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	I promised a update so here it is. One of my nicknames is Spoon, though I am commonly refered to as Diva. I am not here to play games. I am not going to put a whole lot here, since it doesn't seem to be read or respected. I will however put it all in the journal. :) Then I will tell who is paying attention. I mean honestly if you can't do it here, then how would I expect you as Dom, who I might hand trust over to, to actually listen to my needs, limits and desires? Amazing what one little step can lead to, or not.

1/24/2008 2:27:12 AM

First let me say that I do tend to ramble on sometimes when allowed. Now you have been warned. lol

Now for the things I didn't add to the profile.

If you are married, in a committed relationship, with a wife that doesn't understand you, a wife that doesn't share the lifestyle with you, or any of the other 101 reasons we women hear, then keep moving. I am not the woman for you.
When your divorce is done, when you are living alone or not with a woman, or committed to a woman outside of the place you reside in, then contact me. Until then there is no hope for you or us.
Now I might sound a little unfair as I myself am legally married, note the word legally, because that is all it is. We have not lived together for 12 years, we have not spoken in atleast 3 years. He lives his life and I live mine. We are in different states. The only thing we haven't done is make it legal. Now if you can match that, that is fine.

Now moving on.

As my profile said I am more commonly refered to as Diva. I have recieved silly emails telling me I do not LOOK
submissive, that surely I am a Domme.
I hear all the time that I come across too strong and surely I am not a submissive, that I must be confused and be a Domme. What a load of crap!

Yes I am a very strong personality, and yes I could be a Domme, if that is what made me complete, but it is not. Very seldom do I even get pleasure out of switching. If I do it is to please someone else, not myself.

Being strong in myself does not make me less of a submissive. It takes a Dom who is just as strong and secure in himself.
So please you submissive men, read my profile and note that I am not a Domme and infact looking for the same things you are.

Now I also say I am straight, that is a little fib in some reguard. I am bi as long as it is for a male I am with. Meaning I do not actively seek a relationship with just a female. Once again something is missing. I find completeness(sp) with a male. Does not mean I do not enjoy a female but it is not what I am searching for. And that brings me to the next level.
I do not want a poly relationship. I have been there, and it was wonderful and I have nothing against it. But it is not what I need at this point in my life. So please if you are in one or a couple, I am not for you either.

Do not worry I am coming to a close if you are still with me.

If you live across the sea, don't waste our, yours and mine, time. There is no way we can get to know eachother with that distance and I am not here for cyber talk.

If you live across the country, really it is about the same. I will answer but I can almost bet it won't last long in emails. I am not going to talk sex with you in IM's, PM's or email.

I am looking for someone locally. Locally means within about a 100 miles. Someone who can invest real time. I am looking for something meaningful and lasting. So if you are looking for playtime, afternoon delight or a quicky, move along doggie!

Now these are just a few pet peeves.

If you send me email, remember this is the equal to my first impression of you. You have NO right to call me slut, bytch, whore and a few others I am not going to repeat. You have NO right to ask me about sex or the size of my breasts. It is highly disrespectful and I will ignore these emails.
I truly expect better out of someone that should know what control is about.
Some of you should be highly ashamed!

and lastedly....

I do not email males first, I think as a lady and a submissive, this is the way it should be. So if you see me and are waiting for me to email you, it won't happen and we all lose. Also I do this because I am a bbw, and since not many people address this in the profiles, it is better tha a man who either enjoys bbw's or doesn't care about such things, take the first step. I am a very honest person and I expect the same in return. I am opinionated, I can be mouthy. I have strong convictions(sp) and stand by them. Being a submissive does not make one a doormat.

Now if you understand what I mean, and made it this far (because most do not) please feel free to drop me a note. I really am much easier than I sound.

Spoon aka Diva.