We are looking for family
First, W/we would like to make very clear that the Master and slave are married, and have two young children, and that the family comes first in life. The partner W/we are looking for, W/we want to become family over time and therefore included as much as possible.

Physically looking for
W/we would prefer a more (tomboy) female or a male. Age preference for O/our partner would be twenty-five to forty-five male and female wise.

Lifestyle, not just kink
W/we are looking for a person who is wanting something beyond what has become the typical view of BDSM in today's world; sex and the sessions with chains and whips, as BDSM is a lifestyle for U/us, but part of the package would involve sex. W/we take part in a more traditional stance when it comes to the lifestyle.

Dynamic
The partner would be primarily submissive to Master, and a sister/brother to the slave. Master is primarily Dominant but does have a bottom side; hence the reason W/we would like a Switch. There may be times that this partner would have a Dominant hand on the slave, as well.

Compatibility
W/we are searching for someone with compatibility in both the BDSM and vanilla worlds. If you are interested, message U/us and W/we will give Y/you a list of what we prefer, kink-wise and otherwise. The otherwise will be listed on the profile as well.

Sexual aspects
The slave is not very experienced sex wise, save her Master and what He has taught her, has a tendency to be extremely shy and reserved, but has slowly and steadily been opening up in this aspect.

Extra
The slave is very family oriented, so she would love for the partner to feel like family over time; she is very particular about family and can seem quite traditional in this aspect. The slave also likes to drink on occasion but nothing heavy (more to relax rather than be drunk). Neither the Master nor the slave smokes.

Little
The slave is also a little, whose age range is between five and thirteen years old, but mostly stays around six to eight. The name is Claes, and is looking for a big sister or Mommy, or a big brother if a male, in the partner. Master is Daddy, but He is new to the little aspect. As a little Claes is innocent in the sexual aspect and will stay that way.

Master's Interests
Master likes; computers, porn, music, sci-fi, some anime, sex, video games (pc mostly but consoles as well). He’s a fan of youtube videos (especially on computers and games). He loves Fallout and Marvel. He likes to hang out in places with less people but occasionally frequents clubs and bars.

Slave's Interests
Slave’s likes; sci-fantasy, horror, fantasy, movies/shows, video games, hgtv stuff, reading, music, art, languages, writing, martial arts, anime, online role plays, going to a bar to hang out and play pool (not good at it but likes it). She is a huge fan of Repo! The Genetic opera and Harry Potter.

Claes's Interests
Claes likes; coloring, drawing, chalk, movies, video games, board games, card games, anime, reading, going to the park, ice cream, bubble baths, owls, cats, naps, snuggles, the zoo and aquariums.

HOH ASL
W/we are also learning ASL as W/we both do have some hearing ‘loss’. W/we are looking for someone willing to accept this as well.

Time in the Lifestyle community
Master has been a part of the lifestyle community for three years, mostly as a Dominant. The slave has been a part of the lifestyle community for nine years and is back into training as a slave.

Warmest wishes on Y/you and Y/your search!

Just a poem I did, five months ago, I thought I would post... 

This wrenching void that ate away at the soul
A dogwood blossom that falls into the lake
My being given to a man with eyes black as coal
A piece of it given back for both of O/our sake

Maybe now I can give you me as a whole
And you may be ready to accept me awake
Loving you as you deserve is my solitary goal
So long as to each other we are never fake

My love for you became unconditional
And my dream is to stay with you forever
Even though our lives are not traditional
Your ways that have me love you so clever

So far our lives have been so transitional
We wish to love each other, our endeavor
Our reaction to each other dispositional
We will continue strong despite this sever

To whom my love commits me kneel here,
To my Master, and my treasured Guardian dear,
Hold and love, to light and guard, to rule and guide.
At every bright day and dark night, be at my side

To my Love, and my honored Partner
To whom my loyalty knows no physical bounds
As each other’s invincible armor
You received my heart, body and mind

I am your dark chevalier; You are my last lover,
My arms shall welcome you while yours are tired;
I stand to wait for you, patient in the shadows,
Offering you content of all of me that you desired

I ask no personal merriment, no pretense of gladness,
I can love heavy lids and lips without their kindness;
Though when you are sorrowful you will not weary me;
I’ll not go from you as night leads me to blindness

You are the dark guardian; I am your only servant;
I promise faithfulness no other lips may keep;
Safe in my place, comforted by your ruling hand,
You shall lie happily, smiling in your sleep.

Saelym _ 2014/05/09

So, I am finding a few posts, and have been for some time, what a Dominant or submissive should be, act like, ect. I am also remembering of a post of people being sad that the older ways are leaving the lifestyle, and that T/those who know if it, should try to teach others. I would never presume myself to know more than another, and I enjoy learning, but this is what I observed for the past eight years in which I started to very slowly (snail pace) become part of the community officially.

Many people have their personal preferences, so lets start for when someone first starts out. First of all, please, for the love of whatever deity Y/you worship (if Y/you do, if you don't, for Y/you) put down the 50 Shades of Grey. I will say right now, a good bit of this, unless your fantasy is more lifestyle and not just play or 'public D/s', is not for one who only experiences this lifestyle for fantasy.

When a submissive or slave goes into training under a Dominant or Master, perhaps a Mentor, and lets say they end up having to find a different (or find a) Dominant or Master, the training may need to be redone to suit what that Dominant or Master would like. Of course there are general, basic understandings, rules. Some are casual in how They are in Their Household, some are more formal. I have one point to make before going any further.

They always say how the slave looks and acts reflects the Master they have, but what many need to realize is, how the Master acts will also reflect and determine the slave reflecting Him/Her.

Submissives, if you want a Dominant who is highly publicly sexual, continue to act sexually in public. If that isn't all you want, then show what more you have to yourself. Not everything, just gliimpses of what you can provide for your Dominant or Master.
Dominants/Masters, same thing. If you want more than play, demonstrate that You want more than that by being more than the person who tops a bottom in play all the time at play parties.

Another thing, just because Y/you claim something doesn't mean Y/you are that something.

1) If O/one does not know what to call Y/you, let T/them know. "Polite" respect should be there, unless O/one or the O/other have diminished any respect Y/you have for T/them. For example; Dominants, not all submissives are going to call You Sir or Ma'am unless they have respect for Y/you. It is likely that You ask them to use a name You prefer, and put something before it.

2) Dominants, do not expect any submissive or slave you just met to call You "Master" or "Mistress" unless it's 'House' rules. Expectation of immediate respect from anyone, you may want to check how high your pedestal or horse is.

3) Submissives, slaves, if you are such, then act like it. You don't have to be quiet, you can be interactive, talkative, but the last thing you want to do, even in play (again this isn't for just temporary situations but something a little more than a one-night thing) is to top from the bottom. If things don't start going 'your' way, unless it's against your personal limits, then let it go. Submit.

4) Limits, hard, soft, they are limits for a reason. They are not a 'get out of jail free' card. If you, like me, cannot handle things like ice or cold water, let it be known ahead of time. If you need to, make a list of limits that you CANNOT handle and give it to them. Don't give them a novel. Don't put down that you are a pain slut who wants pain and then say that you only will go I--I that far with pain. Don't add limits half way through play because you don't want something done to you. A time to get to know your play partner, all the kinks and likes is better than jumping into anything. Give Them time to learn your limits, and you learn Theirs.

5) If you are a submissive who knows what you want, lay it out on the table. If the Dominant doesn't bite, then fine, but you need to be honest with that Person, and yourself on your needs. At the same time, don't change them later on. Don't say things to make yourself look good and then suddenly you show your true colors (like topping from the bottom) just a little later.

6) This one I learned well; do NOT give your attention to anyone holding a flogger who tells you to kneel or have you wagging your tail. This person could be doing this for His first time and have no experience with a flogger.

7) I find it amusing, when Dominants immediately want a submissive or slave to take one's clothes off... without asking their Dominant or Master first, or even asking if the Dominant or Master is there... and if the Dominant or Master isn't there, demands it anyway because they think They are entitled to see skin. Demanding things like a child isn't going to enable You to get anything, I'd hate to say it. At the same time Dominants claim to be so, and expect a girl or boy to just like that, fall to their knees and pleasure Them. Now, unless it was already pre-planned that any of this happens, that is of course exempt...

8) Dominants... if You don't get Your way and You actually throw a hissy fit because of it... chances are You are every much of a Dominant as the 'brat' who is topping from the bottom is a submissive.

9) A rule I learned well; Dominants, if You cannot control Yourselves, how do You ever expect to control a submissive?

10) BDSM is NOT ALWAYS involving sexual tendencies... I cannot express this enough. Too often everyone associates BDSM with sex. Let me remind you the acronyms that BDSM holds: Bondage/Discipline, Dominant/submissive, Sadism/Masochism. D/s does not always include sex. It can be a lifestyle choice where one is only a maid, only an ashtray, only a cook, or domestic serving person. Not everyone is looking for sex, and BDSM isn't always sex, or only entails sex. Some people at play parties are there to talk to friends, learn things from demos, but primarily serve their Dominant/Master beverages, food, act as a coat holder or pet, ect. (this goes to the expecting nude people).

11) BDSM as diverse as it is, is a broad term in itself. Some are kinksters who are in it literally for the kinks. Some life a domestic lifestyle 24/7. Some do a bit of both play and domestic. Some are pets, some are baby girls, some have where Dominants are worshiped like Gods. Some are only sexual. There is no wrong way. If it's not Y/your way, it's simply not Y/your cup of tea.

12) As much as people complain about titles, when they are used correctly, it is a good way to quickly understand what a person is about. The thing is, is learning the difference between the titles. Terminology is for another time, but honestly, do Y/your research! Also, as you can tell from my earlier point about 50 shades... make that source a reliable one, please?

13) Now, back to the casual/formal... Older ways were a bit more formal. E/everyone demonstrated manners, respect, and didn't judge one another for the way they live lives, because lets face it, it happens in the vanilla world all the time. I can't tell you how many shows I see where they bring down those in the lifestyle because it's still not understood by the general public. Well, how can it be seen as a good thing when W/we all tear E/each O/other apart about O/our own views?

14) Do NOT ever make fun of another for the way they show their submission. I can't stress this enough. If a girl will publicly kneel at her/his Owner's feet as is Their protocol, then by all means, don't roll Y/your eyes at them because Y/you are only in it for sex.

15) For those of U/us who have been in it more than five years... do not be so high and mighty that the new people who would actually like to learn to not learn. Remember also; when O/one stops learning, O/one stops living it. If you are so wrapped up in Y/your own ego because Y/you have been in it for x amount of years that Y/you know everything, Y/you may want to back off just a little and assess the situation a bit. There are Sadistic Dominants who have been in the lifestyle for 20 years who didn't pick up a whip until their 17th year, until They were ready.

16) As hard as this one is also for me... age does not equal experience. Those in their 50's could just be starting out, and those who were 18 could possibly have been raised in the lifestyle. The best way to tell is how T/they act, and not all by what T/they say.

17) Knowledge does not equal experience. Knowledge and experience equal wisdom. You can read all the books Y/you want on the subject but if Y/you don't experience it, all Y/you have is theory, and not solid wisdom. In other words...
T. S. Eliot. Knowledge is gathered from learning and education while most say that wisdom is gathered from day to day experiences and is a state of being wise.
*“Wisdom is not a product of schooling but of the lifelong attempt to acquire it.”
― Albert Einstein*
If Y/you want someone to take Y/you seriously, Y/you must do more than spout out words. Let T/them experience it.

18) Stop with the body shaming. Dominance and submission is a beautifulrelationship based on trust and communication, sometimes love, O/one shouldn't spoil it with such ugly comments towards it simply because O/one is not the 'shape' Y/you want them.

19) Just as Dominants need to stay off Their high horse, so do submissives. Just because one is a slave does not mean you are better at submission than a submissive. Look, not everyone can submit to such levels that does not demean their submission any more. The fact that they submit, again, is a beautiful thing and for someone to see it in a negative light is really not necessary.

20) Baby girls and brats... honestly, I don't know why 'brats' have become a thing, perhaps I skipped when they all entered... but, to each their own! Now, every time I see the term 'brat' I see the negative 'they throw fits if they don't get their way' hence the statement I mentioned before. It is not meant to offend all brats, just the ones who don't really submit and are only in it for the name. It's fine (usually, one would have to ask their Daddy/Dominant/Master this) to be a smart ass once in a while but when it gets down to it, be a good girl at times? Dominants are only so when you submit to Them, and Dominants are not meant to make you submit, that is something you need to do on your own. If you don't submit to the Dominant you are with, then perhaps you should pick another one, one that you will submit too... if you do.

21) Submissives, stop expecting the Dominants to make you submit to everything. Submission is your responsibility. It is the Dominant's responsibility to be sure you do submit and all the while, make sure whatever goes between the B/both of Y/you is beneficial to O/one another and not just Him/Herself.

22) Submissives/slaves (lifestyle wise)... as you enter, you cannot expect things to be like 50 shades, secretary or the story of o. Not every submissive is damaged, not every relationship is so vanilla, not every book you read or movie you watch is going to help you as a submissive. One must realize if you pick a Dominant, you could lose your favorite clothes that He/She doesn't like, you could be given bed times, be restricted from your computers, your coffee, your smoking, you could lose your privacy. You might not have as much time with your friends as before (not that you are isolated mind you, please take what is said here face value). Your diet might change, your schedule, the things to watch, you read, you cook, ect. Some changes would be hard. This is why you must find a Dominant or Master that you trust and not just jump into a collar.

23) Trials... I don't see this anymore. Perhaps it is a practice not much used anymore, but it is a period of time in which a person takes the time to get to know another person before jumping into a full on relationship. It is a version of dating before moving in. It is the boyfriend/girlfriend before marriage. It is the recipes you try before making your own. It's a version of safety, the helmet you wear before you get on the motorcycle.

24) Dominants, submissives are giving up themselves to You to submit. Perhaps some like being treated like trash but learn the difference between 'hurt' and 'harm'. Some don't believe in using safewords, others do. Even if You own the person completely, please at least make sure you are not breaking Your toy beyond disuse. In addition, for those who are 'borrowing' submissives of Others, please ask to what extent something could be done. To 'play' with them is not permission to mark them in any way, or to give them out to O/others to play with unless again, already decided.

25) SSC and RACK. These were two basic acronyms I learned aside from BDSM when I started. Safe Sound and Consensual. When playing or living, one must be all three of these things. Do not leave your tied up partner in a place all by themselves without a way to get untied by themselves for emergency. Risk Aware Consensual Kink, this is more for play... if you KNOW there are risks that you are taking it is a term in which you make sure that you are still not taking too big a risk to endanger yourself or your partner. Again, learn things before you do. Practice on Y/yourself before Y/your partner.

Now... I believe I made some good points. A little bit of information... this is where it turns more into a rant, based more on personal interests...

I like the need to greet Him at the door when He enters upon my knees or sitting; it means I'm the first thing He see's after a hard day at work, and I might get the chance to hear about His day and cheer Him up if needed.
I like the necessity of asking if I could get into bed with Him to go to sleep. Him giving me consent means He wants to be near me, whether for naughty fun, to cuddle, or anything He likes, but He wants me near Him.
I like setting out clothes for Him so He is more prepared for work. It is just a little something that makes a big difference in His convenience if He has it all lied out for Him.
I like cooking for Him, especially new foods. It gives me a chance to see more of what He likes, and to have some fun in cooking to learn new things.
I like U/us having a list of chores for me to do before He goes to bed. It means I have ways in which I can make His life better while He works to keep U/us in the house I am cleaning.
I like washing Him in the shower. It means I get to stare and gawk as long as I make sure He is nice and clean, and that I get to help Him relax in soothing water to help Him feel loved.
I like kneeling in front of Him. It means I get to display myself as under His will and thumb, to remind Him that I am here for Him. It's even nicer when I might hugs His legs as a sign of love.
I like cleaning for Him. I like the fact that He might come home to the pleasant sight and scent of something He is in charge of aside from myself.
I like fetching Him drinks and food. It means that while He relaxes and thinks about wants, I get to cater to His needs.
I like conversations with Him. It means that He is comfortable enough in that moment to speak with me, that I get to learn more about what He is saying, as well as His own interests, and therefore, get closer to Him.
I like walking near Him but still slightly behind. By His side and backing Him up is my place, and it is the place I prefer, as He protects me from what is before us (obviously this is beyond just the simple walks, but a form of saying life in general).
I like when He takes me out, grocery shopping, to lunch, to the park for a walk. It means that He wishes to show me off in public and for me to get some fresh air. A way in which He says He cares about me.
I like when He requires permission for me to go to the bathroom. It means He is paying attention to my own habits, not just in the frequency in going to the bathroom but smaller details such as how much I am drinking, if I am healthy, and naturally it is a way for Him to control a basic need.
I like waiting to eat until He does; it means that He is taken care of, and that while I also eat, I might relax and just be there with Him as I enjoy whatever it was that I made for U/us. It is a way of saying, "Him first,".
I like taking direction from Him in public, such as what to eat, drink, and what to wear to said public event. It is an opportunity for Him to fine tune me to be the reflection He wishes.
I like that He chooses the piercings and ink that I put upon my body. It means that He gets to determine how He dresses up His doll.
I like that I can ask for something and He determines whether or not I get it based on my behavior. They are little hints in which I show gratitude that He lets me know how I am doing.
I like how He picked up the different 'tone of mews' I give him in reply when I am a kitty, and He casually mews back. W/we could have a full conversation like this without fearing another's thoughts. It is a secret language that means W/we know E/each O/other enough to pick up little cues like that.
I like O/our talks about O/our interactions with E/each O/other. In that time, W/we speak as partners, which W/we are, despite O/our roles to E/each O/other. It makes me feel important, as well as helps U/us respond better to E/each O/other. (In NO way is this my opportunity to top from the bottom, I do ask and suggest in case He doesn't think of things because W/we think very differently from E/each O/other but ultimately it is His choice).
I like how W/we have an honesty, open communication rule. There is only honest conversation that dictates on benefits and things that are not beneficial to O/our lives, to E/each O/other's thoughts, fantasies, interests, likes, dislikes, and things learned about O/one A/another.

I am the type that would kneel before Him in public, even if eyes roll. I am the type who will speak according to how He wishes, and speak to W/whoever He wishes. I take direction from Him and I know there is nothing wrong with that. So anyone else who might complain about how O/our lifestyle runs, Y/you may as well keep it to Y/yourself. W/we know O/our way is not for E/everyone, and w/we don't expect Y/you to adopt it, but at the same time W/we ask Y/you respect it as W/we respect Y/yours. The whole point of this is, that E/everyone is different, and T/their choice of lifestyle is different. Do not judge. Do not pretend to know everything. Do not hate on O/others for one reason or another.

Important things to look to:
hygiene, personality, morals/ethics, likes, dislikes, limits, type of BDSM outlook one is looking for, type of partner, level of commitment. Lie it open out front if interested, give it time, and you might have a better chance of having a partner.

For those of you into Repo! The Genetic Opera....

Master seemed to think up poems and i ended up giving a reply of my own.  His showing me what He came up with was out of the blue and unexpected, but it made my day more than once.  These are in regards to zydrate, which is known to be "Zydrate is like futuristic crack and a glowstick combined. ... the other addicts. Yeah, the main drug of the future is glowing-dead-brain-snot" (_cracked.com)  He seemed to remember this from when i showed Him the page, which i also did not expect.  So this is in the view of, lets say Graverobber was Dominant and Amber just so happened to have a subservient side....oh, and in our minds they are singing these words... that might help with the visual.

His poems:

You got a brain snot itch?

Then by my zydrate bitch

It will start when you give me your heart

Then a taste of heaven will make your legs part

I'll have you on all fours as i whip your butt

Then oh yessss... you're not my zydrate slut......

Daddy's little girl....zydrate

Gonna take her for a whirl....zydrate

A needle to the butt....zydrate

Now she's my dirty slut....zydrate

Do you want more....zydrate

Then be my little whore....zydrate

Better than a heroin high....zydrate

You'll be the apple of my eyes....

ooooyeahhhh *moves finger under your chin*

I'veeeee got heaven in a vial

A sky blue liquiiiid smile

You've got a pain that just wont go away....

Say pretty pleaseeee....and be under my sway

When I say show me your titties... you scream 'I'll bare my breasts'

Daddy gives you the needle and you squeal.... that is the best

my reply:

For that vial of blue glowing liquid

I will do whatever You bid....

I got that brain snot itch

Now You use it to control this bitch

I would then get upon my knees

I would beg You with pretty please

Go ahead and put it anywhere

It's all I could do to make it fair

To Amber's lust filled sentiment

I'd let You have me 'til I'm spent

I'd let You fuck my soul

All just for a little hit of that glow

Show me what You want to take

Tell me that there is no mistake

Please make my blood boil hot

I prefer under You, to be caught

Pinned with the needle in me

You on top of me, fit like a key

Unlock my inner slut filled mind

My body, the contract You signed

Take me hard and rough

Make me safe, place me in cuffs

For that vial of blue glowing liquid

I will do whatever You bid....