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Hetero Male Dominant, 50,  Baltimore, Maryland
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***DISCLAIMER I am not gay or bisexual. I have absolutely no interest in men as submissives, bottoms, etc. While I respect your lifestyle choice, it is not for me.***

I am a creature of constant changewith every day brings a new piece of information or an experience that causes my continual growth and evolution. I am not the Dominant I was yesterday, nor the one I will be tomorrow. I can never learn or grow enough, as I believe that nobody ever learns everything and, thus, becomes a true expert.I have been a member of several public BDSM groups and clubs in the Baltimore, DC, and Philly areas over the 15+ years of my being involved in this lifestyle. Currently, I have decided to focus my energies on more private pursuits rather than on the public lifestyle.

I am also an SM educator, having taught classes in play safety to leather groups in MD, VA, DC, PA, and DE as well as private tutoring in the ways of flogging and whips.My interests in the lifestyle include, but are not limited to sensual play, bondage, some edgeplay, and sensory deprivation. I consider myself to be an occasional sadist - that is, pain is only good within the confines of play if both parties are into it. If not, then I can easily pass that on by.Im also quite fond of educating others about this lifestyle. I bristle at new submissives who want to be trained. A submissive first needs to be educated about what the lifestyle entails why we do what we do before they can even hope to be trained. I am a focused and driven person, but at the same time I try to be fair-minded and open. Im courteous to those who show the same in kind to me, and rabidly devoted to my friends, my only demand is to be shown simple, human decency. Expecting anything else immediately is unrealistic and absurd. If you got this far in my profile, then I am flattered. You may have just earned a cookie, courtesy of me. Yes, I can be a bit silly at times too, but lets face it, this whole thing is, first and foremost, supposed to be FUN! If you arent having fun and enjoying it, then why do it? I look forward to hearing from you, dear reader.










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 Dominant Male



 190 lbs






Actively Seeking:

Submissive Female

Switch Women

 Lives For:

 Begging (Expert)

 Body Worship (Expert)

 Hair Pulling (Expert)

 Massage (Getting)





 Fine Dining




 Anal Play (Expert)

 Blindfolds (Expert)

 Bondage (Expert)

 Breast Play (Expert)

 Canes and Crops

 Collars (Expert)

 Knife Play (Expert)

 Leashes (Expert)

 Obedience Training

 Orgasm Denial

 Rubber Fetish

 Sensory Deprivation

 Spanking (Expert)


 Whips (Expert)

 Body Art




 Heavy Metal Music


 Rock Music

 Seventies Music




 Art Galleries

 Flea Markets


 Garage Sales


 Renaissance Faires



 Corner Time


 Electrical Play

 Eye Contact Restrictions

 Domestic Service

 Fire Play



 Housework Service

 Massage (Giving) (Expert)

 Mental Bondage


 Plastic Wrap

 Role Playing


 Speech Restrictions

 Suspension (Beginner)




 Wax play



 Online Auctions



 Conservative Politics


 Libertarian Politics

 Political Activism

 Alternative Music



 Eighties Music


 Industrial Music


 Nineties Music





 Body Building



 Kick Boxing



 Bar Hopping


 Coffee Shops




 Candle Making







 Classical Music

 Country Music

 New Wave

 Pop Music

 Punk Rock Music

 Show Tunes



 Horse Racing

 Ice Hockey

 Sky Diving

 Street Hockey



 Curious About:


 Vacuum Stimulation

 Opera Music







 Liberal Politics

 EMO Music

 Folk Music

 Hip Hop Music

 New Age Music

 Auto Racing





 Cross Stitch


 Blue Grass


 Hard Limits:





 Genital Punishment

 Needle Play

 Maid/Butler Service



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Journal Entries:
12/25/2013 11:06:48 AM

I posted the following on another fetish personals site, but after what I've been seeing here lately, this post is just as applicable on collarme.


Dominant vs. Dominate


I browse a lot of profiles around here, mostly out of sheer boredom. However, in my recent browsings, I've seen something on numerous profiles that really gets under my skin - the improper use of the word "dominate." Allow me to explain...

In these cases, I have seen femsubs post something to the effect of "I seek a dominate man to..." This is just WRONG, WRONG, WRONG!! What you SHOULD be saying is that you seek a DOMINANT man. Here's the difference:

–adjective (or noun in the BDSM lifestyle) ruling, governing, or controlling; having or exerting authority or influence: dominant in the chain of command.

–verb (used with ) to rule over; govern; control.

So PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE stop saying in your profiles that you're looking for a dominate or a dominate man/woman/etc. This makes absolutely no sense.

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