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I would like to begin by restating a few things:
1. I am here for friends only, chat only. I don't have time for IRL relationships. Being my friend does not mean you will be waiting for me to dominate you.
2. While I am a switch, I am not looking for a dominant. I am more dominant than submissive, but can accept that I have within myself the capability to submit to certain people.
3. I am NOT interested in men. I am ONLY interested in women.
4. I will not relocate. I am not interested in relocating. I did not check the relocation box on my profile.
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6. All compliments will be VERY well received. Negative comments will be ignored. I don't have to prove myself. If you think I do, I'm not the girl for you.
7. Writing to me and demanding things of me will get you nowhere. I delete the message and move on. Continue to harass me and I will block you.
8. I am genderqueer. If you don't know what that means, feel free to ask and I will explain.
9. I follow many religious paths rolled into my own spirituality as will anyone who understands rule #5.
10. Since people cannot READ, your first message to me should read something along the lines of "I have read and understood your profile." Don't be a fool.

Now for the good stuff. :)

I am a writer and licensed massage therapist.

I am a formally trained Dominant. While I have retired from the lifestyle for several years, I am interested in staying in touch with others of the mind. Before my retirement I was active for three years and spent three prior in training. I am not a formally trained submissive. I do not wish to be formally trained. It doesn't mean it couldn't happen for the right person, but it is very highly unlikely.

I have fallen in love with a most wonderful woman who satisfies my needs. I am not looking for anyone else. This does not mean, however, that I am not looking for friends.

If you are still interested in contacting me after reading all of this, I would enjoy hearing from you and sharing ideas.

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6/23/2010 7:09:23 AM
Apparently I have no choice but to make this entry bold.  Strange. 

I am consistently disheartened that so many people calling themselves dominants would make so stupid a mistake as not treating their submissives and, more importantly, potentially submissives, with respect.  The first message out of their mouth to someone they are entering into an agreement with is something belittling or disrespectful.  While this might be a kink for some submissives, not all of them enjoy being ridiculed.  It seems to be a chronic misunderstanding that people who are submissive enjoy being ground under someone's boot. 

Believe it or not, most submissives are not weak, beaten down people who need someone to control them.  These are people who enjoy the control of another, who crave that as a part of their lives.  Not always is every submissive a 24/7 sub.  They have lives they have to uphold, they have duties they need to fulfill and they have friends and family they enjoy spending time with.  Just because they are willing to give over a portion of their lives to you does not give you the right as a Dominant to take their lives from them.  It is a small percentage of people who want someone to completely choose everything for them, take over their lives and make all their decisions for them.  Most people want to live normal lives outside the home and have a D/s relationship in the home. 

Each submissive is different and, to be quite frank, should tell a Dominant to get BENT if they don't respect them first off.  As many submissives strive to be polite, they will attempt to reason with these people who come out swinging right off the bat and end up being badgered because of it. 

For those subs who need a Dominant's permission to speak back to others, you have my official permission to tell them to fuck off when they come out swinging like that if you don't like it. 

If you enjoy it, feel free to accept and be treated that way.  If it's your kink, go for it and love it for all its worth. 

For those of you who don't get off on it, speak up.  You're a submissive, not a walking doormat.  Being a doormat is for playtime, not for your every day life.  You're allowed to choose your Dominant.  Don't fall in with the first one who tells you that you have to submit to them. 

And for those submissives who know this already, thank you for being who you are.

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kagedjewel
 
 Age: 24
 ANCHORAGE, Alaska