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domisub3004
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I'm hot, controlling, funny, nurturing, deviant, smart, ethical and very sadistic.....
Yes I am looking for REAL long-term relationships. Read below if you want to know more:
WHAT I "NEED" AND WANT IS EXTREMELY RARE! THERE IS A DIFFERENCE BETWEEN A BOTTOM, SUBMISSIVE, PET, SlUT, AND SLAVE...
S&M IS A TOOL, B&D IS A TOOL... BUT IT IS D&s THAT THE RELATIONSHIP IS FOUNDED UPON AND IS SO MEANINGFUL TO ME.
"SURRENDER": WHICH MEANS ZERO HESITATION, ZERO RESISTANCE, ZERO INTOLERANCE, ZERO CONFLICT... IT IS THE ULTIMATE EXPRESSION OF NOT ONLY "LOVE" BUT "FREEDOM" AS WELL!
I SEEK THE "SLAVE" AS A LIFE-MATE, OR AT LEAST ONE WHOM IS OPEN TO EXPLORING THAT AVENUE FULLY AND COMPLETELY, (THEN SHE CAN DECIDE)... I AM HAPPY TO PLAY WITH SUBS AND TO OWN PETS... BUT I WISH TO HAVE A SLAVE AS MY PRIMARY PARTNER AND THAT IS WHAT I AM ACTIVELY SEEKING.
THIS IS NOT FOR EVERY SUBMISSIVE LIFESTYLER... I HAVE PREFERENCES THAT PRECLUDE MOST OF THE SOLICITORS WISHING TO BE TRAINED... SO I CONTINUE TO SEEK "THE ONE" I WILL CALL MY OWN.
THAT A PERSON IS "EXPERIENCED" IS NOT NECCESSARY... I SEEK ONE WHO WISHES TO BE TRAINED TO PLEASE "ME", NOT SOME FANTASY RULE-BOOK OR SOCIETY GUIDELINES INVENTED BY OTHERS TO PLEASE THEMSELVES. I HAVE MY OWN METHODS AND PREFERENCES AND REQUIRE LITTLE PRE-TRAINING ELSEWHERE!
THE FIRST STEP IS LEARNING TO REALLY "LISTEN". REALIZE THAT 'NO-ONE' IN THE WORLD CAN TRAIN YOU TO PLEASE ME LIKE "I" CAN TRAIN YOU TO PLEASE ME!
WHAT I AM SAYING DOES NOT MEAN I WANT AN UNINTELLIGENT DOORMAT OR A DAMAGED WEAKLING... ABSOLUTELY TO THE CONTRARY, I MOST GREATLY DESIRE A VERY STRONG WOMAN WITH HER OWN MIND, INTELLIGENT AND KNOWLEDGEABLE, WITH ENERGY AND STAMINA. I SEEK SOMEONE WHO REQUIRES A MINIMUM OF SUPERVISION AND POSSESSES A HIGH DEGREE OF INITIATIVE AND RESOURCEFULNESS YET REMAINS WELL DISCIPLINED TO MY TEACHINGS! ONLY A CUP EMPTIED MAY BE FILLED WITH MY TEA SO TO SPEAK.
A QUICK STUDY IS NOT REQUIRED, JUST THE WILLINGNESS TO LEARN AND TO WORK HARD TO DEVELOPE HERSELF EVOLVING INTO WHAT PLEASES "ME" THUS PLEASING HERSELF! WHETHER SHE IS A TRUE MASOCHISTIC PAIN SLUT OR A LIGHT PLAYER MAKES NO MORE DIFFERENCE TO ME THAN THE SIZE OF HER BREASTS...
I CAN BE VERY PROTECTIVE, COMPASSIONATE, AND A DOTING LOVER AND AT THE SAME TIME, WICKEDLY SADISTIC AND VERY IMAGINATIVELY CREATIVE IN MY TESTS AND PLAY. THE ONE/S FOR ME WILL LEARN QUICKLY THE FUTILITY OF CONFLICT OR BEING DIFFICULT IN ANY WAY...
BEING A CUTE PLAYFULL BRAT HAS IT'S TIME AND PLACE, BUT CONFLICTING BEHAVIOR DETRACTS FROM MY GOAL AND IS DELT WITH STERNLY. THERE ARE ALTERNATIVE WAYS OF EXPRESSING INDIVIDUALITY OTHER THAN CONTROL DRAMAS AND PERSONALITY CONFLICTS.
I SEEK HARMONY AND SERENITY, AND AS MUCH ECSTATIC BLISS AS I CAN GET (NOT TO BE CONFUSED WITH SEXUAL CLIMAX - ALTHOUGH THAT IS WONDERFULL). I WANT TO KNOW HER DESIRES AND NEEDS AS WELL AND PROVIDE THEM TO HER AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE, AFTERALL, WHY SHOULD SHE ENTER INTO A RELATIONSHIP WHERE HER OWN NEEDS ARE NOT MET? A HEALTHY CURIOUSITY FOR THE UNEXPERIENCED IS AN AWEFULLY GOOD WAY FOR HER TO GET HERSELF INTO SOME TROUBLE, RIGHT? ;-)8-0
I AM ALSO HERE TO PROVIDE EDUCATION AND MENTORING, TO SHARE WHAT I HAVE AND KNOW, TO HELP OTHERS HEAL AND BE HAPPY, TO WALK THE WAY OF RIGHT RELATIONSHIPS WITH ALL THAT IS SACRED, AND TO LOVE...
I HAVE ABSOLUTELY NO EXPECTATIONS! I WOULD NEVER TRY TO "CHANGE" ANYONE... I AM NOT ABOUT SEDUCING OR USING, I AM NOT A VULTURE PREYING ON THE WEAK... I DO NOT CORRUPT. I "FULLFILL"...
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Dominants control not by fear, but by building desire in the submissive to obey. Also, we should all understand the paradox of D/s sexuality, at least for a submissive. The more she does not want to do a certain act, the more she wants to do it, because ultimately the sub's sexual pleasure is not tied to physical acts, but is primarily based on feeling (His) power, knowing she has pleased and given pleasure to her Master. The more a Master can create desire in her to do what she previously did not want to do, the more "power" she will feel, and that is exactly what she wants. To take her to the limit, to the extreme, to do things she "officially" does not want to do and even to create desire for that very act through her feeling the power and incredible connectedness with you is not only what she wants, but needs ... craves. |
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You can rate yourself......
The Nine Degrees Of Submission
The outright non-submissive masochist or kinky sensualist
Not into servitude, humiliation or giving up of control; just pain and/or
spiced-up sensuality, on the masochist's own terms for the masochist's own
pleasure (ie: being turned on solely or mainly by one's own bodily sensations,
rather than being turned on by being "used" to gratify one's partner's sadism).
Pseudo-submissive non-slave
Not into even playing "slave", but into other "submissive" role-playing,
e.g.: schoolteacher scenes, infantilism, "forced" transvestism. Usually into
humiliation, but NOT into servitude, even in play. Dictates the scene to a
large degree.
Pseudo-submissive PLAY slave
Likes to play at being slave. Likes to *feel* subservient; may in some cases
like to *feel* that one is being "used" to gratify one's partner's sadism; and
may even really serve the dominant in some ways, but only on the "slave's" own
terms. Dictates the scene to a large degree; often fetishistic (e.g. foot
worshippers).
True submissive non-slave
Really gives up control (though only temporarily and within agreed upon limits),
but gets his/her main satisfaction from aspects of submission *other than*
serving or being used by the dominant. Usually turned on by suspense,
vulnerability, and/or giving up of responsibility. Doesn't dictate the scene
except in very general terms, but still seeks mainly her/his own *direct* pleasure
(rather than getting one's pleasure mainly from pleasing the dominant).
True submissive PLAY slave
Really gives up control (though only temporarily; only during brief "scenes"
and within limits) and gets his/her main satisfaction from serving and being
used by the dominant - but only for FUN purposes, usually erotic. (May or may
not be into pain, but if so, is turned on by pain *indirectly*, ie: enjoys being
the objects of one's partner's sadism, on which the submissive places few
requirements or restrictions.)
Uncommitted short-term but more-than-play semi-slave
Really gives up control (though usually within limits); wants to serve and
be used by the dominant; wants to provide practical/non-erotic as well as fun/
erotic services; but only when the "slave" is in the mood. May even act as a
full-time slave for, say, several days at a time, but is free to quit at any
time (or at the end of the agreed upon several days). May or may not have a
long-term relationship with one's Mistress/Master, but, either way, the "slave"
has the final say over when he or she will serve.
Part-time consensual but REAL slave
Has ongoing commitment to an owner/slave relationship, and regards oneself as
the Mistress'/Master's "property" at all times. Wants to obey and please her/him
in all aspects of life - practical/non-erotic as well as fun/erotic. Devotes most
of one's time to other commitments (eg: job) but the Mistress/Master has first
pick of the slave's free time.
Full-time live-in consensual slave
Within no more than a few broad limits/requirements, the slave regards herself/
himself as existing solely for the Mistress'/Master's use, pleasure and well-
being. The slave in turn expects to be regarded as a prized possession. Not
much different from the situation of the traditional housewife, except that
within the S/M world the slave's position is more likely to be fully consensual,
especially if the slave is male (since men certainly aren't socially pressured
into this kind of lifestyle). Within the S/M world, a full-time "slave"
arrangement is entered into with an explicit awareness of the magnitude of
power that is being given up, and hence is usually entered into much more
carefully, with more awareness of the possible dangers, and with much clearer
and more specific agreements than usually precede the traditional marriage.
Consensual total slave with no limits
A common fantasy ideal which probably doesn't exist in real life (except in
authoritarian religious cults and other situations where the "consent" is
induced by brainwashing and/or social or economic pressures, and hence isn't
fully consensual). A few S/M purists will insist that you aren't really a
slave unless you're willing to do absolutely *anything* for your Mistress/
Master, with no limits at all. There are a few who claim to be no-limits slaves,
but in all cases it would be reasonable to doubt the claim.
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I did not write this but its a good one-"A beautiful woman slave is a man's joy and pleasure. She is his most
valued property, he lives to be near her and to relish in his good
fortune at having such a beautiful toy. She can do for him anything,
and he gives her everything he sees fit. A slave is not just a torture
prop, she should be your life, your love, your every thought, your
drive, your SOUL."
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Need:When I was a child in school I learned the difference between the words "need" and "want." My teacher was VERY strict about the definitions of both.Food, air, water, shelter... these are needs. Need is directly related to survival. This was easy to understand and delineate the difference between the two... when I was as a child. Children believe what they are taught, and they rarely question it. Their needs are simple. As an adult, however, I question that definition. If I am sad... it is a need to seek a way to be happy. I cannot remain in a state of sadness indefinitely. If this sadness is extreme it could cause depression and eventually affect my will to live, or at a minimum cause me not to seek some of those "needs" as my teacher defined them. A simple example of this (and I am sure you have experienced this), if you are feeling very low, you may not feel like eating. In this country we have a right to life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness. Interesting it doesn't say we have the right to happiness, but rather the pursuit of it. In BDSM, though, some of these rules change. Or do they? As a slave, my needs are placed in the hands of my Master. I suppose this is why it is imperative that a slave chooses a Master who is intuitive enough to understand the needs of His slave; that He is wise enough to know what to do with that knowledge; that He loves His slave enough to WANT to meet (or exceed) her needs.At first glance this sounds like the opposite of what is considered "slave mentality." But a Master has to earn the right to own a slave. And once He is able to prove himself in these things, only then should a slave fully give herself over to His needs. Only then is she fully able to trust Him, and to let go, and fully place her life in His hands. The stage has to be set before a slave can function properly. And only a good Master can provide the proper environment for a slave to be all she is capable of being, and to serve Him completely. If a slave has her needs met, she is then able to be all she is supposed to be for Him. If a Master takes care of His slave's needs, she no longer has to worry about them for herself, and she can put her energy into being all she can be for Him. In turn, she is more valuable to Him. And only then can a Master truly see what a treasure he has in His slave. What a beautiful dynamic. What a wonderful way to live. |
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Somewhere in my dreams I hear your voice
Whispering gently....into thin air
At the edge of the mountain I close my eyes
Sensing your breathing...feeling you appear there
On the edge of my dreams I see your face
A twin soul......when we share eyes
At the edge of the mountain I catch my breath
Touching our finger tips...mouth goes dry
In the shadows of my dreams I taste your lips
So soft against mine like a warm rain
At the edge of the mountain my heart slows
Sharing our every breath....two hearts don't refrain
In the deepest part of my dreams I feel your touch
Breathless....from the warmth of your skin
At the edge of the mountain I open my eyes
Seeing only clouds....feeling.... within
On the edge of my dreams is where I want to stay
It's there... forever in my arms...safe...sound
At the edge of the mountain I'll remain breathless
For me.....no greater love will ever be found
Will you always be there on the edge of my dreams?
Will you always meet me to the edge of the mountain?
I will wait for you...be there for you....always.
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What makes a great Master:
1. Honesty - He has enough trust in me and Himself to tell me anything but a lie.
2. Honor - He will make all decisions that would be proper no matter what the cost or consequence would be, and i,Your slave, will be honorable and stand by any decision You make.
3. Trust - He is open enough to forgo the pains of His past and have faith that His slave will always act as His slave, whether in His presence or 3,000 miles away. He will believe in her loyalty without question because this slave promises her soul to the One she will choose to serve.
4. Integrity - The man that possesses this trait keeps His word at all costs. He holds fast to His commitments and promises. He is not late for appointments and stands up for His beliefs. He does not back down or away because His beliefs are not the popular ones.
5. Ability to Communicate - The One i serve needs to have the ability to reach into the crevices of my mind, pull out my innermost thoughts and reel me back in when the world around U/us has caused me to lose focus. He hears me when i speak, He urges my thoughts to spring forth. So He as the One who rules me can be most effective. He is not afraid to allow me to bring my input into any situation W/we encounter as a couple, but He will be the One to make the final decision.
6. Intuition - The Master will have the gift of knowing. After some time together He will have some sense of my needs before i do. i too will grow to be able to sense His desires and fulfill them before the request is made.
7. Playful - He has not lost the little boy in Him. A laugh can form on His lips as easily as a stern command.
8. Life Experience - He will have knowledge about the lifestyle. He is not afraid to seek out information and continue to grow in His skills. He is not such an ego manic that He thinks He knows all there is to know and there is nothing left to learn. He seeks out seminars and elders to assist Him in fine-tuning His craft. He already possesses some real-life experience and He is not a virgin Dominant who just discovered the Story of O.
9. Skills - He will be skilled in the use of the tools (toys) of his trade, but more importantly, He will be an expert at the skill of mind control. He can pick up a whip or flogger or send me soaring in to subspace simply by speaking a few choice words with the sound of His voice in my head.
10. Structure - Make no mistake as to the importance of this ingredient even though it is placed so far down on the list. |
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Treat her as your own flesh, command her as her lord, cherish her as your helper, rule her as your pupil, please her in all things reasonable, but teach her not to be curious in things that belong not to her. You are the head, she is your body, it is your office to command and hers to obey, but yet with such a sweet harmony as she should be as ready to obey as you to command, as willing to follow as you to go before, your love being wholly knit unto her, and all her affections lovingly bent to follow your will. |
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Above all else He cherishes His slave, in the knowledge that the gift she gives Him is the greatest gift of all. He is demanding and takes full advantage of the power given to Him, but knows how to share the pleasure that comes from that precious gift.
He is in control of himself first and foremost, so that He may control others. As a stern and demanding Master, He can cause His slave to cry real tears. As the consummate lover, He will then kiss the tears away, without stepping out of character.
In times of trouble, a Master will leave the roles behind, to be a supportive friend and partner, never forgetting that this is still a loving relationship between two caring individuals. He is quick to understand the differences between fantasy and reality.
He would never ask His slave to put Him before her career, or family, just to satisfy His own pleasure.
To win His slave's mind, body, spirit, soul, and love, He knows He must first win her trust. He will show His slave humor, kindness, and warmth. He must always show her that His guidance and tutoring is knowledgeable and deserving of her attention, that this is a man she can learn from, and trust His direction.
He is romantic enough to be protective and chivalrous. When called upon, He will fight for His lady's honor. He proves to her that He is someone she can lean on, and depend on.
When it comes time to teach His slave her lessons of obedience, He is a strong and unyielding professor. He will accept no flaw, nothing less than perfection from His student. Never does He use discipline without a good reason. When He does it is always with a knowledgeable and careful hand.
He is always open to communication and discussion, always ready to hear her wants and needs. He is patient, taking time to learn her limits, and knowing that as her trust of Him grows, so will they.
He never has to demand ritual behavior by her. She responds to Him out of the want of pleasing Him. Compliance comes from the wanting to please, not the fear of punishment. He understands the fragile nature of mind and body and never violates the trust given to Him.
He is secure enough to laugh at Himself and the absurdities of life. Open minded enough to learn new things. Strong enough to grow. His tools are mind, body, spirit, soul, and love. He understands that each partner gains most from pleasuring the other. And both of them know that love and trust are the only bindings that truly hold.
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| Age: 58 |
| Peoria,
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