UPDATE 2010:
Hello,
Kindly read a few times thru my profile. Here is me in a nutshell.
I found that men I meet online tend to think just because they meet a woman online they don't need to make effort to get to know that person aka. Phone calls, outings etc.
Even just to build a friendship and maintain it do you need to put in effort. More than often I find it's ME who does all the effort.
I HATE it when someone is so lame to say “I will call you”….just for an excuse not to call at all. Pls. be more original that inviting me to “coffee” and then expecting this high instant chemistry to occur on the spot while you grill me for my life history on the first meet.
I seek friends that will take some of that burden away and contribute to the process of building friendships. Ideally one will become more than just a friend...and if not, hopefully I will get a few good friends that are not just online. I seek a committed relationship and partner to build a life with. But it all starts as two people in a vanilla world.
I seek someone that is open to going abroad for a visit OR to work a year or two.
I seek someone that can still use a telephone.
Yes for Commitment.
Yes to someone that has travelled abroad.
Yes to someone that’s higher educated than high school.
Yes to someone that is EMOTIONALLY mature AND emotionally available.
Yes for kink IF WE GET to a committed and intimate relationship.
Yes for a platonic friend to hang out with.
No to open relationships and swinging.
No to friends with benefits.
No to casual sex.
No to online.
No to “instant chemistry” – to get to know me require TIME and WORK.
I NEED to meet a man that still has honour and DO AS HE SAY HE WILL DO.
The intent of this is to weed out the ones that are just doing the merry-go-round. If that’s you – go elsewhere. I seek those that will make effort – even just to build a platonic friendship.
If you do not want to put in the time…then I’m the wrong person for you. Simple.
Ok – if you got this far – great J
Take care
Snow.
Hello there, As we all grow and develop in our journey of life it's sometimes worthwhile updating / changes a profile. Ok to start with...I don't fit into anyone's "box". I find people try to fit others into some kind of social "box" with expectations of how/who they should be. Reality is...they only do that in order to know how to approach you without doing any real effort to get to know the person. I'm someone you need to spend time with....IF you are sincere in getting to know me. I am not an open book. There's a multitude of aspects to me...i'm a masochist, babygirl, brat, SAM..but also have Domme aspects, sadistic side. Sometimes I'm very confident and strong and know what I want...other times i'm soft, cuddly and want a MAN to take care of me. Confused? *smiles* __Few things that I seek and value: consistency + loyalty + honesty + sincerity __ I am tired on "cyber" though and prefer the old fashioned methods of getting to know ppl - such as phone calls, hanging out etc. I'm also not one for casual sex nor do i seek "chemistry". I'd rather just meet for simple friendship. I prefer to meet in person in the real world as I belief that's the only way to truely get to know someone. Perhaps in good time..if the effort and desire is there...more may develop with one person. :) I have experience as a sub/bottom - ONLY to WHOM i choose and those that put in the effort to earn that trust and build rapport. I definitely don't live it as a way of living. I can always add to my experiences and there's much more to learn that i don't know ... yet...*winks* I've started to add to my experiences as a Domme..though it's all in baby steps - so anyone interested need to apply some patients while I learn...*smiles*; To me dishonesty and deceipt is the works of someone that has zero maturity and no honour. __About me...and some of my intersts:__ I have plenty to offer vanilla world: _Commitment, adventure, creativity, willingness to learn and explore._
_I'm a nature enthusiast, love to travel and am fairly open minded. I enjoy intellectual conversations._
_I'm a private person...but also fairly direct._
_It takes time to build trust and rapport with me._ Here is some of my bdsm interests: _Bondage, spanking, whipping, fire play, wax play, clamps, outdoors, orgasm denial, teazing, toys, vibrators, butt-plugs, begging, discreet public play._ Want to know more...? Ask away. Ultimately - I'm seeking someone that is willing to meet me half way in contributing to maintaining the relationship. I occasionally travel to Dubai...would love to meet a man that want to be part of my life and undertake some adventures with me. __Not into:__
* casual sex,
* extra-marrital activities,
* swinging nor poly. I have a wicked creative mind..wrote a few erotic stories as well :) BDSM to me is NOT a 24/7 thing - it only add to intimacy, creativity, adventure and spice up sex. REMEMBER: Before you even think of asking me to sub/dominate for/to you....being HUMAN comes FIRST. If you don't understand what I mean...ASK. I love to cuddle and fall asleep in my partner's arms. I enjoy walking in the rain or falling asleep during a thunderstorm. I'm fasinated by snow and amazed by aurora's. I'm not seeking just casual intimate "play" as my body,heart and mind is one...if you want access to one....then you're responsible for the rest - it's a 'package' deal. On the other hand...in a Switch role i can do some light play on someone as the Domme...no need for me to have an emotional connection - it's more when i have to submit to someone that i need that security that comes from a relationship. Thanks for reading. take care
Snow.