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Hetero Male Dominant, 48,  New York, New York
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Scott38NYC - photo 1

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Just seeking a real connection with this dynamic. I have been around a long time and have come close here, but nothing that has really stuck, mostly due to my By necessity, I am a bit private, but certainly not inexperienced. Im educated and well-traveled, never married, no kids. For well over a decade, my interest is mainly in the one on one communication and the level of intensity and honesty this type of relationship provides. That is more important to me than any kind of scene or lifestyle status. What I want is not easy to find here, and I dont have time for fantasists or people who dont communicate, but new friends are welcome too - always enjoy hearing from old ones as well.












Last Online:


 Dominant Male

 New York 

 New York

 Willing to Relocate

 5' 8"

 145 lbs






Actively Seeking:

Submissive Female

Friends Only


 Lives For:

 Travel (Expert)



 Coffee Shops



 Eighties Music

 Nineties Music



 Fine Dining



 Musical Theater




 Intellectual Discourse


 Alternative Music

 Electronica / EDM


 New Wave


 Pop Music

 Rock Music

 Seventies Music

 Show Tunes


 Bar Hopping



 Curious About:

 1950s Lifestyle


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Journal Entries:
12/29/2017 11:24:07 PM
used to be much more communication here - ok, so now I only stick around for some folks that I know, but maybe you'd like to become one? if so, send me a msg. 

9/14/2017 1:25:34 AM
when  you're at a work event and someone mentions that a female colleague is "involved with BDS" - and you don't realize they're talking about Israel until a minute or two later.

11/1/2016 10:19:44 PM
TBH last couple of years I had family issues and maybe missed some opportunities here, but I still get really excited when I meet someone from the NYC area, even if it never seems to work out because they either aren't relationship-focused or too into the scene for me.  If you are from the extended northeast corridor or a potential visitor, and are interested in a one to one connection, I am open to a bit of distance as I have more time now.

2/19/2016 4:06:05 AM
that moment you're looking on a vanilla dating site and a face comes up that has sucked you off, and then another one does

1/11/2016 7:03:48 PM
just realized 2016 means I've been here one short of 10 years, trying to figure out who I know the longest (that still logs in) - anyway really enjoyed meeting those of you I've met!

9/18/2015 11:09:50 PM
I don't play with people I don't connect with, and I don't connect with people unwilling to take some time to get to know each other - sorry!

6/18/2014 8:57:20 AM
I finally have the time to devote to a girl properly, and of course it will now be hard to find one. In the past, maybe I found the right girl but at the wrong time, too busy with work, family stuff to give this connection the attention it needed. Well that time is over, so where are you now?

6/14/2014 8:24:50 PM
been looking for independent thinkers with these interests, and haven't been able to find many, so started a group by that name on 'the other site' if you care to join. if you don't know what I mean by independent thinker, then don't bother!

6/10/2014 11:18:24 PM

Several times in recent months I have been approached by local subs whose company I enjoyed but who, ultimately, were looking for the opposite of what I describe in my profile here. So, while as interested as I am in meeting local girls, my time for new people is somewhat limited so please do not bother if you have not read and understood what my interest is and how it is likely different from the mainstream Dom on here.

6/4/2014 4:32:17 AM

Get the feeling that most of you are talking to so many people you can't possibly devote the time to having any real communication or getting to know someone. Then you come back and complain about the guys you are meeting. Did you ever think that maybe the problem is with you? I know the sub personality is not to say no to anyone until it's without consequences but it's really not helpful to anyone involved. You would be less overwhelmed if you only communicated with people you thought you might like to meet, and only met people you spent some time getting to know online.

5/31/2014 6:41:47 PM

Someone asked if I liked porn...the answer is yes and no. yes if it's amateur and realistic, no if it's overly staged or unrealistic, and I prefer to watch it with someone who also appreciates the kind that I do. Like all NYers of my generation, I was raised on Manhattan Cable channel J which showed everything from Screw magazine publisher Al Goldstein's "Midnight Blue" to the Robin Byrd show and Ugly George, who would meet women on the street and encourage them to go with him to an alley or other private spot and take off their tops, sometimes more. Earthy stuff and that's what I like, if you can relate.

5/31/2014 4:56:18 AM

As bad as it's gotten, with one word or textspeak messages and people who aren't serious about getting to know each other, I did kind of miss this site while it was away. Maybe this change will help restore it to how it once was, had met some good people here and wish it could be like that again.

5/23/2014 3:16:26 AM

Ok, it's gotten impossible to meet new people on here, they are all just comparison shopping now for the checklist rather than seeking to get to know anyone. Sooooo...old friends only please, and if you are an old one, you should know where else you can message me so eventually I can get off here.

5/20/2014 8:37:43 PM

I am here mainly for old friends, but what has struck me lately is with newer people, how uncommunicative they are vs a few years ago. If you can't sustain a dialogue, please don't bother starting one. Textspeak and Twitter-like messages are pointless here.

5/11/2014 11:43:50 PM

I don't define me, or you, by checklists, but don't be mistaken into thinking that means I don't have some extreme interests. What it means is I don't engage in them with just anybody and there has to be a connection first, for these acts are meaningless to me without that. Sorry if some of you think that wanting that relationship doesn't make me a real Dom, but if I don't feel anything from you, it's just an act to me.

4/15/2014 12:52:36 AM

Ok so I like to see your pics here...but not porn site pics and ancient pics and low quality pics when even the cheapest phones have decent cameras in them....

3/14/2014 4:38:16 PM

Still here only for a few friends. Not for the pros, not for the roleplayers or scene-joiners, not for the uncommunicative or indecisive but for a few friends. And, maybe, to look at the pictures.

12/19/2013 7:59:43 PM

RIP Al Goldstein

11/7/2013 11:41:20 PM

As time passes, I am more interested to see what people write and post here than in trying to actually meet anybody. Increasingly few seem to have the communication skills and commitment to get to that point. If you think this is wrong, feel free to explain to me why.

9/9/2013 5:40:49 AM

it's very hard to get to know anyone here if you engage only in text-speak, short messages from your phone or whatever. so if you contact me or write me back, please be willing to communicate in more depth.

8/17/2013 2:09:50 AM

it's amazing how many here disappear, then come back later with a profile complaining about bad experiences and fakes...if that happens often enough, perhaps it means that some of you are too quick to go off with for me I won't be leaving not because I am a player, but because I haven't met the person worthy of leaving here for, and increasingly do not expect to. if someone surprises me, great, but won't hold my breath.

7/11/2013 2:59:10 PM

Maybe it's because of my age and that I don't equate online with personal contact, but I don't understand how anyone could enter into an exclusive relationship here without having first met someone in person. Vanilla dating doesn't work like that and I don't think this should either.


7/4/2013 12:42:33 AM

so I see a lot of profiles where someone says she is 'new to this' or 'inexperienced' or whatever...then I see many of those say they joined CM like 5 years ago...does that mean they are lazy or dishonest?

6/11/2013 12:36:28 AM

Location, Location, Location...proximity is important to many of you, so aside from sharing that I am from the metro NYC area, I will tell you I am quite centrally located within it - and in turn quite centrally located within the northeast corridor (DC to Boston). That said I have the flexibility to travel or possibly relocate in the right situation. If you have a more specific question, feel free to ask.

6/1/2013 1:42:30 AM

I have been here a long time, and involved in this sort of relationship even longer. In that time I've seen some changes, and not for the better. People now seem less sincere and more distracted. They seem to only have time for play or for jumping into specific roles, and not for building a connection or bond. Yet, I don't want to generalize about everyone because I know there must be some of you out there who still see it as I do.

4/12/2013 4:20:14 PM

I realize that this is a business for many of you, and an escape from the husband/boyfriend/kids for many others, but that is just not my thing...sorry!

4/5/2013 12:44:15 AM

what I love about this is the communication, getting to know someone and what motivates them, and potentially forming a connection...but there is so much garbage here, such formulaic insincerity or words that just say didn't used to be like that. has no one got an attention span anymore?

2/8/2013 10:34:11 PM

wow a lot of girls I recognize from here are also on it that they really want a vanilla relationship but come here because they can't find one, or is it that they really want a D/s relationship but go there because they can't find one? or is it all a scam and someone is making "Lennay Kekua" style profiles for fake people?

2/6/2013 9:05:19 PM

I know many of you have a short attention span, and try to avoid those of you that can't keep a conversation going, but for fuck's sake, some of you can't even be bothered to spell words in your profile correctly and this site has a spell-check function - unless English is not your first language, this shows lack of commitment.

1/18/2013 1:19:39 AM

the catfishing is out of hand...I don't do online relationships, don't see the point even if you are verifiable, it does nothing for me. so don't waste your time or mine.

1/11/2013 12:21:40 PM

I won't push you to chat, although you should be open to it, and I won't push you to meet, although that is ultimately why I'm here, so you should be open to that too. Please have some communication and social skills.

1/8/2013 3:44:57 AM

I have concluded after several years that most of you do not have enough of an attention span to communicate long enough to get to the point of meeting, which is a shame because you might like it...

12/15/2012 3:35:57 AM

so who is real here and who is fake? mostly I think I can tell, but you never know...fakes are a waste of time but it is kind of amusing to sift through and find who isn't.

12/10/2012 12:03:45 AM

help improve the quality of the dialogue on here...I am not going to write "yo biatch, what up" and I'd appreciate it if you didn't respond if all you can write is "ok kewl lol" profiles, think of what you'd like to say, think of why you're really here.

11/29/2012 11:33:21 PM

if your profile indicates you joined when bush was president, how can you be new to this? people, update your profiles! a pic from the era of quality digital photography might be nice too...

10/28/2012 1:25:35 AM

there is no real communication here. people come and go as they find what meets their distinct criteria (or not) but there is no real communication. but I'll hang out anyway since there's nothing better to do.

10/18/2012 12:49:14 PM

this is like my binder full of women

9/15/2012 11:32:29 PM

I get the feeling some of you equate lack of focus or indecision with being is not the same thing.

9/11/2012 3:39:53 AM

seriously, I don't mind if you are from the middle of nowhere, but what I do mind is if you complain it's hard to meet anyone there but are unwilling to travel.

9/6/2012 12:11:51 AM

if I restricted this to local people, I'd end up with people that I met before and didn't connect with, people that want to draft me into the public scene, or people who are batshit....of course, feel free to prove me wrong, but I doubt there are many exceptions...

9/5/2012 12:03:42 AM

bonus points for those who are around late at night my time, that's usually when I am around.

8/26/2012 12:51:07 AM

don't really appreciate the type who can be led around like a puppy dog by any Dom who takes her by the hand and thinks she is feeling 'a connection'....a connection is deeper than that and requires communication, at least as I see it.

8/21/2012 12:01:05 AM

occasionally I am tempted by the convenience of a vanilla life and lured to stray from this path, but it never lasts long...

8/14/2012 11:57:18 PM

things that make me skeptical:

-screenname in all caps (or entire profile)

-people who can't spell the name of the place they are allegedly from, or place it in the wrong state/country

-blank or extremely short profile

-profiles full of misspellings (this site has a spell check function)

-extremely long, overly specific profile (only because if what you want is so narrowly defined, you'd be better off proactively searching yourself)

-pictures that look like they are from the last century

-pictures that don't match the written description

-pictures that look like they are from a professional porn site

-pictures that look like they were taken in a place someone is unlikely to have visited


-people who require a 3rd party's approval to communicate here or meet

-people with a bad or selective memory of past communications or meetings

-people who want to meet right away

-people who say they want to meet eventually but never seem to be able to

-people who act like this site owes them something if they don't find exactly what they want - 1) you get out of it what you put in and 2) you get what you pay for - don't like it? try a pay site

-flightiness or signs of it

I'm sure I'll think of more and I'm sure you have a similar list, but I think this is reasonable

8/10/2012 8:14:10 PM

they just said on tv that "now you can add avocado to your favorite sub" who wants to wear green?

6/15/2012 11:57:12 PM

something here definitely changed in recent years - my location seems to be out of the comfort zone for many of you...whereas in the past, it seemed more were interested in visiting if they weren't from the area, being from NYC now seems to scare people off...

5/22/2012 12:23:17 AM

new pic - very recent - taken sunday

5/9/2012 11:33:46 PM

the entire crop of newest local users have pix that look either fake or like they were taken with the world's first cellphone camera 10 years ago, are these people for real?

5/6/2012 1:22:06 AM

this is becoming such a place of extremes...people either very in-your-face or too quiet and anyone left in the middle?

5/2/2012 11:49:39 PM

it's my birthday this week, where's my present?

4/14/2012 2:40:52 PM

one way to identify fakes here is through dialogue....they don't get anything out of communication over a period of time so eventually they go away, in search of some sucker who is willing to run out and meet right away, or give them their credit card number or something.

4/11/2012 3:07:24 AM

so - big surprise lol - research shows a huge proportion of time spent on the internet is looking at porn...and porn viewers spend longer on those sites than viewers of other, porn has never really done it for me, because there is no connection to it, it's just people I don't know acting something out for a camera...but I get the feeling most here are into it

4/10/2012 12:43:53 AM

not interested in much of what I see here anymore but happy to keep in touch with old friends and as for new ones, don't bother unless you have read my profile and can relate in some way - I don't want to join your club or group or whatever.

4/6/2012 11:45:01 PM

RIP Thomas Kinkade. The Painter of Light was privately into some freaky shit and it's sad his life ended before he could come out and direct his unique style to erotic art.

4/6/2012 1:02:43 AM

digital photography has been common and inexpensive for several years now, and uploading pics has always been free, so if your pic looks like it was taken in 1999, or is datestamped several years ago, you either need a new one or aren't very serious.

4/2/2012 12:10:57 AM

I believe that being too specific on here limits the possibilities, but this is definitely a minority opinion.

3/25/2012 1:52:48 PM

a lot of profiles say the chat function doesn't work for them here....well,  it does work for me, so while I don't come here for the chatrooms, if we've messaged a bit chatting is fine...

3/21/2012 12:04:26 AM

sometimes I think there is no communication on here anymore, and then someone surprises me by writing full sentences and engaging in dialogue - it's increasingly uncommon though if you want to surprise me feel free to go ahead.

2/16/2012 1:43:12 PM

yes, ladies, if you post naked pix of yourself you shouldn't act surprised when you get 15 pages of messages, maybe 25 if they're really hot....if you didn't crave the attention you wouldn't post them.

2/11/2012 12:44:12 AM

I find it very interesting to look 6 months back in my inbox, see who I was talking to then, see who I'm talking to now, see who I met since then etc. Probably too analytical about it but wonder if anyone else does the same, as otherwise people can come and go here.

2/10/2012 12:00:59 AM

can anyone tell me how it can be possible I have recent profile views from people whose profile says they haven't been on the site in months?

1/30/2012 11:12:00 PM

many of you seem to be looking for a certain type of person very locally...if you can find what meets your needs within 15 or 20 miles, congratulations, but what I seek continues to be hard to find from where I am, in fact I don't think she would be likely to exist in my immediate area for economic and cultural reasons, so I am going to be here a bit longer - and that's ok.

12/9/2011 12:03:39 AM

just read someone's journal entry about "meeting a famous Dom"...ok I realize for some of you this is a highly organized, clubby thing, but there is a Hall of Fame now? is there also a national league with a commissioner?

12/4/2011 11:13:14 PM

this site is a good timekiller, but was better when there was more interaction...and by that I mean intelligent conversation, not cyber or "on your knees bitch/yes master" kind of stuff...still, I enjoy reading profiles

11/26/2011 11:34:00 PM

I was recently asked why I don't fill out my BDSM interests on the checklist. Well, that is because I am not here to match checklists. My interests are fluid, depending on the partner, and I do not take a hard line on something someone else sees as a limit or dislikes at the expense of a broader connection. But if you want to know something specific you may ask.

11/20/2011 2:31:25 AM

wonder if anyone has ever called suzie orman on her "can I afford it" segment to ask if they can afford to take on a sub...

11/6/2011 12:23:23 AM

I saw someone say here they got 11 pages of messages in the first 2 hours after they joined and were overwhelmed. Well, if you post explicit pictures, you should expect that to happen. So my advice for anyone who is overwhelmed is mouse over the messages, and be selective in who you respond to, or at least with the order in which you respond. No doubt some of those messages require no reply at all, are formulaic, some are just worthless, and some may be interesting but not from someone you'd be interested in...some even might be uninteresting messages from someone you might otherwise like. So yes, you can narrow it down pretty quickly if you apply yourself. And maybe consider that your pic(s) are going to put the viewer in a certain mindset, so think of what message it sends before you decide what kind of pic to share.

11/1/2011 10:24:38 PM

for those who have asked, yes, I was on some years ago, even made some friends from it, but don't use it regularly anymore...if you were there too feel free to say hi though...

10/23/2011 11:22:39 PM

according to another site, there are "27,712 Kinksters living in New York City"....unless they're all guys, pros or part of some scene, I just don't buy that...

10/12/2011 12:45:20 AM

yes, I am from NYC, and I am willing to talk about NYC and travel in the surrounding metro area but no, I am not part of any local group or club or community, so please do not ask me about that sort of thing or try to encourage me to join one.

10/3/2011 9:52:42 PM

met the king of couples' swinging cruises this weekend - love boat for sure!

9/28/2011 2:57:02 AM

spending a couple of days on a cruise ship this weekend

9/26/2011 10:51:35 PM

the "Red Flag" perfume ad on SNL reminds me of some people here, actually quite a few

9/23/2011 2:10:35 AM

summer went by fast!

8/28/2011 11:05:04 PM

in the same week I felt the earth move, then got blown and soaked by irene...wasn't as fun as it sounds

8/25/2011 10:39:59 PM

first the earthquake, now the hurricane, I think I've just about had it with this area....def. "Willing to Relocate!"

8/20/2011 1:51:10 PM

I am learning quite a few people here in my area aren't in my area. One giveaway is that some people can't spell locations around here; New York City seems to be the place someone puts if they want to either sound impressive or somewhat anonymous. Well, I'm actually from NYC but don't really care where you are from, as long as you are honest about it and know how to spell it.

7/31/2011 1:59:19 AM

if I wanted to do something "in the community," I'd join the rotary or the historical society or something....I am not here to join a group or organization.

7/1/2011 1:31:00 AM

Happy Canada Day to all who are celebrating!

6/12/2011 11:07:32 PM

had a nice trip to UK and Ireland, not happy to be home

6/9/2011 12:04:07 PM

prefer a bonding experience to a bondage experience, certainly initially!

5/20/2011 12:25:52 PM

the world is apparently ending tomorrow, May 21, so last chance...

3/18/2011 12:03:44 AM

the natural conclusion of any group-based activity is a hierarchy, and this is no exception...try as I might to get to know people as individuals here, the social and, for some, financial incentive to view this as some sort of organization (e.g. the church, PTA, rotary, country club) with status going to the most active joiners is too great, so I am kind of losing interest in it.  I have gotten to know some good people though - you know who you are, so do keep in touch.

1/21/2011 2:51:13 AM

28 fl friends and yet it's still pretty quiet, are you there too?

12/12/2010 1:03:52 AM
So the "Newest Local Users" thing is driving me crazy. I know they meant well by adding this feature, but in my area, most of the people are pros or fakes, so that's mostly what I find whenever it lights up - which is often. I could just not check it , but it's annoying to have it sitting there all red especially when the illusion exists someone worthwhile might pop up.

11/3/2010 1:47:19 AM

"Maybe your cunny isn't quite the draw you think it is".- Margaret Schroeder, Boardwalk Empire

10/25/2010 11:07:52 AM

I realize this even further limits the already small percentage of people I'd communicate with here, but please don't bother if you are seeking to recruit me to join a group, owned or married, or have a definition of the lifestyle based on some fantasy or what others have told you.

9/5/2010 10:53:14 PM
checklists are for aviation not domination

8/30/2010 2:29:15 PM
submission is not a club you join, or something you wear on the is something inside that tells you what kind of relationship you need...the rest is all superficial

8/28/2010 5:34:35 AM
wouldn't join any club that would have me as a member

8/19/2010 1:39:10 AM
also now on Windows Messenger as well as Yahoo ask for the s/n if you'd care to chat on either

8/18/2010 1:52:44 AM
I am often here in the middle of the night US time, have a flexible schedule, so if you're up too or just an insomniac say hi, I could use the company

6/19/2010 1:20:45 AM
ok something I will NEVER understand about this, is that I regularly get random, generic poorly written messages from people who can't be real, while apparently real people I get a dialogue going with are responsive for days or even weeks until they suddenly disappear.  I kind of think I know why but if anyone has a better explanation feel free to share. 

10/26/2009 2:40:22 PM
I realize that for many of you, especially in the NYC area, this is kind of a business...The economy's bad and there's money in it, I get that...But when sites like this become mostly pros, it stops being a community and becomes a classified ad directory, and it's getting close to that point...

7/12/2009 12:53:36 AM
the shortage of people here from the NY metro area, actually from the entire northeast, is depressing

5/9/2009 1:26:47 AM
Now on the FL site under same s/n

5/9/2009 1:24:50 AM
So many photos here datestamped 2005 or earlier even. People, take a recent pic and upload it, it's not as if it costs you anything.

3/9/2009 2:05:28 AM
I recently discovered that a girl I went out with some years ago is listed on Makes me feel like I dodged a bullet.

2/14/2009 11:49:44 PM
If you are going to claim to be from a certain place, at least spell its name correctly

2/14/2009 6:24:58 PM
Happy Valentine's Day to all, and especially those without a Valentine this year! Not just the ladies, but my fellow guys caught in the "single male over 35 trap" as well....

12/30/2008 1:29:12 PM
It's amazing how all of the women here think they are unique, and yet are looking for pretty much the same thing.

12/18/2008 5:39:24 PM
I am very open to travel, but it seems most (if not all) of you are looking within about 25 miles of where you live. Which is a problem for me, because very few of you live within 25 miles of NYC.

11/25/2008 3:30:47 PM
Most if not all of you seem to be willing to sub to the man of your dreams. What I wonder is, are you willing to sub to a man that exists?

11/19/2008 12:53:21 AM
Many of you seem to think this is some kind of organized club, with specific titles and rankings and such. That's fine for you, but my reality is that I am interested in each person as an individual and I'm not here to sign up for membership in some sort of organization. For me it's about the one on one relationship, and besides, to paraphrase Groucho Marx, "I wouldn't join any club that would have me as a member" lol...

11/11/2008 12:14:43 AM
I politely asked someone about the meaning of their screen name and got the following response: "It was just a name. A word of advise don't use stupid lines like that next time you hitting someone. I am blocking you for your stupidity and your annoying personality." 

This is the only such touchy response I've seen here in over a year of getting to know several people, but ladies, if you just don't like someone because they don't fit your ideal of what you want to find here, and they haven't been mean to you, no response or just saying so is quite sufficient.

10/15/2008 12:27:39 AM
Haven't commented here in awhile, but back in the NYC area after spending some time away, met some nice people in my travels actually (you know who you are!)

9/7/2008 3:58:51 AM
Quality digital cameras have been affordable now for a couple of years. So why do so many pictures here look like they were xeroxed from a photo from the '80s?

8/7/2008 12:40:58 AM
I am a serious night owl, for various reasons, so often don't get here til few people are around. But if you're like me and also up late often, feel free to say hi.

6/9/2008 5:13:13 PM
At least half the female profiles I have read here lately are "taken," "collared," "married," "under the protection of..." etc etc. Given the already something like 5 or 10 to 1 ratio of males to females here, that suggests something like a 20 (or more) to 1 ratio of male to available female members. Which makes me wonder why guys who have an interest in actually getting to know someone bother to come here. But the pics are kind of cool. 

5/10/2008 12:56:31 PM
Don't assume that because I am from NYC and there are 8 million people in NYC that I am able to find anyone of interest around here. The area attracts a particular type of woman that I must say does not really appeal to me.

4/18/2008 11:47:21 AM
Galveston was awesome, must go back sometime for a vacation....But now on to DC for a few days...

4/7/2008 8:08:59 PM
I'm in Texas for a few days!

3/18/2008 4:02:01 PM
I'm curious why so many women have watersports listed as a hard limit. Are you afraid of sharks, or of drowning?

3/6/2008 10:36:32 AM
Some of you don't seem to have figured out that there is more than one pic here. Use the arrows!

12/26/2007 4:45:32 PM
Hope all of you honest and real people here got what you wanted for Christmas, and all of you fakes got a big lump of coal :) 

10/26/2007 10:39:51 PM
I'm watching Oprah's show about polygamy. While some might like the idea of having 3 women at his disposal, to me it kind of looks like a lot of work.

9/10/2007 12:14:35 PM
So summer is over in NYC, and I've encountered a few nice people here, but nothing that formed a strong connection. I know I'm a bit different from most in my local scene, but there has to be someone out in the world who thinks about this the way I do.

7/3/2007 12:19:57 PM
Fakes outed! I have always suspected many of the female profiles on here were not for real, and having recently gotten, word for word, the same response from three of them (that are, supposedly, not even in the same country) I think I finally have my proof.  

6/25/2007 11:58:03 PM
For what it's worth, I am a very subtle guy. Trust and a mental connection are my biggest turn-ons. If you like Doms who order you to do things from the first meeting, and insist on using titles and such before they have been earned, you won't like me. But if you like a guy who gets to know you on a vanilla basis and slowly works his way into your head, to the point that it feels kind of natural, you may well have found the right profile. It would be on if they had a box to check. Except that I like a girl who is open to things a bit more extreme than what I'd find there.

6/19/2007 10:57:11 PM
I've recently read at least 2 female profiles that claim they get over 200 messages from guys a day. Now I've studied, among other things, statistical analysis and this is quite surely a sign of a supply/demand imbalance here. So rather than send you one of your 200 messages today, why don't you contact me?

6/15/2007 11:11:35 AM
Let's see, so half the female profiles here look a bit fake, many of the rest are seeking another female or couple, and if not any of that, whoever is left is collared or seeking nothing but just wants to have a profile here to show off a bit. Considering all of the above, I am starting to wonder why any single male would bother with this. 

6/14/2007 4:59:36 PM
Back from last round of traveling, it was fun. Should now be in NYC area or northeast at least for the rest of summer.

6/4/2007 11:31:15 AM
Some of you have asked me where I travel. Well, since May it's been DC, the UAE, Germany, and now Italy and UK. That is a bit much for one month, so not exactly typical, but hope it gives you an idea and also I tend to do more domestic travel in late summer and fall, such as Chicago, Boston, Minneapolis, and DC again. Mostly work related but also to see friends. Nothing shady, I am just happier when I am not in expensive, crowded NYC. Live here long enough and you'll feel the same way, unless you make $500k a year which I certainly don't!

6/3/2007 4:37:39 PM
Added some pics from my trip last week including one of me and my big sausage. No, it's not what you're thinking. 

5/31/2007 12:04:29 PM

Ok so I have another trip coming up next week, going back to Europe. But they don't block this site there (unlike where I went last time) so hopefully I can check and respond to messages here on a timely basis and won't lose touch with anyone. So keep it coming :)

5/27/2007 9:07:02 AM
As of yesterday I am back in the "free world" so again have access to the site. Was frustrating to see I had messages but couldn't respond to them for a week but now caught up :)

5/17/2007 12:13:59 AM
I'm going away for a bit. No, it's not what you are thinking, I am traveling and in a place where this site may be inaccessible. But don't worry, I will be back in a few days. S

5/13/2007 1:43:23 PM
Sites like this are great for those of us that need to be private about our interest in the topic, but...Since I first got involved in D/s, the nature of this type of interaction has changed from a forum to have a dialogue and get to know people over time, to a sort of matching of the checklists as on vanilla dating sites. If you prefer the former type of interaction to the latter, we already have something in common so feel free to write. I'm just not the sort of guy who is going to email you and say "You like fisting? Cool so do I." Some of you will say that this type of comment makes a real Dom, I say it makes an immature one.

5/11/2007 5:07:46 PM
I have been asked why I don't list my BDSM interests on here, and the answer is this: They are presented as mostly acts, you have to check boxes. But to me this is more about a connection between two people than anything else, it's certainly not just about a checklist, and what those interests will be varies with the partner in question and the nature of the bond formed. Does that make sense to you?

5/10/2007 3:44:31 PM
Been here a week or so now, conversed with some interesting people. Unfortunately, none in my area exactly but that's pretty much what I expected from past experience. Pace of life and cost structure in NYC is not welcoming to the sort of girl I seek, even if I am...May have to import one, or export myself :)

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