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I have left this site, but, I leave my writngs, as they seem to help some. Slaves are for work Roommates are helpful A husband would be wonderful Companions are lovely Paid activities (legal) are possible Entertainment is imperative. Morality is desired. BDSM is life, not sex Do not write to me with requests or offers of serving me, unless you are capable of proving your existence. I'm not here to chat and listen to your fantasies. There are women who get paid for that. Call, or, chat with them! I have journal entries, as well as a profile. Serious inquirers will have read both, before attempting to pursue a relationship. A roommate may be a necessity for me, in a few months. A roommate that is, also, a slave, would be very acceptable. A slave that is a slave would be grand. What's the difference? Well, the roommate pays a fair share of the costs, does a fair share of the work, and, buys groceries for themselves or for us all to share along with mine. A roommate that is a slave may pay more, do more, and, be lightly used for my amusement, but, the payment would be an agreed upon acceptable price, and, they would still have mostly their own schedule, etc. A slave would live by my schedule, as much as possible, and have no free time except what I gifted them with, the money they earned would belong to me (or, they would pay all the bills and purchase all the groceries, anyway), and, the only limits would be my own. Which, to be honest, are usually stricter than a lot of slaves want, so .. Slaves, roommate/slaves, roommates can be either sex, and roommates can be any bdsm orientation (submissive, slave, dom, domme, etc)

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7/1/2011 10:33:52 AM

Oh, a lovely morning conversation:

Me:What sort of property do you hope to be?

"slave":

To be the property of my owner, an it.

Me:

I see. That sounds a bit extreme, for me. I don't like being forced to use the word "it' or to treat people as non-human, just to get them to serve. Besides, I need a slave who will work for wages. Thank you for your time.

"slave": 

Have income and don't need to work outside. I need someone a little more open minded. Thank you.

Me: (But, unsent, because, the c.s. blocked me)

You know nothing about how open minded I am, or not. Therefore, I'd say the same. For one thing, I was not judging you, as you have done with me. I was saying that, although you sounded interesting, we seem to be unsuited, because, you have expectations of treatment which do not coincide with mine and which I would find unacceptable in a slave. 
You see, I don't believe a slave needs to lose their humanity, to be ruled, and, I do not want the sort of slave who wants to be less than human or who believes they are inferior to others, except by position.

The fact that I have my own likes and dislikes does not mean I am close-minded. I can conceive of a slave being an "it", and, I can accept it, if I visit someone who owns an "it", but, I don't have to choose to own one, myself, just to earn some basic respect from someone. Especially someone who does not wish for respect for himself. 

You are awfully insulting and prideful, for an it. lol

Goodbye, faker. 

 

Reminds me of something I recently read in the forum, about how the ones who claim to be open-minded, call you close-minded, and/or make severe demands as to what they deserve, are the ones least likely to deserve what they are asking for. 

What's really annoying is that, if he had been paying attention, he'd have realized that I was not saying anything insulting - I was just telling him why I know we aren't suited and dismissing myself back out of his life. If he hadn't replied, or, if he had simply said his own version of goodbye, I wouldn't have ever written to him, again. Yet, he blocks me as if I was attacking him, for making a simple inquiry and then explaining why my inquiry was done!

This site is full of inexperienced people, with their rich fantasy lives, who think that everything must be uber intense - full of nothing, but, absolute denial, pain, wild sex parties, and, other things that simply cannot be sustained for the duration of a relationship, unless the relationship only lasts a month or less. They cannot conceive of it in terms of reality. 

This man is a case in point. He wants to be an "it", does he? And, yet, he cannot handle the smallest rejection, which is not even about him on a personal level? What would such a person do, when shorn, bound, branded, and, forced into a closet? What would he do when released to clean up his own mess? Straight to the cops and off to right a sensational best seller about his ordeal, is my guess.

You, who have no real experience, better realize that no experience means "no experience". As in, you have no idea how intense a few minutes of time, being seriously deprived, seriously owned, completely out of your own control, and, knowing this is not just a few hours of play, can be. A "normal" day, cleaning the house, going to work, just knowing you are owned, is a totally different, "other" experience, that shakes up your nerves and rattles your brain. 

Fantasy is great, but, it can't really touch reality.

 


7/1/2011 8:37:33 AM

Here's the thing. I talk to slaves - just slaves- who say that they must take their time to get to know me, spend some time chatting, it would be madness to just jump in ... 

WRONG!

Now, mind you, if we were talking about a romantic relationship, I would agree with them. If we were talking about me being given Power of Attorney, or, access to their bank accounts, I would agree with them.

However, I do not want those things from them, and, I have no need to be friends with them, either. They do not need to know more about me, or me about them, than is needed to determine if one is going to hire or be hired.

Maybe a drug test, maybe a background check, would be in order. Certainly, a discussion of skills, experience, and, a contract would be in order. Anything else is overkill and related to fear, a desire to waffle in indecision.

To serve is an occupation, something you need to do, but, it is not necessary for it to START as an emotional connection, anymore than it is necessary for every job interview to end with a marriage proposal.

Hence, me talking to many slaves, who seem to have some potential, and, eventually, telling them no. Mind you, not all of them are rejected for this reason, but, many of them are.  To seek such personal connection, to want to engage me in so much conversation and spending of time together, before service commences, is unseemly; because, I assure you, we will not be spending our time in idle chatter or spooning, once it has started. 


6/30/2011 4:31:44 PM

Sitting on her favorite chair, she relaxed, riffling her toes through his hair, heels resting on his upper back. With a prehensile flourish, she gave his locks a tug; not to catch his attention for an order, but, a gentle reminder not to let his thoughts travel to far from her. 

The slave was inclined toward day dreaming, which was not something she was going to remove from him, completely, because it served her purposes during brainstorming sessions. Instead, she would train him how to sit, pleasantly and quietly, without day dreaming, so as to await her pleasure and, then, of course, to act promptly, once the word was given.

A mirror stood before him, so that she could see his face, when she pleased to look at it. Pain was in his eyes. He'd been kneeling, stuffed partially underneath her chair, for a while now. She knew how his knees ached, how his back tired. He wanted so much to move, or, to beg for release, or, to drift away to escape the pain; yet, he remained in position, accepting the new pain, as it came, whether a pinch or a slap with her rod, reminding him to stay focused. Staying focused made the pain from staying in the same position more real, but, if he drifted into his fantasy world, if she caught him doing it, other pains would follow, and, the time would begin, again. 

Mistress had told him he had only to go a full 10 minutes without losing focus, without a look of day dreaming crossing his face.Such a little thing, to kneel, for a little time, and, to stay focused. It had seemed an easy task, at the start, but, his knees were unused to the pain, and, pain is to be escaped, and, the slave faltered, both early and often.

Now, some time later - he could no longer judge how long it had been - she set the timer, again. His back quivered with the strain, his lips twisted as he forced back the cry that wanted to rip from his throat. Fear was in his eyes, but, they were clear of dreams. It pleased her to see it.

 


6/30/2011 9:12:00 AM

Or, to put it all very simply:

It ain't what you've done, it's what you do; and, it ain't what you do, it's why you do it.


6/30/2011 7:52:26 AM

If I had a slave, I'd need the sort that fell more under the category of "personal assistant", "housekeeper", with some "gardener", and, "handyman" thrown in, for good measure. Mind you, that the slave could cook, do laundry, all that, would be all to the good, but, it's more the keeping track of things, making sure  they get done on time and that the equipment is maintained, and, stepping and fetching, that I'm concerned with.

I like to get things done. I like to progress. 

I am a thinker, and, like many other thinkers, throughout history, I find myself having to choose between allowing myself to be deeply engrossed in the thinking/work that is tugging at my soul, and, staying out in the shallows, where the daily chores of life nag at one. How can I write, as I should write, if I must remember to change the pads on the swamp cooler, check the mail, which pills should be taken when, and, etc? It is madness!

So, what I need is a lovely person, of whatever sex they turn out to be, who is capable of keeping track of things, performing routine maintenance, and, otherwise acting as a buffer against the distractions of the world which will prevent me from doing my writing, painting, and, such.

If I had a husband, I'd need the same.

This is, actually, why I used to be able to serve as a slave, because, the people I was serving valued what I did, and, so, my art, in some way, was part of the service to them and they acted as that buffer, and, so did the other slaves. 

This is, also, something you need to understand about dominant people (as opposed to people who want to dominate). They look at the whole situation, assess it, and, accept, deny, change things, or adapt. It is no dishonor to serve, if serving helps you to reach your goals, or, if it is done out of love, or, if it is done out of necessity. Those who wish to dominate see it as dishonor, as, they feel they must rule others to have any worth. Those who are dominant, their worth is inside them, whether they are the King, or, the person cleaning his privy. 

I do like playing about with cages, whips, objectification, sensory deprivation, ordering people about - but, to me, all that is just play, unless, it is a planned part of the disciplinary process. by which the slave learns its tasks and protocols, as well as broadens its horizons. So, yes, if I had a slave, those things would be some part of its life. To what degree they would be, however, depends on the personality of the slave and what sort of mood I'm in. 
I am not into abuse, I am not a sadist. I have a sadistic streak, in that, sometimes, pain amuses me and sometimes it amuses me to give it. I do not need it, however, to make me feel complete. I am complete.

Strangely, however, being complete does not mean that one is not adaptable, that one views oneself as perfect. I know there are things that could be changed, physically - health-wise and looks-wise - and, i have fairly good ideas how to go about it. Which is part of what else the slave would be welcomed for.

What I do not need a slave for is sex. Now, mind you, I like sex. I want sex. However, for me, it's about quality. I don't want just any sex with anybody. There has to be trust, respect, love, as well as desire, or, it doesn't really do anything for me. The temporary satisfaction of release, presuming the man is even good enough for there to be one, is quickly overshadowed by the lack of the other things. I want love, wild romance, and, for the sex - kinky or otherwise - to be an offshoot of that, in a relationship as fully sanctioned by God as possible.

So, if a slave were to serve me, it would be a non-sexual relationship. Many people have trouble understanding this, and, think that it means they'd have to be in chastity, or, that I want to watch them having sex with others, or, other things that are equally wrong.  It only means that I won't be having sex with anyone I am not married to, and, I will not marry someone I do not love and respect, and, believe feels the same for me.

Slaves who want to be in chastity can have the device and put it on. I don't care. Slaves who want to have sex with other slaves, or, who are done with their tasks and are allowed time for themselves and want to find a sex partner, can do those things. I don't care. Just don't go rubbing on my leg, waving things in my face, pleading for it, or, otherwise annoying me with your sex drive, as I do not care.

If you were my slave, and, I found that I did care, then, we'd have to see where things went from there; but, that is so unlikely to happen! I met two slaves, on here, that I would consider as potential husband material. One doesn't want that sort of relationship with anyone (trauma of heartbreak), the other is someone I would consider, now, but, I wouldn't have, back when I  knew how to find him. There is also one Circle K employee, one manager of a vitamin shop, one crippled Scotsman, one broken-hearted Englishman, and, one annoying alleged dominant, who I would gladly take the time to consider. However, they are, in that order: taken, taken, attempting to be noble because they are dying, broken-hearted, and, strangely absent from CM as well as bloody unlikely to move to Tucson. 
The reason I would consider them is that they all have that certain something, that force of personality, twinkle to their eye, and, they all like me, though one of them spent his time pretending that he did not.  And, that goes for the slaves, as well. They were both very sure of who and what they are, capable, efficient young men, who were glad to be men and did not see themselves as inferior, but, who wanted to serve me, anyway. Lovely! 

 


6/30/2011 6:24:51 AM

No, I do not believe in female supremacy. If I did, I'd only allow females to serve me. Like I said, before, and, will probably say again: personality is everything!

Like I, also, said before: If you cannot feel owned, because you sleep in a comfortable bed, are allowed to eat chocolates and drink champagne, and, have other people to order about, then, you are not really a slave. Just as, if you cannot know your own mind and will, and, make your own choices, while under the authority of others, you are not a dominant. 

It doesn't matter what your current position is, how successful you've been in business or love, what you look like, or, anything else. Not all dominants are served, not all submissives get to serve. Sometimes they even find themselves in the opposite positions. So, it's not as easy to figure out what people are, as you think, without learning to recognize the tell-tale signs and remembering to observe them.

Most dominants, not just abusive people but actual dominants, do not make you go "Wow! They sure are angry." It is not flashy, leather clad, b.s.  It is quieter, more irritating, because, when they are around, you find yourself noticing them, paying attention to them, doing things for them and feeling as if they demanded it. Therefore, if someone inspires you to gripe "Why should you always get everything your way?" at work, and, you can stop and think it over and realize that, no, they have not been acting like a brat, blackmailing you,  physically threatening you, etc., but, for some reason they make you feel that way, anyway, then, probably they are a dominant person.

I used to get that at work, all the time. "Why do we have to do things your way?" someone would ask. And, I'd point out that I never said we did. "That doesn't matter," they'd say "because, everyone knows you think you're right and expect us to do it your way."  and I'd say "I know this is right, because, the facts support it. I expect you to do what is right. If I was wrong, I'd expect you to prove it." and, they'd say "Oh no. You're right. We'll do it your way. Just don't see why you have to bully people and be a bitch about it!"

In High School, I had a horrible time, because, everyone assumed I was a slut. Everyone assumed I was a slut, because, most of the boys had raging hard-ons and followed me around like puppies, many of the girls dropped their books and quaked at the knees if I looked them in the eyes, and, the people they were dating, or, who were jealous because they wanted to date me, would fly into rages, spread rumors .. It's hard to convince people you are not a slut, you know, when fever-eyed young men pop out of alleyways, to cum on your shirt tail, as you pass by. But, mostly, I stayed home, quietly, and, read. Or, of course, I served my Master, as I did have one back then. 

He pointed out to me, that, despite what all the allegedly dominant people kept telling me, in hopes that I'd believe them, I am not submissive, not really slave material, not a switch, either, but, as he put it, "something Else, altogether." And, it was always with a capital E.

My daughter's girlfriend is a submissive. She's confused on this issue, and, likes to pretend she's in control. My daughter likes to let her pretend it, too. When it comes to attachment, it might even be true, in that my daughter is more emotionally invested in the relationship. That's how we are, in my family, though. If we love you, you are everything - until you screw it up, and, then, you are nothing. Otherwise, you see, my daughter is a constant, quiet source of irritation for the girl. She (the gf) hates going to work, because, she has to leave her gf at home, hates to hear of something she wants because she feels like a failure if she cannot provide it, feels guilty if my daughter cooks her food .. but, she doesn't know what to do with these feelings, because, she thinks, since she is an outgoing sort of person who is good at her job, who is more butch where my daughter is more feminine, that it means she is more dominant than my daughter. 

One must observe the actual personality, contemplate what one's motivation is, and, then, accept what one is. If it has to be forced, if you cannot relax into the role, then something is off. Either you are not who you think you are, or, they (whomever is serving or ruling you) is not who you think they are.

 


6/29/2011 12:07:01 PM

Well, they were all lined up, before I clicked to post it (below), so, muddle through or don't.


6/29/2011 12:06:14 PM

Where are all the weirdos? As in the people who watched Mystery Men and laughed and laughed and said "Dude, I've so been there!", or, "That so reminds me of the time .."

Being spanked, taking a dildo up your butt, having sex with random strangers, etc. does not make you fascinating, weird, exciting, or, even remotely unusual. Either does wearing leather, diapers, spandex garter belts, or, drinking tea out of someone else's anus. Those are party tricks, to wow people who are so boring that they think it does make one interesting to witness it, much less to do it.

When you can sit still and mesmerize or engage people with your conversation, if you can knock their socks off and keep them on their toes without removing your clothes or a whip being wielded in any direction, then, you are fascinating. Of course, you may not be weird, regardless, but, at least you'll be interesting.

For future reference, my standards run something like this:


WEIRD                        INTERESTNG                  OBNOXIOUS              BORING

Alice in Wonderland  Little House Books          James Michener Modern romance novels

Craig Ferguson David Letterman             Howard Stern           Jay Leno 

Mystery Men            Stargate                          Devil's Rejects           The Roommate

Ghouls                      Elves                               Witches                     Fairies

The Gunslinger         Lord of the Rings             The Silmarillion           James Michener

Pee Wee Herman    Will Smith                         Jack Black                   Robert Duvall

Alice Cooper         David Bowie                 Marilyn Manson          Hip Hop

Pushing Daisies       The IT Crowd                    Melrose Place             NCIS

Bones                      Criminal Intent                  Soap Operas             NCIS

 

 

Okay, that's enough of that! 

And, for those who are about to write and, oh so obnoxiously ask a) whose standards I am applying: mine b) where do I get off setting those sort of rules: my own journal entry, into my own life c) how could I possibly say that about .... (whichever): because, it's how I feel. 

Be off with ye and raffle yer doughnut, if you've got problems with that.


6/29/2011 10:18:15 AM

Cruel +Sadistic + sex +cuckoldry = game playing, not dominance.

Now, mind you, a dominant person can enjoy playing at mistreating others, sexing them up, cheating on them, because there is nothing that says dominant people cannot be those things. It's just that there is nothing that says they all are, or, must be.


6/28/2011 11:37:28 AM

Questions for you, the slave potential:

A) Are you religious?

  •  If so, what religion?
  •  What are the requirements for time, eating restrictions, etc. that you would need?
  • Would it prevent you from reading, attending meetings with, being cordial to, people who are religious/are of other religions?
  • Do you believe that God exists? 
  • Do you believe that Jesus is God or is part of the same being that is God?
  • Do you believe that Jesus died for our sins? And, is that a good thing?
  • Do you celebrate any of the major holidays? Which ones? Why?
B) What do you view as the primary functions of a slave?
C) What are your financial obligations? (Itemized)
D) What is your monthly income?
E) How would either financial income or obligations be affected by your move to Tucson?
F) Are you interested in being a husband, who is treated as a slave? 
G) Do you want to be my sex toy? Full time or part time?
H) Are you into cross dressing or being sissified? 
There will be more questions, later, more than likely.

6/28/2011 10:55:35 AM

To further clear things up:


I would never marry someone spineless. That includes men who grovel, claiming they are worthless, and, it damned sure includes men who are going to bellow and insist that I am worthless.

I enjoy the company of men who are confident, upbeat, weird as mint flavored hats, teeming with personality, not teeming with vermin or bacteria, and, who serve out of strength of will, are served out of strength of will, or, can live as equals, out of strength of will.

Limp handshakes, timid postures, political correctness, groveling, whining, clinginess, constant bids for approval disgust me, around the same amount as do anger, loss of self control, making excuses for desires, seeing other people being treated to a loss of dignity, being treated in an undignified manner, liars, hypocrites, and, people who do not stand by their alleged stances or convictions.

So, roll your eyes and look shocked, and, claim that I cannot possibly be a dominant female, simply because I can respect a dominant male. It means nothing to me, beyond your having wasted my time.

If you cannot understand that domination can also be all about teaching, leading, guiding, providing for, and, protecting, and it is not all about crushing the will of others, oppression, punishment, viewing yourself as better or someone else as lesser, then you are too stupid, close-minded, or misinformed,  to serve me, be served by me, or, be me friend, anyway. Not to mention that you obviously have a low moral character, bad social stance, and, a horrible personality, which I do not, and, never would, welcome in my life.

He said "Come."  I followed.

She said "Kneel." I knelt.

That is as it should be, with a dominant and a submissive or slave. Its not activity, it's not superiority versus inferiority by sex, age, race, or, any criteria one may think of, It is simply life, as yourself.

 


6/28/2011 1:15:25 AM

Reality check: 

Owners of slaves have, in times past, hobbled them by breaking their ankles; cut off their noses; branded them so that they could not pass as free men and so that no one else could steal them; forced the slaves to live in a naked or almost naked state - to name a few things.

These were not things the slaves volunteered for, looked forward to, or, spoke of, later, with pride - except, perhaps, pride in their endurance.

There were not things that were done out of love or any noble or beneficent feeling toward the slave, but, they were done out of fear and greed.

Persons who volunteered to be slaves, or, who were slaves from the same tribe or country, who were working off a debt, were not, as a general rule, treated in such a manner; and, in many cases, even slaves who had started out as enemies of the country they slaved in, were treated with respect and dignity, so long as they behaved as a slave should.

The majority of slaves who existed, throughout all of known history, spoke, walked upright, acted as the men and women they were born to be, and, were allowed some measure of freedom, dignity, health, and self-respect. Even in America, even in the southern states, many slaves had their own property, a reasonable amount of work to do, some time to spend with family and friends, times of laughter, treats from their owners, clothes to wear, and, shelter over their heads when they slept. 

So, do not come to me with crap about how a true slave must be branded, beaten, used sexually, forced into chastity, never allowed dignity, never allowed privileges, never to see anyone from their old life, should never speak, should always be tortured every day. 

History does not take your side, in this argument.

Slaves who sought to be owned, for their own purposes, did not seek out owners who would treat them horribly, so that they could "feel" owned. They put themselves into someone's hands, and, they knew they were owned. Even if the person gave them a bed, a workload that was light, and, allowed them to eat dinner at their table, they knew they were owned.

If you are seeking to be owned, because you wish to serve, then, perhaps you should be a slave. If you are seeking to "feel" owned, by being tortured and abused, you are not only not a slave, but, you have nothing to do with bdsm, as it is intended. 

I don't say that this is so, because bdsm has nothing to do with pain. It can have a lot to do with pain. It is the dishonesty, the pretense at being a slave, that sets you outside of bdsm. The entire point of bdsm is to know yourself and live honestly as the person you were born. 
If your motivation is pain, then seek pain, but, do not claim to be a slave. It wastes the time of the people who want slaves and who want to serve as slaves, and, that's just rude! 

Ditto if your motivation is to be sexually used by someone else, to have an excuse to grovel at their feet so you can lick them while you are down there, if you crave isolation, or, etc.

Slaves desire to SERVE, to do for others, to give, to please, to accomplish tasks and end with a job well done. That is their motivation. 

Do not speak to me of being my slave, unless, likewise, that is your motivation - and, then, when you do speak to me of it, speak as a sane and rational person, who understands that he or she is a full fledged human being, who has the right to choose what sort of slavery they give themselves into. None of this "Slave's are not allowed limits.", because, that's bullshite.  

And, do not expect me to govern over every last little minute of your day, every last little hint of a hard-on, because, quite frankly, it's a dire waste of my time - and, the purpose of having slaves is to increase profits and production through having more manpower. The other purpose, should the slave have a talent, is to be entertained by their singing, dancing, writing, or, what have you.

So, get it straight: if you are going to serve me, you will be pleasant, companionable, hard working, and, amusing. END OF STORY.

 


6/27/2011 7:52:12 PM

For future reference: 

Roommates are people who help pay bills, do at least some of the work, have their own sex lives, sometimes act companionable and watch a movie with you, etc. 

Slaves are workers, who earn or save money for their owners by their labors.

I am open to a blend of the two, or, an out and out slave.

I am not interested in sex with you, whoever you are, because, we are not married and I am not a slut. 

Thank you for your understanding. 


6/27/2011 6:28:33 PM

At 6:27 pm, I just deleted 106 emails


6/27/2011 1:36:45 AM

I just deleted 653 emails from this site, today, so, talk to me about time wasters! lol


6/26/2011 11:31:45 PM

THIS SHITE:

"Hello Maam - Your profile has attracted me to contact You. 

 

Your domination and control of me is what is most important. my inner core is something that is to be shared with You completely without refrain, and if You choose i am to be leveraged to maximize Your pleasure and my benefit to You. The complete control of my mind and all related aspects of my body (i.e. internal and external) is not to be negotiated but is a given. i am aware of the need to explore me in all ways with many activities. my deepest thoughts and body are to be fully provided.

 

i believe that a special and intense relationship can be realized with a dominant who can maximize my true submissiveness.  One who is experienced and knowledgeble will be able to understand my complexity and play it like a fine tuned instrument.  Although subordinate to Your acceptance of me of course, i can best serve One who is dominant, intelligent, compassionate, resourceful, caring, witty, knowledgeable, demanding in edge ways, and is sensual. i have a strong cognitive thirst for servitude, knowledge, and experiences of all types. W/we can explore new things together. But, i also know the pleasures I would give You will ultimately satisfy my need of being controlled. In addition, this is not something I can turn off but is who I am.

 

As for me, i am a man who is very open minded, flexible, adaptable, and learn very quickly. my vanilla and D/s interests and capabilities are broad and diverse. Open, continual, and informative communication is essential. i anticipate that You may choose to push me as we move forward and i will do what is necessary to please You, for my obedience is not negotiable. It must be provided. Training in many disciplines may be required, and even those that may be very personal in nature (such as intense assplay, queening, bathoom training, ingestion of different fluids, watersports indoors and out, medical, tampon training, and many other things). these things are not necessarily desired and they are not hard limits, but if You require them they are certainly possible. They could be quite powerful. For instance, i could understand that the act of peeing in front of You into a vessel or glass and then having to drink it on a continual basis would be quite controlling and would get to the core of my willingess to submit.

 

i hope this has provided You with more insight of me Maam, and has allowed You to enter my mind. I am so eager to chat with You. I truly feel like a school boy who is beside himself.  I do hope You were pleased with a more in depth introduction.

 

respectfully,
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P.S. I have a yahoo id if desired. If You prefer to contact me there for more interactive communication that would be fine Maam, just let me know and i can provide You my id and i do have cam."

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That's not a FIRST email that I am prepared to read, much less believe in.


6/26/2011 10:25:31 AM

There are two basic kind of dominants, as there are two basic forms of fear. Likewise, there are their counterparts, the two basic kinds of submissives, whether they call themselves slaves or subs.

The first, most common form of dominant, is one who rules from fear and anger. That is what motivates them, because, it is what they feel, and, that is how they motivate others, because, it is what they understand. 

The fear they use for motivation is very tactile, seeable, understandable. With shrieks and bellows, they come at one, tearing out hair, kicking ribs, doing injury, even over little wrongs, and, so, one learns to fear the triggers that release this anger, including the unknowable. They are people who are out of control, liable to do anything, if you do not do exactly what pleases them. So, when you are with them, you tend to be dominated by fear of their insane actions. They tend to make intricate lists of rules, impossible demands of perfection, and, otherwise set one up for failure, so that they have an "excuse" to "punish" you.

Now, this is probably great fun for their counterpart submissive types, who really want to be kicked in the ribs, because, it is how they were raised so that it make them feel loved, or, because, they know they did something so wrong hhat they feel the kick is an atonement, or, because of whatever other head game of fear and anger that is playing out inside their skulls. Oh yes, it can be intensely exciting, unpredictable, and, for some, just what they "deserve". It doesn't, however, work so well for the other sort of submissive, even if they are into pain. 

The second type of dominant is something else, altogether. They do not rule from fear and anger, they rule out fear and anger. At least, they rule out the fear that is base, about the flesh alone. The flesh, to them, is a tool, for building, learning, disciplining to perform well, and, punishing when the mind has become disloyal.

They do not shriek, nor do they bellow, as a general rule. They do not attack one or discipline one when n an emotional state of anger or fear. They do not make excuses, or rules that are impossible to follow, so that they can beat one. They make rules, expect obedience, and, if they wish to inflict pain, because they are feeling sadistic, they say so, with no quibbling or pretense. The fear that one feels for them is based on their own lack of real fear in the face of danger, their keen mind, the possibility of their displeasure, the horror of the possible loss of their affection. 

Now, these dominants are wonderful to serve, if service is what you truly want to give. They will cherish one, but, without giving weakly in to their submissive's every whiim. They will guide one, punish one when one is naughty, but, without instilling a feeling of worthlessness. Therefore, they would not do for someone who wishes to feel worthless, but, they would do quite nicely for someone who wishes to be of use.

A fine example of the two forms of dominance on display can be found by renting 'Braveheart'.

Longshanks is the first form of dominant spoken of. He had real power over people, yes; but, he was not ruling for the good of the people, but, out of fear of losing his position, either then, for himself, or, later, as his legacy that would be passed down to future generations.

William Wallace is the second form of dominant spoken of. He was not born into a position of power, he did not seek out power, and, he certainly did not attempt to rule people. Instead, he was sought out, by those who recognized him for what he was; and, he was put into a position of leading, by circumstance - he being the one who was there, who had the strength and lack of fear to act, and, who could see what needed to be done.

When Longshanks was followed, it was out of respect for his position of authority, out of fear for what he could and would do if one failed to obey, and, out of greed and a desire for reward.

When William Wallace was followed, it was out of respect for the man who had been given the position of authority based on his own merits, because of admiration of his ideal, awe of his strength and strategy, and, love of the man, himself. He did not have the resources of an entire country at his disposal. He had 'Right' on his side, and, the natural force inside him to give people reason to believe that he could make a change for the better in their lives. 

If one were to take it to the Biblical level, one would say that Satan and God reflect the two forms of dominance. Unless, one were to say, instead, that the two forms of dominance reflect the qualities of Satan and God. Hmm .. 

Satan obviously has power, some authority, and, is feared for same. The fear is based on the horrific things he has done, will do, is capable of. He is followed based on lies he has told, and/or out of that fear, and/or, out of greed of what he may bestow on one, or, for other purely selfish motives, which give temporary slaking of lust, but, no real joy. Great fun for the shallow people, who want to use and abuse flesh, then.

God has power and authority, but, he does not wield it in a destructive manner, except in defense of his own people, and, not often, even then. He never lies to them. He teaches what his slaves should do to keep themselves happy and healthy, he promises punishment for disobedience, and, he puts trust in them, as valued members of his household, to serve because they want to serve. Those who serve him, they fear, most, failing him. 

On another level, the dominants could be likened, in type, to the fist being like a school yard bully, and, the second type being the school yard T.A.  Both always have their following, and, are seen to have merit, by different people. Yet, the people who love the T.A. for helping them figure out how to get on the slide without bumping their chin, are not going to love being watched over by the bully; and, the people who love to watch the bully act tough and steal lunch money, are not going to love the T. A., who makes them give the lunch money back. 

The point being that, if you are a dominant, you need to know what sort of dominant that you are and why, so that you can seek out the submissive type that wants your form of domination. And, of course, if you are a submissive, it is imperative that you know what sort of submissive you are, and, pay very close attention to what sort of dominant you are dealing with, because, while they may be unhappy to find out you are the wrong sort for them, when all is said and done, it is your flesh, finances, and, every other aspect of your life on the line. So, choose wisely!

 


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