We've all heard the importance of aftercare. Aftercare is simply the care given after a scene. It's not just for bottoms (lots of tops need their own aftercare to), but bottoms are the ones who usually will need it the most. Some people don't want or enjoy aftercare. If it's something you need, it should be negotiated for and made clear what you'll need as part of your aftercare and how long after the scene will you need to be cared for?
There's lots of things you can do as part of aftercare, everything from making sure the bottom stays warm to feeding and hydrating them and giving them chocolate too if they like that type of tasty treat. You should also address and tend to any cuts and comfort any noticeable sore spots as well.
There's many more things you can do, cuddling and talking to them in a soothing and calm manner while making sure you put the scene in context and telling them how proud they've made you.
But to me, the most important and beautiful thing you can do is connect with your partner in a very powerful, unique and intimate manner.
You're both going to be in a heightened state of consciousness and your emotions might be wide open, take advantage of that special state of being and don't be afraid to connect with your partner in a way that goes beyond what words can say or the flesh can touch, it'll be a merger of two vulnerable people who just shared something very intense, challenging and extremely personal.
Don't be afraid to connect in that moment, because by doing so, it will bring you both lots of care, long after the scene.
There is no better aftercare than that. |