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I am a Dominant woman, I will always be a Dominant woman it's who and what I am and I smoke. Deal with it. I have Ocampan and she's been collared to me for 10 years. I am no longer considering taking on a male submissive. I no longer wish to mentor any wannabe Doms or Dommes. I no longer wish to instruct, own, consider, or be bothered by any wannabe submissives, men looking to cheat on their wives whether their wives know about it or not, or men looking to get laid. Go away. Leave me alone.
What is on line is NOT D/s. The majority of these females who call themselves Dominants are just lazy, overweight, lifeless women looking for what they can't find in real life...a man who's interested in them. For those of you who are real, there's a section with advice to newbies below. Take it or leave it, it's of no matter to me. Good luck and stay away from women on line who claim to be Dominants. 99.99% of them are not. ADVICE FOR NEWBIES Now, you're new and you're looking for a Mistress. Here's my advice. Read lots of profiles. Odds are if she has things in her profile that she likes things like yard sales, swap meets, ebay, and stuff like that, odds are she fits in the catagory above with the bbw lifeless ones that only come on line because they can't get a nilla guy. While you're looking, ask LOTS of questions. Everything that pops into your head. Then EXPECT answers. If she tells you things like "she doesn't answer questions" or it's not your place to ask questions, or this lifestyle is about her, not you and what you want isn't relevant, run fast and far in the other direction. You can and should ask questions about how long she's been in the lifestyle, what her interests are, what experience she's had, how many submissives she has and why the last one is no longer with her and what she's looking for or expects from her next submissive. You can also ask to speak to her current submissive or the last one. Though sometimes if one is dismissed you may get sour grapes, but you should be intelligent enough to look for this and discern whether or not you're getting these or an honest opinion. Observe in the chat room, if you like what you see, send an e-mail letter of introduction. Don't make it long and too wordy just briefly explain that you've enjoyed her conversation in the room and you would like to get to know her better and then include a little information about yourself. Feel free to ask questions in the chat room. Not sexually explicit questions, but general questions about the lifestyle. Someone will usually answer them. We don't care about what you're wearing, the size of your "little man", what you're doing at the moment and we, real Dominants" generally won't do phone or cam. We're real, we want to see your face when we do what we do, and that doesn't include a picture on a cam. Remember, 99% of what you see on line is fake and that's being generous. Use your head and your common sense. Your instincts and intelligence will rarely steer you wrong. NEVER say you have no limits. Everyone has limits. You may not have discovered what yours are yet, but everyone has them. The usual ones are children, animals, disfigurement, blood play, death, dismemberment, things like that. So if you're new and don't know what your limits are, it's ok to say that you don't know or haven't discovered them yet. She should respect this. The reason I warn you against fakes is because they are dangerous. This lifestyle and some of it's facets can cause serious bodily damage. If they don't know what they're doing, they're dangerous. NEVER, EVER meet someone in private, at their home, in a hotel/motel room, or anywhere else that is out of the public eye. Always go to a restaurant, coffee shop or somewhere very public. Tell someone where you're going and who you're going to meet. Tell them when you are due there and when you expect to return. Call them when you get there, and call them when you leave. If it happens that you're enjoying yourself and your expected time runs over, call and let your contact know. NEVER, play with someone on your first meet. NEVER allow this person to tie you up or constrict you in any way the first time you DO play with them. A good rule of thumb I use is to ask yourself if you would trust this person with your credit card, ATM, or your car. If you say no to any of these, then why would you trust this person with your life? Because in "Play" that's exactly what you're doing. You may think because you're a big, "macho" man, you have nothing to fear from a woman, but if you're tied up or restricted in any way, shape or form, you have much to fear. And last, but far from least, select someone you have something in common with other than this lifestyle. You have to have something to talk about when the "play" is done. There are far more submissives out there than Dominants, I've been told. Be very patient, selective and don't get discouraged. It's better to find the one you want than to go through a bunch that you don't. Good luck with your search.
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