I had this discussion a while back and thought it would make a nice post.
While sex is nice, that's not all there is to this lifestyle. If I want sex, I can go to just about any bar and get that. There are tons of websites that are devoted to hookups.
But BDSM is about more than sex. It is about the relationships of power. It is about the mental struggle to obey another and serve them. It is about the pleasure from pain and serving. It is pleasure derived from being served and causing pain. BDSM is more of a spiritual journey. One cannot be on this journey alone. The feeling of belonging is strong with BDSM. In fact, that's what drives most of us to join the lifestyle...or better yet, to seek the lifestyle out.
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