What I say about her, says a lot about me.  However, I'm not actively searching at this time.

She would need patience, for I'm a long process.  Integrity, because once your word to me is broken, that's it.  

Self-knowledge, I know me fairly well in some ways.  I do understand a bit of my motivation and reasons for actions and likes.  She should as well.  But believe me, I'm well far from knowing everything.  Just because I do know some things, that doesn't mean I just open up and spill all the beans to everyone.  Even someone I have known for a good while, each new thing that might come up I mostly have to work at expressing.  Or at least expressing it clearly.  I find intimacy seems to need a constant effort and refresher.  Some disagreement, I feel less close, as if intimacy to me brooks no disparity.  (This is actually a new line of thought I had.  And by no means to be taken as accurate or real.)  

She should love music of all types.  Ya, once in a while some country music pops up on my ipod.  Rap a bit more frequently (I so love heavy bass)  Mostly rock (as an umbrella term covering alternative and other closely related genres).  Music-wise, I know some names, but I enjoy the music.  Who made it, what inspired the song, what shaped the artist, even what they look like is wholly irrelevant and uninteresting to me.  Techno I use to cover a few more likes: trance, house, for example.  also musically, I'm a stone.  I don't know what it's genre is, and don't care.  Liking the song, and the feelings they sometimes inspire is the end all, be all for me.  I've never went to a concert and been amazed, but we could blame it on Richard Marx, Weird Al, Clint Black and Tori Amos, I suppose.  If we can listen to each other's music, that to me means we can mostly get along.  If you mention folk-music, Yanni, opera I'd most likely be uninterested.  I didn't really grow up with radio.  I'm not convinced that bands 'underground' are true music.  If it comes on the radio, that's more than enough music I can spend time on and money, without searching for bands 'free from corporation's greed'.

As to books, I do love to read, fantasy predominantly.  A book was the safest place I could find growing up.  I was in one as much as allowed, by school and parents.  The parents didn't approve of reading.  If I wasn't working, I was to be playing.  So, I read when I could.  Even in the army, on a jump or field training, there was most often a book in my right cargo pocket.  People always say there's no time to read.  Got a minute waiting, elevator, even traffic jam?  Pull out a book to fill it, you may find instead of Dharma & Greg, you wish to finish exploring the spooky sex store shop with Duhlma and the gang.

There's lots more to write, words will be.