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Sirstrict71

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Looking for a submissive woman
I am looking for a submissive woman that wants to learn and embrace the world of D/s.

I have had two previous D/s relationships, both long term, and both from novice to fully trained sub. I have had over 10 years experience and I am fully adept at providing training using rules and expectations, punishment and discipline.


I am 6'1" tall, white, athletic built, blue eyes, brown hair. I am a regular gym goer and aspiring runner. I am degree educated, and hold qualified teacher status. I currently own my own business.

I am currently single and I live alone in a small village. Distance isn't an issue for me if the right sub comes along.


My vanilla interests are, playing pool for a local team, computing, photography and photo restoration, genealogy, keeping fit, movies (horror, thriller, paranormal mainly), music (80s, classic rock mainly).


I'd like a woman that embraces her submissive role, is open and honest, and a woman that, once established, is committed to the dynamic.  My sub will follow rules and will be trained in obedience with the use of discipline and punishment. There are many other aspects of the D/s that will be explored and taught. It's not JUST about the discipline and obedience. I also love bondage, toys, sex (obviously), and the more sensual aspects of a D/s relationship. My sub is always cared for and well looked after. I am firm but fair, caring and compassionate, but also strict and deal with naughty or bratty subs quickly and firmly.


My profile is not an extensive or comprehensive description of everything about me, it is merely a summary. There are lots of things I do or don't do, will or will not do. This is where chatting comes in.
I am a great believer in communication and compromise, D/s is all about growing together and tailoring the dynamic to suit both Dom AND sub. Thanks for reading.
4/28/2023 3:43:11 PM

It's Bewildering.

So, I'm absolutely bewildered by a certain female submissive that adds me to their friends list, AND adds me to their favourites, but doesn't answer any messages, then deletes the last message without even reading it!

Can anyone explain that to me?

Is there really that many females on this site that really are a waste of time?

I mean why would you do all that if you've no intention of communicating?

Does my profile make me look strict and scary?

I really am not. I'm a genuine, nice, easy going person who'll chat to anyone. The only time I'm strict and scary is when I'm dealing with a bratty or disobedient sub or slave.

Anyway, rant over lol. If any subs do like the sound of my profile please chat to me. You never know I might be just what you're looking for.

3/27/2023 10:40:25 PM
First meeting of 2023

 


Laura, a 39 year old female came this afternoon for a punishment session.

Laura contacted me on another site about administering a punishment spanking for being disrespectful to her husband, spending too much money and generally being lazy around the house. Her husband, whilst not in the scene, suggested she get spanked as he thought it would be the only way she would 'get herself together' and start taking responsibility of her life and to stop acting like a teenager. He felt that she wouldn't take it seriously if he spanked her and he probably wouldn't do it properly.

Laura was a slight woman, about 5'3", and I'd say 120lbs, shoulder length black hair, pale complexion, quite a few tattoos on her arms. She was wearing a red and black tee-shirt, black leggings, and thick soled, heeled shoes.

Anyway, Laura was told to report to me at 2pm, she was HALF HOUR late!!

Laura was a little sassy when she arrived, and a little cheeky when asked why she was late, "sorry", she said, "didn't think I was in the army", was her response.

I immediately told her that lateness isn't tolerated and that I expect her to be here at the time I say.

"bend over, now!" I said, and proceeded to take down her leggings. I gave her 6 very hard smacks!

"Ow, ow, ow! sorry Sir!"

I think she was surprised by how much it stung, having never been spanked before. Her eyes slightly teary.

I told her to stand up and pull her leggings back up, I explained that it was her and her husband that asked me to punish her, so that's exactly what she'd get.

The three of us agreed that Laura should have a thorough hand spanking, followed by the strap and finally the cane.

I led Laura to my living room and immediately pulled her across my knee, I gave her 20 or so hard smacks on her bottom, then took down her leggings to her knees and followed up with a further 20 or so smacks. She was wearing small blue bikini briefs, not much protection.

She made a lot of noise and wriggled about quite a bit, but this didn't stop me from continuing. She was definitely shocked by how much it hurt. I have large hands and I spank quite hard.

Her pale bottom reddened really quickly, as I expected.

I told her to stand up and strip, which she did without hesitation, then it was corner time for 10 minutes, hands on head and standing still. Laura had a reasonably fit looking body, medium sized breasts, pierced nipples, and was smooth all over. Her bottom was nicely pert, not too muscular, but had some 'meat' to it, for want of a better word.

Once the 10 minutes were over, it was back over my knee. This time I put her over my left knee, and clamped her legs down with my right leg, and held her arm behind her back. This time she got three rounds of 30 spanks, very hard!

Laura tried to wriggle a lot, and was pleading with me to stop through her crying.

We didn't set a limit on hand spanking, I rarely do, however we did set a limit of 3x10 with the prison strap, and 3x5 with the traditional rattan cane.

After the hand spanking finished, I told her to bend over my quite large leather pouffe, it's the perfect size for someone to be on all-fours, over the pouffe and still able to put hands on the floor on the other side. She waited there for 10 minutes, the crying reduced to sniffles.

"Do you deserve this punishment?", I asked,

"Yes Sir",

"Did you expect it to hurt so much?",

"No Sir"

"Well that was only my hand, now you're going to get 30 with the strap"

I gave her 10 fairly slow swats, not too hard. She cried out a lot, but took them well. Laura counted the next set of 10,

"One, thank you Sir", "two, thank you Sir" ... etc. A little harder this time. She could barely speak now because she was crying so much. I re-assured her that she was taking the punishment well and that actions have consequences, so she should think about her behaviour in future.

The final 10 came. She didn't count these. I spanked her quite hard and fast this time, her bottom was going from very red, to slightly bruised. She was told to stand against the wall a final time for 10 minutes, she was not rub her bottom.

She was very sniffly so I offered her a tissue, I am compassionate lol.

The time came for the three sets of five with the cane. I reiterated that the cane would hurt a lot and asked her if she accepted the punishment.

"Yes Sir, I totally deserve this punishment"

I put her in position ready for her caning, leaning against the wall, legs together, slightly bent over. She was told that she can wriggle about and make noise, but MUSTN'T break position or I'll start again.

The first five strokes hurt a lot, she screamed. I could see her hands tense up, and her body straightened, tightening her bottom. Perfect strokes on my part, right across the sit spot.

"ok, back into position", I told her.

The next five strokes were to be counted,

"One, I'm sorry for my behaviour", "Two, I'm sorry for my behaviour", etc.

The strokes were reasonably slow, about every 5 seconds, giving her time to get back into position, and to say the line.

I then proceeded to rub her bottom, and told that she'd done well, but the last five will hurt a lot.

"Ok Sir, I'm ready"

These strokes were hard and fast, no break in between strokes. Laura buckled, her body almost touching the wall. Immediately after the last stroke, she fell to the floor, crying and rubbing her bottom, which was now very bruised and sore. I comforted her and rubbed lotion into her bottom.

I think the crying was more from the guilt of her behaviour, as much as from the pain of the spanking. I told her she could get dressed and have a drink of water. She was then free to leave.

Laura apologised, but I said that she didn't have to apologise to me, but rather her husband. I told her that I hope the spanking was a good lesson to learn and that her husband should contact me again if she needs another punishment.

So, a rather enjoyable first session of 2023, her husband has since messaged me to say that the punishment was exactly what was needed, her bottom was sore and bruised for a good number of days afterwards. He said he'll definitely be in touch if he needed me again in the future.

3/26/2023 12:28:58 PM

I'm bewildered by the lack of communication

I've noticed many submissives on this site say things like "get in touch", "happy to chat", and "want to learn.." However, many do not even reply.

I teach my subs to be open and honest, and that communication is very important in this lifestyle. If for whatever reason a sub thinks I am not what they are looking for, I'd at least expect a reply even just to say, "sorry you're too far from me", or "I'm looking for someone a little younger" etc. 

I think that it's still good to chat to different people even if there's no intention to meet or take it further. Especially subs that are new to the scene, surely the more people you talk to, the better informed you'll be, and therefore be able to make better choices when finding a suitable Dom. Obviously I wouldn't expect immediate replies but having a chat and then being ghosted is extremely disrespectful in my opinion, it's not a good start in any potential bdsm relationship. I am sure many Doms or indeed subs, would appreciate feedback of any kind. Sometimes I think that the sub see ONE thing they don't like on my profile and immediately think "no thanks", without even discussing anything.

Also, I think some 'subs' don't really know what being a sub entails, I am a very fastidious Dom, I try to train my subs to the best of my ability and expect my sub to be committed to her role. I think some subs just like the fantasy of it all but aren't willing to commit. When I'm selecting a suitable sub, I always have a day session with her first, give her a taste of my methods and explain how she should behave and what is expected of her. There is no commitment either way until after that initial session.

That's the end of my little rant. 

MissLisa666
 
 Age: 26
 Oklahoma City, Oklahoma