I am looking for many things from someone on here. First of all is sincerity and interest. I am not here to play games of any sort, nor should you. I am a very protective dominant, even when you are not longer a part of my sphere of influence, so I am also looking for friendship as well. Through friendship we can get a better understanding of where we came to our position and who we are in the relationship. Just because we might be friends as well and Dom/sub or slave does not mean that I will re-nig on punishment or compliments. Understand that I am hard to please and will take you to task.
I am an intelligent person and require the like. I have many, many interests outside this lifestyle and would enjoy it if you would be willing to participate in some of those. Everyone has their own likes and dislikes, I acknowledge this, so I do not expect you to be a robot either. I travel in many circles and have visited many countries, that is not likely to stop, so a person must be willing to experience the world outside.
I do not keep a lot of gear in possession for I am able to create things at need. Some imaginative and some standard, it does not matter what it is.
I appreciate the enthusiasm and experimental-ism of younger women, but I also enjoy the directness and experience of older. While ethnicity, religion, how much education (because some of the smartest and most inventive people I know never finished), distance, do not have much meaning for me, intelligence, openness, spirituality, and adventure do.
Mind you I am highly educated, but it does not reflect in a college education, but also in life as well.
5/28/2013 6:50:16 AM
Since I have not posted here in a while I found something that might interest you ladies out there looking for a Dom/me! I have included the link but deleted the owner's picture and other details.
HOW NOT TO BE A DICK TO A SEXUALLY SUBMISSIVE WOMAN (IF THAT SEXUALLY SUBMISSIVE WOMAN IS ME)
Everything I'm into, I'm into playing out with consenting adults. But that doesn't mean I haven't encountered my fair share of dickishness in the world of kinky sex.
I'm into weird sex.
Some of those weird things that I like include: rough breast play including slapping, clothespins and ropes; name-calling of the slut-bitch-whore variety; forced deepthroating; facials; age play; rape play; spanking; dirty talk; hair-pulling; group sex; anal; and basically anything else filthy/nasty/taboo/found in your average pornographic video. Also, and here's the stuff that's more for special occasions and that I don't want to admit on a site for ladies: being slapped, being spit on, being choked, ET CETERA.
I consider myself to err on the side of sexual submission. I have never been into the performative aspects of it all -- I don't wear costumes or address my sexual partners as "Master" or "Sir." I just like to do weird stuff with likeminded perverts who respect me just as much outside the bedroom as they degrade me in it.
I'm not gonna get into arguing the politics of it, except to say that my vagina has always been veryunconcerned with politics
and everything I'm into, I'm into playing out with consenting adults. But that doesn't mean I haven't encountered my fair share of dickishness in the world of kinky sex.
Here are some of the unique ways to be an asshole in the realm of sexual dominance and submission.
Don't try to dominate me like, while we're like, out at the bar.
I may be submissive in the bedroom, but I'm anything but in my everyday life. There are lots of dominant men who fully embrace and understand this dichotomy but there are some who seem to think that my sexual proclivities mean they should be able to boss me around in any given social situation.
Like the dude I dated in college who insisted I travel the hour-and-a-half train ride to his Jersey town in pigtails ("the high-up kind," he actually specified) and no bra supporting my DD breasts. He didn't believe me when I assured him this would in no way be a sexy look.
Or, way worse, the dude who once "ordered" me to go find a woman for us to have sex with at the bar where we were having a drink.
"Go up to that girl and finger her," he suggested.
First of all, that's assault, brother! And second, it's not really that easy for me to just go get a girl to have sex with us. It's a pretty involved procedure that in my experience involves the use of the Internet at the very least. I imagined that his requests were just going to get more and more ridiculous until he was ordering me to like, levitate objects with my mind.
While I know there are submissive women who are interested in that kind of lifestyle play, for me submission is just for the bedroom. Don't tell that I have to wear something ridiculous in public, don't order me to send you incriminating naked photographs and don't tell me I have to respond to your emails within a certain amount of time or "be punished." I'm agreeing to submit to you during a sexual encounter, not during my day-to-day life.
Honestly, I have WAY too much shit to do to play sex games without the promise of a pretty immediate orgasm.
Being dominant is not just an excuse to be sexually selfish.
I have a huge fetish for breast play and abuse. Back in my Craigslist ads, I would often post looking for a "true breast fetishist" who was interested in extended breast play sessions. I was looking for dudes who truly fetishized breasts and would be happy to spend a good hour just groping, grabbing and manhandling them with only the possibility of mutual masturbation in return. These guys exist, and I adore them.
But what I quickly found is that pretty much any guy will respond to an ad like that, figuring "Hey, I like boobs," and hoping that they'll ultimately get laid. A lot of so-called "dominant" guys seem to be playing the same game.
"Yeah, I'm a dom, and I'm going to make you come over here and suck my dick all day." And look, I might be willing to come over suck your dick and leave for love or money, but I ain't gonna do it just because you're calling yourself a "dom."
DS sex is still collaborative and involves mutual gratification. Submissive women still want to be touched and appreciated and we still want to have orgasms. I get off on providing sexual pleasure, but not exclusively. Our entire sexual encounter shouldn't consist of me giving you oral sex, and if it does, there's definitely not going to be another one.
Being submissive doesn't mean I don't get to have any boundaries.
The dirty little secret about BDSM is that it's actually the "submissive" partner who is in complete control of the situation. We set up the framework and boundaries for the encounter. Safe words are there in case you overstep our boundaries. If I use a safe word (I'm a green-yellow-red girl myself), a good dominant partner will stop what he is doing immediately.
I texted a friend with extensive experience in the world of kink and asked him how he'd respond if a submissive woman were to state a hard boundary (I used the example of "no anal") before meeting. He reinforced my expectation that a "good dom" is respectful of boundaries and won't push them unless he knows it's something that the bottom is nervous, but curious about.
Sometimes submissives have "soft" boundaries that we are potentially interested in exploring. I personally don't always want to feel completely safe and cozy in my comfort zone -- I like to play around the edges of my boundaries with an ethical partner who will lightly test the boundary, give me a chance to say no and be prepared to stop on a dime.
What I don't want is a dominant partner who tries to steamroll over my boundaries in the name of being "dominant," or who accuses of me of not really being submissive because I am not open to literally any deranged idea that happens to pop into his head.
Submissive isn't synonmyous with boundarylessness or subjugation of free will, although participants in a DS relationship may play consensually with those themes. It's a subtle distinction, which is why it's easy to find people who are fucking it up.
Don't make degrading or humiliating comments about my body unless we've previously discussed it.
I like to be degraded and objectified. You can call me a slut cumdumpster whore until the cows come home and Ima like it. What you can not do ever ever ever is call me "fat" or a "pig" or imply that I or any parts of my body are in any way unattractive. I will put you out without your drawers, I swear.
Some submissive women like this, I aint hating. But because of the sheer potential for emotional damage, you should never assume a woman will be into this, even if she likes to be demeaned every other which way.
Don't tell me all about the other girls you're fucking. However, do tell me if you have a girlfriend.
Just because we're having fucked-up casual sex doesn't mean I want to hear erotic details of your other conquests any more than a vanilla woman you're sleeping with. I MAY find it sexy to hear exactly what you did to that girl the other night or how hot her body was, but unless you know for a fact that I do, you should probably keep the specifics to yourself. (The exception is obviously anything that could affect my health or wellbeing, like the fact that you are having unprotected sex with lots of people.)
On the other hand, do be honest with me about your relationship status. I'd been having incredible hogtie-me-and-eff-my-face sex with a guy on a sporadic basis for months before he mentioned to me that actually he was engaged and getting married the next month. He was in an open relationship with his fiance and he figured since we both knew our situation was completely casual, it didn't matter, but it did to me, just because it made me feel like someone I was being very intimate and vulnerable with was not returning the favor.
"I actually really don't like to be lied to," I told him.
Honesty, transparency and respect are probably even more important in a BDSM relationship -- the emotional and physical safety of everyone involved hinges on an ability to trust your partner completely.
Although there have been many times I've wished that my "arousal template" (as my therapist calls it) was a little more socially normative, I can only play the vagina cards my vagina hand was dealt. Life's too short not to get off because your preferences freak some people out.
And in some ways, I'm grateful for my fetishes. While there are a lot of ways to "do it wrong" when it comes to power play and sex, for me, when it's done right, it's completely transcendent -- intense, mind-bending, and extremely fulfilling.
Commonly nicknamed "The Acid Test for Doms", this
treatise was written by one Dr. Spankenstein, and is passed around the S&M
community on the Internet, often without attribution to the author.
Often, when a new sub asks online "How do I protect
myself when seeking a Dom?", they are referred to The Acid Test. We love
it and felt it really needed to be included, and Dr. Spankenstein was cool
enough to allow it. There's so much good advice on dating here, not just BDSM
dating, that we have even sent it to vanilla girlfriends.
The term "Acid Test" is an old prospecting term. A
powerful acid can dissolve most base metals in a matter of minutes. However,
gold will stand up to most acids. So the "Acid Test" was an easy way
for people to make sure they had a real nugget of gold and not a lump of the
"fool's" variety. In the same way, these tests are meant to be quick
ways to identify fake Doms. Passing all these tests is no guarantee either.
There is no replacement for getting to know your prospective partner as well as
possible before you even meet in person.
Now most of these tests are designed for a submissive female
trying to sort through men claiming to be Doms online. They are largely based
on the many questions I get asked by my female friends still searching for a
Dominant partner. Some of them can probably be used by male subs as well, but
for the most part, these tests are best for ferreting out male fakes. Vanilla
males are usually after "easy sex" and this motive makes them easier
to identify than a lot of the fake Dommes out there.
Step One: Do the Math
Various estimates and surveys have placed the ratio of real
(i.e. natural) male sexual Dominants to female sexual submissives at about one
to ten. However, a quick count in any given BDSM-oriented chat room would lead
you to believe that male Doms outnumber the subs at about two to one. Now if
there is actually only one male Dom for every ten female subs that means that
19 out of the 20 "Doms" you see online have to be fakes. Keep this in
mind. There is a 95% chance that any man you talk to online claiming to be a
Dom is no such thing. This leads us to our first rule, a rule that all
statisticians and scientists already know by heart: "When in doubt, throw
it out!"
Your search for a suitable Dominant partner (especially if
you are seeking a serious long-term relationship as well) could easily take
years. That's hardly surprising, most people spend years looking for that
special lover, be they "vanilla" or otherwise. So don't be
disheartened by all these drastic ratios. But don't waste your time either. If
any of the prospects you are chatting with online makes you feel uncomfortable
for any reason, drop him. Don't give him "three strikes" or
"extra chances to win." Block out his screen name and move on. There
was only a one-in-twenty chance he was legitimate anyway. Trust your instincts!
Step Two: Know Your Enemy
We call them Snerts. We call them HNGs (Horny Net Geeks). We
call them Wannabes. We call them Control Freaks. And sometimes, tragically, we
even find some that can only be called rapists and predators. They are all your
enemy. Don't bother thinking they are anything less. Even a more or less
well-meaning Snert can land you in a hospital. Real BDSM is not for dilettantes
or amateurs: Not, no, and never! Even if he turns out to be a more or less nice
guy, if he's not a Dom, he's not going to give you what you really need. He
will likely give you many things you don't need, like medical bills and other
assorted headaches.
Snerts are basically looking for easy sex. They are counting
on the (highly inaccurate) assumption that sexual submissives are simply
sexually promiscuous. Nothing could be further from the truth, but that doesn't
deter them at all. They are typically middle-aged to somewhat older men. They
are often married. They are usually trying to bolster their flagging vanilla
sex lives with some casual screwing around. They target submissives because
they think that they won't make demands on their sexual prowess (another bad
assumption). They can be easily spotted because they almost always demand, or
at least emphasize, sexual intercourse being a part of their
"scenes."
HNGs are usually the most harmless (and yet often the most
annoying) of the enemy types. Most are teenagers and young men looking for some
quick cyber-sex or even phone-sex. They are usually pretty sophisticated about
their BDSM jargon and the "scenes" they describe to you can be pretty
elaborate. Geeks do their homework. They scour the porno sites for ideas, and
hang out in BDSM chats for hours on end learning the lingo. They are most
easily spotted because they want to move on to cyber-sex and phone sex very
quickly. They like to offer "online collars", and spend hours on end
in chat rooms "playing" with their "subbies." Don't waste
your time with them.
The second most dangerous type of enemy is the Control
Freak. Control freaks are what most psychologists and therapists call
"controlling personalities." They are basically obsessed with control
of everything around them, especially the people in their lives. They want all
their family, friends, and even coworkers to behave exactly as they say. They
are extremely manipulative people. These men can be dangerous because many
really have convinced themselves that they are Dominants as a way to justify
their dysfunctional lives. Many inexperienced submissives find themselves
"naturally" attracted to these men because outwardly they seem so
"in command" of things all the time. The truly ironic (and sad) thing
is a controlling personality is actually the closest thing to the opposite of a
sexual Dominant.
Controls Freaks can be spotted because they often talk about
"taking care of you" and also "knowing what's best for
you." They almost always try to play on your emotions; especially guilt.
They also usually criticize and even resent the advice you get from other
people. They often talk about 24/7 BDSM relationships without going into any
details about what kind of actual scenes they play. They are fond of telling
you that they prefer the "mental aspect" of Domination and
submission. They tend to be both demanding and argumentative. Nothing you do
will ever be quite right. While all this may seem very repulsive and easy to
avoid, be on your guard, the average control freak often seems very charming
initially. Once they have their hooks into you, it's very hard to get
untangled.
The last and most dangerous type of enemy is the rapist or
predator. These are the men most likely to damage or even end your life. The truly
frightening thing about these evil men it that there is NO easy way to spot
them. Rapists can be anything from bums to bank mangers, and anyone from family
members to total strangers. One in four women has suffered an attack from this
vile creature, and one in seven men as well! Their motive is violence. The best
defense is to never make yourself too vulnerable.
To defend yourself from predators, learn all the ins and
outs of setting up a good safety net. Follow these procedures religiously. Most
important of all, take your time getting to know your prospective play
partners. This is good advice in any case. If you know your partner well,
you're more likely to have a good time with him, because you will feel more
comfortable during that first scene. Predators are more likely to move on in
search of easy prey, they do tend to be impulsive. If a "Dom" you
have been talking too suddenly seems to lose interest in you after a period of
time, you may have just saved your own life. Don't go chasing after anybody. A
true Dom doesn't need to play "hard to get."
Step 3: Know Your Goal!
Take the time to figure out what you want. It's often hard
for newbie subs to do this because sometimes they lack knowledge of what
choices are available to them. So arm yourself with knowledge! There are many
fine publications, books, and Internet Websites that cater to sexual
submissives. So start reading! Learn about the different types of play and how
they should be conducted. Learn everything you can about how to set up a safety
net. Learn all the dos and don'ts of meeting others and playing safely. Decide
what your limits are and set them down on paper. This may seem like a lot of
homework to do in the name of fun, but also keep in mind that it's your ass
(literally) that's on the line here.
Know what a real Dom acts like. Remember, you are probably a
sexual submissive because you are in control the rest of the time. You are
strong! It's likely you're even ambitious as well. You have a career, or goals,
or a lifestyle that demands this high level of energy and control. So giving
away your control is a beautiful respite from everyday life. Your power and
energy are things you only want to give to someone you trust, and in intimate
situations at that. It's a very personal thing to you!
Well, guess what? Sexual Dominants are usually the
compliment of this. We are often strong people too, and we do tend to be
intelligent. We are often highly trained professionals or skilled craftsmen.
However, we tend to avoid lifestyles and careers that demand we be in control
all the time. We tend to be easygoing. I have never in my life met, or even
heard of, an uptight true sexual Dominant. We like being in control in intimate
situations. It's a respite from the way we live our everyday lives. We are not
really the opposite of you, but we are the "puzzle piece" that fits
next to you snugly. In other words, don't look for a Dom that's exactly like
you. You won't find him. Don't look for a Dom that wants to run your whole
life; He doesn't exist.
Above all, if your prospective Dom seems like a generally
nice guy, you're likely on the right track! Take the time to get to know him.
Don't let the five control freaks on the other side of the chat room demand
your attention. A real Dominant isn't likely to make "demands" until
it is time to play.
Step 4: Memorize the Acid Tests!
Test #1: When in doubt, throw it out! Don't waste your time
with people that make you feel uncomfortable. Even if the guy was a real Dom,
if his personality makes you feel uncomfortable, he's not going to be fun to
play with.
Test #2: "You'd better call me Sir!" is the mating
call of a HNG or control freak. Real Doms don't have to ask for titles, we earn
them. Most real Doms will say things like "Please, call me Mike..."
Test #3: "I want you to take my collar before you play
with me." This is another common demand of fakes, most often made by
control freaks. They have to isolate you from other people and their advice,
and sometimes a little ole "cyber-collar" is just the thing!
Cyber-collars are worth less than the leather required to make one.
Test #4: If you get an Instant Message that says something
like "On your knees you [slave, slut, bitch, whore, etc.]" This
person is an HNG. Use some common sense here. Why waste time with somebody
that's not even polite? There's a time and a place for these endearing terms,
and it isn't online!
Test #5: "I don't have to answer that question!"
or "It's not proper etiquette for you to ask a Master that." These
are examples of some the dangerous lies that control freaks and snerts use.
This is the Acid test I personally think is the most important! A Dom had
better be ready to at least try and answer every question you have, and
honestly at that! It's literally your ass that's on the line! Never forget this!
Test #6: "It's my way or the highway!" or words to
that effect, are the mating cry of the common control freak. Doms can have
limits too, but it's your limits that count FIRST. Don't let any would-be
"Dom" tell you differently. Don't let any of the wannabe subs tell
you differently either. Where Male Dom/fem sub play is concerned, it's always
lady's choice!
Test #7: Don't bother with online collars. Don't make
decisions about a prospective partner based on his online play style. It's a
very simple test if you think about it: Would a real-life Dominant waste much
time on cyber sex and cyber domination? Please take my word for it; The answer
is no. Forget it, once you've done the real thing, cyber is just too damn dull.
Test #8: Ask your prospect if he's ever made any mistakes
during a scene. If he says "no," run for your life! If he says,
"very rarely," at least be suspicious. Everyone makes mistakes, even
if they are experienced and skilled. Sometimes submissives have limits they
don't even know about, and even the most careful and skilled Dom in the world
will trip over these occasionally. Remember, according to our good friends of
the Christian faith, the last perfect guy to walk this planet got nailed to a
tree for his trouble. So expect competence, but not miracles.
Test #9: "I'm a [bank president, captain of industry,
combat photographer, self-made millionaire... yadda yadda yadda.]"
Wouldn't it be nice to meet a rich Dom too? Sure it would! But use some common
sense. How many captains of industry have hours to spend in an AOL chat room?
Also, think about this personality profile; if this super successful,
always-in-control person is really into BDSM, he's likely a submissive! Worse
yet, it could very likely mean he is a control freak. I have met a lot of submissives
that fit this ambitious profile, but not one Dom yet!
Test #10: "I'm 33 years old, and I've been a Master for
15 years." Gimme a break! What are the odds? When you ask about a Dom's
level of experience (and it's a good idea to do so) remember to do the math as
well. 18-year-old boys don't care about the intricacies of BDSM; they want to
get laid. Trust me on this one Ladies; I was an 18-year-old boy once! I
personally believe that people do become what they are (be it gay, straight,
Dom or sub) very early in life, but it takes maturity and training to be a
Master. What are the odds a person became a Master when they were still using
Clearasil?
Test #11: Ask for references! Especially if he claims to be
"very experienced." Talk to the references on the phone. Lots of HNGs
have female screen-names set up to act as "references" for them! I
notice that a lot of newbies seem to have trouble with this concept. Which is
understandable since in the vanilla world it's considered rude to talk to a
guy's ex-girlfriend. However, in the BDSM scene it's the opposite; experienced
Dominants should accept and accommodate this kind of request gladly.
Test #12: "I have three real-life collared slaves right
now, but you can't talk to them." OK, when you consider the ratio and all,
this sounds possible. What makes this an acid test failed (and failed miserably
at that) is the last part. I have met couples (and even triads) that really
were looking for an extra person to add to the mix. This is not uncommon at all
in the scene. But these couples were looking together. If a "Dom" has
anyone already collared to them, you probably ought to talk to her first!
Test #13: "I don't need safe words." Well of
course he doesn't! If he said this he's likely a Snert and therefore he's never
really been in a scene! Of course he might be a predator too, and then he
wouldn't need safe words either. Need I say more?
Test #14: "My slaves trust me to set their limits for
them." If you hear a "Dom" say this it's most likely because
these slaves only exist in his mind. Or worse still, his "slave" is
simply the victim of spousal abuse. Even so-called TPE (Total Power Exchange)
and other sorts of 24/7 (i.e. full time) BDSM relationships should involve
careful and thorough negotiation.
Test #15: "I'm married, my wife can't know about
us" If I have to explain this one to you, you've got problems. I have
played with many married submissives in my time, but only with the express
permission (and more often than not, participation) of their husbands. Safe
BDSM requires complete honesty. You can't build a good scene on lies. There are
plenty of people that will be willing to tell you differently; but please note,
they will all turn out to be adulterers (and hence, liars) themselves.
Test #16: Insert your own Acid Test here: You will learn
much from your mistakes and missteps. If you form an online contact with a
"Dom" that falls through, analyze why it fell through. Don't make the
same mistakes twice if you can help it.
Step 5: It's Not Just The Men You Have To Screen!
Finding some female submissives to be buddies with you on
your quest is a very good idea, especially if they are experienced players.
They can give you unique perspectives, emotional support, and even references
to legitimate Doms to play with. They can also, most importantly, provide a
safety net for you during those first meetings with the men you meet. The
benefits of teaming up with other women in your search should be obvious!
However, be just as cautious about what you hear from other
women online as well. If you are a sub or bottom man (or woman) in search of a
Domme for instance, the Acid tests should apply just as well. Be very cautious
about the women you meet online that claim to be submissives, too. There are a
great number of female HNGs who live their BDSM lifestyle in the vacuum of
cyber-space. Their advice and experiences are not only useless in the real
world, they can be dangerous. Another class of "female enemy" is even
more tragic and dangerous; the Victim.
A victim is just that: a victim of physical and/or mental
abuse that uses BDSM as an excuse to continue denying the reality of her tragic
situation. These people are disturbingly common as well. They are dangerous to
you too! These women are not just full of very dangerous advice, but they are
usually very vehement about telling you that their lifestyle is the only
"real BDSM." They can fill your head full of doubts faster than one
of the male enemy types.
Spare little sympathy, tell them to get help, and stay the
heck away from them (in exactly this order). It may seem mercenary, but it is
in fact the right thing to do. This is my training as a CASA (Citizens Against
Spouse Abuse) volunteer talking. An abuse victim can only save herself, and
then only when she is ready to do so. If you let her vent her frustrations and
fears on you, she will then go back to her familiar little hell, leaving you
emotionally drained and likely scared too. Your quest for safe play partners is
going to be tough enough as it is. Avoid victims completely if you can, and if
you can't, urge them to get help. It's not your job to save the world, keeping
yourself safe and happy is enough work.
In Closing
This all seems like a lot of work. It is. Some of it sounds
awfully scary too. It should. So why bother with this quest at all? Why not
just stick "cyber only" in your profile and forget real-life BDSM?
Why not just drop it all together? I can give you only one good reason: When it
is done safely, and it suits your needs, it can be the one of the most
profoundly fulfilling experiences in your life! I used to cringe at terms like
"sex magic," but now that I know the "spells," I'm an
unabashed Wizard! Besides, any first-year student of psychology can tell you
that denial has its own dangers, too. The easy roads are not the ones that lead
to interesting places. So arm yourself with knowledge, find yourself some
trustworthy friends to share the journey, and start walking. Just don't forget
to bring your Acid Tests, too!
2/11/2010 4:39:53 PM
A few of my favorite quotes, one that I feel everyone should at least read.
"A human being should be able to change a diaper, plan an invasion,
butcher a hog, conn a ship, design a building, write a sonnet, balance
accounts, build a wall, set a bone, comfort the dying, take orders,
give orders, cooperate, act alone, solve equations, analyze a new
problem, pitch manure, program a computer, cook a tasty meal, fight
efficiently, die gallantly. Specialization is for insects." - Robert A.
Heinlein
Any society that would give up a little liberty to gain a little security will deserve neither and lose both. -Ben Franklin
"What lies behind you and what lies before you are small matters compared to what lies within you!" -Ralph Waldo Emerson
10/30/2009 7:54:15 PM
I do not care how beautiful you appear, if you do not touch my soul, you are not beautiful at all.
7/31/2009 5:42:53 PM
I think everyone should read this if wanting to pursue this lifestyle. It is true of me, and should be true of every other male Dominate!
I am a Dominant Man – Author Unknown
I
am a dominant man. I am just that. I am not dominant because of any
superiority on my part. Not because I feel I am more intelligent, or
wiser. I am not dominant because of the strength or mass of my body. I
am not, nor would I want to be, dominant with all women. Yet to you, I
am your Master.
I am your Master only after earning your trust
and embracing your submission. I have looked into your heart and mind
and have seen your desires and passions. You have thrown away your
fears and inhibitions. You have told me of the needs of your heart,
mind and body and given me access to your soul -- I accept that honor
and responsibility.
We are not equal. You are a woman, and you
are not weak or inferior because of it. You are a treasure to be
cherished. I am a man, and have strength of body, mind and the
instinctive need to protect, possess, defend and provide for you. Your
needs and desires encourage and give purpose to my efforts. We are
halves of a whole. We compliment each other, and together, are
complete. My desire to dominate you is instinctive and not to degrade
you, nor is it degrading to you because you are as secure in your
femininity as I am secure in my masculinity. We each recognize and
accept our roles, worth and needs, as well as our desire to trust the
other to fulfill those needs.
You are sure, strong and proud
in your womanhood. You do not submit as acceptance of inferiority, but
from strength and passion. You expect a man to stand strong and be a
man. You desire and flourish in his strength, control and masculinity
-- and in return, you present control of your heart, mind, body, and
soul with unconditional trust, honesty, and the faithfulness of your
heart. I have listened to your words with both my ears and my heart,
and by opening myself and my soul to you, I have earned your submission
and trust. You have given me a treasure... you have given me dominance
over you.
What you give is not abnormal, but pure, natural and
the rarest of gifts a woman can give to a man. You have given me
complete and unwavering assurance of your commitment to me, and to us.
Your submission is both a magnificent gift and sacred responsibility,
one that I accept from you with both humility and joy. I understand the
rarity and purity of this gift -- that it is your body and soul, and
your heart and mind. When you kneel before me, know that in my heart
and in my eyes, you are raised above all woman and all treasures. What
you give to me freely can not be bought, and that which circles and
adorns your neck as a symbol of your ownership and commitment, so too
circles and surrounds my heart.