Sensual, loving, tantric, open-minded Domme seeks true sub male (will consider a slave) to adore, love & respect Me, possible r/t meets and sessions if you are within a reasonable distance.

Added note: Read My profile in entirety before messaging Me. Perverted messages, one liners, obvious copied/pasted messages and messages with no obvious effort put into them will be deleted with no response from Me.

First and foremost, I value honesty. one should remember that, above all else. I absolutely do not tolerate lying.

That being said, I shall share very honest things about Myself here, in this tiny text box, so that no misunderstandings will ever take place.

I use the nickname ShadowLady here at collarme.com, but I think of Myself as a Goddess, as you should. Nothing pleases Me more than to hear one utter "Goddess" from deep in his throat when he's desperately trying to please Me, when he's begging Me, or when he is lost in the delirium of this lifestyle that we love.

Shadow is appropriate for Me, because even though I've known for many years I am Dominant, I am married and in a semi-vanilla relationship. I think we all know what a torture that can be, and it's not one of the pleasurable kind. I say it's vanilla, because there are limits to what I can achieve with My spouse, though there is no question I do control the household. My spouse could not handle the knowledge of the extent of this lifestyle. I have studied and researched this lifestyle for years and this is no game to Me. This is a need for Me, just as a true submissive has his need. So you might say I am still in the "shadows" to most with the knowledge of what I am, what I enjoy, what I need, what I crave.

Hence, one should understand I am not looking for a houseboy, nor am I looking for a spouse. I am not looking for anyone to support Me or pay My bills. (Though I do expect to be treasured, adored, and spoiled when I am spending time with you.)

If you do not desire to be involved with a Domme/Mistress with a spouse and family, that is quite alright, just ignore My profile and go on to the next. I'm sure you'll find someOne more suitable to your tastes and whims.

If you're looking for a Whore for Hire, I'm sure there are plenty of those in any club or on any downtown street-corner. If you're looking to be teased and fucked- again, find a good club and go for it. This lifestyle is about so much more than sex, and that is what I offer. Moreso, that is what I require.

I require privacy and I expect discretion and responsible secrecy.

I expect respect, admiration, adulation. I AM a Goddess, afterall.

When speaking to Me online, whether it be through a messaging program or email, you should always show your respect for Me by capping My name, whatever form you use, when addressing Me, whether it be Mistress, Goddess, Shadow, Ma'am, or Bitch. And believe Me, I can be a Bitch when you are a bitch. Likewise, you will always lowercase your name. I feel this establishes mental stimulation and understanding of just which of us in control and who is not.

If I ask something of you, no matter how big or small, I expect you to remember it and follow through with it. Nothing bores Me faster than to have one claim to need to serve and please, and then ignore the words I speak.

Intelligence is a huge turn-on for Me, so don't hide it.

Being submissive does not mean being meek, weak, or ignorant. Quite the opposite, in fact, it takes a very strong man to be a true submissive.

I've never had a female submissive, though I do know many. One should "never say never", so perhaps if the right girl were to come along and wanted training or to serve, One never knows what might happen.

In order for a true power exchange to take place, a Dominant and Her submissive need to learn and know each other well. This takes time. This does not happen overnight, in a few emails, or a few phone calls. I repeat, this takes time. If you think you're going to email Me, maybe get a phone call, and meet to get your ass spanked or your balls tied up to get your jollies, then move on... hit that downtown club. I am a Dominant, not a whore. I cannot state that plainly enough.

Collaring. I've yet to actually collar anyone. I would have no problem with a Collar of Consideration, or a Training Collar. A Permanent Collar, however, means to Me something very deep, very emotional. I do understand that submissives crave and have a need to be collared, something material that they can touch and feel around their neck at all times, even when their One isn't present or available to them. I understand the need to feel owned. I look forward to the day when I can ceremoniously place a collar around one's neck with a peace in My heart that he knows, understands and truly feels he is owned by Me.

I think this is enough about Me. Now it's your turn to contact Me and see if you can capture My interest.