Daily life with a submissive in the past has been everything from informal as waking up and talking about dreams and holding him if they were bad ( I had a sub for a year and some that was abused and I went through a lot healing him) to waking up with my coffee made and breakfast too, the house organized and going about my day.
In my mind a submissive is someone to be taken care of treated fairly and in return I get what I want/need. If my sub works then it is mostly worked around at their comfort level. I used to drop my sub off to work and pick him up and he would text or call on his breaks to check in after work, dinner was up in the air if we went out to eat I would order for him and such we go shopping together and he handles the "fetching" while I wander about the store picking up odds and ends.
Submissives are not always sexual, I have experience with sexual control and things with a sub who was not sexual with me, he slept in my bed and I held him but there was no sex. I told him weather he could masturbate etc. I even let him have sex with other people if I approved them. If it is sexual I enjoy a varying amount of kink and demand ultimate trust. Expressing sexual fanticies can take one of 2 turns with me as a Domme. If I have interest in exploring that fettish then it could happen with me otherwise I look for another outlet for my submissive to experience those things that I can not or will not do.
As far as my family goes, they know enough that when I had a submissive that he was invited where ever I went. I minimalized control in front of them but he still often asked for things that made them currious about our dynamic. My family is pretty open and if ever there was an odd look or a confused relative I would ask if they wanted to know. If yes, I told them... 100% honest, if no then I let it be and left them to wonder.
My friends know everything.
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