaware you were owned?" I then further suggest that she talk to her "Roommate Dom" and decide what's going on.
This morning, after a rough night's sleep, I get this message about 10:30 AM:
"I'm not allowed to talk, email, or text with you without (my Dom's) prior permission."
I then realize that her Dom does not control Me, and I can write to her and I basically wrote "Congratulations and Good luck in your new found relationship and Goodbye".
But, I ask you...How do you not know you're owned? I don't understand it...
I personally think it looks bad on her Dom because your submissive is out and about and doesn't even know she's your submissive! Ha Ha Ha! :)
If I'm lucky enough to have a subbie again, I would make *damn* sure she know's she's owned (loved) every minute of every day (if I could somehow manage it...).
I mean come on now people? How hard is it to let your subbie know You own her? C'mon.. It's D/s 101 here... :) ~SDFY~


12/4/2012 6:58:30 PM

While we're on the subject of punishment...Spanking, paddling, whipping, flogging can be either a reward or a punishment. However, regardless of whether it's a reward or punishment, it allows the Master/Sir and slave/subbie to share an intensive bond...I know that after a scene like that I feel so close to My subbie/slave that all I want to do is rub her down with lotion and hold her all night as she's Mine.

The problem arises when the slave/subbie feels like she's not getting the attention she needs/deserves. The subbie/slave craves/wants/needs the spankings/paddlings/whippings/floggings/canings, etc. to feel close to her Sir/Master.

What would she do to allivieate the situation? Well, if she was a "clever" subbie, she would start disobeying her Master/Sir's rules that He has layed down for her *on purpose* just to get the "punishment" she wants/craves. In My humble opinion, this is not the way a true D/s relationship should be. Also, if her Master/Sir *allows* her to do this, He's basically validating her disobedience and giving her something that she wants/needs. Then, after a while, who is in control of the relationship? It becomes *HER* because she loses respect for Him for "rewarding" her "bad" behavior.

Now, on the flip side, imagine a subbie/wife who completes all of her chores and cooks an outstanding dinner, and all she wants is to be carried off to bed and paddled/flogged and then fucked and curl up in her Master/Sir's arms to sleep as His property?

If this was Me, here's what I would want:
She would finish the dishes and the rest of her reasonable chores,  come up to where I was sitting (either watching television or playing computer games, for instance) completely naked holding her favorite flogger and/or paddle? Then, she would kneel, hold out the flogger and/or paddle for Me.

I would see how she's "begging" for a flogging/paddling. I would stop what I'm doing and tell her to go lay down (maybe up on all fours) on our bed. We would then share the most intense flogging/paddling (and fucking as she's Mine) and the fact that she wanted/needed it from Me is such a turn on. :)

The slight difference between these mentalities is:
* "I'm going to disrespect Master/Sir so He'll have to punish Me. It's like I'm *FORCING" Him to have to punish Me."
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* "Master, I kneel at your feet with Your flogger/paddle. Please, allow Your submissive to surrender herself to Your flogger, Your paddle, Your touch, Your love. All she craves is You, her Master/Sir, her Owner, her Lover."

I just can't help but prefer the 2nd paradigm, becuase she's giving Me the choice. I can always say no. With the first paradigm, it's like she's twisting My arm...

Here's a joke to sort of illistruate My point:
What does a true machosist say: "Beat me, Whip me, Flog me, Spank me, Paddle me, and above all, Hurt me."
What would a *true* Sadist say: "No!". :)
 
Think about it: A *true* Sadist would want to cause the *most* amount of *true*  pain/suffering and that would be to *deny* the machosist her wants/desires/needs.

So, to answer the question of "punishment": The answer is "No." (Which translates into corner time, or time where I ignore her on purpose). There! I think that about sums it all up for Me. Until next time... :)


11/30/2012 6:56:12 PM

So, while we're on thee subject of Daddy/daugter roleplay and relationships...
I do enjoy Daddy/daughter roleplay and after much thought on the subject, it's the innocent love and devotion that attracts Me to this type of relationship.

When Daddy's baby girl walks into the room, the room seems to be brighter and more alive.

That being said, one thing I'm not looking for is fake baby girls. Just as there are poser DaddyDoms, there are wannabe daughtersubs too. I would classify those fakes as "princesses".

Those are the brats who think they know everything, and disrespect their Daddy by deriding His actions abilities and then have the audacity to turn around and expect to be loved (via flogging or sex, etc.).

I may seem bitter, and that may be true, I suppose....

Is it so wrong that I would want My baby girl to surrender herself to her Daddy and love Him "unselfishly"? :)


11/18/2012 10:12:54 PM

I also noticed at this time My profile interests were outdated and perhaps egotistical.
I've decided to trim My profile interests to BDSM activities only. (Not like I have 3 pages worth! *Smiles*)
Please feel free to reread My profile entries.
Thanks!

 


11/18/2012 10:11:09 PM

I had a great time at the Kink Karnival! :) Can't wait to play with My new toys! :)

 


11/17/2012 8:39:51 AM

Going to the Kink Karnival today at Apex! -- Hope to see you all there! :)


11/8/2012 7:02:31 AM

Is it too much to expect a submissive/slave to be obedient? I mean, if I ask a subbie to do something is it to much to expect at least a 80% attempt?

 

The understanding that a subbie/Master should have is that He will not ask her to do anything unreasonable or outside of her capacity.

 

Just to let you know, I'm not looking for a *brat*. I don't want someone I have to excessively *f-o-r-c-e* to get things done. I'm not a dentist/hit-man... I shouldn't have to pull teeth and twist arms to get the simplest tasks completed.

 

I looking for (and *DESERVE* thank you very much) a subbie who has the capacity to and *WANTS/NEEDS* to follow orders, commands, tasks, etc.

 

Now, I'm not expecting each and every order to be completed perfectly, mind you... I realize that there will be some of Me *training* her on how I want her to complete her tasks. I understand that... (Come on now, half the fun of having a subbie is training/molding her into the woman that I know she is inside for Me.)

 

As for punishment, while corporate punishment has its place, I would hope that the *worst* punishment for My subbie would be to fail her Master or to make her Master unhappy...

 

This is just SDFY talking here...


12/14/2008 10:54:11 PM
Thread vs. Bookends

There's two ways to view D/s (and to an extent BDSM).
The first is as bookends. Meaning Y/you can turn it on and off. For instance, Y/you go to work, work all day (D/s = OFF), and then come home, pick up the
phone, call Y/your partner and enter that D/s headspace (D/s = ON), then go back to work the next day (D/s = OFF). This living D/s when Y/you can fit it in to your life is a great way
to allow yourself to be in the lifestyle without allowing it to affect your outside (vanilla) life.

The opposite of that, is a thread. A thread is a constant thread throughout O/one's life. It basically changes D/s from a light switch (ON / OFF) to a "dimmer switch" (e.g. LOW, MEDIUM, HIGH). Work = (LOW, still present, but back-burner, because job is #1), driving home (thinking of floggers tethers, whips, chains, etc.) (MEDIUM). Then, when I get home, calling Y/your partner and entering D/s headspace (HIGH).


This, thread-based approach to D/s is how I've incorporated D/s into My life. I realize it's a lifestyle (for Me). I'm still shaping My thread, and sometimes it will be "thicker" than others, but I see it inside of Me as ALWAYS THERE.

How about you?

12/10/2008 6:24:09 PM
Found this list online somewhere, thought I'd share it. I don't take credit for it, but it's a good list. :-)

Acomoclitic - from hairless genitals

Acrotomophilia - by the thought of having sex with an amputee

Agoraphilia - by sex in public

Algophilia - by feeling pain

Alphamegamia - attraction to older men

Altocalciphilia - by high heels

Anaclitism - infantilism

Anophelorastia - from defilement

Antholagnia - from smelling flowers

Apotemnophilia - by the idea of becoming an amputee

Arachnephilia - by sex play involving spiders

Asthenolagnia - by weakness or humility

Autassassinophilia - fantasizing about one's own masochistic death by murder

Automasochism - inflicting pain or injury on oneself

Automysophilia - from being dirty or defiled

Autopederasty - a man inserting his own penis into his asshole

Autophagy - eating one's own flesh

Avisodomy - sex with a bird

Bestialsadism - from torturing or mutilating animals

Blastophilia - only when sexually assaulting an unwilling victim

Catheterophilia - from catheters

Chezolagnia - masturbating while defecating

Chrematistophilia - from being robbed

Coprophagy - eating feces

Coprophilia - by feces

Corephallism - anal sex with young girl

Cunnilalia - talk about female genitals

Cunnilingus - licking the vulva

Dacnolagnomania - lust murder

Dippoldism - by beating or flagellating children

Doraphilia - the love of fur or skin

Ederacinism - tearing out the sex organs by the roots

Electrophilia - from electricity

Emetophilia - by vomit or vomiting

Eproctophilia - from flatulence

Exhibitionism - by shocking others with exposure of genitals

Fisting - inserting hand, fist, or forearm into the rectum or vagina

Formicophilia - use of insects for sexual purposes

Gerontophilia - attraction to significantly older persons

Graophilia - attraction to older female

Gymnophilia - from nudity

Gynemimetophilia - by a female impersonator or a M-to-F transexual

Gynonudomania - compulsion to rip clothes off others

Harpaxophilia - from robbery

Hebephilia - attraction to teenagers

Hemotigolagnia - fetish for sanitary pads

Hierophilia - by sacred objects (especially masturbation with crosses)

Hirsutophilia - from armpit hair

Hybristophilia - from being with a partner who is a rapist or murderer

Iatronudia - from exposing oneself to a physician

Kleptophilia - by stealing

Klismaphilia - by enemas

Lactaphilia - by lactating breasts

Macrogenitalism - from large genitals

Maieusiophilia - from pregnant women

Martymachlia - from having others watch during sex

Masochism - from being hurt during sex

Medolalia - talking about penises

Menophilist - fetish for menstruating women

Miscegenation - sex between two people of different races

Mucophagy - consuming nasal secretions

Mysophilia - from soiled clothing

Nasolingus - from nasal mucus

Nasophilia - from a partner's nose

Necrobestialism - by sex with dead animals

Necrochlesis - sex with a female corpse

Necrophagy - cannibalizing a corpse

Necrophilia - sex with corpses

Necrosadism - sadism or mutilation of corpses

Nepiolagnia - by infants of opposite sex

Nosolagnia - from knowing partner has terminal illness

Nymphomania/Satyriasis - uncontrollable desire of woman/men for sex

Nymphophilia - from a female adolescent by an adult

Ochlophilia - from the presence of a crowd

Oculophilia - eye fetish

Oculolinctus - licking partner's eyeball

Odaxelagnia - from biting

Odontophilia - from tooth extraction or tooth fetish

Omolagnia - from nudity

Ophidiophilia - from snakes

Ozolagnia - from strong smells

Parthenophagy - eating young girls or virgins

Parthenophilia - desire for virgins

Pediophilia - from dolls

Pedophilia - sex with minors

Phallophilia - large penis fetish or preference

Phygephilia - from being a fugitive

Podophilia - from feet

Psychrophilia - from being cold or watching others freeze

Pubephilia - pubic hair

Raptophilia - only from raping a victim

Retifism - by shoes

Rhabdophilia - from flagellation

Sadism - from injuring others

Sadomasochism by proxy - from watching others disciplined

Spectrophilia - either coitus with spirits or from image in mirrors

Stigmatophilia - from partner who is stigmatized

Symphorophilia - from arranging a disaster, crash, or explosion

Taphephilia - from being buried alive

Thesauromania - collecting objects or clothing belonging to females

Thlipsosis - from pinching

Thygatria - sex between father and daughter

Transvestitism - from crossdressing

Traumaphilia - from wounds or trauma

Tripsolagnia - from having hair manipulated or shampooed

Tripsophilia - from being massaged

Urophilia (Urolagnia) - from urine

Vampirism - drinking blood

Vincilagnia - from bondage

Voyeurism - watching others

Zoophilia (Zooerasty) - from animals


11/18/2008 9:54:56 PM
When to journal? When not to journal? Hmmm...Is it ever too late to journal? Can one ever journal too much? Does asking these questions count as a journal entry?
Hmmmm... I guess the world will never know.

11/17/2008 9:35:17 PM
To continue on from last week,
I believe to this day that the world's BEST Dominants are humble in nature. They realize that they are NOT God/Goddesses themselves. Rather, they are an enabler to give submissives permission to find the God/Goddess (or purpose) within themselves. This humbling act, allows Dominants to find God (purpose) within themselves. This is the true nature of Dominance/submission.

11/11/2008 7:30:13 PM
In reality, EVERY Master submits to someone (or something).
* BDSM-Lifestyle DOMs, serves the community.
* Pro-Doms submits to $$$.
* STRONG Doms submit to God.

It is with this in mind that dominating My submissive is ME "serving" God. By "LOVING" another of God's creatures like this, giving her what completes her, I am in fact doing God's work.

A DOM has at least two purposes (besides the responsibility of His submissive):

To help a submissive under His care/control find HERSELF, and to help her find GOD.

But, then, isn't God within each submissive (and Dominant too)? So, by Dominating a submissive (through looks/words/floggers/control), isn't He serving God? So, then, really, the Dominant IS serving God by COMPLETING His submissive, He is serving God.

Now, all He needs to do, is make her realize that she is serving God too, by submitting to the Master.
(Not that the Master = God, no, of course not). Rather, realize that if the Master serves God, then, serving God's servant, is also serving God.)

If I could help a submissive truly find God, then My job would be complete.

11/8/2008 10:49:50 AM
So, I have begun training of My collared submissive, SiennaDiamond. She's really learning well, and maturing. She's doing particularly well in balancing her vanilla life with her D/s life. While she only gets to delve into her D/s fantasy world every couple weeks, she's making incredible progress.
I can't wait to see her next weekend!
Here's to you, sienna! :)

10/23/2008 6:41:07 PM
So, I don't know if I told everyone, I'm really proud of My slave. she's been working really hard these past few weeks, and I'm grateful she's Mine. (All MINE!) :)

I've been working with her with her limits, and I see her surrendering more and more to Me.

I will keep working with her to surrender to My desires and My will. I know she has it in her. I can see it clearly.

Sometimes I worry when I have to ask her a few times to do something, but I know she'll get it someday. I have faith in My subbie.

10/7/2008 10:49:38 PM
Dear friends,

I am completely blessed to have a subbie like My sienna diamond. W/we spent a very stressful but enlightening weekend together. If W/we can get through this weekend, W/we can get through anything. Next weekend, she will be kneeling a lot more for Me as her training continues. The most important thing is that I own her. she now feels that in every cell in her body. I love her with all My heart, mind, body and soul. -Strong Dom For sienna

8/7/2008 10:34:10 PM
Dear Friends,

I know I haven't been around lately, but I just thought I'd share this.

I have found someone! Actually, some of you might know her.... Wouldn't you like to know who... :)

I have given her my collar, and she wears it whenever she can.

I'm truly lucky to have found her.
At this time, I truly want her to serve Me as best she can. Therefore, I've unchecked those "Actively Seeking" Boxes on CM.

If you are one of my cherished friends, please feel free to write and I will tell you all about her.

~SDFh~ Strong Dom For her.
(Love to you, my Beautiful Subbie)

5/5/2006 12:23:39 PM
I'm not usually one to complain, but here goes a small issue I've been having lately....
I search the profiles searching for someone I might like to get to know better, and then, after careful consideration, I send them a nicely written message. I'm not talking about a quick one-liner, or rude degrading comment. I'm talking about a note that I actually took time (3 - 5 minutes) to compose and send. Ladies, I realize you probably get 20 - 30 messages a day, and a lot of these one-liners/rude messages, you can delete, but please for goodness sakes, a reply only takes 30 secs, if that...
Even if the message is, "You're not my type", or "Thanks, I'm just here for friends", or something... That's FINE!!! Honestly, I would rather see a messagebox full of "I'm sorry, but we're not compatible. Good luck with your serach". Then, me sending out messages and RARELY getting a response.
And don't act like "Oh, I never read it." I can see when you read my message.

Okay, I'm done bitching about an empty mailbox. If you're still reading this, please feel free to drop me a line!
~L~

10/1/2005 10:32:35 PM
Hi There. This is my first journal entry, but you probably guessed that. I just had to comment on something that bothers me. I'm here in San Francisco, CA and looking at possible subs. They say they're from "California". That's great. BUT, if it takes me, oh, let's say 13 1/2 hours from San Diego to Siskiyou County (top of the state near Oregon), that's a lot of distance to cover. So, ladies, PLEASE tell me what city you call home, and maybe we could meet up. Even "Bay Area" or "LA area" is better than "Cali". Thank you.
~SDFY~

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