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I'm am seeking a submissive woman preferably a masochist, or a submissive who is willing to learn to associate pleasure with pain. I have been in the lifestyle now for about 14 years. Yes, I am real, not like a lot of the players you see on CM. I can tell you. I would never ask you for nude pics, I would never try to demand something from you on line. I think that is ridiculous. To collar some one or own someone is a serious commitment, and I believe you cant find that across the keyboard. I am not looking to own. I have just released a slave after 3 years, and that is a tough thing to do. There were health reasons, and a personal life outside of our relationship that it was time for her to get back to. So, as I stated earlier, I am looking for a sub who wants to session. I cannot change who I am, and I have a need to bring my sadistic side out. Please, just because I use the words Sadistic and masochist, doesn't mean it's over the top, it's all sweet pain, and NOT ABOUT SEX!!
On the other side, I have a great sense of humor, I can laugh at anything, funny that is.
I speak 2 languages, English and Sarcasm. I am laid back, love to sing, love music.
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Well, I have come to realize, something that I already knew. It doesn't matter how long you have been in the lifestyle, both parties need to be open to learn. After 12 years in the lifestyle, I collared a poly slave. She stayed with us (my family) for almost 3 years. The last year was pretty tough, because she had quite a few medical issues, that would not let her perform in the capacity in which our relationship was based. We stood behind her through all of her surgeries, and catered to her needs. She was feeling useless, because her service to me was very limited. Sessions were very scarce, because of the back problems, the shoulder problems. Training was non existent, because most of the time she was in bed. She finally chose to go back to her home in NC, she has a home there that needs to be taken care of, and she was missing her real family, so she was released. The day after she left, I didn't really know how I was supposed to act. my slave, sub was gone. A poly is not as easy as you would think. She became part of my family, therefore, it was often hard to distinguish lifestyle, from family functions. I don't know if that makes sense or not. When she started having surgeries the Dom/ slave aspect just went away. Then it was difficult at times to stay in that capacity. One thing I can say, she was on her game until life struck, and I wish her well in NC.
Shujin |
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To all the SUBMISSIVES.... I don't know if it's wise to put that you are a submissive woman, and in the same line put you are stubborn. Not only is that an oxymoron, but not appealing to any real Doms on this site.
Respectfully,
Shujin |
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I guess to each their own, but if I may be so bold; there are quite a few very cute slave or submissive women here looking to be owned, but keep coming up with the jerks that don't know anything about the lifestyle, or they just want you to send them more of your nude pics to pleasure themselves by. The more provocative you are with your pics the more you are going to get these jerks. You have great profiles and nice pics, but when you start getting dirty with your pics, it changes the way you are viewed. Personally I want to see the neck, so I can invision the type of collar that would look best.
Respectfully,
Shujin |
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Why all the copy and paste? Doesn't anyone know how to write from the heart? Afterall a journal is supposed to be thoughts and feelings from the heart.
Shujin |
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Watching the movie "Secretary" with James Spader and Maggie Gyllenhaal.
A must see by all that are into BDSM |
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Well, I have now discovered some interesting issues not discovered by me before in my former slaves. A slave that sees my wife act a particular way on the weekends, and it seems she wants to fall in the same way, Sleep till whenever, not do any chores, etc. I guess it’s a 24/7 with the weekend off. Also to any other slaves that are in the process of being owned…. Always look your best for your OWNER. Don’t take for granite that you can sit around all day in your and that’s acceptable. It also seems that when you are constantly saying what is expected of you, soon we would get the message. It’s tiresome. It seems that if one is so eager to be owned, it would not be hard for one to be ready for their owner at all times. For all those who has interest of being in a poly, realize there is already one, you need to be something different. |
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1. No one should expect a sub to wait on a Dom/me or a Dom/me to issue orders to them when not in a relationship with them.
2. Until you give your gift of submission to a Dom/me. NO Dom/me has the right to intimidate, force, demand or take away your freedom.
3. Until you have accepted a sub, NO sub has the right to try to manipulate, hound, demand or take away your freedom.
4. Both must have trust and respect for each other, this is not one sided.
5. Neither should lie or hide things from each other, nor should either side accept it being done.
6. Both should be emotionally and physically sound and expect to stay that way in ANY relationship.
7. Both should take the time they feel they need and not allow the other to force or rush them into ANYTHING.
8. Subs, don’t expect the Dom/me to fix/solve all your problems. Sure your Dom/me wants to hear about your life but they don’t want to hear you talk about your problems continuously, this makes you into a needy, high maintenance sub, get a therapist if you have real problems. Dom/mes it goes for you as well, if you are constantly dumping your problems on your subbie, you are just weighing them down with things they can’t fix (and they do want to fix everything for you), if you have real problems see a therapist.
9. Dom/mes don't want a doormat (a person used by another person for their own benefit without regard for the persons feelings, growth or well being). Why would a Dom/me want to be involved with someone that will submit to anyone for anything at anytime? They wouldn't. Both should want someone that respects themselves otherwise how can they respect you?
10. Subs you are expected to obey immediately and not question the Dom/me ever.
11. Both should expect respect from the other.
12. Both should have safe words and it should be clearly understood that they will be used if either feels a need. Using a safe word does not mean anything beyond what the word represents. i.e., a safe word for slowing down, for checking in, for I need to talk about this now, etc. Never think any less of the person for using their safeword.
13. Subs should expect to tell the Dom/me what they would like if they feel a need is not being met. (Yes, yes done respectfully)
14. Subs should expect to tell the Dom/me their dreams, fantasies, what they think are their needs and what they think is missing. This might be done verbally or in a journal.
15. Dom/mes are allowed to express tenderness, love and understanding when they desire and not be seen in a non Dommly manner by a sub.
16. Subs are allowed to express a need for tenderness, love and understanding when they feel the need.
17. Subs should expect to be allowed to ask questions as long as done respectfully.
18. Subs you have to believe the instructions/orders your Dom/me gives you have been done with thought and care. You should not constantly question your Dom/me about the instructions/orders. Clarifying questions are usually acceptable when asked in a respectful manner.
19. Subs should expect to be allowed to bring up concerns they might have and expect the Dom/me to listen and consider what they are saying. Yes this is to be done respectfully and yes the Dom/me has the final word, but the sub has to feel you gave it consideration and not a just because I say so response.
20. Both should expect the other to make mistakes, one prays it is not one of endangerment.
21. A Dom/me has the right to stop any play/scene at any time.
22. A sub has the right to stop any play/scene at any time.
23. Dom/mes should never feel guilty for applying real punishment or for fulfilling their Dom/me responsibilities.
24. Both should never be abusive to the other.
25. Subs you have to believe the instructions/orders are given with thought and care and not just to see how far you will go or how many weird things you will do for them.
26. A sub will never consider herself a weak person for being submissive. It actually takes a submissive strong enough to admit to themselves the desire within to serve, obey and please their Dom/me.
27. A sub will always focus on pleasing her Dom/me and hopes the Dom/me will find her pleasing.
28. Subs are always in submission to their Dom/me even outside their presence.
29. Subs should always be prepared to please their Dom/me anywhere, anytime, no matter what the circumstances or who is around.
30. Subs will only make their choices based on if they will or will not please their Dom/me. As well as make their choices within the orders/boundaries/instructions/guidelines their Dom/me has set for them.
31. Subs behavior at all times reflect directly upon their Dom/me, so they are to act with good representation of their Dom/me at all times.
32. Unless specifically agreed to/granted no sub has any rights or privileges in their relationship with their Dom/me. And any rights or privileges given can be removed at any time by the Dom/me.
33. The Dom/me will train, teach and shape their sub according to their wants and desires. This makes their sub worth more to them.
34. The Dom/me has final word in all matters or issues. The sub must believe the Dom/me has used their judgment and fairness in making the decision.
35. No sub can release themselves from their duties, service, collar or the relationship without the Dom/mes prior approval and consent.
36. Subs are expected to keep an open mind and try new things expanding their limits.
37. Subs will not attempt to top from below or try to make play/scene travel a certain path.
38. It is a subs responsibility to figure out what pleases their Dom/me.
39. Subs will not allow physical harm be done to them if at all possible.
40. Subs are expected to be courteous and to assist other subs whenever they can.
41. Subs are never allowed to think they are a better sub than another.
42. Subs should be allowed to ask for help if they feel the need.
43. Subs should be allowed to ask for attention rather than act up to get attention.
44. Subs should be allowed to expect aftercare following any play/scene.
45. Subs should expect to be reminded of their submission. |
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This is merely to prove a point to my loving slave that thinks I don’t know my ass from a hole in the ground. |
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Good night once again to all the lovely subs and slaves. Without your strength, i would not be in this lifestyle.
Respectfully,
Shujin |
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Good Night to all the little slaves out there. Just remember; If it were not for your strength, I wouldn't be able to enjoy my lifetsyle.
Night,
Shujin |
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