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Hetero Female Switch, 45,  Maryville, Missouri
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SassyStacy

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First and foremost I am a switch and if you cannot accept that you need to move on. I will submit to the one I feel deserves my submissive side, but he will understand that I will always have my own submissive. If I do not have my own submissive then the right one will have stolen my heart, mind, and body enough that I would not need a sub of my own to feel like I am fulfilled completely. I am not a doormat nor will I be changed into something I am not including a slave like so many think I should be. My perfect submissive would be a cuckold. I do not like to have what little time I have wasted by people that are fake, liars, or wannabes either. I want to find the one I will submit to as well as that one who will serve me. Although I am about to give up thinking any man on here is ready to deal with a woman like me as a sub. When that real man comes along I guess I will know it. Too many on here are fakes or game players or into poly which I am not. I prefer only those who are local contacting me as relocation is not an option for me at this time. I have my own life in the vanilla world and do not expect anyone I am with within the lifestyle to impede on that life. I have a job in my career field and currently am attending college to obtain my master’s degree as well. I want the person(s) I choose to be in the lifestyle with to have interests outside of mine so we always have something to do that will allow us to blend in with the vast vanilla world around us at times. I will NOT serve another woman ever. That is not to say I will not allow a woman to serve me though. I have plenty of experience as a submissive, but am only slightly experienced as a Domme. I have been involved in the lifestyle since I was around 16 and was strictly a submissive until I was around 30 when my Domme side started to shine through. There have been plenty of breaks in my life that I have been out of the lifestyle, but I always come back as I cannot be happy without at least some of the lifestyle aspects in my life. I will respect limits of a sub who is under me and expect a Dom I serve to respect mine as well with the exception of pushing some limits. I will not serve someone I am not attracted to, overweight people, or those that are outside of my preferred age range unless they are special enough to me to gain my respect and attention. Do NOT expect me do as you command just because you attach a title to your name just as I do not do that to submissives that speak with me. Do not ask me for pictures of myself until we know one another well enough to know we could take our relationship further than just friendship. I do not judge someone based on looks alone and do not expect someone to judge me in that manner either. Anyone contacting me must be a good communicator, honest, and be willing to meet when the time is right for the both of us according to our work schedules and vanilla life responsibilities. I do welcome friends within the lifestyle, but as one can tell I seek more than just friendship. Also do NOT message me and then suddenly drop off the face of earth as when you return I will likely tell you off and not give a damn. If I am not important enough to you to keep communication lines open on here, on yahoo messenger, or via the phone then you will quickly be gone from my life. Also, do not try to get me involved in your life if you are married as I have learned that often the spouse don’t know about the lifestyle interests if they are not involved in an open relationship with you. If you have any questions for me after reading what I have stated feel free to ask me and I will respond accordingly unless I feel it is not any of your business. To get to know me better I would also suggest that you read my journal entries if there is any present. I have nothing to hide about myself and would expect others who correspond with me to be the same way. I know certain aspects about a person’s life will need to be kept private for awhile, but once we know each other things should not be hidden.

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 SassyStacy

 Female Switch

 Maryville 

 Missouri

 5' 4"

 125 lbs

 45

 Hetero

 Caucasian

 01/21/07

 

Actively Seeking:

Dominant male

Submissive female

Sub / Slave Male

Switch Male

 Lives For:

 You massaging me for hours

 Mental Bondage

 Card Games

 True Crime

 Writing

 Christianity

 Loves:

 You worshiping my breasts

 Humiliation

 Deciding what you wear

 Public Play

 Role Playing

 Spanking you

 Vibrators

 Comedy Shows

 Horror Movies

 Sitcoms

 Web Surfing

 Poetry

 Psychology

 1950s Lifestyle

 Cuckolding you

 Hip Hop Music

 Bowling

 Likes:

 Fine Dining

 Flea Markets

 Garage Sales

 Movies

 Museums

 Travel

 Volunteerism

 Walking

 You begging

 You worshiping my body

 Giving you corner time facing the wall

 Exhibitionism

 Erotic Hypnosis

 Hair Pulling

 You doing all of the housework

 Massage (Giving)

 Rituals

 TV Sports

 Cooking

 Gardening

 Karaoke

 Photography

 Singing

 Intellectual Discourse

 Philosophy

 Female Sovereignty

 Lifestyle BDSM

 Eighties Music

 Nineties Music

 Oldies

 Pop Music

 Rap

 Rock Music

 Seventies Music

 Badminton

 Basketball

 Darts

 Football

 Tennis

 Volleyball

 Tolerates:

 Blindfolds

 Canes and Crops

 Masks on Partner

 Sensation Play

 Maid / Butler Service

 Wax Play

 Wrestling

 Curious About:

 Erotic touch

 Medical fetish play

 Watersports

 Old Guard

 Dislikes:

 Bar Hopping

 Clubbing

 Going to the Opera

 Raves

 Hunting

 Rollerblading

 Running

 Cages

 Electrical Play

 Fire Play

 Objectification

 Hates:

 Rafting

 Scuba Diving

 Snorkeling

 Surf Boarding

 Wind Surfing

 Yachting

 Gas Masks

 Masks (Wearing)

 Plastic Wrap Bondage

 Suspension Bondage

 Tickling

 Hard Limits:

 Diapers

 Hoods

 Modern Primitivism

 Pony/Puppy Roleplay

 Sky Diving

 Swimming

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Journal Entries:
4/7/2013 8:02:50 PM

I just wanted to say I added a few new pics of myself on here so others can get an idea of what I am like in real life, other than what was already here. Just maybe that one special person will see that I am what he is looking for as a Dominant partner to be over other subs together. Of course, if he doesn't see it then it will be his loss and someone else's gain, but I am not rushing into finding anyone to replace him as he has a few months yet to decide what he wants for sure. Don't forget though I am always looking for subs to play with and if the right cuckold comes along that may change many things. I have realized here in the past couple of weeks while doing some soul searching that I know what I want in this lifestyle, what I want from the person that is my partner, and what I want from any submissive beneath me. I don't want to change anyone, but rather enhance who they are and make them better than they are now. Anyone with me has to accept me as a person and not try to change me, but rather enhance me as well. I know with the right Dominant person the fun is almost limitless with us as a team with other subs. I just know I've always been a country girl with good values and ethics and nobody can ever take that away from me. I believe in honesty, trust, and respect for all who are in my life. If someone can't respect me enough to be honest then the trust will never be there and it will go nowhere fast. That person I am awaiting a response from made me see how others were bringing drama into my life, which I absolutely despise drama, and that made me make changes on my own and push some people back just a bit until they can get their lives straight and leave the drama outside of my area. I hope you all enjoy the new photos. Feel free to let me know your thoughts on the photos or any of my journal entries.

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1/19/2013 12:21:15 AM

I am going to make a few commitments so maybe that special someone can see how special he really is to me and how much I desire being with only him. (Read the last journal entry for this to make complete sense.) I vow to do my best to keep these commitments while he figures out if he is going to let distance determine our happiness together. Then if he chooses me I will do my best to continue keeping these commitments and any others he decides to add to the list.

1. I vow to not be with anyone other than him, whether it be a dominant, submissive, or vanilla in any type of sexual play without his permission!

2. I vow to not allow anyone to become attached to me or me becoming attached to them until he has figured out what he wants to do. Even if he decides not to allow me to be his forever, then if we part ways I vow to not be with anyone until I have had full time to heal from losing him in my life!!

3. I vow to not allow another man to have my heart, mind, body, or soul as he already rightfully owns them. These are not things I easily give away to just anyone, but once that someone special has them I will not allow another to have them until I am well over that person.

4. I vow to do my best to care for my mind and body so that I can be the best possible girl for him!!

5. I vow to try to eat healthier and try to workout when possible to get my energy levels up more to always please him when he desires!!

6. I vow to not let what others do or say affect me too much as I do not want my mind to get off track from the positives in my life, which he is definitely one of those positives!!

7. I vow to try not to let my emotions get the best of me and will not openly display my emotions unless it may better our relationship or help others around me in some way!!

8. I vow to always strive to do my best in school and other aspects of my life to always make him proud of me, show him I can do what I set my mind to doing, and to help reflect better on him!!

9. I vow to try to learn to not be so mouthy and bratty so we can have more love than punishment in our relationship!! That will take a bit more work though!!! If I can do that we will have more love and fun in our relationship and less punishment for me and less stress for him!! And we all know it is not good to have a Dominant person continually stressed!!!!

10. I vow to always think of what he would say or do about different situations and act accordingly to reflect the type of man he is and wants me to be as his girl!!

11. I vow to try to start journaling and continue doing so in order for him to be able to read it anytime he wants to better understand how I feel or what I think about certain situations. If he wants the journal to be public I have no problem journaling on here!!

12. I vow to stay in touch with him often so he knows I am thinking about him and to try to make him happy!! I will always strive for his happiness more than my own happiness!!! Making him happy makes me even happier than I already am!!!!

13. I vow to always be open and honest with him so he can know me better inside and out and to get to know him better as well!!

14. I vow to strive to do what I can so I can go visit him often and even move closer to him if need be so he can spend more time with me!!!

15. Above all, I am going to vow to be celibate and not have any orgasm without his permission until he tells me otherwise!! That does not mean I will not tease and torment a submissive I may play with from time to time nor does it mean I will not play a bit with myself at times. However, if I choose to play with what is rightfully already his I will only bring myself to the edge and not allow myself to reach full orgasm until he has said that is what he desires for me to do.


1/18/2013 11:53:35 PM

I am slowly learning all over again how much some people need to be shown how serious a person is when they commit to something. Many seem to think just because I am a switch it means I cannot make a commitment to being just a sub or just a Domme. That is where they are dead wrong. When I find someone worthy of my time and commitment I can do either role for that person and not be with others just to have the other side of me if that person can understand there are going to be times where if I have committed to being a submissive I'm going to be mouthy, bratty, and quite sassy. If I am being a Domme the person may get a softer more sensual side of me with more caring as sometimes it just comes out even towards a submissive serving me if I have committed to only that side of me to that person. Then some get scared of distance between them in the beginning and start to slowly back off even if they are not meaning to do so or don't even really want to. The subconscious mind will make a person show such actions more than he or she realizes until it is brought to their attention. Sometimes the best person for you does not live around the corner or even in the closest city to you. Why let distance destroy what could be the best possible thing in your life? I know I sure won't as it takes time to be ready to live with your partner even if the partner lives near you. Yes, distance does making seeing one another often hard, but at the same time distance allows you to get to know the person in-depth more and know things about the person you may not learn if you are in person right from the start. Some of the best relationships I have seen have been built from a distance in the beginning and when the time was right one partner or the other moved to the other or they found a meeting point in the middle. I just know that once I commit to a person I am fully committed to him no matter how near or far he may be. Maybe I am too loyal, honest, and caring for my own good sometimes. But if it means I get my heart broke again oh well so be it he is well worth the effort to at least try. I know in time the distance will be overcome, but now it is up to him to figure out if he wants to find the one who is right at the moment or the one who can be the right one for the rest of his life!! I know if he will give me that chance I can and will show him I can be the one who is right for him for the rest of his life and not just for a few play dates!!!!


12/31/2012 10:55:03 AM

I hope everyone has a safe and happy New Years Eve! Drink responsibly! Drive carefully, especially if you are in an area like me where it is snowing!! Have a designated driver to keep you and others safe! I may not be bringing in the New Year with that one person I would like to be spending it with, but I will know I am on his mind just as he is on mine! May the new year bring everyone peace, love, happiness, prosperity, and all that each wishes for. Just make sure your new year's resolutions are reasonable so you will stick to them!! Happy New Years to everyone!!


9/23/2012 8:08:45 PM

Manners....

When approaching someone make sure to spell properly and speak in a nice manner as that will get you further than you may think. I am so tired of people approaching me and not being able to write proper English. If one cannot write proper English what makes me think the person will speak it. If a person cannot speak properly then how educated is that person? I would say not as educated enough to hold my attention or at least smart enough to hold a decent conversation. How much will I want to take that person around others? I doubt I will want to take someone out much who cannot speak properly unless doing so for humiliation factors. Also, if you want to know something personal about a person wait a few messages to ask such things. I am so tired of people wanting to know personal information about me in the first message. I do not know you so why would I want to divulge personal information about myself? I probably will not give you personal information about myself until I feel the time is right to do so. I am not saying it is wrong to ask, but at least wait until the person has spoken to you at least a few times. If you cannot hold a decent and proper conversation with me or have such communications then to do not bother wasting my time or yours. I want proper English without personal questions in the first few messages. If you want to know about the lifestyle interests ask away, but do not ask for personal information that is not lifestyle related, including questions about my body, until we have messaged at least a couple of times. Thank you!


9/6/2012 11:32:05 PM

LMFAO The nerve of some people on here. Who the hell do the submissives that want to serve me think the are telling me what to do? And then what the fuck are the dominants thinking when they demand me to do something or call me their fucking pet names when I do not belong to them. Y'all need to get a clue as to who I am and what I am about before coming at me all fucked up like that!!

Okay I feel a little bit better now. On with life. lol


6/24/2012 12:04:56 PM

I am quickly learning that over time this site changes with more and more who are not real to the lifestyle. Too many want to just play around online or on the phone and not move to real time meetings or real time play. How can one get a real partner for the lifestyle/vanilla lives mixed if one is is not willing and ready to move to real time meetings and play? One cannot expect a partner of choosing to move to the other immediately as that is just often how it is done, especially when one or both parties say it is not possible anytime soon. One cannot express He/She wants the submissive to be His/Hers then stop the communication because of an issue between the two. The Dominant partner should be Man/Woman enough to speak to the submissive about the issue so both can move forward. If the Dominant has no intentions on moving forward then He/She should state that to the submissive. Too many who say they are Dominant do NOT seem to know how to be the part properly and that is very irritating. When one knows how the other partner is there should not be issues rising out of nowhere about those personality aspects, especially when one is drawn to the person because of those personality traits. I am not one who pushes or chases a Dominant or a submissive to be my partner so anyone who thinks that will happen needs to think again. I can do things myself and be without a partner rather than be with someone I do not deem worthy of my time. When that person is ready for my time and energy I will give it to H/him, but until then I am happy taking care of life on my own. When that person(s) decide I am the O/one for H/him I will happily give that person(s) my all other than the time I am working or doing homework. My life, unlike some, does not revolve around just the lifestyle kinks. Am I actively looking for the one(s) I need to make my life complete? Yes, but I am not going to put all my efforts into such. Am I ready for the right partner(s) to come along so I can allow them into my creative lifestyle world? Yes, but again I am not going to put forth all my efforts. It takes the efforts of two, not just one, to make this type of relationship work just as any other type of relationship takes two partners to work out. I wish everyone the best at finding what they are searching for, but those who want to even think about a chance with me must be real and want real time not just online and phone time with me.


5/23/2012 2:40:16 AM

Too much time to think lately and it's starting to cause problems. It's causing problems cause I overthink everything and that makes me say things I may not mean or want to say. Wish I was not a thinker as I am, but it is a curse I was given at birth. I just wish others could understand that sometimes when a person overthinks everything some thoughts may not come out right when written or even said. I thought I was going to have a wonderful birthday this year, but it is looking like that is not going to happen once again. Maybe I should give up trying to be too happy. Maybe I should give up on finding that one special guy who can control me. Maybe I should give up on everything period. It is just not worth the heartache that comes along with it. I hope everyone is able to celebrate my birthday better than I will be this Memorial Day. Only thing I have to look forward to is a few hours with my children doing something fun before spending the night and week that I have of vacation from school alone. I just need to stop taking any breaks in school and just worry about that and my kids and nothing more. Night all. I am done with my rambling once again.


5/13/2012 5:33:48 PM
  • My Wants and Needs
  • Someone recently asked me what my wants and needs are, which are hard for me to express as I have always been one to worry about others and do for myself. All of these may not pertain to the lifestyle, but who can lead the lifestyle 24/7 if one has a job and life outside of the bedroom or home? It is my hopes this list will help the one wanting to know this about me and others to better understand me as a person. If not, well, I don’t know what to tell you. I am sure there are other things that are not listed, but this was hard for me to even come up with as my wants and needs change daily. It is also hard for me as I am a self-sufficient person and normally can provide for most of my wants and needs anyway as I was raised to never fully depend on another for anything including for the wants and needs.
  • WANTS
  • I want to be accepted for who I am without someone trying to change me even if the other person sees those changes may help others view me in a different manner. If the person sees I may benefit from changes I want them spoken to me in a polite and respectful manner so I may choose to make those changes or not based on my own opinion of myself. However, if the person sees I may need a little advice I welcome such advice, but again that does not mean I will follow such advice as I am my own person and want to make my own choices in life, whether they be the right ones or not as it is me who must live with consequences of such choices.
  • I want to be special enough as a person to someone or two (Dom and sub) that I am the first waking thought and last thought of the day. If the person awakens in the middle of the night I want to be in the person’s thoughts then too as he drifts off to sleep again.
  • Not only do I want to be the first and last thought of that person, but I also want to be the first and last person that someone special communicates with on a daily basis, whether it is when we are beside one another, on the phone, through text, or via email.
  • I want a man who is honest, caring, has a sense of humor, responsible, loving, confident (but not cocky), encouraging, supportive, accepting, patient, affectionate, has at least some romance within his being, have the ability to explore, and can hold an intelligent conversation or know when to ask me questions to get me to open up more. He must also make me want to desire him sexually if he expects to have sexual encounters with me that I will enjoy.
  • I want him to be able to be a good listener as at times I may need to vent about something or someone or have issues I need to talk through to come to a resolution. If he cannot listen attentively then I lose interest in speaking with him and start closing down with my own communication to him, but not to others around me.
  • I want a partner(s) who know how to work with me in a collaborative manner and not always against me.
  • I want a partner(s) who I can enjoy life with so that it never seems boring and  uneventful.
  • I want to feel wanted and needed by my partner(s) not only in the bedroom, but in the home, in public, and in general to continue to feel as though I have worth and value as a human being.
  • I want to have my past troubles and issues to be understood and accepted as that is what has made me who I am today. If a person can learn about me in that manner then he will know why at times I may shut down or shut someone out of my life that he may think needs to be a part of it. I also want at the same time to get to know of his past so I can better understand him as well.
  • I want someone who has the ability to surprise me with small gifts or gestures to keep the romance part of our relationship alive, but also to make me know I am appreciated. I do not care if that gift is purchased as the creativity behind any gift or gesture means more to me than tokens paid for with money. Creativity is a big desire I have in anyone I am with as I use my creative abilities often.
  • I want someone who has enough empathy and compassion to know there will be days that I may need a day off to rest and recover from illnesses or whatever. Not everyone is going to be at 100% everyday, but too often people tend to forget this and push a person too far causing more issues and problems.
  • I want anyone who is a part of my life to always encourage me and be supportive as I continue to strive to be a better person, which includes not trying to hinder my career choices or my educational goals.
  • I want a partner(s) that understand the lifestyle is a big part of me but it is not my entire 24/7 life as I do have a life outside of my lifestyle interests. If the person(s) are to be a part of my daily life outside of the lifestyle aspects then the person(s) will need to learn how to fit in with family, friends, co-workers, and such without anyone others than those who know about my lifestyle finding out.
  • I want someone who will share in the care of our home and not just think because I can be submissive that everything is my duty. I am a submissive type of person not a slave and I will not be treated as such by anyone.
  • I want someone who can help provide basic human needs at times so that I am not doing it all on my own all of the time.
  • I want each day to start and end with affection and the showing of love to one another even if there has been a disagreement so the relationship does not start to falter.
  • For a Dom: I want someone who can help lead me in the right direction with gentle guidance not force.
  • For a Dom: I want someone who understands that I may have fantasies as anyone else does, but I am not in any hurry to fulfill them until trust is fully built. I may someday want them fulfilled, but until the time is right I only need the Dom and sub who will make me happy as they are the only two I need. If the Dom can make me desire only him, that is all the better. I do not need outsiders to fulfill my fantasies and if I find that I do want others involved I will communicate that to the Dom so he knows.
  • For the Dom: I do not want others to be a part of our lifestyle relationship just to make us desire one another as to me that is not true desire of just that person, but rather what that person will do for the Dom.
  • For the Dom: I want to feel as though I am an equal at times as I am a switch and not a slave. But at other times I want to feel like that teenaged Daddy’s girl and be treated as such including showing me how to be the woman Daddy desires to help me to please him in a better way. I also want that Daddy to have fun with me by doing things that are not sexual, but also tease me like one would a teenage girl. 
  • For the Dom: I want him to be able to sexually arouse me in ways that no other can by knowing what to say, how to look at me, and  how to touch me, but at the same time not always push me to have sex.
  • For the sub: I know you have fantasies and I want to help you fulfill them when I feel the time is right to do so. More often than not I will want to fulfill those fantasies once you have proved you are committed and stable within our dynamics first.
  • For the sub: I want you to learn how I like being spoiled and pampered including but not limited to massages, oral pleasure, taking what I dish out, helping me keeping my hair dyed and brushed, helping me around the home, etc, but I also want you to use creativity to help come up with new ways or ideas that you may think I may like.
  • For the sub: I want you to learn what it takes to sexually arouse me and do your best to continuously tease me in ways that are subtle as you will not be allowed to touch me unless I specifically ask you to do so. I want you to stay in good shape and maintain your looks in the manner I choose for you to look as that will keep me aroused as well knowing you are doing what I desire. Of course, you will have plenty of rules to follow, but I want a sub who can be obedient enough that my arousal is there by knowing you are my good submissive and others will want what I have in my possession.
  • NEEDS
  • I need for anyone who is a part of my life to be accepting of my children, family, and friends even though they are not always around. Those people are important to me as I would expect others to feel the same about their family and friends. However, I need for our relationship that occurs behind closed doors to be kept discrete unless I state that the person(s) know otherwise about my lifestyle. These relationships will always continue no matter who I am with and I would expect you to have family and friends outside of mine.
  • I need time daily alone to be me, to reflect on the day, to unwind, and to relax without anyone interfering with such time. Normally it is not a lot of time that I require or need, but it is still a need I have, which sometimes it may just be during my shower or while cooking. One never knows until they ask if I am being bothered by the person’s presence.
  • I need to be and feel validated as a human being and shown I am worth being around in basic human ways of communication and such.
  • I need to hear compliments, but not just those about my body as my body doesn’t make me the whole person.
  • I need to feel as though I am always safe and secure by that special person(s) in my life. I want to know that the person(s) can and will be able to protect me if that need should arise. I do need someone who is weak in my life.
  • I need tender touches, kisses, and love making as much as I sometimes need that animalist sex and to feel loved on a daily basis as I would expect anyone else needs that as well. The love should not just be present during sexual encounters as that is not love, but rather it is lust.
  • I need someone who can not only be my partner(s) in this lifestyle but also one(s) who can be my lover, partner in the vanilla world, and my best friend.
  • I need cuddling and other forms of affection not only in the bedroom but at other times as well, but remember that I do not like feeling like I am being smothered by anyone either.
  • I need emotional support when I am upset, hurt, angry, etc.
  • I need moments of laughter to help me not dwell on or think about bad things of the day and to keep the mood lightened.
  • I need some type of adventure or changes so life does not turn into a daily routine making me feel as though I am stuck in a rut with no way out of it. If the relationship gets stuck in a rut it will go nowhere fast and that is the last thing I want or need.
  • I need to continue to strive towards my career goals, which will mean that I will need to work outside of the home at least on a part-time basis. Once my career is up and starting more than likely I will need to work overtime a lot, but once it is settled I will work less. I just need for anyone in my life to understand the importance of my career goals.
  • For the Dom: I need someone who will help me to set boundaries for myself and help give me structure that is sometimes needed as I am not always as self-disciplined as I would like to be.
  • For the Dom: I need someone who can discipline me, but not always punish me.
  • For the Dom: I need aftercare after scenes that may involve pain or hit upon something that has gotten to me emotionally.
  • For the Dom: I need my limits pushed, but not pushed beyond what is safe, sane, and consensual.
  • For the sub: I need to push your limits to help you grow as a person, but do so in a manner that still allows you to feel safe.
  • For the sub: I need to set boundaries and rules for you to help you grow as a submissive and person.
  • For the sub: I need you to be outspoken enough you feel you can stand up to me and communicate with me. I do not want a doormat, but need someone who is respectful when speaking to me about things.

5/1/2012 11:00:20 PM

Well, I am back in full swing looking for what will give me pleasure and have me fulfilled. I can only hope that it will be found on here soon. I may have found the two who will do what needs to be done to make me the happiest woman around, but if not so be it. I won't give up nor will I settle for anything less that what I want and deserve. I refuse to go back to dating vanilla, so with that said hopefully the right one(s) are out there for me. I hope everyone is having a good week. I think I'll start making plans on how I will celebrate my birthday and hopefully a lucky man will be sharing it with me along with many moans and screams of pleasure! ;)


3/13/2012 9:42:06 PM

Wow talk about having a bad year already! It's a good thing I'm a strong enough woman not to let others get me down too much. They say life only throws you what you can handle, and the bullshit I have been thrown this year is nothing more than in the past. People need to realize they are not dealing with some stupid cunt when they are talking to me. Can I play stupid? Hell yeah, but who can't when they know the other person is just playing games as well. Can I play games? Hell yeah if they are being played on me I will damn sure play it back on the person. Maybe one day people will grow the hell up and realize life doesn't always revolve around them and that life isn't perfect. Is it too much to ask for honesty? I think not as I wouldn't have it any other way even if it causes me to be in trouble. Am I on this site to find someone to use and abuse me just because they can, or me to find someone I can use and abuse just because I can? No, that is not my intention nor what I want. Why is it so hard to find a man who understand that there is more to listyle alone? Why is it so hard to find even an honest man not into playing games and just out for a piece of ass? Do I have gullible or naive written on my forehead? The last I looked I did not. I am not saying I have not met some good friends in the lifestyle on this site and others, but I think at some point in time it needs to move forward and not just stay stuck in one certain aspect of the relationship. I am not here for just online play. I want someone who is real and willing to make it work in the real world as anyone can say anything online, but it's another to prove it in real life. Can anyone do that anymore? It's looking like I am asking the impossible, but it's all good as I am strong enough to stand on my own and face life alone as well. I don't need a worthless piece of shit man who thinks I can't live without him to fulfill my life. One day, however, I do hope to find that person that will complete me as I complete him, but I am not going to just settle with someone because I can't live without a man, as I have proved more than once I can and will do life on my own if need be. Okay, I will step off of my soap box now. I hope you all have a great week as I know I will doing life for me and nobody else.


2/22/2012 2:22:03 PM

Hmm, listening to music and doing a lot of thinking. Many songs really state what a person is looking for or how a person feels. Music is such a great expressive outlet. It also got me to thinking how much men say when they are drinking that they probably don't mean at all. And even how much men say to try to get what they want and when they have the opportunity to have it they puss out. Maybe one day people will learn to stop playing games and really say what they mean and stick by their words. I was taught that everyone has nothing but their word to prove themselves and I live by that. Anyone can say anything, but to mean it and promise it is another. I never say what I don't mean unless it is in anger and when that happens I apologize and kick myself in the ass for it. I just wish others could really mean what they say even half the time. I don't have to say something I don't mean as that is not being true to myself. If a person cannot handle my honesty they need not communicate with me at all. If a real Dom wants my submission He will contact me and let me know. Then as far as the cuckold submissives saying they want to serve a real woman like myself they will stop playing games as well. I don't have time for bullshit games. If you want to play games go play them elsewhere. If you want something meaningful then step up to the plate and state what you mean and not the bullshit you think will get what you want from me.


1/25/2012 10:46:59 AM

I just took a quiz titled "Do You Have an Inclination for BDSM" that I stumbled upon while doing research for my final paper for my current class. The quiz can be found at:

http://quizfarm.com/quizzes/Sex/poeticthinker/do-you-have-an-inclination-for-bdsm/index.php

My results are as follows:

You Scored as Switch

You know what you want but it has nothing to do with your own role in the bedroom. You have the ability to be flexible in that area which can be useful for exploring you sexuality with your partner.

Switch                                     89%

Exhibitionist/Voyeur               86%

Experimental                           82%

Submissive                              68%

Sadist                                      68%

Degradation Lover                  61%

Dominant                                61%

Bondage                                  46%

Masochist                                43%

Vanilla                                     25%


12/19/2011 8:35:24 AM

Really tired of the bs involved in this site. I gain hope to only have it taken completely away again. Dom's on this site? LOL What a fucking joke. So many are fake, wannabe, or just want a plain downright slave, which I am not. Then you have some subs who want to serve, but only online or on the phone. I am not looking for cyber play or phone play only. I want something that can work into a LTR. Hell, does anyone know and understand the concept of having the lifestyle and vanilla aspects rolled into one relationship anymore? By the end of the week I am going to rid of my profile on here. I am better off finding someone on my own as far as a Dom goes. If anyone thinks they can be a match to me within the next few days they best step up and say so or the communication will never be able to occur. Anyone I have been speaking with on a regular basis I am not giving up on as they don't deserve to be pushed aside because of all the losers on here. I hope everyone has happy holidays and finds what he or she is looking for, but it's doubtful that most will find it on this site.


12/1/2011 10:10:28 PM

I thought people within the lifestyle and those that say they have been practicing the lifestyle knew the difference between a switch, submissive, and slave. I guess I thought wrong as I seem to get people who think they can turn me into a slave when I am a switch and will at most submit to someone special enough to get that gift from me. One would think if someone is getting such a gift they would treasure it and not try to turn me into something I am not, which is a slave. I have traveled down the slave road before and after finding my own Dominant side I will never go down the slave road again. I have nothing against anyone, but if people cannot accept a gift of submission when both parties have been working on such happening what is the point in starting to develop anything with the other party in the first place. I am learning rather quickly this site is full of people who think they know about the lifestyle, but yet have not a clue what it is about. And the sad thing is the ones that I know are real and I would like to get to know better to find that one I want to give my gift of submission to stop communicating for no apparent reason. Maybe it is just time for me to focus solely on my own Dominant half and leave my submission side on the back burner. Maybe someday that right One will come along and I will give him the greatest gift of all.


11/28/2011 5:34:50 PM

Why do people always want to message and say they are interested in getting to know someone then just drop out of the picture and not respond to messages? I know it gets old really quick and these people are making me not want to respond to anyone anymore because I get tired of communication being stopped for no apparent reason. If you find you are not compatible with someone have the common courtesy to message them and say that is what happened. If you are just scared that you may end up saying you are ready to meet someone before you are mentally ready for that say that as well. This lifestyle is all about being safe, sane, and to have everything consensual. Communication is the main key in knowing what likes and dislikes are as well as knowing limits. Without communication you will not get to know one another in a proper manner. Even when in a BDSM lifestyle one must communicate or things can go wrong quickly. When is everyone going to grow up and just be adults about everything and not waste others' time by messaging them disappearing. You may lose out on a good thing if you continue to do this as people like myself will not wait around for responses as we all have lives to continue on with or without you.


11/13/2011 9:47:16 PM

LOL Why do people think that just because they attach a title to themselves that is makes them better than others or more experienced?? I swear people need to learn that a title such as Dominant or Master needs to be earned by gaining experience, respect, and dignity. Too many people on here attach a title to themselves then try to pull it off like they are highly experienced, when in fact they are not. They think just because they attach that title that everyone should bow down to them and give them the utmost respect. Well here is a news flash for you people: In order to get respect you must give it as well. I do not give respect to people who think they can demand me to do something right off the bat, nor do I give respect to those who want to call me names for calling them out on their lies. Here lately I have had several women message me that are dominant, or supposed dominants. LOL I think people need to read my profile closely as I state many things about myself right there in black and white. If it's not there don't assume, but instead ask. If you read something in my profile that is confusing by all means ask about it, but don't ask questions that are fully answered in my profile or journal writings. Get a clue about me before messaging me as I am not a doormat nor am I stupid. I am a highly intelligent switch who can deal with life alone if I have to. Do I have the urge and desire to submit to someone? Yes, I do, but I won't settle for just anyone. Do I have the desire to have my own submissive? Of course I have that desire, but again I will not just choose someone based on their desire to serve me. LOL I will continue to read more profile and get more laughs, but today's message was just too hilarious. I have never heard of a Dom asking another Dom to do his bidding, even though the friend Dom was a female. Since when does a Dom need someone to do his bidding?


11/5/2011 9:30:11 PM

 Some general rules:

1. Don't message me asking me for a pic. I don't put them on here due to my job and career.

2. Get to know me before trying to demand anything of me.

3. Take time to read my profile and journal entries before messaging me if you live too far away from me.

4. Don't take offense, but I am not into people who are overweight unless they are a third party to the play.

5. If you are going to be stupid don't waste my time or yours by messaging me. I don't have time for games, stupidity, or lies.

6. If you think you are going to talk to me just a few times and expect a whole lot you may as well think again. I am independent enough in my own vanilla life that I don't need to be someone's doormat in the lifestyle. I want to know a person before submitting to them and would expect a submissive wanting to submit to me do the same.

7. Understand that my ideas of the lifestyle and yours may not always be the same. This lifestyle isn't about conforming to anyone else's ways. It is about enjoying one another and pushing limits while being creative.

8. I wish all of you the very best and may you find what you seek just as I will in time. I am just not going to settle for settling sake. I want something meaningful with someone who has the ability to combine the lifestyle and the vanilla life so we can enjoy each other at home and in public's eye view.


10/27/2011 12:19:42 AM

Just to get rid of some confusion some may have about my profile I want to clear things up. It has been brought to my attention that some of my likes and dislikes seem contradicting. Let me explain to you why: First off I am a switch so my likes as a submissive and Domme will be different. If I don't like something as a submissive doesn't mean I won't like them as a Domme. If in doubt why not just drop me a line and ask instead of pondering what is meant??

Then another aspect I want to clear up about my profile and those responding to me is that I clearly stated in my profile I would like to find those at least halfway local to myself to get to know. And by halfway local I do not mean states away. I think someone within the surrounding states should be able to help arrange ways for us to be together on a regular basis to get to know each other and play. I do, however, prefer meeting others who are within a couple hours from me. The main reason for this is because I am not into online or phone play only. I want something real that allows both parties to experience everything fully. Again if you are in doubt you may ask, but as I stated in my profile I will not be relocating out of my area anytime soon. I have a decent job with family members around me that need my assistance that I will not leave while they are in need of my support.

Last but not least, if you approach me do not demand me to play with you immediately. If I want to play with you I am sure you will know of my interst. If you come to me and demand I speak to you in a certain manner or demand that I give you an email address or phone number you will quickly get deleted. I don't have time for someone I am not involved with to demand me to spend my every waking free hour to talk to them. If I am interested in someone I will give that person as much time as I possibly can between work, school, and helping to care for my terminally ill family members. Yes, as you can see I have a full plate, but I do need and yearn for that special partner (Dom) who can understand my switch side and allow for me to have what my heart desires.

If after reading this you think you may be the one I may be searching for then please feel free to contact me. As far as submissives go I would like to have one who can handle me having that other side of me where I want to submit to someone too. The submissive I find that is right for me will not become jealous that I will play with another who will Dominate me and possibly the submissive of mine as well.

I hope you all have a wonderful day and may each of you find what you are searching for. If you don't think you are right for me does not mean that a friendship cannot come of us speaking so if it is a friend you seek then please message me and say so.


3/14/2011 10:43:52 PM

Dominants or Wannabes?

 

Wow I think the need for the lists I previously spoke about is getting even nearer to being made. What makes a person think just because He/She calls themselves a dominant gives the right to expect a person to bow at their feet and obey all their rules, wants, and needs just because of the title.

Submission is given as a gift not taken on a whim. One cannot expect to have a few short conversations with a person such as myself and expect me to just give in and do as they wish and fulfill their sexual needs on the first meeting. The lifestyle should be all about safe, sane, and consensual not taking and expecting. One should meet a potential submissive or Dominant and see if the attraction is present and communicate to get to know the other person before just jumping into something. Also, a Dominant should not try to play the I'll just look for another submissive to get a sub to give in and fulfill the sexual needs.

If these so-called Dominants want nothing more than a sexual play partner they should say so. I have met one such Dominants that was actually honest enough to say that is what he wanted and needed from me. Am I agreeable to such an arrangement? Yes, but it has to be agreed upon by both parties beforehand.

If a person is only acting as a Dominant to get laid I suggest he or she looks for a hooker or go on Craigslist and find the first available piece of ass.

I do not want to have my submission taken by anyone, but rather I want to give that gift to the one who deserves it.

I thought I had found that One, but he decided to play games and not respond to messages.

Did that hurt this girl? Yes, it did, but this girl is strong and will move forward and know that it is his loss in the long run as this girl would do many things to help complete Him and show Him how special He is to her as she showered Him with love, affection, and devotion that He so deserves.


3/8/2011 9:36:24 PM

A rant about Dominants and people not paying attention to profiles....

 

I have no idea why so many people are on this site saying they are looking for the right person to submit to them or to submit to the one person. So many people on here use the lifestyle to hide behind just to gain new ideas for their kinks or for other reasons like a power trip, ego boost, or to abuse another. I suggest that anyone claiming to be a Dominant have balls enough to say something when things may not be going in a direction in which he wants it to instead of just disappearing. That is showing that the person is not a dominant at all but rather a spineless and cowardly man who cannot say what is on his mind and be honest with the other person. Being a switch I will not hesitate to tell a person if I do not see if working out.

 

I also want to know how many dominants are looking for a submissive who actually tries to keep in shape and not be overweight as it seems like if one is in decent shape and not heavy or overweight the desire from the dominants is not there?? Do I have to gain a lot of weight to be attractive to the dominant men on here and in my area or what?? If the answer is no then I guess I am out of luck finding a Dom as I will not gain a lot of weight just to make someone desire to be with me as I would rather be healthy and halfway in shape than to be heavy and face getting all sorts of medical problems because of it.

 

Some of us take the lifestyle very seriously and expect communication to be open and honest. Without honest communication and being straight forward there is nothing to build on. Do NOT tell me one thing and then do the opposite only proving to me that you are fake, not worthwhile, or just naive. Also Do NOT message me telling me what to do as I am NOT a doormat or naive enough to think I must bow down to you just because you say you are a dominant man/woman. I have a brain and am very well educated and I will continue to use my brain even if I am serving another.

 

People should learn to read another person's profile before writing to the person to gain a better idea of what the person is looking for and if the person wants local or if it can be anywhere. If you are only looking for something online and never plan to make it real time if we mesh then do NOT bother me. I do NOT have time for games, BS, or drama. I want a loving and caring Daddy Dom type of man to serve who will guide me in the right direction and allow me to serve him in a way that is not always painful as I am NOT a pain slut by far. Also do NOT think I am a no limits slave as I will never be another person's slave as a switch is just not good slave material. Maybe people should learn what a switch is before thinking she/he will just drop to her/his knees and do what is being ordered without hesitation. Do not get me wrong, for the right man I will obey and do what is expected, but if it is pushing my limits I will not hesitate to speak up or use a safe word when warranted.

 

It is my hopes to find the right one on here, but at this time I am not holding my breath as there seem to be a lot on here who just want to play games. Some are honest enough to say exactly what they want and that is highly appreciated as that at least allows me to see that there are a few potential play partners that I can trust until I find that One to serve. When I find that One he will have my heart, mind, body, and soul, but until then I should not be expected to obey another unless it is agreed upon for a set amount of time for a play session nor should I be expected to not talk to others so I can find the One I will serve with full devotion. I hope each of you will find what you are searching for just as I will in time, but until I do I will continue to have fun getting to know people, have possible play sessions with a couple of chosen ones I would not mind serving on a temporary basis, and enjoy chosen submissives to play with and if I find the right submissive I may just end my search for the right Dominant as when the time is right he will probably appear in my life anyway. I will continue to just have faith that He is out there somewhere and is willing to get to know me in a honest way and not just disappear for no reason.


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