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Searching for a long Term relationship.
True dominance and submissiveness goes so much deeper than just the skin. It begins and flourishes in the mind.
First ... before one judges others, one should keep in mind, some of us are professionals. And as such it isn't always a good idea to have Photos on a site such as this one.
Does that mean that I am ashamed of what I feel and believe in? No. Does it mean that I do like the fact that in today's economic times I have a secure job and would like to keep it this way? Yes. It means that I will let nothing come in between me and my career and that I will not jeopardize said career and my chances of getting ahead in my job for what I believe in.
That being said ... a bit about me.
I have lived the lifestyle actively for 20 years of my adult life. Mostly in 1 on 1 relationships. For 9 years I have done so having a relationship 2 to 3 days a week while maintaining separate homes. This also had quite an appeal to it as it means the trust of the Dominant as well as the devotion of the submissive are tested in the beginning and have room to grow beyond the obvious in a given 24/7 situation.
I believe that any idiot can call him or herself a Dominant. To truly be dominant though takes much more than knowing how to swing a flogger.
True dominance as well as true submission begins in the head. And from there it evolves and can turn into something much deeper than any vanilla relationship can ever achieve.
Being a dominant man does not mean to treat a woman like shite. It means that one has to care for the woman who gives herself, her body, her mind and her submission to him. A submissive needs to be cherished, cared for and respected. If that is not the case, then the relationship is destined to fail.
After all respect goes both ways, even in a D/s relationship (as odd and ridiculous as it may sound to most wannabe Dominants). The fact is that a sub's devotion has to be earned. A Dominant should never expect to be called Master or Sire right off the bat, it is a title that needs to be earned, a commitment from the sub that shows that she gives herself to this person and the Dominant better well make sure that he earns this and is worthy of it.
You’re still reading? Respect. That would deserve a cookie *smiles*
To my personal situation and what I am seeking (please finish before you draw a picture of it) …
For a good 10 years I am now living in Ireland and have found a new home here. Moving away is not an option for me at all. I am self employed/Freelancer and have a little daughter of almost 6 years. My wife and I live in a house together and we are very good friends as well as having a child together of course – BUT – we have lived an “open marriage” for over 4 years now and both go our own ways. She is also dominant and has her plaything, whom she shares her desires with and is quite happily doing so. We do not stand in each others way in any respect.
What will this mean for you if you would decide to get to know me better? What would the relationship be like?
Well for one, none of us, my wife and I, would want to watch or participate in the other’s personal affairs. I can spend a good 20 to 30 hours per week with a slave, which is more than what can be said of a lot of people who live together in the same place. I would of course help in regards of living arrangements etc if you would have to relocate.
I would like to stress again, that I am looking for a long term TPE relationship, not a one or multiple night stand, not a fling, but a lasting TPE relationship with which I can grow old.
So if I didn’t manage to shock you and you're at least 18 and not over 35, I would be happy to hear from you.
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Dear Journal ...
Heh, how cheesy.
Anyway, I just thought I write some thoughts on mails, how they are read and how they are treated. That some mails are deleted unread makes sense as we all have our own little mail filters. However, if someone takes the time and writes a mail, not a copy paste but an elaborate mail, then that person should at least if nothing else deserve a short reply saying "thanks but no thanks" or something of that nature. So many on this site complain about copy pasted or one liner first mails yet those who do take the time to write a nice mail don't even get an answer. Kind of sad, but hey ... we can't have everything can we. |
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Oh how I could always laugh reading the profiles of self proclaimed "slaves". I don't do this - I don't do that - I am not this - I am not that - Don't even contact me if - Get lost if - I'm fiercely independent ... the list goes on and on. It reminds of an advertisement of a Bank in the radio, where the grand, shiney product is praised only to be followed by a list of disclaimers longer than the actual advert itself. In my humble opinion they all apply to the group of "playtime" subs (and shouldn't even call themselves slaves as there is a very large difference between the two) who view D/s or better M/s as kinky sex, as something one does on occasion. To those for whom D/s M/s is a lifestyle, a v#way of life, a way of being, one of their most basic instincts, for those these self proclaimed slaves are not much else but a joke on heels. |
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