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Hetero Female Dominant, 56,   , Wisconsin
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I know what I want! Do you? What I Am Seeking is One Exemplary Alpha \ Sigma Male I am Not a professional dominatrix I am Seeking a service oriented male slave for FLR TPE LTR in real life ultimately for a lifestyle marriage I do not seek just any man. I am looking for a very special one You will be an Alpha \ Sigma male in the vanilla world and in your career. Attractive, handsome, refined gentleman, intelligent, wise, wildly successful, ambitious, healthy, financially and emotionally stable, well traveled, physically fit HWP, masculine, generous, kind, thoughtful, giving, you live a luxurious or very comfortable life within your means, you have exemplary qualities, you knows what you want and you are ready to live this lifestyle. The type of male I am seeking will most likely be running his own business, or possibly a white collar employee. This should help those who are guessing if they are the type of male I am seeking This is not a passing thought for you as it is not one for Me You have thought it through and are ready to live this lifestyle There must be some physical attraction and meeting of the minds I am seeking a mature male Maturity is not about age I am not seeking a boy, even though I may call you My boy you will protect Me you will provide for Me, you will serve Me you will service Me Always safe and sane I am a Private person and I expect your public reputation is important to you as well I have lived true FLRs FLRs are not about kinks and fetishes although some kinks and fetishes are great tools and rewards in this lifestyle I will expect you to exchange contact inf ormaiton and some basic ide ntifying inf ormation to show Me you are Truly Serious and Genuine Email address, phone number, respectful, recent, clear photos. I get two votes you get one if you are lucky It is part of My natural character to micromanage at some level. A positive, optimistic attitude and personality is sought. Do Not Disappoint Me After reading My profile in Full, IF you feel you qualify to approach Me, Only then send Me a respectful, detailed message










 Dominant Female








Actively Seeking:

Male slave/sub






 Female Led Relationships

 Female Sovereignty


 Art Galleries


 Bird Watching

 Coffee Shops

 Fine Dining

 Going to the Opera



 Musical Theater


 Horseback Riding



 Keeping you permanently locked in tamper evident chastity

 Giving you corner time facing the wall

 Eye contact with me is not permitted

 You keeping a daily FLR Journal

 You being my domestic servant

 You kissing my feet

 You doing all of the housework

 Training you to be completely
obedient to me and only me

 Treating you like an object

 Complete control of your orgasms

 Deciding what you wear

 Treating you like my butler

 You servicing/cleaning me with your mouth

 Spanking you

 Speech Restrictions

 Comedy Shows

 Historical Shows

 True Crime

 Alternative Medicine


 Art Collecting











 Intellectual Discourse





 Goddess Sanctuary

 You pampering me

 Deciding what you do and when you do it every day of the week




 Bar Hopping




 Local BDSM Community


 Arcade Games



 Administrative Professional

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Journal Entries:
1/31/2023 6:52:57 PM

When writing to Me, start with 

"Dear Ma'am,"

your first message to Me will include the answers to the following questions! :

Tell Me your first name. 

Tell Me about yourself 

Education,  career,  skills,  talents,  hobbies,  interests,  goals,  and what you are passionate about. 

Why should I consider you?

Include a clear,  recent, respectful photo of yourself. 

》》Be sure to read My other journals!《《


1/30/2023 2:53:02 PM

Attitude matters!

I will be clear here.

If I choose you and you are not fit, healthy and eat healthy per My desires. 

I will put you on a strict diet and exercise program. 

I don't care what you weighed in high school or your younger years. 

That is not what you look like today. 

Who you are today,  what you look like today is all I will see, and matters to Me!

Strip naked,  take a long look in the mirror from every angle,  take photos of yourself. 

Are you proud of your appearance?

Or do you need to put in the work?

I am on a journey to better fitness and appearance. 

If you are not, or have no ambition to, we will not match up.

you don't have to be perfect right now, although that is desirable.  

What you do need is to be putting in the work and working on the goal of better health,  healthy eating/diet, and becoming physically fit. 

Eliminating substances from your consumption that is not healthy. 

Watch 'Biggest Looser', maybe it will inspire you.

Its free to watch on freevee app


1/28/2023 3:29:39 PM

I want to help you. 

So read carefully and understand this!

When I require you to send Me a photo of yourself,  I  expect that photo to be clear, a respectful photo, recently taken.  

If you send Me a photo which is not you, or a photo that is old. 

you will be dismissed. 

Sending photos which are old or of another person is deceptive,  a right out lie.

This will label you as a liar. 

Any type of relationship is built on trust,  especially these lifestyle relationships. 

To be a submissive or slave you will need to be strong,  enduring, brave, and willing to do what weak males cannot. 

It starts with being completely open,  honest and forthright.  


1/13/2023 8:45:42 PM

I seek a Gentleman

Being a Gentleman:

Today, being a gentleman is a matter of choice. It is a title you earn through an unwavering commitment to invest in your character. It is not about perfection, but a constantly renewed pursuit of excellence. 

Gentlemen are not stiff, pretentious, or focused on elevating themselves.

Instead, they strive to succeed while helping those around them succeed as well. 

Being a gentleman means that you care about how your choices impact others. It is about human connection.

At a recent professional event, I was introduced to a man who dressed impeccably and had been working the room like a pro. His handshake was appropriate, and our initial conversation was pleasant, but he quickly became boastful, stopped listening, and seemed unaware of the people around him. Before my eyes, he transformed from a gentleman into a banty rooster—all puff and little substance. Sadly, he was unable to connect in a meaningful way.

Our world is in desperate need of more gentlemen. Those who choose to pick up this torch are not only performing a noble feat, but they also reap incredible rewards. The qualities of a gentleman never go out-of-style and pay huge dividends.

Qualities of a gentleman:


A gentleman is generous with his time, wisdom, and resources. He looks for ways to help others. He is a servant leader, and his commitment to interpersonal kindness creates a positive culture that boosts commitment, engagement, and performance.


A gentleman chooses to be positive. His positivity is contagious, and his consistent encouragement draws others to him. He practices gratitude, which research shows lowers his blood pressure, improves immune function, reduces stress hormones, and facilitates better sleep.

    Lifelong Learner

A gentleman maintains a teachable posture and actively seeks new challenges. His intellectual curiosity propels him to constantly better himself and his craft through reading, coaching, ongoing education, and time spent with mentors. He turns off the T.V. and silences his phone to make time for this investment. He is emotionally mature, mentally sharp, informed, and not ashamed to ask for help.


A gentleman embraces civility by valuing all people and treating everyone with respect. From the janitor to the CEO, he carefully considers how his behavior and words impact others. He treats females and males with the same respect. 


A gentleman is well-mannered, and can effortlessly navigate social and professional settings with confidence and proficiency. He stays abreast of current etiquette guidelines, and uses social acumen to navigate shifting norms. As a result, he is as comfortable at a casual gathering with friends as he is in the boardroom. He returns his shopping cart, says “please” and “thank you,” holds doors open for others, tips generously, and smiles often.

    Hard & Smart Worker

A gentleman possesses a strong work ethic.  He takes great pride in his work and strives to give his very best every day. He is reliable, dedicated, self-disciplined, humble, and a team player. He leads and is led well. People want him on their team.

    Sharp Appearance

A gentleman understands the power of his appearance—that the way he chooses to dress, groom, and carry himself is either a bridge or a barrier to his success because what people see, is what they expect. He takes no days off from excellence, and his consistently sharp appearance demonstrates respect for himself and his environment, wherever he may be. He conducts an annual image audit to ensure that his appearance is up-to-date and supports his goals.

    Effective Communicator

A gentleman is well-spoken and a focused listener. He demonstrates conversational competence and leaves others feeling inspired, engaged, and understood. He manages his tone and body language to maximize connection. He knows that hearing is a passive physical process, but listening is an active mental process that requires work. As a result, he strives to really listen to what people have to say while also effectively communicating his point of view.


A gentleman is confident in that he knows the value of what he brings to the table. He seeks competence, not perfection. His body language and commanding personal presence identify him as a leader. He stands upright, walks with purpose, avoids hiding his hands in his pockets, and extends a firm handshake.

    Person of Integrity

A gentleman does the right thing even when no one is watching. He is a man of his word, and is not swayed by peer pressure or popular opinion. The man he is at work is the same person you will encounter in the community and at his home.

Ask yourself: How do you want to be remembered?

1/8/2023 8:00:41 PM

Communication Matters!

Open,  honest,  forthright Communication is essential. 

"He voluntarily and openly commits himself to serve the needs of the dominant partner.. .

and by accepting, she fulfills his need to serve.

Where things go from there will vary from relationship to relationship

depending on the mutual desires and unique personalities of the partners."

1/8/2023 1:36:40 PM

"The only ones among you who will be really happy are those who have sought and found how to serve."

 - Albert Schweitzer

5/17/2022 1:11:12 PM

As usual , My inbox overflows. 

There are many reasons why I may not reply to a message. 

My time is limited. If I allowed it, responding to messages could be a full time job. 

There have been plenty of times I have accidentally or internationally opened a message  and found I wanted to reply. However,  I  didn't have time at that moment.  Later to find the message was too far lost amongst the rest.

Recently I strolled through the pages of messages and came across a very well written message  from a submissive  who seemed to have potential.  

If you send Me a message which is not acceptable . One which does not show respect it will surely not get a kind reply if it gets a reply at all.

If I was communicating with you and you did not comply with My demands you can assume I stopped communication. 

If I was communicating with you and some time has lapsed there is a good chance your messages are lost in the masses.


If you want My attention write an amazing message to Me.

Include a respectable,  recent, clear photo of yourself.

Expect to share your email address and phone number if I ask for it.

I will not text you.  I will not be sharing My phone number with you,  unless I decide to. 


I  will only ask for your phone number if I wish to interview you further via phone.

I use no apps, except whatsapp for international. 


I am not here to serve you!

I expect you come to Me to serve Me.

5/10/2022 1:06:35 PM

When you tell Me you are single, divorced, unattached...

Then your gf, significant other, or wife finds My contact information and reaches out to Me.

you can bet your sorry ass I will offer to teach Her how to correct you.


I expect honesty !


4/25/2022 4:25:07 PM

A submissive is one who chooses each and every time if he /she will submit. 

A submissive often comes with a list of his / her restrictions and requirements. 

While a true slave is one who comes to serve in the manner in which the Mistress desires.

A true slave makes the decision to submit one time for always. 

A true slave may have desires, dreams,  and  fantasies but he / she is not selfish and he / she relinquish their selfishness to serve the Dominant.  

It takes a very strong person to live the life of being a slave to another. 

To observe a slave growing and one day to see him /her become the perfected specimen  in which the Domme  has created is the goal.

The submission of a slave is very admirable. 

I seek that slave!

The one who will serve Me always, under My safe keeping, and owned  by Me. 


4/24/2022 8:08:24 PM

This is the way it is!

If I ask you for a photo of you. That photo will be respectful, clothed, recent, and clear.

Anything other will not be acceptable.

If you do not comply with providing photos, email address, and phone number so I can interview you further then you will be dismissed.

If you are so insecure you won't supply simple content and contact information when I request it, then you are not a potential candidate.

Step to the side, turn around and walk away because I assure you there are plenty waiting to step up to the plate and serve exactly the way I desire them to.


If you do not like My rules, Too Bad, because I make the rules, not you.


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