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I am very much into BDSM. Some of my favorite activities include spanking, kinbaku (Japanese rope bondage), flogging, knife play, fire play, snuggling, laughing, and just plain hanging out.
It is my hope to one day find my submissive soulmate, with whom I can share deep love, honesty, faith and joy, and with whom to build a loving and open D/s relationship. It is my wish to live a life with my partner, based upon a dynamic of power exchange. I have some rituals that I enjoy, and expect my partner to follow through with the rituals I require. However, I do not consider myself a "high protocol" dominant and generally prefer a casual and fun-loving style of dominance. Any discipline I might impose will be well thought out, and may be unusual and unexpected, yet it will always be appropriate. (And it might even give me, and her(?) a good chuckle sometimes!) :-)
I used to host two munches in Torrance every month. They are now ably hosted by my ex. There are no longer two munches, but there is one munch on the 2nd Tuesday of the month at Marie Calendar's, located at 21211 Hawthorne Blvd., Torrance, CA 90503. This munch is open to anybody who's into any aspect of BDSM.
I try not to take myself too seriously, although after reading my profile, it kind of seems that I take myself way too seriously. So, please excuse me for writing such a serious profile! I'm really an easy-going guy who happens to be a hopeless romantic and who enjoys the D/s dynamic. (Sometimes I feel like finding romance is hopeless... hence the "hopeless romantic" thing.) But, having said that, I really do love the classic romantic things that have been so important to couples through the years -- not the least of which being love, respect, chivalry, good manners, etc.
So, if you're willing to have some fun and simple romance, along with your D/s, perhaps I deserve a chance! :-)
By the way, CollarMe.com has changed much since I've joined. It used to be filled with real people, who are definitely into the same things as I. Unfortunately, it is now filled with fake profiles from people seeking, somehow, just to make money from the few of us here who are real. Of course, they won't make any money from me and my fellow compatriots, but there are enough other fakes around here (mostly stupid, boorish, "dom" guys looking for an easy f*ck). Arggggh!
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I've been single for about 6 months now, and it's been an interesting experience. I think I'm ready to begin thinking about getting involved in another relationship -- with the right woman, of course. However, I'm generally a patient man and don't want to rush into anything. I think that anybody I end up meeting, and if there's a mutual interest, then she would need some patience. I don't take collaring lightly for me it definitely would take quite some time before a collar would be considered. I just don't get it when people get together with somebody and within one or two months they're wearing the dominant's collar. What's up with that?!?
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Sometimes one has to wonder what people are thinking. When people break up, sometimes it's difficult to maintain balance for oneself. I know, for myself, I experience pain, joy, loneliness, excitement and a sense of wonder. It is sad when relationships fail.
At the beginning of any relationship, there are always high hopes that this one is gonna be the one! You build a friendship that eventually, if one's lucky, blossoms into love. There's nothing better than being in a relationship like that -- everything's going great and life is a piece of cake. And, for those of us who are into this "lifestyle," it's even more fantastic when your partner matches your BDSM needs! Wow! How hot is that!! Mmmmmm...
But, when things begin to change, whether you're the one who's unsatisfied and you hope for things to get better or for an end to it all, or you're the one who's being kicked to the curb, there's always pain and sadness. Sadness that your dream isn't working, or sadness that you've been dumped when you thought you had everything you and your partner wanted. But, the point of this entry is... how interesting it is, once the breakup is complete (or well under way), how one, or both, of the partners change. For some reason, it's too easy to forget the good times and to begin looking for the negatives about your ex partner.
I'm trying to remember, and cherish, the good times. And, thank goodness, I'm doing a fairly good job with that. I mean, how can you not cherish the fond memories of one whom you have collared (or been collared to)? I can only hope that she will be able to do the same and remember our relationship with fondness. |
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Sometimes I'm amazed at how my tastes have... um... "matured" these past few years. When I first came into "this lifestyle," I had some very definite visions of my perfect partner. Well, as I've grown and learned, I've also discovered that my perfect partner isn't necessarily what I had originally (and for so long) envisioned. Sure, physically, I still would love to find that cute, little, petite young lady who adores being spanked, tied up, and deviously played with. But, I've also realized that physical attributes aren't necessarily "all that." There is much more to a partner than mere physical attributes.
My last partner was not a "little, petite young lady," but, as it turns out, she was exactly what I needed! She was open, sensual, caring and sexy as hell. Luckily I realized this early on and tossed out my previously-held stereotyped ideas and allowed myself to explore a D/s relationship with this nice lady. (I have to say, I was "smitten" by her at our very first meeting and decided, then and there, that I would not let her get away!)
Well, now that relationship has ended. She's obviously moving on, and I need to do the same. I think it's much tougher for a guy to find somebody than for a woman, but I'm not going to give up hope! (It's obvious that it's easier for women, because my former partner is already dating other guys.) I've promised myself not to get desperate, to remain patient, and to remain open-minded.
I know that my true soulmate is out there. My vision of a soulmate has definitely changed over the years, and, I know she's out there! (But... where?)
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It would be nice to find someone who would be willing to follow through with some rituals and protocols I've decided to use. I put a lot of thought into what I think is important in terms of discipline, and the above-mentioned rituals and protocols, and if I were to find a submissive partner, it would have to be somebody who could physically do the simple, ritualistic things I require.
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| Age: 41 |
| Joliet,
Illinois |
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