This Masters Opinion...which is subject to change as is His right.

Let me clarify something which in my opinion seems to be often confused by so called "masters" on this site... perhaps most are dog owners or something to the like on this website who call themselves Masters. Just because someone decides to just label themselves a Master, even owning a dog (or wanting to own a slave) does not make him a Master or even if he does it does not mean they are a worthy of calling themselves a Master either.

A true Master means being someone who has actually Mastered something including himself, which if he has, then he will tell you it is always

He is not just a man who has people working for him, esp. servants or slaves.

He is a skilled practitioner of a particular art or activity.

He someone having or showing very great skill or proficiency.
He has acquired complete knowledge or skill in (an accomplishment, technique, or art).

He has "gained control of; overcome" his fears, weaknesses, and developed his strengths.

A Master who has respect and integrity for others will respect his property (slave)

and treat them accordingly.

While he may expect and request (and some demand) respect from others,

even from those whom he has not yet gotten to know or who do not know him

he does not have the right to assume that because a female who is a sub/slave

should bow down to him without knowing anything about him. That is arrogant

and presumptuous.

If you are seeking an actual Master then pay attention and be selective as well as show the person you may have interest in what qualities you have that would make a good submissive or slave. Put your best submissive / slave face forward. Hiding behind vague profiles and claiming to be a submissive or slave does not prove you are a that either.

So to all the so called submissives and slaves on here you do have the right to get to know

the person calling themselves a Master before submitting to them.

Be careful and choose wisely even if you are lonely...it would be prudent to get as much information and trust your instincts.

If you wish to be abused and mistreated then ignore the warning signs of the fakes, abusers and others like that on here. Also be aware that these sites are prime hunting grounds for those who seek to do you harm and deal in human trafficking.

A Woman on All Fours

A modern womans struggle....

It can be hard to reconcile with yourself all that you feel is expected of you...from a mother, to career woman, to keeping up and house, to being sexual and intimate with your partner, and so on.  I think the expectations that society puts on woman can be difficult.  From how a woman feels she is supposed to act and present herself, to being strong, assertive, and able to care for herself.  What you have to make yourself understand is that there is nothing wrong with what you want and need.  Everyone is different and needs different things. 

It's ok to need to submit.  It's ok to need to be cared for and protected by your man.  It's ok to have the need to serve him and give yourself to him completely.  As long as it makes you happy, and you get all you need from it, then that's what matters.  It doesn't matter what anyone else does or says.  It is your choice.  It's when you fully get that and feel it deep within your soul, and accept it as ok for you, even though it may not be for everyone...that ii when you will find happiness and peace.  As some captions on D/s pics I have seen have stated (I'll paraphrase)...it is by being bound and completely belonging to and being owned by him, that she she feels most free.

There is no need to be or feel ashamed of your desires.  You are feeling this way based on what you perceive is expected from you.  You have to be able to look beyond that for what is best for you as the individual you are.  I'm not saying this is easy.  Especially when you have spent your whole life believing or being taught to be a certain way.  Just know that is it ok to want, need, and feel the desires you have.  You and only you know what is best for you and what you need.  Don't let outside influences and the views of others deter you from being happy and who you truly are. 

The Courage to explore the Dark Side

If you do wish to experience D/s with this Dominant Master understand

that I can be quite deviant and the things I talk about are real

for I have experience with all of them.

This does not mean I will do all of them with you if you are to explore with me but it does mean I am capable of taking you to these places if you have the desire and if not then some softer not so dark place can work as well. I am flexible and have done alot but each person is unique and if I have invited you here then it is because I saw something in you that made me do so...not that I expect you to be like me or go so deep as this Master is capable but that I want to know you, your deep hidden desires and share intimately with you what you wish to share and learn.

For I am no ordinary Master...

therefore she can be no ordinary submissive.

Domination versus Domineering
What is the difference, what should you know

There is a fine line in determining abuse and play at times in a Total Power Exchange (TPE) relationship, or even in playtime. Often an onlooker may see abuse where one whom is schooled in control may see a lesson. So how does one tell the difference, where do we draw the line between safe, sane and consensual and control reinforced with pain, fear, and neglect.

Webster defines the two terms thusly:
Dominate v.t. rule, control, sway; of heights, to overlook. –vi. Control, be the most powerful or influential member or part of something. –dominant a. –domination n. –domineer’ v.i. to act imperiously, tyrannize.
Therefore one can surmise, to dominate means to control, to influence, to domineer is to act irresponsibly in a tyrannical way.
Abuse can be defined as any activity that is damaging to another, whether mentally, physically, or spiritually.
There are those who crave pain as a way of giving of themselves, or an outpouring or release of emotions, while others cannot tolerate pain, it frightens them, fills them with fear to the point they withdraw completely, hiding inside themselves.

Here we have two sides of the same coin, in one case, a good flogging to the point of tears would be beneficial, while to the other example, this act could push the subject into a deep depressive state including and not limited to the breaking of sacred trust.
Either subject would be excellent material for domination and unfortunately domineering. Case in point if a Dom beat His property every day for His sheer enjoyment, and she was not harmed, then its not abuse. But if it did harm her, pushed her beyond her limitations of fear or pain, to the point of damaging her mentally or physically, then it becomes abusive.

Many activities enjoyed in BDSM scenes, or training sessions can be used to either dominate or domineer, it is the intent behind the exercise that defines it. If it is used to push the subject, stretch her limitations, broaden her scope of experience and thereby strengthen her trust, it is most assuredly domination. On the other hand, if it is used to break the subject, beat her down and destroy her mentally, then this is very clearly domineering abusive use of the subject.

So how can submissives, be assured they will not be domineered but receive the domination they so desperately crave.
The answer is really quite simple.
To begin with, we must define, what is a Master.
Once again we will look to Webster's artful definitions;
master n. one who employs another, head of a household; owner; one in control; captain of a merchant ship; teacher; artist of great reputation. overcome; acquire knowledge of, or skill in, -masterful a. imperious, self-willed, masterly n. skillfully done, -mastery n. victory, authority
A Master dominates, He owns property with responsibility, He teaches, supports, nurtures, and skillfully creates the servant He wants by molding her into what He wishes, not destroying the essence, but embellishing and polishing the raw diamond till it shines brightly.

A domineering person will try to get the same results but with force and frustration.
Domineering is breaking the animal down to a shadow of an existence for the sheer enjoyment of being in charge without regard for his property's well being. There is nothing beautiful nor valuable in a brow beaten animal, scared of it shadow, moving through the paces pounded in its head in utter fear of its owner. This type of domineering person cannot control himself much less be a master of another. His ability to master will reflect upon all aspects of his life, one just has to look to see the proof.

There are spoiled children trying to wear grown up clothes in every walk of life, it is up to our common sense to recognize who can be trusted with the keys to our bodies and minds and who can not. Once the keys are given, it is much harder to implement this philosophy. Know the one who you wish to be your Master or Dom before giving this power to them. This cannot be emphasized too much or too often. To take a collar is to give yourself, body, mind, and for some soul, to another. A collar means this person has the power to either make or break you as the submissive, you are giving them that power by accepting it. Better make damn sure they are responsible enough to care for the property before you hand them the keys.

In any TPE relationship, there is the danger of abuse, but submissives have the power to choose your Dominants carefully, and must exercise caution when doing so. Dominants have the power to make their property sparkle with brightness and shine with the clarity of love, devotion, and excel in personal growth further then they have ever known, Dominants also have the power to break these charges down to nothing, it is up to the Dominant to exercise their power with dignity and honor and respect. If you are seeking a TPE relationship then... 

Make that decision soberly, serve well, and live happy. The life of a submissive slave should be filled with great joy and happiness, her sense of freedom and expression greater then most will ever fathom. Don't sell yourself short, you are worth it, you deserve it.

"You/I (Man) as Man/Master/Dom cannot "have/take/own" what is not "first"
given to You/me.

A sub/slave/woman cannot give/offer/submit to One who does not understand that a precious possession is just that, precious.
And only a "real" Dom/Master/Man comprehends what He does have and own...
it's like walking hand in hand,
one does not work without the other,
you cannot reach for a hand that is not there, you cannot give nor take what is not given out of desire nor taken out of appreciation..."

I have loved and lost in love.

I have also learned to overcome and forgive.

I have made mistakes and have learned from them.

I am a man
who has and is continually learning as I go through life and become more clear on what I want and seek in my partner. I appreciate my submissive/slave partner for she is here
to bring more enjoyment to my life and to assist me in my own growth and spiritual evolution and both of us to be a helpmate for each other
as I/we go thru this life.

Modern society is where we are now, not in ancient times. We do not live in a barbarian world but in a modern world developed around new rules for survival. To be a Dominant Master does not mean we have a right to abuse or carelessly plunder through women without regard to their sense of self worth.
If she as a sub/slave is to submit to a Dom/Master it has to be in her heart to do so and his appreciation of her means everything to her. A man can't just take or force her submission if she does not willingly give it to him.
I am not talking about a mere fuck slut who seeks nothing other than sexual play, but a sub/slave seeking a Dom/Master to serve, love, be guided and protected as well as
loved in return by him.

The numbers of women in the BDSM lifestyle with low self-esteem, who have been abused emotionally and physically, who are showing their resentment anger towards the men online is growing instead of the opposite and what should be happening... them finding more peace in their place as women submissives or slaves while dealing with "making a living" by themselves or surviving as single mothers in a world that requires them to be in control and while trying to fill a mans role more and more.

There is a sense of loss that I am seeing all over, not just within the D/s scene and online BDSM dating sites.
The loss is that of our true identities as men and women as well as Dom/Masters and sub/slaves.

The tragedy of a mans life is what dies inside a man while he lives.

He begins to die, that quits his desires.

The tragedy for a woman's life is that she has lost any hope of finding a man who can truly lead and provide/protect her and then she has to try to be masculine to survive in a world on her own.

Todays world has us all (men and women)dealing with ideas and rules required for survival that have confused our understanding of and ability to live through our "natural role" as men and women.

Todays world is requiring women to be more masculine and at the same time attempting to imasculate men to make them more meek and controllable.

Todays world tries so hard to emasculate a man from his true nature. To keep him mild mannered, contained and meek. Most men of today have lost their heart, their true connection of understanding and expressing their true masculine nature. They are told not to fight, not to be aggressive, not to speak out against the norm,
to be tame, don't take chances, don't rock the boat and to settle for something less than what their soul needs to find in itself as a man.
In other words, be soft.

Most men will turn to try to find a woman that will fill their needs in order to restore their sense of manhood. There is no woman alive that can fulfill or do this! If a man doesn't understand and live true to his nature to begin with then looking to a woman to validate him is a waste of time. He is lost to begin with and must regain his true sense of self before he can appreciate, guide, love and protect the woman who shares herself with him.

Men today have succumbed to everything and anything but their own inner drive and desires while pretending to be real men.
They have lost their courage to fight
for what is right and what they want regardless of whether the norm agrees or not, afraid to expose themselves to danger or risk, afraid of taking a chance which would make them vulnerable or go after what they want in spite of risk and to live fully and completely.

It happens by taking every element of what it is that makes us men out of our lives so as to be safe, comfortable and tame. To become civilized and socially acceptable.

I for one will not accept this for I am Wild at Heart. I am a man and love deeply and passionately the experience of life and am willing to take chances and go to the edge in order to keep myself fully alive.

I am seeking a female who is bold enough to handle me, realizes her place is to support and help make life easier and more enjoyable together, to follow and accept my guidance, to love me 100% (not some 50/50 deal)for who I am and be loved for who she is in return, who wants to be at my side to share in this adventure of life with me.

I learned long ago that sharing is important and we are all alone in this world with our feelings and thoughts. If we don't share our thoughts, feelings and experiences then what is the point of having women and others around us?

Sadly more and more men (and women) today are walking wounded and most on this site who pretend to be "dominants or masters" are nothing more than men trying to pretend while they look to regain what has been lost inside them through allowing society or some other circumstantial event(s) in their life to flush the strength of their inner soul instead of fighting back and following their heart,
taking responsibility for their actions as men and developing their inner strength and using it to guide and appreciate their sub/slave women in todays world.
Therefore they call themselves doms or masters when most are merely addicted to pornography and the chase.
Because they were hurt by their previous girlfriends, wives, mother, father or someone else earlier in their life
they prey on women who appear to be easy targets. They leave a trail of wreckage from the submissives they have used for their own lost need to find the answer.

They are not "true men" and certainly not "MASTERS".
These same weak males look for answers and comfort in women because they feel vulnerable an exposed, seeking solace and rest.
And a woman who looks to them as strong, a leader, trustingly and will support their need to feel powerful. But will also eventually find out the truth about them as they see these males for who they really are. A male can only hide behind a title for so long. A womans nature is to understand her man. She is intuitive and will see thru his veil if it is fake.

Too many men today have placed their identity of masculinity in the womans opinion of them.
They must walk away from women as well,
not as in leave your partners,
but as in they must stop looking to her to validate their manhood,
stop trying to make her come through for you, stop trying to get your answer from her,
stop abusing her and release her as the object of your anger because you expect her to be the one who was supposed to validate you as a man but because she cannot you take out your frustration on her emotionally, mentally and physically.
For other men, those men who have been tiptoeing around your wife for years, never doing anything to rock the boat for years, then stand up to her!
Start being a man and follow your heart.


I also see many submissive women post profiles stating that they are submissive but start off with "demands of this and that" which appear to come across aggressive or angry or simply that "DEMANDING" (note: I use the term demanding as in the definition meaning of being commanding) without showing their submissive nature which is what a good Dom/Master would seek. It is no wonder they are not finding or attracting what the really want. They are more dominant and assertive (and even angry) then most of the men who claim or pretend to be dominant. A submissive who has found her balance does not need to be "demanding" because she is able to openly express herself in a manner that is not overly assertive, but she still can be direct. She is also most likely another walking wounded. So her choice of words on her profile introduction is important and she should be careful in her selection of them in order to attract what she seeks. While they may want to convey her needs, they also may appear to convey another message of being angry, resentful or overly assertive which could be interpreted as being her primary personality.
I am not saying it's her fault, because she is trying to find her place in this world of so many fakes, and abusive men and needs to protect and express herself. She is here because she is looking for a man who knows
how to lead, protect, provide for and understand her role and appreciate and reinforce her place as a woman (note: this does not mean be abusive or controlling or to demean her in anyway).
Many of these women have been hurt by abusive men or men who don't take responsibility for the emotional price that women pay by giving themselves in trust to men. When she finds a true man or Dom, her submissive nature takes over and she naturally will want to follow and serve.

There is enough emotional wreckage with the women submissives/slaves who are online due to confusion of not knowing how to fulfill their role in relation to us(Men)as well as from the carelessness of the many so called Dom/Masters online who merely use these women who seek their guidance and further cause them more confusion. For many of these women this carelessness has caused more confusion, frustration and even anger towards those men for being so callus as to not appreciate their desire for pleasing us and simply using them as a way to bolster their faltering male egos.

A submissive who understands what a good balanced and healthy dominant male looks for does not need to establish herself through demands and assertiveness on her profile but rather showing her best qualities to attract the good ones and then she should sift and sort through those who are not what she seeks. Her strength comes through her submission and letting go of the need to assert herself while still being able to communicate with her Man/Dom/Master and through drawing her Man/Dom/Master to her with her unique qualities that make her submissive and more attractive to him. Nothing is less attractive to a true Dominant male than a submissive who has a profile introduction that starts out with a demanding or defensive line about what she doesn't want or some other negatively assertive introduction that does not show her true and good submissive qualities or nature. (Again...I am not trying to imply that she has no right to speak her voice, but, if she does so in a negative manner in her introduction to who she is... then what real Dom or Master wouldn't be turned off by her)


If this offends you then so be it. That is how you choose to receive it. But there is a deeper message here. I am just expressing my thoughts for the time being. Which are always subject to change.

Who Am I?

I am a unique Master.
I am a deep and complex man
and at the same time
an open book.

I have experienced many things
that most know little of
and yet feel I have not lived
nearly fully enough.

The things I am
may not be what you expect.

I am not always "on",
expressing my A personality.

I don't dominant to entertain someone.
What I do is for my pleasure and
where I take you will be different from others.
How I take you will be different.

I am at times moody, distracted and
an eager reception can quickly switch me into "Domspace".
When I am not in the mood for play
you will need to sense that without getting caught up in rejection,
though I always expect you to offer
yourself up wantonly.
This ability would please me.

Although I am always "on" at some level,
it takes tremendous energy and
concentration to be a good Master.
I need to re-charge and I also have many other responsibilities that require my attention.

But my instinct
to merge with my soulmate is irrepressible.
It won't go away.
It's primordial.
Driven by the need for culmination of the soul.
I have felt her deep within me...welling up inside as we communicated our deepest desires
from within our hearts
from across the barriers of time and space.

My desires go beyond a D/s relationship.
I seek a "higher intelligence",
soul to soul contact.
Everything and nothing less.
The woman I seek must be willing to follow my lead, trust me with her life and give up her own ego order to become the submissive or slave
that she desires deep within to become. It will not be easy.

While I may have created this lack of it
in my life,
the opportunity has not thrown itself
in front of me either...
at least not with the D/s aspect.

She is out there,
I know this for I have felt her.
While I am frustrated with not knowing
how to see her clearly and
I have made mistakes and
blundered with my trying to connect with her...
in trying to learn how to love another
without sacrificing who we are as individuals
is a challenge indeed.
I none the less keep trying
to reach out to her in hopes
that she will reach up and take my hand
to reveal herself fully to me.

As I have invested time,
energy and deep thought
as I have searched my soul to learn more.
I have learned that
in order to become a "Master"
one has to master themselves
before they can be a Master of others. Ironically ...that does not mean control others, but, actually releasing the need for control
in order to achieve acceptance and
therefore peace within.
Only then can one see clearly and be able to guide themselves and others down the path to a greater spiritual awareness and
union with their soul mate.

The Power which fills the world
and created me,
is the same Power
that creates my every experience.
I live in a fluid universe,
which constantly responds
to my deepest thoughts and beliefs.
Therefore I never give up
even when I
cannot clearly see the way
to her heart or
if she cannot see me.
I feel it.

Why I seek submissive women...

When I use the term "submissive" I am not just referring to BDSM but to the true nature of a woman in her natural Yin or feminine state.

In a mans world their is a huge amount of competetion, responsibility, stress, aggression, power struggle and control.

When I am with a woman I do not seek out any of these things, much the opposite in fact. As more time passes I find I have no desire to compete with the women in my life at all. Not for power or control or anything. This does not mean I want someone to not be themselves or to simply lay down their opinions, but more that I seek someone who does try to force their way with me, play off my compassion because of their insecurities or play games with me in anyway that involve power struggles. I will lose my interest in them eventually if they do so.

In addition, I am not intimidated by women who are assertive and try to be dominant (as has been suggested by some female dommes) but rather simply just not interested in a game that is futile and will end up un-rewarding for me and the women who try to play it with me. In the end they will find themselves further away from their own nature, instead of being closer to it and I will not find what I seek from her at all.
I am not saying I don't like a playful and fiesty girl. I do enjoy women who are intelligent, bold and playful like that. But, I can find the thrill of victory from competetion, adventure and danger from many places in the world and my life.
In fact I do seek it out at times, but, I generally do not seek it from the women in my life. I know that what I seek is her willingness to show me intimacy and submission as my submissive. I am not in this for empty sex or as outlet for expressing anger, frustration. Nor do I have the need to be a tyrant and domineering, but I am seeking to share a unique quality that she feels inside and wants to express also from within me.

I have found that in the submissive nature of a woman is where her power lies
and that submissive nature and power gives to me as a Man what I enjoy from her prescence. Therefore I am even more attracted to women who are in tune with their sexuality as a submissive and prefer "submissive" females and who understand how to let the flow of energy happen between the two of us.

I don't feel the need to be forceful, commanding or aggresive when with a "submissive" female but I can and often express myself that way sexually when with her if I want or their is need to be. Rather, I feel more compelled to expose and release my other self, the part of me that drops all the pretense and walls that protect my ego and its fierceness that protects against the dangers that exist in the world. I just want to open up and be real with her. Be sincere, compassionate and loving, not tough, hard or hip slick and cool.
I am more comfortable and at peace when with her when I don't feel I am in competetion with her or have to protect or defend anything about myself when around her. Yet when it comes down to it, once I am committed to her I would fight for her since it is us (me and her) against the world, and I would go to extremes to protect her and that which she brings to me in her love which she demonstrates through her submission.

Yes, I too have a soft, tender, compassionate, nuturing side that I as a man need to be able to express and share. While I Am Dominant, I also am a person who has the need to be able to connect with her and express all sides of my personality. Strong, Decisive, Commanding and even kinky or deviant while I also have a more
soft, understanding, compassionate, romantic and loving side.
Without it there can be no balance and therefore confusion and chaos sets in.
Even if I find balance in extremes it is still balance for me.

While I am seeking a sexual playmate with whom I can boldly explore our sexuality together, be deviant or kinky if I should desire,
I am also seeking that connection which can form between our two souls on a higher level that elevates our consciousness and brings more complete fulfillment to us both...and love, if it happens.

There seems to be something about "submissive" women that captures and brings out that part of me. The more submissive she is to and with me the more I am compelled to feel love for her. To me there is nothing more feminine and beautiful than a woman who can release her submissive side and does so when with me. I value her for she allows me a place of expression, solice, rest as well as a being able to bring me to a place of balance and understanding. Our relationship should bring order to her and my needs as a man and woman (Dominant or submissive).

A "Dominant" friend of my said that this was weak and he could not believe I would allow this. But...He is living in his ego which masks his fear and he is also "damaged goods", still living in his pain, unfortunately for him and those women he meets he is not moving forward through forgivenss or understanding and letting go of his past hurt.
Perhaps he will someday realize through repeated experience that there is the need in him to evolve forward to a place of higher consciousness as a human being and not just as a male in and male dominated world. Perhaps the whole world would be better off if it were led by the nuturing female nature that women bring to us...after all, it is through women that life comes to this realm to begin with. Who would be better suited to nuture and take care of this world we live in, aggressive domineering men who ravage and plunder through their testorone driven minds or women whose very nature creates and perpetuates life.

No matter what, we all seek the same thing when it comes down to it.
Peel all the layers of your desires and wants in this life away and what it will come down to is you are seeking that which gives you a sense of peace and fulfillment.
It can be temporary or longer lasting,
depending on where you seek it and how you embrace it.

I seek a submissive woman who I am attracted to physically, mentally and emotionally who makes me feel comfortable just being myself and want to better myself as a man as well as bring forth my dreams, desires and strengths as a man to share with her. In return I will simply move forward in my souls evolution, guide and protect her, learn from and with her, and share all that life can bring from deepening our sense of connection with it, each other and our souls.

In BDSM it's the good ones who understand how to be submissive that are hard to find. Most have lost contact with their identity and generally act dominant because they try to fight fire with fire, compete with, and think they know how to deal with Dominant men. This is also part of why most of them cannot catch the good Doms or Masters. The other part being that their are so few Doms in relation/proportion to the numbers of subs or ...even fewer quality Doms.

What if life is what you make it
and all you have to do is pay attention.
Learn to love and believe
to make your dreams come true
and then live it to its fullest as if they already were.

The secret is to first know what you want
and then be open to recieve it.
It will find its way to you one way or another
if you believe and let it.

Who Am I...?

I am a man
that will pull your hair back then lick and kiss the back of your neck in a way that sends chills down your spine and heat up your thighs,
a man that will whisper dirty nothings in your ear as your knees buckle beneath you,
a man that will blindfold you and
tie your hands to the headboard of his bed
while he has his way with you
sucking and licking your pussy til you cum
and beg him to put his cock in you,
a man who will take you and ravish you
fucking you like an animal from behind
pull your hair and spank your ass til it hurts
so good,
a man that you can talk to before,
during and after he fucks you so hard
your breathless and dizzy,
a man to who you will want to kneel
at his feet and be his slave,
a man that can make you gush like a waterfall,
a man that isn't scared
of a little menstrual blood,
a man that make you laugh 'till you pee,
a man that will let you shave his face and
a man that will wax your pussy,
a man
to whom you will want to kneel down before
and say...
Fuck me Master I'm your whore.

No Need To Pretend

No need to pretend here or put on an air of false impressions.

I see so many profile that are demanding or some even angry...think about it.

If you are looking to meet a Dominant for a relationship then why would you present anything but your best face first, be honest, make a good impression and share what you have to offer him...?

If you are or want to be a true submissive or slave you will demonstrate it by being open and receptive. You will present yourself as a submissive should without anger or demands.
A good sub/slave knows how to follow the lead of a good Dom/Master and will demonstrate that she can in her contact with him.

As a Dominant that you are getting to know, I will not be demanding or disrespectful, but I am outspoken and I will be direct, honest/sincere and open as well. Your unique qualities are what I seek to know as well as what we may have in common to share. We don't need to be exactly alike but do need to appreciate eachother, learn about eachother, develop trust and allow eachother the room to grow and express ourselves fully.

A slaves service and her strength

A sub/slave is not weak or to be taken for granted. For even though the sub/slave gives up control to her Master, she does this voluntarily, not by force. She still has great power and a good Dom/Master will help her to use this power to his and their mutual benefit by guiding her with a firm but reasonable hand and wisdom.

My sub/slave will be taught to be best in her service to me as my sub/slave so that I will be proud of her and cherish her. She will not be a down-trodden slave, but, will hold her head high at my side. She will learn to read her Master, know and understand him, his tastes, likes and dislikes. Become a slave for all slaves to admire and aspire to be like. She will be valued as a slave princess, adored and loved for her service to me. She will be happy to be on her knees or even humiliated like a cum slut for this Masters own amusement or sexual pleasure. She will enjoy this service for she is being allowed the best of both worlds when exploring her sexuality with him...being a total slut and sexual Goddess to be adored and admired while also his servant, slut and slave. At the same time she is also his companion whom he has the responsibility to protect and guide while adoring and cherishing her good qualities.

A slaves strength can show in many forms.
But it does not show in stubbornness or pridefullness. It is most correctly applied in her using it to have the ability to sacrifice, to surrender and to create and develop that drive to be pleasing, to overcome even when its harder than she thinks she can bear. She will bite her lip when the time is right while putting aside defensiveness or her hurt ego to reach a higher goal. She will continue to strive to be more pleasing in her Masters eyes even if she has disappointed him or feels nothing she can do is ever enough. She will demonstrate it in accepting responsibility for the consequences of her actions rather than attempting to avoid them.
A slaves strength can be shown in loving unconditionally or just be allowed to express that emotion without holding it back to see if the other person returns it. It can be shown in willing to admitting that you know yourself to be lost and begging for guidance instead of trying to wing it. It can be shown in being absolutely honest with herself even when the answers are not the ones she wants to bear or hear.

The Scene

The scene

Waiting...
wondering
wandering

at this BDSM scene

Large Buxom Obese Queens
bald headed men carrying whips & chains,
& cunt veterans
shit horders & individualists
drag strip officials
tight-lipped losers
& lustful fuck salesmen
all...
waiting in line
at the scene
of their crimes

And as I thought of her...
my mind wandered

I like the rain

please don't chase
the clouds
away

I'm getting out of here, this isn't for me...

Where are you going?...they asked

I'm going to find her
with my mind

she is here
within me...
much of what she has shared
with me
is showing
in my words
the pictures I share
and my desire

Ohhh but there is so much more

All I could think of was...
her eyes
her face
her voice
and that...

there was preserved in her
the fresh miracle of surprise

as I miss the feather...
of her soft
reply

I ache for her touch
to be with her
inside

So...
I must go now
and
find her

To Escape the Mire...

Between childhood, boyhood,
adolescence & Manhood (maturity)
there should be
sharp lines drawn with
Tests, deaths, feats,
rites & rituals,
stories & songs
and judgements

There are Men who go out on ships
to escape the sin & mire of cities
watch the placenta of evening stars
from the deck, on their backs
& cross the equator
& perform rituals to exhume themselves
from a slow death with
dangerous initiations
To mark passage to new levels

To feel on the verge of an exorcism
a rite of passage
To wait, or seek out manhood
enlightenment with a gun
To kill childhood, innocence
in an instant

There are those who race towards death
those who wait
and those who worry

There are men and the women
who have known and loved them,
shared the adventure of living fully
facing fear while protecting and
being protected...
and then
there are those
who are merely shadows of themselves
passing eachother in fear
of every being fully alive

Have you been born yet
& are you alive
or
are you just
caged in the heart of civilization
and ruled by TV ?

Struggling
to be honest

to escape the only sin
which is
the denial of
not living
fully

completely open
in tune with the universe
within

moments of inner freedom
when the mind is cleaned
from all that need be
forgotten

What are you doing here?
What do you want?

You want something and someone new
am I right
a new beginning and better ending

Of course I am

I have no answers...
should I?

What I write here I write for myself...

I don't really have anything original,
they are just a regurgitation of words remembered
or
combinations of words
accrued in my language of memory.

I guess that means I am an imposter!
since I've borrowed everything
from the time of my conception.

Will you now leave me
alone
or
will you be my muse

These things that I post here are to give you an idea of who I am
while they are not all that I am.

I am an Alpha Male.

At times I am direct and assertive.

At other times I may hold back or wait to make any decisions or take action according to my judgement. As with any relationship and those who have manners...intimacy will follow respect and when both have earned the privilege.

I have little time for those who cannot handle efficient direct communication because your sense of self is too fragile and easily rattled.

If you are not a strong enough female to handle a Dominant personality then you will most likely shrink away from my confidence and direct demeanor.

If you are able to handle my direct assertiveness then you will learn to respect me for I am what I say I am and nothing less.

I am also patient where patience is due
and can be very compassionate as well
for those who show me they are willing and
demonstrate the desire to be worthy of the time, energy and attention

of this type of relationship .

Turn Around

She said she was tied up in knots
her dreams
turned upside down
with tears on her cheeks
and the face of clown

she came to me
in longing
to find what's missing
in her years

she said
her life is wasting
waiting...
to be lived
as she passes time
each day
wondering
if she will ever find
the One

she said
take me away
from
my mundane life
and
show me how
to be your slave

or your wife

will you be the one
to show me
my place
inspite of all my religious
sin
that keeps me
lost & confused

Free my mind
and take your hand
I give you love
at your command

I'll feed you
my cunt
suck your cock
if you'll say
I'm yours
and
be my man

I share with you
in my darkest hour
my needs are wanton
yours to devour

tie my heart
with your love
bound us by trust
and your dominant power
I'll be your
precious flower

All my limbs
you will tie
what you want
I will try

my pussy drips
down my thighs
as I drink from you
you tell no lies

Give me your love
and come to know
my magic spell
quickly now
before we end up
in hell

Sometimes I'm a slut
sometimes a clown
I can be anything
if you will just...

turn around

Although every D/s partnership is different,
they are all built on trust. If you give your power to another person, you trust that person in a myriad of ways. You trust him in play, you trust him with many important decisions (depending on your arrangement) and you trust him/her to be honest. Lying can be deleterious to vanilla relationships; and in BDSM it means the end of the relationship because trust is broken.

Also, many people online claim to be submissives or slaves but in reality they not and usually have no clue of what a true and/or well trained submissive or slave behaves like. Just look at their profiles. The same is true for so called doms that are online. Most are just self appointed titles that weak or angry men or men with big egos give to themselves as they seek out potentially weaker women with low self-esteem to victimize, control or worse.
Some are even violent abusive men who seek submissive women to release their violent tendencies or anger against. I am not speaking against controlled sadomasochism, but against abusive men who use BDSM to find women to be abusive to because they seek to take advantage of them as easy prey. Well all of this does'nt make it easy when trying to find a safe sane and consentual, much less attractive Dom/sub partner with whom one seeks to develop a M/s or D/s relationship with.

You should know already from the extent of what I have shared on my profile here that I am neither a fake, nor a sadist, nor abusive.
I am an Alpha Male, a Dominant and Master because...I have invested time, discipline and extensive effort in becoming clear on who I am as a man, how to control myself.
Contrary to what may seem to be the popular notion of what becoming a Master is ...
This is what it takes to be a true Master,
as well as evolve forward and upwards with ones spirit as a human being. Although it may not appear to be the typical Dominant Alpha Male Master seen in this realm of BDSM, it is none the less required for achieving Mastery of ones self and therefore be deserving of the right be the Master over another.

I am not looking to fit in with what is typical either. I am Dominant because I Am
and I simply enjoy the dynamic energy of the Dominant & submissive roles played out between myself and my submissive slave female companion.

It takes a unique kind of strength and discipline to become a good submissive or slave. We hear this all the time but I wonder how many "Doms/Dommes or Masters" have actually experienced this type of required strength of character that a submissive slave must have to endure and live with when releasing full control to another.
It also requires alot of effort, wisdom and energy to be a good Dominant Master.
But no Dominant can be a true Master until he has also learned to give up control. That takes strength and even more so for a Dominant personality. Those who have learned how to do this often make the best Dominants or Masters.
But the "need to be controlling" vs. responsibly using control and enjoying it are two different things.

I am very secure and confident as a Dominant Male and while I am not rigid in my everyday actions I do expect my sub to be obedient, loyal and someone who has a true desire to please and prove herself worthy of the love, protection, guidance and even provisions I will provide her in return for her loyalty, devotion, love and service to me.

It is unlikely that you will find another like me and if you take the time to be with me and you win me over as your Dom or Master then you will experience something you most likely never have but have always needed. Once you are trained and collared by me then I assure you that your every dream and desire with a D/s relationship can and will most likely come true for you.

Your true submissive slave self has been calling you from within
and searching for the way.
The door has been shown to you and
if you knock the door will be opened for you,
but the doorway is like a looking glass,
you will only see yourself as you gaze into it.
You will not see what is through the doorway
or will you know what exactly is in store for you on the other side...
but it is where you must go if you want to find your true submissive slave self and be fulfilled.
It's up to you to demonstrate the desire and courage to follow your inner desires,
take the Master hand,
walk thru that doorway and down that path
to discovering your submissive slave self.

Actors try to make us think
they are real...
While our friends try to make us think
they're not acting

You know more than you let on
I know more than you betray

So much remembered
yet so much forgotten
and still....so much to forget

Storms passing

I write like this to seize you

The Night is young & full of rest

she'll pander to some strange
request...
anything you suggest?
She'll do anything to please
her guest

Give me your love
I'll give you my song
and together
we'll live in Paris
or on some
tropical
island

We can dance and frolic
like children on the beach
beneath the stars
chasing waves
and the cloud images
of our dreams
or things
not exactly what they seem

She looked
so sad in her sleep
like a
friendly hand
just out of
reach

will you like me
if...
I like you

Have you ever known
what it means to be real

Hurry! before ...
we grow old and tired

For Now
is blessed
and
the rest just
remembered

Why
are you alone...because that is what you want or because your too picky to let yourself explore outside of your box ?

What are you waiting for...someone to save you?

What do you need...something and someone new, someone you can feel comfortable with and know they will take care of and value you?

What do you want? ...you must share for others to know

Like a candle on a beach...so delicate and fragile
in danger of being destroyed but still needing to burn brightly

A Ruthless Barbarian

This may sound harsh but then again honesty has that element about it.

I took a personality test for this company once and it came back saying "in ancient times I would have been a ruthless barbarian, in modern times I am Tom Cruise in Jerry Mcguire.? Who the hell knows... I do know this...
I am psychologically unable to follow and an
Alpha Male.

Some have made comments on how I seem to know what I want and who I am.
What I am seeking at this point can change like the weather since every person I meet is unique and therefore creates endless possibilities of what she can bring out of me...so other than to say ...I seek to explore the possibilities with a female sub/slave .

She must be someone who can keep up with me,
my deviance and perversions, my dark side, my sexual drive as well as my desires for exploring my dark sexual sides the right pain slut who needs me to take her soft fat little behind and whip it into a frenzy of sexual lust and pleasure while she goes into subspace. she would be the receiver of this Masters guidance, protection, training, lust, desires, and "barbaric" use as well as feel as if she is adored and cherished as if His princess or Queen at times.


I am looking here for a willing submissive or slave who is ready to be trained and or just wants to explore...that wants to be taken notice of admiringly when she enters a room with me.
A sub/slave that has confidence that she is with a deserving Dom/Master and is prized, cherished and valued when she is with Him...


It is this complete total power exchange that turns me on the most and because it is consentual I enjoy her even more as we explore together the taboo fantasies often look down upon (if ever even thought of ...?)by the "vanilla ones".
It is in her willingness to submit that I find excites me the most, fills my desire and  earns my adoration and endearment towards her.
 
And after all, the Beast within has to be fed sometimes as well.