I have been into all of this stuff since I was a teen. I've been playing around with kink since I was able to, and have had many wonderful experiences.
For me this stuff is less about play and more about a seriousness to it. Being in chastity or bondage or anything of the sort don't really do much for me in general, but once they have a purpose they connect with me. I guess I like the forbidden nature of doing things I'm not supposed to want to do like being used to please others... and giving up control/being forced...
When it comes to men, I am turned on by being used sexually not because they are hot, but because the acts themselves are hot. Submitting to a man like that. Control. Humiliation. But I list myself as straight because I don’t find men sexually or romantically attractive.
I'd say right now I'm looking for play that might lead to a full Dom/sub relationship.
I would be interested in following the rabbit hole as deep as it goes.