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Having been on here for a bit now, I have figured a few things out. I am looking for a *basically* vanilla relationship, I just want kink in the bedroom with some subtle hints throughout the day that no one else would pick up on to remind me what awaits the closing of the bedroom door. I like a man who is decisive while taking my preferences into consideration. He doesn't ask me "What do you want for dinner?" He asks instead "Do you like X, Y or Z?" and then he makes the choice. I am on this site because on the "vanilla" sites it scares people away when we have figured out we are both interested and I ask "Do you have any interest in kinky stuff?" I am NOT looking for encounters with people. I do NOT want to develop an education by having sex with people I don't know. I do NOT want to be in your harem. I do NOT want to be your bondage girl on the side that your vanilla girlfriend/wife does/does not know about. I do NOT want to be your slavegirl while you are visiting in town for a few days. I do NOT want to tell you all my secret desires, unless of course we are involved with each other. No, I do not want to share my picture with you right off the bat because I value my privacy and because I want someone who is interested in *me* not my picture. If you take the time to cultivate my interest then I will happily share my picture with you when I feel comfortable doing so. Picture this if you will: A vanilla man and woman meet. He asks her, "Hey, what sexual positions do you enjoy?" Her response is, "I'm kind of partial to doggy style." He exclaims, "ALRIGHT! We're perfect for a long term serious relationship!!" This is the picture I get when perfect strangers ask me about my kinks on this site before even developing a foundation that says we'd be anywhere near the same page in our vanilla lives. I will tell you that I have found that a generic list of "kinks I like" doesn't even work. One man can pull my hair just the right way to make my knees weak but the next man just can't quite do it the same way and it does nothing for me but he has something else he does that gets the same effect. One day a pair of clamps may cause me to quiver in appealing ways and the next day do nothing but bug me. Beyond that it does no good for me to share my kinks because it's a moot point unless there is a whole lot more connection between us than just liking the same kinks. I've gotten comments that I list too much about what I don't want and not enough about what I do want. There is no need to point out to me that my dream man doesn't exist and I will never find him. My list is subject to editing should someone come along that gives me that pitter pattering feeling but doesn't quite match my picture of my dream man. An introduction if you will, to my dream man: He has integrity He is loyal He is decisive He is protective but not smothering He is a rock that holds the string of my kite and lets me soar He can spell and write in complete sentences He is educated in BDSM safety He is a leader and shows the way for people to follow him, he doesn't need to "make" them follow him He enjoys the fact that I am not a pushover and will keep him on his toes to maintain his position. I am not a person who submits blindly or because "that's what I do". I submit because I find someone I respect and deem capable of handling it when I hand him the reins. ("Keeping him on his toes" does not mean that I engage in "bratty" behavior to get attention; I do not.) He does NOT snore! (Sorry guys, snoring is a hard limit for me, I can't do without my sleep) He is creative and inventive and will not allow me to be mentally neglected. He is patient and understanding about my "creative" thought processes He enjoys travel, REALLY travelling, not the idea of it He grasps that respect begets respect He is doting and attentive and will care for me so that I can focus on caring for him rather than myself. He will be himself from the day we meet and not try to project the picture of what he thinks I want. When I do share a picture with him he will still be primarily interested in my mind rather than my looks. He has class.