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So I guess, after 4 years, we will see if this site has gotten any better or if it is still crazy crazy. This was in my journal, but instead of making you scroll I put it here... A dominant man will not start off by with, 'Bow down on your knees upon receipt of my message!' There seems to be many complaints from women about this kind of ploy as first introduction, and this is reason alone to 'block n’ move on.' (I would advise ladies to use this tactic often and liberally rather than engage in argument or flame wars…life is too short.). Ignore the Insta- Dom ...................................... A dominant man will not seem ‘desperate’ for your attention. Getting dates or getting laid is not his problem; he can find women on kink sites, at work, or in the grocery store. He knows women, and women are drawn to him. Many women, kink or vanilla, prefer a man who is take-charge both in the bedroom and in life. If a 'Dom' becomes frantic, anxious, or despairing because you don’t write him back every other hour, chances are he has a hard time with the fairer sex. The good news is desperation is easy to spot. ....................................................... A dominant man most often will be successful, a maverick, or at least happy in his chosen profession. If he has had some bad luck in his past, it will be fleeting, for he will strive relentlessly to place his universe back into the order mandatory to his existence. If your suitor languishes in poverty, or hates his job, most likely his dominance is merely a cover-up to appease his lack of success. Though he may not be the millionaire, look for the man who is happy, confident, unique, and/or successful in his chosen endeavor. .................. A dominant man will be very interested in you, and not just your sexual needs (though they will certainly get his attention). He will see you as a puzzle, and desire to make sense of that puzzle. The dominant guy loves challenge and that in essence is why so many submissives find disillusion in the vanilla world; most men do not seek challenge in sensuality, they fear it. Submissive women are the most challenging of lovers for they have great fantasy. Their fantasies often require a man to move far outside normal gestures requiring both skill and creativity. How you think about a myriad of criterion will be of great interest to him. ..................... A dominant man is likely to be damn good in the sack. Most men have their hands full with straight-up vanilla sex. The dominant man has either mastered or has no interest in such elementary play, at least not all the time. Making a woman orgasm many times has left him bereft of sport, so he now seeks a woman who will challenge him on other levels. The dominant guy is going to have a good understanding of the female anatomy, and will persist in finding the keys to your body and mind. He will have done his homework and already experimented in real-time on many lovers. He will be a bit of the Don Juan, if not Don himself; not a womanizer per se, but certainly sexually advanced. ............... A dominant man may have all the accoutrement of kink (the whips, hains, and whatnot), but he will not need them to be dominant. A whisper, a word, a look, a swagger, and a touch are the essence of his talent. Confidence is his weapon of choice, not bragging about his dungeon. Those who tout their toys too highly might well be lacking in other departments. ................ - A dominant man will be very cautious in selecting you because he knows you have great desires, hopes, and dreams, and it is he that has to live up to them. Above all things he will wish to be good for you. He attempts to choose wisely but may at first make many mistakes in his choices as he finds his way. ............ A dominant man will make mistakes and have no fear admitting them. The dominant guy knows he is not All Knowing, for he is human. A guy who believes he never makes mistakes or does not admit to them with good cheer is most likely not dominant. .......... A dominant man will not beg you for naked photographs. In fact, he won’t beg for anything. He will simply wait till you’re dying to send him your naughty pictures unsolicited and accept them with lordly composure (or a rock hard-on, depending on the photo). .......... A dominant man will never lie about being married or already having a girlfriend. If he’s married to vanilla, he’ll simply say so. If he’s dating vanilla, he’ll break up with her before venturing in with another (less he’s doing a poly thing and brings her along, or in an open relationship). The dominant guy is straightforward, will wish to be plain about his true desires and needs, and if he is attached, will be forthcoming with that information. If he’s cheating on his vanilla wife, he will say so. He made his choice and is going for it. ........... A dominant man won’t lie about much, though he surely will keep some of his thoughts from you. A Dom who feels swallowing golden showers to be right up your alley may well know telling you straight out might have you running for cover. This is not in itself lying, he’s just taking the appropriate steps first and at the speed he thinks you can absorb them (he may well discard such thoughts as he gets to know you; he will discard his thoughts often). The lying 'dom' will have an agenda that has no bearing on your needs. The real dominant guy wants no part of someone for whom he cannot be good. A man who attempts to get with a woman he cannot handle or vice versa is desperate. .......... A dominant man will not be heavy handed in his approach. He will be skilled at drawing you in, opening you up, making you feel at ease or on edge (depending on his tastes). His efforts will seem effortless; even aloof at times. He will grow on you. Capture you. Enlighten you and make things seem clear that may have been once blurry. You will feel better about yourself when communicating with him (even if your desire is to live in debasement!). Only an impostor will try to tear you down in order to raise himself to higher ground. The dominate gets off by watching you soar, not fall. .......... In essence, taking on a submissive is both invigorating and empowering yet also a humbling experience. He may err constantly, particularly if he is new. Yet he will always, always strive to be better, and though he longs and seeks challenge, he will avoid that which he knows he cannot handle, or will in some near future be unable to handle. It may take time but he will understand his own limits as well as his woman’s. ........... A submissive is a truckload of challenge (ask their ex-vanilla lovers), and so the dominant man needs you like he needs air. He wants your worship not simply for worship sake but because he has gone beyond the call of the norm, ventured into the realm of risk, and passing across the dangerous abyss where footing is treacherous, hopefully breaks into the sunshine of success offering you something glorious. THAT alone is why he seeks your worship; because he has earned it and deserves it. .......... If a man does not seek risk and challenge in his life, if he wishes worship without venturing his ego, if he does not persist continually toward excellence in handling a woman as he does in many things, he is not a dominant man.

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9/5/2017 10:51:15 AM
To those of you that feel the need to write to me to tell me how ridiculous I am or how much I don't understand or how I am not submissive or how I'm not what you think I should be. Save the breath, because I won't defend myself (what a waste of breath) and I won't attack you (what a waste of energy) you should read my journal, a lot of the reaponse that you are looking for is there already. 

7/17/2017 11:39:09 AM
Okay, so, I am working on an idea for a tattoo and could really use an artists perspective.... I have reached out to my tattoo artist but they charge big money for their time in drawing things and I am afraid I won't like it if I don't have a solid idea going in.... any aspiring artists want to talk through it? 

7/5/2017 9:49:57 AM
Before you get mad that I quit responding, go look at your last 5 messages to me..... how many average words per message were there? (If you don't know how to calculate average that could be why as well) if this number is less than 10, well, that is likely why..... please submit proof to document a 50 point improvement in IQ or a short story about yourself that shows that you can form coherent thoughts and place them into sentences as part of a conversation rather than an interrogation and maybe we can try again. 

7/3/2017 2:52:39 AM
If I listened to everything this coward has said tonight I'd be void of brain matter.... he has tried so hard to bully me....These inst-doms are something else I tell you..... So let me put this out here, if you message me and have no respect, I will assume that your lack of respect is a reflection of you and not of me and treat you the way you are treating yourself.... if you dont like that perspective, change it.... just because you have a dick and you pushed the button that says you are a dom doesn't mean that I am going to submit to you in any way, shape, or form. Please feel free to just block me and move along if you have no respect for yourself because how could I ever respect you? 

6/28/2017 8:36:46 AM
Why is it wrong to be submissive, and be happy by yourself? Why would someone say that you are fake simply because they disagree or because they aren't looking for the same things that you might be? When did the bdsm community become so narrow minded to think that the way they see things is the only way? Why can't we just each enjoy our piece of the whole? Some of the thoughts I have this morning. 

6/25/2017 12:13:36 PM
Well..... this didn't surprise me at all, I should go look at the one I did when I was newer lol...

== Results from bdsmtest.org ==
100% Submissive
100% Degradee
100% Rope bunny
98% Slave
93% Masochist
75% Pet
73% Voyeur
69% Primal (Prey)
62% Exhibitionist
56% Experimentalist
52% Vanilla
51% Brat
51% Non-monogamist
21% Ageplayer
10% Boy/Girl
7% Switch
2% Primal (Hunter)
0% Rigger
0% Daddy/Mommy
0% Dominant
0% Degrader
0% Owner
0% Master/Mistress
0% Sadist


6/20/2017 9:44:56 AM
You know I am on the ball when I get blocked by 4 people before noon. I love watching "doms" throw temper tantrums......  I am very respectful when speaking to others here, regardless of my interest level soooooooo I am going to say that your temper tantrum should prove something to you that has nothing to do with me. 



6/19/2017 12:17:15 AM
I can't sleep, and had a thought and wanted to write it down for later. All of you that can "force a woman to kneel" I am happy for you. Ecstatic even, if that's what excites you. For me, I cant be "forced", if I was looking for a relationship it would be with that man that I can't help but to crawl to, the one that never even asked me to submit to him, yet I find myself wanting to please him. 

6/17/2017 8:30:03 PM
Well, after a few days, the update.... I guess maybe I should tell you why I'm here, I love meeting new people, I love intelligent conversation, and I can even enjoy occasional banter. I'm not really looking for anything specific, I'm here as an experienced submissive/slave if anyone has questions, I'm here for ideas if you are looking for new ways to have fun with your current partner, and maybe I'll find someone interesting and challenging that I can have fun with, but if not, I'm perfectly okay with that too. I'm not rushing into anything, and if we've talked then you get it I'm sure. Best of luck everyone. 

6/15/2017 12:15:46 PM
Well, looks like I haven't visited since 2013, but well, life changes and happens, so I guess I will see if this has improved in the least. 

5/19/2013 8:23:01 PM
Eloquence must be a lost art..... I am so glad that I do not have any issues in that department, self expression is sort of my forte so to speak. Also for my lively stalkers that think that subs should not speak their mind, I think you are wrong, absolutely they should, just in the correct manner, correct time, correct place..... If your sub cannot think enough to choose the correct time, place, and manner, then maybe consider an upgrade....... Oh that's right my stalkers are mostly single, can't figure out why for the life of me.......

5/19/2013 2:32:30 PM
When I surrendered it was real and fully, but thank you you for working me there sir. Thank you for realizing that the road to total submission has to be travelled by both parties, learning to fully trust before you can fully submit, not just in the bedroom. It's been a process sir, but I'm glad we are where we are at.

5/19/2013 1:59:26 PM
So exhausted.... Long nights and early mornings..... This has been a hit and miss week for us, but through the chaos still thinking of you master, see you soon sir. Back to work with me again, hope everyone has a wonderful night.

5/18/2013 9:28:47 PM
Been so busy that I have not been writing in my journal even..... On that note as always, idiots contact me and I make a statement about it here...... So just because you want to have anal sex, you are not a Dom, just because you want it rough, you are not a Dom, bossy and Dom are not the same. Doms do not whine when they don't get what they want, they reevaluate, adjust, and go again..... The adjusting can be a lot of things but nonetheless there is no whining involved...... Grow up a little, a child could never conquer a woman's mind therefore could never fully dominate her......

5/16/2013 6:57:51 PM
Missing you.......................

5/15/2013 8:35:21 PM
I need to talk to my master about something, I hate times when he is way busy with work and almost impossible to actually talk to. I never can remember what I want to ask him after the fact until I am presented with the same situation again and am not sure how to respond. Well I know how to respond right now, but want to ask if I may respond differently..... Alas tomorrow when I talk to him I'll forget then later on remember, it's a viscous circle..... Nonetheless no breaking rules for me, I will continue to respond well not respond to be completely honest until I remember to ask permission. Miss you sir, talk soon, if you read this please remind me about it, seriously please please please remind me sir. :-)

5/14/2013 6:24:47 PM
Goodnight everyone, it's early but I'm alone and master is busy tonight, no sense waiting up for nothing. Hope everyone has a great night!

5/14/2013 10:11:55 AM
So I let my tongue slip with master this morning, not a wise decision. I honestly 100% did not mean for that to happen at all and I am so sorry master. My sarcastic sense of humor comes off as attitude and I really need to watch that better. I really enjoy that we can joke with each other, but for now that is off limits until I learn to choose my words more wisely. I wish that I could kneel and worship his feet while apologizing right now. Maybe if he reads this he will understand how deeply sorry I am to have let my tongue cross the line. He probably wouldn't let me worship his feet right now anyways though, my tongue does not deserve the privilege of touching him at the moment..... I'm so sorry sir, that will not happen again.

5/14/2013 6:57:08 AM
So a particular "Dom" was bullying a friend of mine because she self identifies as a switch. It's doms like these that scare newbies away. Get your head out of your ass and open up your mind. This thing we call bdsm has no rules, no boundaries, it is simply a matter of perception and when you find someone that has the same perception as you it is beautiful. My master would be highly upset if I brought myself to this doms level and messaged him a piece of my mind so I won't. I have more respect for him and for myself than that. Someone once told me never argue with an idiot, they will bring you down to their level and beat you with experience. Please do not let these assholes ruin this for you, they are not doms, they are just overcompensating assholes that have to abuse those around them to feel better about the fact that they are pathetic.

5/14/2013 6:16:17 AM
Is that your hand on my girlfriend? Is that your hand? I'll watch you leave here limping, there goes the next contestant. Love some nickleback in the morning to jump start my day, motivation to get all the crap adults have to do done. Have a wonderful day everyone

5/13/2013 10:00:48 PM
It isn't about the pain, it's about the pleasure of knowing you are completely his, about your place, kneeling, pleasing, that every inch of you is his to do with as he pleases, the pain is simply an intense reminder, thank you master for reminding me today. I love knowing where I belong, can't wait to show you again how much I enjoy being there sir.

5/13/2013 8:15:26 PM
I almost forgot that I wanted to see what kind of responses I get to this, seems when I ask something genuine I get nothing but when I post something bitchy I get hate mail, it's all good though. Anyways my master said that I seem to have taken a liking to the word "use" and asked if my feelings had changed. I took a moment to reflect on that, and decided that to me use is possessive, more than an act. You use your car to go places, a pen to write, a phone to call. So saying that he uses me isn't so much referring to what he does or doesn't do but merely an acknowledgement that I am his, just like his vehicle, house, chair, what have you. Anyone else want to define "use" to me?

5/13/2013 7:33:06 PM
Today I would like to admit that I may have underestimated binder clips, after 3 hours of being on, I finally was able and allowed to remove them, and OWWWWWW....... That pain is a pleasant reminder that I am his though, they are his, all of me is his.

5/13/2013 6:01:32 AM
Hmmmm, well last night I sent a message to my master. Thing is, I was slightly intoxicated at the time. Was going to delete it before he saw it, but that wouldn't be 100% honest and that is what I give and expect. So I left it, I suppose we will see what kind of trouble I got myself into........ I reread it but did not alter it, even with the typos

5/12/2013 8:26:46 PM
Every girl has that one guy that no matter how tired she is, no matter what time, she will answer the phone if he calls her, I'm just lucky enough to call him master..... If you are owned and that one is not your master, you may have priorities fucked up.....

5/12/2013 6:35:42 PM
Master your pussy is so sore, but I'm so ready to play again. Can't wait until later for more use sir, that is all

5/12/2013 4:01:30 PM
Look at that, collar me caters to multiple personalities, I can message myself......

5/12/2013 2:43:21 PM
Aww somebody got quite a few Mother's Day gifts today. Can't thank them here because they aren't on this site, but anyways made me smile. Master, I enjoyed my gift last night, I'm going to just guess that Mother's Day is the reason for it. Thank you again master and happy Mother's Day to my fellow moms.

5/12/2013 12:56:29 PM
Still thinking about last night, I'm not sure what put master in such a good mood, but he needs more of that in his life for sure. One day our work schedules will stop being so conflicting sir and I will be able to serve you better. In the meantime sir I will continue to do the very best I can and know that we have been through worse moments when it comes to time. Life is one hell of a ride at times, but I love the way you intoxicate my thoughts through all of it sir.

5/12/2013 11:45:35 AM
Happy Mother's Day to all my fellow kinky moms out there!!!! I've had a blast with the kiddos today :-)

5/12/2013 11:43:25 AM
What a wonderful night I had. Master surprised me while I was working. The feelings of playing with him while working, well while I was supposed to be working were awesome. Thank you sir for putting a smile on my face last night that even now remains there. I can't wait until I get the opportunity to thank you properly but for now thanks again sir.

5/11/2013 8:31:09 PM
Someone's mind has been preoccupied all day. Well for 2 days, and it's going to have to wait a couple more. I have a punishment coming, damn me and telling on myself, but I have no idea what he has up his sleeve. It's a first offense but I certainly crossed a line and I know that he is going to quite firmly remind me of my place, but I can't figure out how he is going to yet. It's driving me crazy I can normally finish his sentences and answer questions before he asks them but I have no clue this time and he is hiding it well. He either doesn't want me to know yet, or doesnt know yet himself but im sure its the former. Monday I have NEVER wanted you to get here but hurry up please so I can get this over with..... The 4 days waiting might be worse than the actual punishment. I hate the sporadic times when I can't read him, normally I can read him like a book, he doesn't even have to speak for me to know what he wants, or what he's thinking ahhhhhggggg

5/11/2013 1:21:13 AM
And another one must go on blast..... This was on someone's profile and subs/slaves please do not think that it isn't okay to have hard limits, it is okay, and a good Dom will respect those especially in the beginning, as time changes people grow and hard limits can be pushed until they are gone, but don't believe this guys line of shit..... Pasted below P.S If you identify yourself as a slave although confused enough to list 'hard limits' on your profile, take a deep breath and urgently find an experienced mentor.

5/10/2013 11:52:02 PM
Looks like another sleepless night, have had way too many of those recently..... Enjoyed the talk with my master today, we have some of the most interesting conversations sometimes..... Today what is the difference between a sub and a slave? Not sure if I changed his mind or not but, we are allowed to have differing opinions as long as I don't argue with him..... I've been doing enough getting in trouble recently, don't need my mouth to add to it lol..... Any fellow sub/slaves have an opinion on the difference between the 2? I'd be interested to hear.... Sorry dom(mes) I'm not allowed to talk to you, learned my lesson on that I did I did :-)

5/10/2013 12:51:40 PM
Had a very in depth conversation with my master today about opinions on sub vs slave. It was really interesting to get his position. I try not to categorize too much, it's like stereotyping and no 2 people are the same. You can be a slave and I can be a slave and if master says jump we will both jump but at different heights and paces. Anyone have an opinion on the difference? My opinion any sub can be a slave with the right Dom, to me the difference between a sub and slave is merely a representation of her relationship status. If she has play partners or even a single play partner that isn't too serious or single then sub, if she is his she's a slave. I did some soul searching last year and that is what I came up with after years of hating to be referred to as a slave. Nonetheless this sub/slave is extremely content in my submission to master. Whatever he prefers to see me as is just fine with me as long as I am his.

5/10/2013 12:30:43 AM
So reading through some journal entries it has occurred to me, I need to be so so so thankful that my master does not deny my orgasm for extended periods of time, I mean I am only allowed to cum with him, no masturbating myself there. Thank goodness that he loves it when I cum for him. This does not by any stretch mean that I would not obey long term denial because I most certainly would, just so glad that he hasn't asked me to.

5/9/2013 11:26:48 PM
Don't hate me for whatever I write in MY journal, hate me because you know it's the truth.... I get tons of hate mail from fake doms, but it's all good, I have an amazing master, and a head on my shoulders, I'm a free woman yet content in my submission, they will never find a good sub until they can learn to be a good Dom....

5/9/2013 2:13:08 PM

So this is from someone's profile, and I must say if a sub/slave believes this shit, they have a ways to go.... your interests and desires are important to a good master/dom. He wants to see you succeed, not fail. He wants you to be the best you can be, and serve him the best you can possibly serve him, but you are his most precious possession. If he cannot hold you in the highest regard as you serve him and proud of the way you serve him, then he has failed as your master....

 

I am not your "daddy", your "buddy", your "boyfriend" or your "lover." I am the Master of the Ship or your Captain. Period.

Your personal wants and desires are of no concern to me - only your service is.

I will use you to the best of your abilities just as I do my ship. At times I drive her hard and push her to the limits of her endurance; and, you can be assured, I will do the same to you.

When I feed you, shelter you and clothe you it is not a kindness. It is to maintain you in good working order to serve me and your ship at your best. There is no difference in this than when I fill my ship's bunkers with fuel, change her engines' oil or refit her equipment: it's all maintenance done for the sole purpose of serving me.


5/9/2013 12:58:38 PM

Wow, getting hate mail for my last journal entry already, news flash... If I am or how I am punished for making a joke like that isn't any of your business.... Whether or not you can joke with your sub is none of my business.... No you do not need his name he will contact you if he wishes...... Lastly, I did not do that behind his back, I emailed him the same thing, just in case he didn't see it here because he doesn't always check on me, we have this little thing called trust. Get over yourselves wow.


5/9/2013 12:13:05 PM
Well sir, I hate to have to tell you that I have submitted to another this morning, well and pretty much every morning, I love to put my lips on it sir and take the hot fluid into my mouth sir, there is no better feeling first thing in the morning sir, looks like I may be a cheater...... Look at the new profile pic sir, you will get it ;-) lol

5/8/2013 1:34:02 PM
Hmmm somehow I get admirers, yet have never spoken to them, and won't be anytime soon, I am owned and that is against the rules. I find it ironic though, that I made this profile mostly as a vent from all of the fake "doms" I have met along my journey..... Here is a news flash for everyone, liking to give rough sex and dominance is not the same, being "naturally dominant" and being "a dominant" are totally different, trust and respect are earned not given, and just because I'm outspoken does not mean I'm not submissive, it just means my submission is not freely given to whomever, you must earn it. My master definitely understands all of that and has taken time earning all of it, I kneel before him without a word, jump without hesitation, and obey without question because he has my complete submission. Things like that don't happen overnight but when it gets there pure bliss. He knows I am his and no he will probably never read this, I didn't write it for him I wrote it for those that need to read it, newbies please read through my journal, there is a large group effort Dom vs fake Dom that is certainly worth the time. That's all for now

5/7/2013 4:50:52 PM
Another wonderful session master, I know you will never read this, but thank you. I look forward to where you will push me next sir. I get the feeling you held back a little today sir, but you know I feel that way, I love that we can communicate openly and honestly sir. I can't wait until next time and find myself thinking about what I'm going to do differently every time we play to be better for you sir. I love being your slut, bitch, cunt, whore, etc, but not nearly as much as I love being your good girl. I will continue to bend to you as long as you continue to push me sir. I have to say I am pretty proud of today, even though a lot of people don't think of subs and proud together, I know you get it sir. I am proud of what I was able to do for you sir and I will do SO much more. Well guys I will update again soon, but for now I'm going to go be content half in half out of subspace..... All smiles, after tears, screams, moans, gagging, and a ton of other noises.

5/6/2013 3:34:00 PM
So, literally in a matter of 5 minutes I had to go from masters depraved slut to prison warden. Joys of motherhood :-) but people don't understand that I love to just completely give up control. To be anything he wants me to be at that moment. Thing is, I'm too smart sometimes and I can't give that control up to just anyone. Master Josh I have mad respect for you sir for conquering me and my mind. You sir are always my last thought before bed, my first thought in the morning, and guide a lot of my decision making throughout the day even though you don't know it. I know you will never read this but that is as honest as it gets about my thoughts. See you again soon sir, and thank you for some wonderful play again today master. I honestly think that you have outdone yourself again, that had to be my most intense orgasm ever sir, just saying :) still kinda fuzzy brained though, I kinda like it that way though.

10/12/2012 6:48:25 PM

A dominant man will not start off by with,
'Bow down on your knees upon receipt of
my message!' There seems to be many
complaints from women about this kind of
ploy as first introduction, and this is reason
alone to 'block n’ move on.' (I would advise
ladies to use this tactic often and liberally
rather than engage in argument or flame
wars…life is too short.). Ignore the Insta-
Dom

......................................
A dominant man will not seem ‘desperate’
for your attention. Getting dates or getting
laid is not his problem; he can find women
on kink sites, at work, or in the grocery
store. He knows women, and women are
drawn to him. Many women, kink or vanilla,
prefer a man who is take-charge both in the
bedroom and in life. If a 'Dom' becomes
frantic, anxious, or despairing because you
don’t write him back every other hour,
chances are he has a hard time with the
fairer sex. The good news is desperation is
easy to spot.
.......................................................
A dominant man most often will be
successful, a maverick, or at least happy in
his chosen profession. If he has had some
bad luck in his past, it will be fleeting, for
he will strive relentlessly to place his
universe back into the order mandatory to
his existence. If your suitor languishes in
poverty, or hates
his job, most likely his dominance is merely
a cover-up to appease his lack of success.
Though he may not be the millionaire, look
for the man who is happy, confident,
unique, and/or successful in his chosen
endeavor.
..................
A dominant man will be very interested in
you, and not just your sexual needs
(though they will certainly get his
attention). He will see you as a puzzle, and
desire to make sense of that puzzle. The
dominant guy loves challenge and that in
essence is why so many submissives find
disillusion in the vanilla world; most men
do not seek challenge in sensuality, they
fear it. Submissive women are the most
challenging of lovers for they have great
fantasy. Their fantasies often require a man
to move far outside normal gestures
requiring both skill and creativity. How you
think about a myriad of criterion will be of
great interest to him.
.....................
A dominant man is likely to be damn good
in the sack. Most men have their hands full
with straight-up vanilla sex. The dominant
man has either mastered or has no interest
in such elementary play, at least not all the
time. Making a woman orgasm many times
has left him bereft of sport, so he now
seeks a woman who will challenge him on
other levels. The dominant guy is going to
have a good understanding of the female
anatomy, and will persist in finding the
keys to your body and mind. He will have
done his homework and already
experimented in real-time on many lovers.
He will be a bit of the Don Juan, if not Don
himself; not a womanizer per se, but
certainly sexually advanced.
...............
A dominant man may have all the
accoutrement of kink (the whips, hains,
and whatnot), but he will not need them to
be dominant. A whisper, a word, a look, a
swagger, and a touch are the essence of his
talent. Confidence is his weapon of choice,
not bragging about his dungeon. Those
who tout their toys too highly might well be
lacking in other departments.
................

- A dominant man will be very cautious in
selecting you because he knows you have
great desires, hopes, and dreams, and it is
he that has to live up to them. Above all
things he will wish to be good for you. He
attempts to choose wisely but may at first
make many mistakes in his choices as he
finds his way.
............
A dominant man will make mistakes and
have no fear admitting them. The dominant
guy knows he is not All Knowing, for he is
human. A guy who believes he never makes
mistakes or does not admit to them with
good cheer is most likely not dominant.
..........
A dominant man will not beg you for
naked photographs. In fact, he won’t beg
for anything. He will simply wait till you’re
dying to send him your naughty pictures
unsolicited and accept them with lordly
composure (or a rock hard-on, depending
on the photo).
..........
A dominant man will never lie about
being married or already having a
girlfriend. If he’s married to vanilla, he’ll
simply say so. If he’s dating vanilla, he’ll
break up with her before venturing in with
another (less he’s doing a poly thing and
brings her along, or in an open
relationship). The dominant guy is
straightforward, will wish to be plain about
his true desires and needs, and if he is
attached, will be forthcoming with that
information. If he’s cheating on his vanilla
wife, he will say so. He made his choice
and is going for it.
...........
A dominant man won’t lie about much,
though he surely will keep some of his
thoughts from you. A Dom who feels
swallowing golden showers to be right up
your alley may well know telling you
straight out might have you running for
cover. This is not in itself lying, he’s just
taking the appropriate steps first and at the
speed he thinks you can absorb them (he
may well discard such thoughts as he gets
to know you; he will discard his thoughts
often). The lying 'dom' will have an agenda
that has no bearing on your needs. The
real dominant guy wants no part of
someone for whom he cannot be good. A
man who attempts to get with a woman he
cannot handle or vice versa is desperate.
..........
A dominant man will not be heavy
handed in his approach. He will be skilled
at drawing you in, opening you up, making
you feel at ease or on edge (depending on
his tastes). His efforts will seem effortless;
even aloof at times. He will grow on you.
Capture you. Enlighten you and make things
seem clear that may have been once blurry.
You will feel better about yourself when
communicating with him (even if your
desire is to live in debasement!). Only an
impostor will try to tear you down in order
to raise himself to higher ground. The
dominate gets off by watching you soar,
not fall.
..........
In essence, taking on a submissive is both
invigorating and empowering yet also a
humbling experience. He may err
constantly, particularly if he is new. Yet he
will always, always strive to be better, and
though he longs and seeks challenge, he
will avoid that which he knows he cannot
handle, or will in some near future be
unable to handle. It may take time but he
will understand his own limits as well as
his woman’s.
...........
A submissive is a truckload of challenge
(ask their ex-vanilla lovers), and so the
dominant man needs you like he needs air.
He wants your worship not simply for
worship sake but because he has gone
beyond the call of the norm, ventured into
the realm of risk, and passing across the
dangerous abyss where footing is
treacherous, hopefully breaks into the
sunshine of success offering you something
glorious. THAT alone is why he seeks your
worship; because he has earned it and
deserves it.
..........
If a man does not seek risk and challenge
in his life, if he wishes worship without
venturing his ego, if he does not persist
continually toward excellence in handling a
woman as he does in many things, he is
not a dominant man.


10/7/2012 6:01:38 PM

I started this profile earlier today and it is unbelievable the number of people from other countries that want to dom me on-line, please do not expect me to cam for you when I do not know you, and a collar is not a casual thing to me, so please do not try to collar me from the first moment we speak either....... Wake up people a collar is a commitment it isn't casual.


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BitterSweetTears
 
 Age: 41
 Anchorage, Alaska