Just a little about me!

Activities and relationships within a BDSM lifestyle are characterized by the participants usually taking on complementary, but unequal roles, no two relationships will ever be the same and the philosophy will always be different from person to person, but the roles of each individual are firmly established and the dynamics in a relationship are always in place. For me the lifestyle is composed of so many variable and personal philosophies that my relationship is always revolving and changing from time to time and I would like to think for the better, as we grow and mature in life.  Basically for me saying I live it 24/7 means my dynamic is in place at all time because it is how my life is. I am a country boy at heart and live a laid-back lifestyle, I don't micro manage but I take the way I live seriously.


What did training consist of with a new girl?

That depends on the individual and what is required to get him over the hump, open up and learn. Example the girl I have now River I have known her for over four years and we moved in together one year a go. Knowing up front her background and how badly she been treated over the years the was a lot of walls that she built to protect yourself. By slowly working with her and showing her that she is important in my relationship with her that 99% of the walls she has build in the past are now down. In other cases I might have a girl who wants to indoor more pain so over a period of time I work with her to accept more pain in play. Everything comes down to trust in training and building a lasting relationship and that is something that takes time with River it took me a year to build enough trust so she could remove the walls that she has built.

My background started when I was 16 years old and I was literally trained by a master from Japan. Master Lou was a trainer in the old ways of Japanese culture to married women in order to take better care of their husbands and households and rituals that they perform. Now this is no way BDSM in any way shape or form but was and is a completely distyle altogether but what I learned from him started me out on a glorious adventure and life that I'm now in.

What ever happened to the honest people out there? It seems as every day move on to the next there are more people who play games and say one thing and do another. It would be refreshing to find someone who is honest in who there are not a joke. It would be nice to pass on what I know after 30 plus years I know a lot about the lifestyle, I think we need to go back to the old days in meeting people in person!!

I know I love being an older person, I'm much more confident, more experienced and more relaxed than I ever was when I was younger and a lot of other older people think the same way.
Like a lot of us including me self keep running in to "your to old for me" or "I'm looking for a younger person" I'm glad I'm older because I have more experience and how many younger people can do all this?

Flogging, caning, paddles, whips, torture play, fear play, wax play, sensual knife play, humiliation, fisting, anal, violet wands, clamps, cbt, ice play, books, breath play including blood chokes, cuffs, collars, furniture, collaring ceremonies, gags, toys and other items used in the lifestyle and much more, this is my short list and I'm a sadist to boot. There are Mistresses , Masters and Dom's that have a lot of  of  experience that came over years of being in the bdsm lifestyle.

When and if I play with someone younger it is to pass on what I have learned over the years and yes to have fun with the person I'm playing with also. But when I am gone and forgotten all the years of experience is also gone never to be used again. I hear a lot of talk about sex but there is so much more, like exhibit proper behavior and properly serve another if that is your wish.

Then you have discipline to teach proper behavior and obedience and that comes from instruction and exercise; training, whether physical, mental or moral, something you don't learn over night.

Epictetus, a Roman slave turned philosopher, said that "when an event happens to you in life, you have in your power only one thing; your attitude toward it!   You cannot change an event, but you can change your attitude toward it."

As for the arguments of 18-25 year olds not necessarily being serious about the lifestyle, or being immature... Well, I know plenty of older members of the community who are childish and act like this lifestyle is a game. I know 40+ year olds who gossip and spread rumors like they're in high school. I have seen 60+ year olds throw temper tantrums and start drama. In my opinion, age is only a number. The number of years we have been on this planet does not define who we are.

If I had one wish I would get rid of age and start looking at all the people in this lifestyle as a person who has a need to learn and pass the experience on!!!

Master Michael