My name is James, and I'm the author of female-orgasm-denial.tumblr.com - the number one female orgasm denial blog in the world, apparently (just ask Google).

I've had a profile here for years but haven't really used it recently. I thought I'd give Collarspace another chance and update my details to see who's new here.

I absolutely love orgasm denial. I love the intensity of keeping someone denied, horny, frustrated, needy. I adore how it brings out new desires in you, how it makes you want to be more submissive, the way it opens your mind to new experiences.

Collarspace has a wonderful, if often crazy, mix of members, so I thought I'd put out a list of what I'm looking for and see if anyone bites.

• Women who are new to BDSM but have an interest in orgasm denial and wish to be denied and for it to be used to take them deeper into the submissive experience
• Women in relationships who wish to be secretly dommed but also who are interested in subtly teaching their partner to become more dominant
• Submissive couples who both wish to be kept in chastity (the male partner would have his cock caged and I would be the keyholder).
• Dominant women who secretly love the idea of being denied orgasm, whether to indulge a switchy side or just to have some fun with another dom who knows what he's doing
• Attractive trans girls who want their boi clits to be locked up as they should be
• Anyone else with a quirky situation that I'll find interesting and unusual to explore - especially if it involves keeping you denied

Read my blog so you understand just what you are letting yourself in for. If you're new to denial then you'll be treated gently at first, but beyond that you can expect to be kept in denial, horny all the time, rarely allowed to climax and possibly trained to be unable to cum without permission.

I'm an experienced dom who delights in helping women explore and enhance their submissive side. I am a well spoken, confident, English gentleman, a strong dominant (although happy to enjoy switchy games) with an occasionally sadistic twist.

I'm aware there's a very fine line between a dom and an asshole. I work very hard to stay the right side of that line.

You might be single, or in a relationship (I have helped many women draw out the dominant side of their partner); sexually experienced or a novice (I've 'trained' many virgins in my time). No matter. If you feel you have an unwatered seed of submissiveness, I'd like to help you flower.

I'm not offering romance, I'm already in a long term D/s relationship. What I'm offering is very much 'friends with very kinky benefits'. It might be that it's something you would benefit from as you look for 'the one', I can help you learn about what your mind and body are capable of, and give good, informed advice as you explore finding something deeper.

I have a lot of experience in training and helping women who want to understand and explore what submission could mean for them, if you'd like the same, do get in touch.

A dominant man with whom you can confidentially explore that submissive side of your personality

Someone with whom you can talk about absolutely anything without fear of condemnation - I do not care about your identity, you can keep your anonymity if that's important to you.

An experienced trainer of submissives who will give a structure and focus to your desires

A friend with whom you can laugh, cry, moan and scream - I will have you do all this and more

This is entirely online, please be clear about that before you contact me. I am strictly monogamous sexually, however my lovely partner enjoys me

Openness about yourself, I need you to share those deepest emotions and fantasies that you've never dared tell anyone.

Obedience: You will have to try to do what you're told, both when you're with me and following my instructions to carry out during your day - that's kind of what this is all about...

Endurance: I will push your limits so that you can know yourself better. This will occassionally bring you to tears, make you want to scream, or leave you for hours or days insatiably horny.

I do this because I love it, I delight in seeing you grow as you discover what your body and mind are capable of. But I also do this because I get off on having intelligent, sexy women do what I tell them to.

General sub training

Orgasm denial

Humiliation

Sexual self-exploration (learning what your body can do, e.g. extended multiple orgasms, g-spot orgasms, female ejaculation, anal training)

Total power exchange

If you are an experienced sub this is unlikely to work for you. However if you have specific areas you want to explore, especially orgasm denial, get in touch.

If you are already in a D/s relationship I can often offer advice on areas you can improve, but it is hard to do this well if you are trying to serve me and another.

Introduce yourself in a short message on here and we can follow up with a text chat on Skype or similar. I endeavour to reply to all serious messages, but forgive me if I can't get back to you quickly, I tend to get swamped with messages! Make yourself stand out with interesting details and a nice picture and you'll be given priority.

Let me warn you now, you need to be able to prove you're for real. I know this site well, and how many fakes there are here. If you're serious about this then you'll be prepared for us to talk on Skype to prove you're genuine. I'll happily chat to anyone first, but if you want this to turn into anything, that's non-negotiable before I invest my time into you. I'm really good at weeding out the fakes so please don't waste my time and yours if you're not prepared to satisfy me in that regard. Thank you.

Thanks for reading my profile. I look forward to hearing from you, but be careful what you wish for... I may just give it to you.