In[CS1] To those who call themselves submissives or slaves, you are to be cherished not destroyed. It’s important that you find a mentor to help you navigate through dangerous waters. Please don’t think having an internet mentor is appropriate, find yourself someone you can sit down with and discuss your path and the people you chat with online. Otherwise it’s not reality. 99 percent of what you hear online is false so you don’t want to take a chance with your precious life. Manipulation is so easy over the net. Take the time to find out who you’re chatting with. Invest $35 and run a background check, it might just save you life.

You don’t hear about the horror stories on individuals profile because NO ONE wants their dirty laundry aired out. So it’s only human to assume that everyone has their life in order and would adhere to all the BDSM protocols. Now protocols are my sore spot. How do you bow in front of someone over the net but yet you have people whose opening line is “Kneel before me bitch!” or “I’m your Master/Mistress you will do what I say!” Please!!! For that second in time someone thinks they have power over you but then you turn off the computer and life goes back to reality. Oh the term “consideration” is extremely bizarre, if your sitting back and waiting for someone to decide if they want to continue in a relationship then that should be a red flag perhaps you need to re-evaluate your online relationship but then is it actually a relationship? You don’t see each other or you just speak over the phone but again reality comes back into play when you hit the “shutdown” button.  One other thing before I close, I remember early in life from personal experience that I was approached by someone who wanted to place me under “protection”. Do you think that my placing such a thing on your profile detours someone with less than admirable intentions to refrain from contacting you? Will that person accompany you on each meeting you arrange so there might be a physical presents to protect you? NO of course not, If and heaven forbid something does happen how do you get to a computer and report what happen expecting that person to PROTECT you? If the offense already happen then it’s to late! Just think if you chose someone out of state to be your protector what have you actually gained? Nothing, your left alone to deal with the consequences by yourself. I suggest that if you want to meet someone you get a hold of, someone local, that you actually have seen and talked too. Give them your phone number, address and arrange for communication at various times through the night. If you miss one call then someone needs to be able to drive to your location and physically check on you. This is your life we are talking about this isn’t a game to play!