A friend recently pointed out that I hadn't changed or added anything to *My* profile here in more than two years.

... True that ... My profile at another site once went for, heck, over twice that long before getting an update, and the last update here was about old profiles and updates. 

*insert wry grin here*

...  I've never wanted to see sites like this as meat-markets. I'd prefer them to be more like the local munch or pub, where people get to know each other as friends, first, before trying to find playmates or partners. I think that leads to healthier and happier relationships for everybody in the long run.

... So, when I've got something happy, sad, or just fun to share, it tends to be privately with those friends, family, and folks I know online, long before public journals or profiles get updated. Sometimes the changes are gradual, and being in the middle of them, I may not notice for a while. Thankfully, friends and family eventually point that out. 

... Anyway, here's an update:

... A marvelous woman named ladygold and I met here at CM a couple of years ago, thanks to common interests in people, reading, sailing, cooking, music, (and etc, *grin*); I like to tie, tease, tweak, tickle, etc, and she likes to tie, or to be tied and etc. We've grown to love each other dearly, began living together a year ago, and are not actively seeking other life-partners. We try to keep a practical balance between life in general, work, sailing, music, play, (and etc, *grin again*) As a new and happy experience, it's been both exciting and relaxing, everything from racing through offshore squalls to falling asleep comfortably spooned. 

... However, since she and I both enjoy the company of like-minded people, and anything from tech-talk to scene-play with friends in this community, 'poly' doesn't seem like the right relationship word and 'open' seems too casual. We both believe that the best of life is growth, learning, and loving, and the best of love is honest, unselfish, secure, and trusting. So, she and I are open to talking with other people, and would be glad to meet you at a munch or party, or for coffee or a sail. We don't match-make, you'll have to do that yourself, but might help you meet the local folk, try something new, scratch an itch, share a warm cuddle or see the sunset afloat.

... We both have accounts here and elsewhere, to stay in touch with friends and local events. Please feel free to drop a note, even if just to chat ...

SB

ps: I still don't keep a photo at this site. It's a wonderful place, but it seems a little too open to the wild-wild-web. If you want to see a pic, just ask.

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