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Single Black Dom back in Atlanta after 10 years.. ..Looking for a Submissive ... ...I have been in the Lifestyle for over 15 years..... .... I build toys and I have a large collection.. I train in Victorian, Olde Guard and a little Gorean. I am 5'9" muscular built, fair but firm, I love to get into someone's head, I have been called a sensual sadist. I am big on protocol and very intrigued by true masochistic people. There are books I have recommended in My journal... I feel education and reading if your serious about getting into this lifestyle....
I love to do scenes in private as well as public. I'm always fascinated by other people's servitude and how well they do. I have been a mentor for some years now. I am supportive and do believe in submissives voices.
I hope to help someone achieve the full awareness of who they are and what they can become. I love to make friends in the lifestyle so I welcome all true Doms and Dommes as well as all slaves and subs into My family. I am tring to build a community.
I do have a vanilla side also that loves to explore and travel . I'm also a published writer and poet. I am still lookin for new places to play and wonderful lifestyle people to play with.
If anyone has any questions please feel free to ask i'm also on YAHOO ... ......
Safe,Sane ,and Consensual Always
Sir Diesel....
Things I Need from You as my submissive
I need you to feel safe. I need you to let go of your wants and desires, and know that I will to do what is best for you, when you give up control.
I need your trust. I don't expect you to give it blindly – I expect to earn it. But without trust, you cannot surrender. Without surrender, you cannot grow.
I need you to feel secure. I need you to know that I'm not going to break your self-image without making sure that I build it back up stronger than before.
I need you to accept comfort. Sometimes you may crumble. I will be there to pick up the pieces, and to pet you as we continue on.
I need you to tell me about your weaknesses or brokenness. If you have triggers or fears, I need to know about them, to avoid them, or help you dispose of them.
I need your honesty. As our relationship grows, I need to know where your mind is going.
I need you to expect consistency. You are going to get the same reactions, expectations, and boundaries today that you got yesterday, or a year before.
I need you to accept gentleness. Sometimes I'm a sadist, and I do that quite well, but at the end of the day it is often more important to me to cover you in tender kisses, or run my hands gently across your soft skin.
I need you to relinquish control. I need you to give it up willingly, and to allow me to coax it away from you when you can't. Giving up control is a voluntary choice: Ultimately, you will either make that choice, or you won't.
I need you to accept praise. In order to accept praise, you must first accept that you are worthy of receiving it. It is my job to provide praise when you deserve it. It is your job to to believe it.
I need you to accept complements. If your self-image causes you to argue and evade when I tell you that you are beautiful, then you are simply negating the statements of someone who likes you enough to find you so, so that you can wallow in the fact that no one is found beautiful by everyone.
I need you to let go of your inhibitions. They are holding you back from understanding your true self, and holding you back from your submission. It's time to embrace sex as the dirty, sweaty, sticky thing that it is. I can lead you to freedom and experiences you've never imagined ...but I can't carry you there kicking and screaming.
I need you to need to learn and grow. Education, learning, and the ability to think clearly are very important to me. Learning never stops. If you don't believe this, we're not going to get along for long.
I need you to to accept being challenged. I do not expect to have a relationship with a passive person, I expect to have a relationship with a strong assertive person. I need you to stand toe to toe with me, because I expect you to be stronger after you interact with me, than before you met me.
I need you to surrender. Though I will lead you, I will never force you. I need you to come along willingly... or not go at all.
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To live, why... The only purpose to live, is to live with the understanding of knowing. Knowing what is your place, what is it that you want to do in this world. Do what you want to do, be with the people you want to be with, love the people you want to love, and be true to yourself. LIVE... with the understand and knowledge of yourself!!!
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The Master's Philospohy
For people who wonder about a D/s relationship and often feel that it is
degrading to a woman, this Philosophy should clear that up. True D/s involves much love, respect and trust!
What should a Master be?
I offer these thoughts in trust and sincerity, as it is often important and even
necessary for human beings to have certainty and clear understanding of the intentions, desires, motivations, and needs of another. I am a Dominant man. I am just that. I am not dominant because of any superiority on my part, nor because I feel I am necessarily more intelligent or wiser. I am not dominant because of the strength or mass of my body. I am not, nor would I want to be dominant with all women. Yet, to you, I am Master. I am your Master only after earning your trust, and I embrace your submissiveness. I have looked into your heart and mind and clearly see your desires and passions. You have thrown away your fears and inhibitions. You tell
me of the needs of your heart and body. You have given me total access to your soul, and I accept that responsibility with honor. You are a woman. You are not weak or inferior because of it. You are a treasure to be cherished. We are not equal. I have the strength of body and mind and the instinctive need to protect, possess, defend and provide for you. You are a woman and instinctively stronger of will and heart. Your belief in me gives me courage and direction. Your strength disperses my doubt. Your needs and desires encourage and give purpose to my efforts. We are not equal. We are halves of a whole. We compliment each other and make each other complete. My desire to dominate you is instinctive. It is not to degrade you nor is it degrading to you because you are secure in being totally feminine. We each recognize and accept our worth, and our need for someone to
trust and fulfill our needs. You are sure, strong and proud in your womanhood. You do not submit as acceptance of inferiority, but from strength and passion. You expect a man to stand strong and be a man. You desire and flourish in the strength and control of a man. In return, you present control of your body, unqualified trust and honesty, and the faithfulness of your heart. You submit because I have earned
your trust, and because I have opened my heart and soul to you. I have listened to your words with my ears and heart and have learned to anticipate your needs and emotions. Because I have proven worthy in your eyes, you have given me the only true treasure of life: you have given me dominance over you! What you give is not abnormal, but pure, natural, and the rarest gift a woman can give a man. You have given me complete and unshakable assurance of your commitment to me. Your submissiveness is a magnificient gift and sacred responsibity. I accept this from you with humility and joy. I understand the rarity and purity of this gift. I recognize it is your body and soul, your heart and mind. I dominate you only because you have allowed it. When I see your body kneel before me, in my mind and heart you are raised above all other women, and all the treasures of the earth. What you give freely, cannot in reality be bought!
“My Collar Is”
My collar Is the love in ones kiss that awakens you to the day…
My collar Is the kind of love that you share that is forever and always…
My collar Is the trust that you have for no one else on this earth…
My collar Is the ties that bind and shows the world your worth…
Mu collar Is the friendship that only best friends should share…
My collar Is showing how much you love by showing how much you care…
My collar Is the passion you feel when your Sir comes into view…
My collar Is a love for life and the feeling of “I Love You”…
Love Always
Your Sir
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MEAN PEOPLE SUCK...NICE PEOPLE SWALLOW... KINKY PEOPLE LIKE TO GARGLE....LOL |
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Book I Recommend reading
The Ethical Slut
By: Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy
The New Bottoming Book
By: Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy
Opening Up
By: Tristan Taormino
Different Loving
By:Gloria G Brame, William D Brame, and
Jon Jacobs
Screw the Roses, Send me the Thorns
By: Philip Miller and Molly Devon
Conquer Me
By: Kacie Cunningham
The Sleeping Beauty Trilogy
By: Anne Rice
Story of O
By Pauline Reage
The Many Shades of BDSM
By: B.J. Dempsey
The Book Of Kink
By: Eva Christina
KamaSutra
By: Anne Hooper
Fetish
By: Tony Mitchel |
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I want to know everything. More than you think, by far.
No, it's not whining. It's not private. Yes, it most certainly is my business, and you're damn well going to tell me. This isn't up for debate, it's how it is, and you'd better get used to it.
Trust is amazing, surrender is beautiful, but communication is just as paramount if this thing is going to work. I have to know everything. Not just who you are, which food you prefer and what your favorite band is. That's nice and all, but I need to know what drives you. What you fear, what you crave, what you can and can't handle. I need to know the you that no one else gets to see, and I need to see it not just once, but in every moment, as it changes. Yes, you're right, that sounds like a lot of work. Suck it up, cupcake, no one said this was going to be easy.
I'm not just talking about talking, either. I'm talking about what is almost certainly an entirely new set of skills. The ability to be truly, completely transparent and open, even when you're afraid you'll come off as selfish, rude, or otherwise. When I ask your opinion, I want the truth. Yes, I realize that you're trying to be all cute and submissive by telling me you don't care where we get dinner when I ask if you have a preference. Here's the rub; if I didn't want your opinion, I wouldn't have asked for it. I would have happily selected, and it never would have been a discussion. The very fact that I am asking you means I want the information that you can provide, that I don't already have by sheer observation.
All right, dinner's a ridiculous example, because at the end of the day Thai vs. Italian on some random ass Tuesday night is not what's going to make or break things. You know what will, though? You holding back while I'm pushing you. Not only is it not allowed, and that in and of itself will earn you some much deserved repercussions, but it's also downright dangerous. Holding back information when talking about the evening's culinary events won't send someone to the hospital, or jail, but doing so while my belt's around your throat most certainly could
Like I said, this isn't just about talking. You may not be in a place to spill your guts while enduring whatever mind-fuck I've dreamed up, or whichever whim is currently taking precedence at the moment, but you will learn to be honest, and open. You will cry when it hurts, you will tell me when something doesn't feel right, you will beg mercy when you can't take any more, you will ask if something should feel like x, or if you may change positions if your leg went to sleep or, whatever the case may be. No, that is not topping from the bottom, or being less than submissive, or questioning my authority. If you truly think I am weak and insecure enough to feel threatened by you telling me that something hurts, or that you can't feel your toes, we've got some serious talking to do, or some serious "get the fuck out"ing, one or the other.
Look, here's how this works - You give me every last shred of information you can muster, and I make decisions based on that. This concept is not difficult, but some seem to have a massive problem with it. To me, one of the many things you are is a data collection point. I'm sick and tired of submissives that seem to be under the impression that their input doesn't matter. That they are somehow being disobedient if they ever speak up and voice anything, god forbid an utterance of dissent. What you're feeling and thinking; whether that's physical situations, emotional impacts and swells, or damn near anything else, absolutely matter. They may not always change the course of things, or my decisions, but they matter.
Why do they matter? I want the information. I want to know that your feet went to sleep from kneeling like that for so long, or that you feel nauseous from being hung upside down or...you get the idea. I want to know because while I am pretty damn perceptive, I am not omniscient, and if you ignore those things and a problem arises because of them, not only does it ruin whatever we're currently engaged in, but it means someone made a mistake. It also means that someone is going to be in serious trouble for that mistake, and get their ass in a sling for it. Here's a hint: That someone? It's not me.
If I'm pushing you in any way you can be damn sure I'm as in touch and paying as close attention as I possibly can. That being said, I can't see when your circulation goes wonky, your panic begins to set in, or some massive emotional trauma starts bubbling up from who knows where. It is not a bad thing to communicate, to feed me as much information as you possibly can. It is a bad thing not to. Trust me, "Ow that hurts!" is not a safe word. Telling me I'm a fucking asshole will not hurt my feelings, and tears won't slow me down. You pouring out emotion, frustration, fear or anything else will not stop me in my tracks. It will only help me better guide us on the course I have in mind, fine tuning things where necessary to achieve the result I want, taking the new information into account. This is not to say I'm not watching, and if you didn't see the issue coming either then you're not exactly accountable, are you? But if you knowingly hold back for any reason, there's a problem.
Just as much as communicating when something is too much, communicating what you want, need and crave is important too. You aren't a pretty little princess. You aren't going to get everything you ask for, or want. You sure as shit aren't going to run the show. You don't have to worry about expressing desire because you are afraid you'll sound demanding, or you'll walk all over me. You won't. What you will do, however, is let me deeper into your psyche, into understanding what makes you tick. You'll let me into knowing how to reward you, or strike fear in your heart. Into how to use both the carrot and the stick, and that's a valuable thing.
It is not your job to filter. It's not acceptable to me for you to remove my choice in matters. If you don't tell me that plugs hurts like a son of a bitch already, and it's only 30 seconds into wearing it, you are removing my choice to alter the situation, and thereby arrive at a different and likely more desirable outcome than you screaming out eventually and me having to rip the damn thing out of you and stop what we're doing to make sure you're okay. Stop your damn martyring, it's not honorable, submissive or dutiful. It's selfish, even if you don't see it yet.
How in the hell am I supposed to drive if I don't have all the information? I can't make informed decisions if you're holding back, you can't let go completely and trust me if you haven't told me all there is to tell, and I can't act without doubt if I don't trust you to be absolutely honest to a fault, whether that is with your words, your reactions, or even your body's response. Communication is more important than most ever seem to understand, and in my world it is non optional.
I want it all, and I won't stop until I have it.
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| Age: 24 |
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