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| It's good to shake things up every once in a while. Rewriting one's profile is just like shaking off the dust, and polishing things so that the real can shine out on it's own.
I am a 54 year old married white male. It is an open poly marriage. I am happy in this marriage as is my wife so I am not looking to leave her but rather add to our lives.
I am a strict Dom, and even stricter Master. I demand respect, thoughtful obedience. I am not someone whose first recourse is to head for a whip, or a paddle to enforce my will, because if I need to go to that point, I have either lost the respect of those who look to me, or something is going on with my sub/slave.
I am an old fashioned kind of gentleman in many ways, I try to be polite, calm, kind, and concise in what I say and do. I want the same in others, especially those who claim they are mine.
Any fool can swing a whip and cause fear of punishment to bring obedience, but it takes strength of presence to command that obedience from some one willingly. I like to think I am that person, and to date I have not had reason to doubt it.
I am not looking for someone who is going to call me Master, or Sir right out of the gate. Those titles are need to be earned from those who look to me. To make them want to say those titles, to know that that is exactly how they see you, as their master, or their Sir. Too many bandy those words about so often that they are almost meaningless. To me they are not.
I am looking for a female submissive or slave to come into my life and join me in my explorations. This may at some point in the future include joining our poly household if there is the right connection, and all are willing.
So if you find this interesting write me. If you get a message from me and you are not interested please at least respond with a polite no thank you. I promise the same for you.
Curious?
Let's talk.
Now if you have read all that, then please add the word cantrip to the first line of your first message to me. It's just proof that you have actually read my profile completely. (Yeah we have phishers and scammer making the rounds again here too.)
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Suffering the fallout of being a gentleman again. You speak politely, coherently, and not come off as a dick in an initial message and more often than not you either get ignored, or misjudged. After all how can a Dom be strict, and authoritarian if they are not forceful, and overly direct in their first message. Yet you read profile after profile of those who object having to call someone Master or Sir in the first message. Ok thats a bit unfair, there is a happy medium in the middle there, but doesn't that take all the play out of it? One can be ploite and still be in charge. You can be forceful and direct a conversation without demanding this or that. Maybe i should just start contacting people with the opening line "You now belong to me slave, prepare to be dominated by the greatest master in the universe. Bow down and worship me!!!!" Or is that just a little over the top? LOL |
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The problem with long distance relationships is the whole long distance part. I think I am living in a void area of the community here. |
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We humans have a tradition that we enact at the dawn of each new year. We set before ourselves resolutions that we fully intend will change and empower our lives and our selves throughout the year to come and beyond. These goals we set can be lofty, and inspiring “loosing weight, quitting smoking, going back to school, finding a better job,etc..” but while well meaning all too often they fall by the wayside as real life steps in and throws it's own set of stumbling blocks in the new path we choose to stride. As the year goes on and it's end draws closer we look at what we wanted, what we said we were going to do, and set our sights on the next year to once again strive to bring about those changes in hopes that next time will be the time it happens, the time we can change for the better.
But New Year Resolutions are only as strong as the will behind them.
Along with every day life there are so many things that make us back step into the old familiar patterns that we have vowed to move beyond. Of these things stress and drama are perhaps the most trying of them all. Without our realizing it these sap our will, and tire our spirits draining away much of the energy we could best use elsewhere in bettering our lives and ourselves.
To that end I find my resolutions this year to be markedly different from those I have made over the years before.
This year I resolve that I am the star on my own stage of life and the only others who share that limelight are my family and true friends, for everyone else, well we will not be the bit player in other peoples dramas.
This year I resolve that I am done with the liars in the world and the lies they tell to others and worse to themselves. If you are not real in your intentions or your promises then you are not real to me, so be real or be gone.
This year I resolve to be done with the gamers and the games they play in life for their own ends and their not caring of the consequences. My family, my friends, and myself are not a resource for others to be drawn upon or moved around the game board for the betterment of another's position.
This year I resolve to put that which has passed behind me and look further to the future than remind myself of the past. My past has taught me a lot, many lessons that have made me the man I am today, both for the good and the bad. Somewhere along the way I got drawn into the trap of wishing for the good old days while not seeing all the good that surrounds me in the present. No more.
And lastly this year I resolve to have the will to not let my compassion make me deviate from that which I have resolved above. I will always be here to help my friends and family, but now is the time for me to become more selective of who shares those titles.
After those resolutions there will be those of you on my feeds who will read them and will wonder how I see them, and if any of this pertains to them. If you find yourself wondering this then I say first look within and ask yourselves if you think it pertains to you, because if you think I see you that way then perhaps your conscience is trying to tell you something.
As for those who actually are who I think of them in the above, (the liars, the cheats, the gamers, the users, the takers, the unreal...) well you'll know as I unfriend/delete/block you from this social media or that. To those who will disappear from my life after that I wish you well in your life, may you find the happiness and peace that you seek, but please do not seek to steal any more of mine.
Happy New Year!
I have to add one other resolution. Bigots, be gone. I respect your right to freedom of speech, and freedom of expression as granted by our wonderful bill of rights, but I deny you the permission to do it in my vicinity, or that of my children. I choose to bring them up with an open mind and glad hearts, take your ugliness elsewhere. |
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Just told a phone salesperson to "Suck my dick. No. I Mean it. Drop. On your knees and pucker up." The interesting part is they didn't hang up. - Yup, going to be an interesting day. LMAO |
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I find it interesting that I am frequently misjudged based upon my outward appearance and manners. That somehow I lack that definitive toughness that some associate with the ideal Dom or Master. It's almost comical to watch their reactions when push comes to shove and away goes the likable, amiable, jovial fellow and suddenly they are facing off with the confidence and steadfastness that only a few moments ago they were oblivious to. That look on their face when they realize what they are facing was always there, just not seen through their preconceptions of what they pictured me to be. Priceless. |
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Up till 3 helping a friend through some life issues. Ok, that's what friends are for. Up at 6 to take care of things. Ok that's what being an adult is about. Waking up with a splitting headache, a sore throat, and a nice cough... Hey Karma, didn't you get it mixed up a little? |
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Tonight some research took me into old journal entries and news paper articles stemming from the 1800's through the early 1900's. After reading the turn of phrase those from that age utilized I can not help but think that something is very lacking in our treatment the English language in modern day. Is this the hallmark that comes from ensuring that everyone has a basic literacy which seems keen to pare down the spoken and written word into it's most efficient (and almost sterile seeming) sentence form?
Seemingly gone from modern literature is the heart of the written word, leaving a shallow and almost pale husk that lacks the richness which was the hallmark of that bygone era. Even technical papers from that day and age provided a sense of life that made the information almost a pleasure to read, a stack contrast to the mechanical and rigid reporting form used currently that makes most researchers grind their teeth as they wade trough cold hard facts, and charts.
Even modern day erotica suffers from this rampant sterility. The difference between the writing style of that era and this day is as apparent as comparing your favorite modern day novel against the assembly instructions for a lawn mower engine. If you need an example try reading a copy of Lady Chaterley's Lover. (it can be found here in PDF form if it interests you http://www.planetebook.com/ebooks/Lady-Chatterlys-Lover.pdf)
So why am I writing on this subject? I bid you to think about the following. The command of the spoken word is part and parcel to the power of a Dom. It is from those words that we guide our submissive or slave to where we want them to be. We may use many physical tools to discipline or train, give pain or pleasure, but it's from each command or rebuke that gives meaning to each stroke. And mind don't discount their power in that each word can impact a sub as sharp and stinging at the tip of a lash, while each word of praise a soft caress or loving touch. This verbal projection of power marks the difference between a Dom and an enthusiastic amateur. After all any fool can pick up a whip or a cane and raise welts on the tender flesh of their subject and call whatever brutality they administer training, or forcing submission, but a true Dom knows when a word will work as well if not better than a blow, and how each word spoken can magnify the moment beyond the expected.
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I think one of the most profound things I have heard recently is the truism that the most confused we ever get is when we're trying to convince our heads of something our heart knows is a lie. Deep down I have known this since the realization that life is not a fairy tale and does not always have a happy ever after ending. Perhaps this is why I still believe in the impossible, and chase my dreams, to ever defy the reality that follows us, and to spit in the eye of reality. |
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I've come to the resolute conclusion that here, like everywhere else in the online world courtesy has gone from dying to residing at the brink of death's door. Does it cast so much effort that a simple response to a polite message is beyond what others can give? Am I the only Dom who thinks that if you are seeking to be someone else s you should at least have the understanding what politeness or courtesy is or how important a quality it is in what we seek?
Gah! |
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So all my plans have fallen apart for my upcoming birthday. Any female subs or slaves looking to explore with a sane Dom next weekend, or sometime that following week? |
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When i moved to PA I made myself a promise that I would be doing more for myself, rather than for others. While I tried that I found that life had other ideas for me. Oh it gave me a break, a breather of sorts but more and more I've been encountering those who wish to fly but whose wings have been clipped or even broken by others.
While I am a Dom, I am not a cold hearted bastard. Hell no good Dom can be that if they wish to earn, or keep the trust of those who look to him as his submissive or slave. Just as I can no more turn my back on those who are hurt than I can stop eating or breathing. But altruism has it's limits. I'm not going down that road again where I find myself left hanging in the breeze but those who want all and wish to give nothing back.
So far this negative side of things has not been the case with those who I have encountered and are under my protection. But I worry that I will lead more with my heart than with my head, and give in to the old pattern that left me wounded me in the past. Yes Dom's can be hurt too.
Enough of this whining though. Come and be fixed little one's the doctor is in, just be sure you know I shall collect my fee.... <Evil grin.>
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Still so many fakes on here. After 1 message saying it's better to contact them through Yahoo, or somewhere else off site. Using S/N's with no profile, or just created, and by the end of the first convo has them saying I'll come see you/move to you/ etc... but I have no job and can't afford it, can you help me?
The answer to that if you and I have not met first and you have showed yourself to be a real person that really wants to take it to the next level, the answer is going to be a resounding no.
So, if you are in any way going to write me, or return a message from me don't even think of bringing up the subject of money, or paying you ticket/gas costs. Right now my greatest pleasure I'm getting from this site is having profile nuked by the people who run the site, and dropping IP info, routings, and hash data to those who know what to do with it to find scammers to block them and to even prosecute them. |
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What this site truly needs is a way for users to verify other users as real to weed out the bots, the hidden dating site pointer profiles, and the obviously fake profiles of self professed newbies or amateurs with obviously professional grade photographs attached. |
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So another month until my birthday and another year to add to the number that seems to define who I am in so many minds. Hah, honestly if people would take the time to know who is behind this profile and the cold facts listed in it they might just find something more interesting than fantasy.
As for the bots and scammers on here, if your going to write me than tell me how hot I am and direct me to a h o t m a i l account that then recommends that I contact you on fling, or some other site from there give it up. All your doing is wasting bandwidth.
Enough ranting.... onto the looking....
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It is an interesting online that sometimes your worth in terms of knowledge and social value can be determined by the quanity and quality of those who reside upon your ban list, and the frequency that you end up on others for defending those who you know to be right... LOL |
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Saying what needs to be said is easy. Not listening to the stupidity that bounces back... even easier. Educating the idiots... damn near impossible.
Add another couple of names fo tools to the list...
ROFL |
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When you write someone to open a conversation is it ridiculus to expect a response, even a thank you but no thank you?
Obvoiusly I must be mistaken that courtesy or manners are something that any sub or slave need to show to even be considered. So is this failure of civility just that a failure, or a demonstration that someone seeking to be sub or slave to another has a defiant streak that screams stay away to those who are so graced by their submissiveness that they deign to respond to a message with something other than silence.
Recently of the few I have tried to contact through here only one had the decency of responding. A woeful average.
TO the other dom's out there I ask this:
Is nota submissive and or slave is supposed to be of all things at least should be polite to those they are in contact with, or contacted by. Mind I am not saying that they have to submit to bow down and submit to anyone or everyone on the first hint of a message, after all compatability and attraction are key notes in both sides of this dynamic, but what does this lack say about the person written. When they whine all over their profile they are looking for someone to honor, and respect, serve, or whatever and they want to be considered, only then fail to show even the most common of courtesy when someone politely and intelligently replies to their posted pleas.
If one can not find that simple decency to respond to a politely written message, then does that person deserve what they say they are seeking? Or is it worse and they are just another fake, or bot looking to scam someone?
It is almost enough for one to loose faith that there is anyone on this site who is actually who they say they are.
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I've long wondered what people on this site are looking for in reality. Everyone says they want a real person, not a fake, yet if that is what they seek why do they shy away when contacted?
Then there are the others, the one's who look at your profile, and add you to their favorites list but are too timid to write, or answer when written to.
Where are the real people, the ones who are interested in actually trying to find someone? WHo are willing to take a little risk and perhaps meet halfway in just replying to a message.
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Growls at the keyboard...
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Relocation is a pain in the ass, but nessecary at times. This state has lost it's appeal in so many ways that it's time to get out and move west to a nice area of PA. I'll be signing the lease in a short time, and be out of here come mid-June. Maybe I'll find what I've been seeking there. |
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Masks, everyone has them, we all wear them, but why can't we take them off when even dealing with ourselves. Is it so hard for people to be whom they claim to be. Is it so hard to be who you are that we lie even to ourselves?
Honesty starts with one's self... I mean how can you be something to someone else if you don't even know who you are or try to be?
Wanted: Sub/slave who is true to self, as well as those they give themselves to.
Are you even out there?
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It's amazing what you can find falling into your life, and how much you seek never seems to arrive... While one might adopt the title of master it doesn't mean that one has few needs, or that controsl all that is around them. Control is a gift that is given to us by those who trust us, and sincerely wish to submit, and that sincerity seems to be an elusive thing. Is it wrong to seek someone to be who they claim to be, and wants what they say they want? Is it so wrong to hope that you will find someone like that? |
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| Age: 30 |
| South bay,
California |
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