I've been in the public Scene for a year. Primarily submissive. Ideally seeking a long-term relationship that exists outside the Scene as well. I have many interests that have nothing to do with BDSM and they're important to me as a person.

I need to be able to communicate with my partner, both in a scene and outside. I'm not only one thing and find limiting myself, except strictly in play, is tedious and a waste of my time and intelligence. Humor in play, whether intentional or situational, is welcome and not considered a detriment but can be an illustration of the chemistry between the partners.

The person I seek is warm, sensitive, bright, witty and comfortable with himself and with his kink. I have no problem with someone new to the Scene who isn't sure what he wants but be open to exploring and not be dismissive of others because of their kinks. We're all human beings first and foremost.

I'm D/S not S/M. The emotions and the psychology are very important to me. While I enjoy receiving pain, that is not the beginning and end of it. A warmup--both physically and mentally--is vital to me. I can't turn emotions on and off and BDSM is gloriously emotional to me.

Lastly, and here is where I push aside my usual easy-going temperment, there are two subjects that must be addressed: First, I'm single and not in a relationship. It's sad that I have to emphasize both but I've found that the definition of the word "single" is nebulous at best with many people. So, you must be single. Seriously, WHAT is so hard to understand about that word? Second, I do not smoke and will not be around anyone who does. Don't tell me you're a light smoker, or that you're quitting, or that you're going to quit. Each one means the same thing: You're a smoker and you have no respect for me by contacting me after I've clearly stated my objection.