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I am in the midst of a difficult separation divorce from a long term marriage that has kept me sexually unfulfilled over the past few years. My re-awakening to the lifestyle options essentially has breathed new life into me. I dabbled for years experimenting with bfs in my youth not even realizing it was kink...I just thought I was adventurous, spontaneous and playful...lol. Who knew? 128521 I havent really played much in several years as my marriage has become increasingly vanilla. It has always been more of an FLR, but hubby has progressively lost his zest and enthusiasm with age. Fortunately, this has afforded me ample time to research, experiment online talk to others that are currently very active in the lifestyle. This has enabled me to better understand and focus on my own needs and desires. Imagine my surprise at unleashing my inner Domme She had been here all along just waiting for the opportunity to emerge. My approach is more sensual than most of my counterparts as I am a firm believer that true Domination takes place in the mind and that the body will follow (no collar required) It is a natural segue from my feelings that our mind is also our greatest erogenous zone. I need to be constantly stimulated in a variety of ways part of which makes me a true sapio-sexual. What do I want now? Ideally I am seeking an FLR with a man that by all appearances is typically Alpha doting on me in public is expected of course. However, the rest of our life is completely under my control. Physical, financial, social and otherwise. There will be vanilla times as this is expected to be a real relationship. I do require a man that possesses both the flexibility and the means to travel and vacation with me, and to keep me comfortable in my current lifestyle. WARNING Any institutionpersons using this site or any of its associated sites for study, projects, or any other purpose You do NOT have my permission to use any of my profile, pictures, or web cam transitions in any website or forum, both current or future. If you do, it will be considered a serious violation of my privacy and will be subject to legal ramifications.

10/31/2016 9:17:08 AM First of all, thank you all for your concern and kind recommendations about treatment options for my back. Chiropractic intervention is not an option for me because my condition is not specifically bone related, but primarily involves the weakening of the discs themselves. This can be exacerbated by chiropractic treatments.  I had previous lumbar back surgery about 8 years ago and there is significant scar tissue residual from the surgery in addition to the newer scar tissue from the latest herniations. This has led to degenerating nerve conditions that are being monitored by my neurologist. Additionally, I have consulted with one of the top neurosurgeons in the country at Johns Hopkins (at my own expense), and the biggest challenge that I face is basically that the various scar tissue components have become intertwined within different nerve bundles. This makes surgical options risker than normal, so much that I could even end up paralyzed if the post-surgical healing creates more scar tissue in the most vulnerable areas. I am still limited in my mobility (and lucidity) because of the various meds. I also realized that I often have been forgetting to log out of this site when I am not on here. I have a tendency to keep many tabs open at once and I don't want anyone to be offended if I don't respond to them. Please understand that my time on here is limited, as is my "free" time in general.  I wanted to stress that point to try and avoid any hard feelings since I am unable to respond to everyone, and quite often can't even send a response in a timely manner.   Scarlet

7/6/2016 10:10:35 PM For those of you inquiring as to why I have been so quiet as of late...I have essentially been bedridden for the past few weeks. I herniated a disc in my back & there is pressure against the nerve bundle in my spine. I have been pretty heavily medicated - a combination of pain pills, anti-inflammatories and steroids trying to manage the pain while reducing the swelling. However, due to my intermittent "stoned" stages I haven't been very lucid, or frankly very pleasant, so I have basically been hibernating. I really had no idea that it would go on for this long. I will try and check in on occasion. Scarlet

5/8/2016 10:22:37 AM Being Mother's Day weekend my personal time has been and will likely continue to be quite limited.  I just wanted to let everyone know that I will do my best to return messages as quickly as possible, but that I do have a very busy life and that it makes it especially difficult to find time for just idle chat.  No offense to anyone - but between the divorce, moving, two teenage kids, work, etc, life keeps me pretty busy.  Please don't be upset or take it personally if I am unable to respond to everyone, or to answer in an expeditious manner.  Thanks for understanding. Regards, Scarlet