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| Spelling, grammar and punctuation is important, and here is why;
1. In an environment where text is the most used medium to express yourself, it reflects bad on you when you seem incapable of doing so.
- Yes, you saved time. A split second by dropping a letter. But you know, wouldn't it have been worth it to just type it out completely? What have you really gained, at the expense of looking uneducated and/or extremely lazy?
- If you're a sub, you've just showcased that this special D was of so little importance to you that they don't even deserve the time it takes to type out a normal message. A kindergarten student puts more effort into their scribbles than you, a fully grown adult trying to make an impression on another person and hopefully get (intimately) involved with them. Yet you'd like them to spend their time & energy on you up to some level at least, taking notice of you and thinking of tasks, keeping you in check, punishing you, regulating (part of) your life. That's a lot more work than it may seem.
- If you're a D, how can you expect your submissive to dot their i's and cross their t's if you can't? Why would they trust someone with their body and mind if that person can't invest even a few extra seconds into simply chatting with them online? How can they be confident of your leadership when you talk to them like you're a 12 year old? How are you anyone's Master if you can't Master your own language?
2. But you understand what I'm trying to say, right?
- No, it's actually surprisingly hard to chat to people that don't understand the basic workings of grammar, punctuation and spelling of even simple words. So often a sentence can be taken in different ways depending on the punctuation and intonation, and there's no body language to guide you. It's confusing and it takes more time to then ask for clarification, than it does to just type it right in the first place!
3. But what's important is the content of the message.
- Yes, I would agree that's the most important thing. But presentation makes a difference. You wouldn't eat sushi that looks fuzzy and green and rotten, even if it tastes delicious. You wouldn't even try. You'd leave it for what it is, assuming that like most other foods that look fuzzy and green and rotten it's not worth your time and will likely be a lot more hassle than it's worth. The same goes for people; If you meet someone that on the surface seems to be dumb, rude or lazy you won't go out of your way to get to know the "real" them that hides underneath all those layers of stupidity, especially not if they are still a complete stranger to you. Why would you? Why would anyone?
4. That I can't spell/use decent grammar or punctuation doesn't mean I'm dumb!
- No, of course it doesn't. Not by definition. However, there's obviously a strong correlation between people that are uneducated and people that don't put any value in spelling/grammar/punctuation. If you are educated, then why would you portray yourself as less than you are? What's the point of spending time learning a language if you're then going to abuse it and look like a dumb little twat? Of course, if you're not educated when it comes to English that's a different issue all together--that's still more "honorable" than being able to do it right and then doing it wrong on purpose, but you'd have to agree that something like that can be a real hurdle when it comes to finding someone online.
- Also, sorry but... If English is your mothertongue, that means you've been hearing it every day. Speaking it every day. Seeing it every day all around you on ads, on tv, everywhere. Spending hours a day in school, reading books that consist of nothing but your language. You write and type it every day. And even after years of constant exposure to this language... YOU STILL HAVEN'T MANAGED TO LEARN IT PROPERLY? Are you sure you're not dumb?
- The above also goes for people claiming experience in BDSM, that have yet to understand the difference between being a Dominant and being dominant and the verb "to dominate". If you're a dominate, then your partner is a submit. How much sense does it make for someone to have so much experience in this field if it looks like they've never read a single letter on the topic? So you've been living/breathing/exercising BDSM for years... but not even once have you come across the correct terms used? Even extremely common ones like "Dominant" and "submissive"? In fact, even on this website you need to pick an orientation to even create a profile so HOW ARE YOU STILL FAILING TO WRITE WHAT YOU ARE CORRECTLY? It's literally been shown to you, you just need to copy it!
5. Ah well, English isn't my native language anyway!
English isn't my native language either, and I'm doing alright so far. And there's a difference between not knowing and not caring that's obvious to most people. "asl" instead of a real conversation is very clearly not related ability, but rather to motivation. Spelling something wrong isn't "wrong". Everybody learns through mistakes. Repeatedly spelling something wrong despite being pointed to the correct spelling a number of times but choosing to continue as you've been going isn't "wrong" either, it's just not smart if you want anybody to think that what you're saying is worth reading.
6. Yeah, but nobody answers my messages anyway and blablabla, whinewhinewhine.
- If you want someone to pick you, try to stand out. How do you stand out? Do something that the others aren't doing. Like writing a message that has content worth replying to and where care has been taking to make it easy to read on the eyes and the brain.
Big blocks of text are hard to read, especially when they contain long run-a-long sentences caused by faulty punctuation. Look at the message you've written CRITICALLY and ask yourself if you would reply to it, if you could pick anybody else instead. Is it special at all, is it personal? Or is it another piece of generic, badly written spam that most people will delete on sight as they do with the spam that rolls into their personal email inboxes like Hotmail and Yahoo? If you want to stand out you should show promise of being better than the others at least in some way or another. To be honest, spelling/grammar/punctuation is likely the easiest way!
And lastly, if you say "u" instead of "you" because it's shorter... Well, personally I'd be inclined to say "no" instead of "yes" because it's shorter.
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