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An Update: Well, in my long break from collar me/collarspace, i got engaged and married-yes, i found my "tall dark and domme" and married her-or she married me, in her view. ?We're not adverse to engaging with the right women, but generally, that is her call-so, no-i won't be 'dropping everything to appear at your feet in two hours'. ?I'm mostly back to catch up with some friends. ? Looking for Ms. Right to sweep me off my feet...and onto my knees. SWPF seeking intelligent, imaginative domme for LTR, ideally working towards a 24/7 situation. Yes, i am still foolish and optimistic enough to seek one woman for a lifetime. I'm a sucker for curvy women, tall women, and love dark skin; but really i am looking for a woman that can be loving and sexually wicked at the same time-everything else is secondary. I DO prefer women my age and up-but am willing to keep an open mind. I love bondage, pet training, dote on gags, plugs, cupping/suction, and compression. i stumbled onto a collection of Sweet Gwendoline comics at 14 and grew up wanting to be Gwen. i have 10+ years RL training, focused on pet/pony training, and full domestic service. ?My general limits are no children, no knives/needles/blood, no single tails ( you'll put your eye out kid"), smoke, drugs, disease, permanent damage/death. ?Permanent marks are negotiable for the right woman in a committed relationship.
It seems that optimism on this site is merely a form of myopia, so I will reiterate: I AM A LESBIAN. ?No guys, that doesn't mean I am a waitress that goes to casting calls, that means you are wasting your time and mine. ?I don't hate you, I just don't really care. ?It's not you, it's me. ?Feel better? ?Good, now move on. ? Since i get the 'what are you looking for' question a lot: ? The basics would be intelligence, strength, a good sense of humor, well read, active, perceptive, honorable, and generally of good character. ?Sexually dominant, a bit manipulative, wickedly inventive, a big streak of sexual cruelty, and a consuming need to possess. ?A woman who is not afraid of what she wants, doesn't make excuses for what she wants, but also understands the difference between sexual cruelty and emotional abuse-loves the first, and would never indulge in the second. ?Maybe it's?easier to say i am not attracted to short, thin, pale skin, women that aren't comfortable in their own skin, insecurity, arrogance, rudeness, hypocrisy, and bigots.











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11/27/2017 7:38:10 PM
And our latest contestant in the ?Annoying Profile Olympics ? is the ?SpamDom?. This simple creature breeds in online environments, and can be spotted easily by it?s obvious copied from pornsite profile pic. The mating cry of this creature is a repetitious and monotonous macro repeating the same message several times. This message is noteworthy for it?s clear indication that your profile was wholly unread, and is usually followed by a shrill declaration that the site is ?overrun by fakes, and nude proof pics must be sent at once!?. Sadly, this creature is NOT endangered in any way, as it really deserves the status.

10/6/2017 9:29:25 PM
My next favorite profile is the evangelical poster. You know, the one that starts out telling you how much of a sub or Dominant they are, and how deep they get into that great darkness.....and, rather than detailing what they want or want to do, they?ll get on their favorite subject: how everybody else is a poser, a joke, a loser. Nobody is real, nobody knows how to do it right, except for these advanced creatures from a higher spiritual plane. But here we are.

9/18/2017 4:13:29 PM
I always love the profiles on an online dating site that detail how stupid everyone is, all the things they hate, all of the things they won't do, and all of the people they don't want to hear from because they really, really suck. And you filled out this profile because.....? Presumably, they go on to fill out online bank loan applications listing their occupation as an anachist, with a long financial history of fraud, bankruptcies and credit defaults.

2/21/2017 9:43:35 PM
Do you remember that kid growing up that would assail you with useless, unsolicited information? Well, he's still around..and hasn't changed a bit. on 2/21/17 at 10:06 AM: You need to know that I'm looking for a total slut who is ready to give me total control of her life and future decisions, I'm the only one who knows if there are any limits. Lesbian who belongs to Master is even more humiliating. If you're more than interested, think what you can do to convince Me that I should be interested in you. Sasinak on 2/21/17 at 9:37 PM: Yeah, i "really needed to know" that.

5/24/2014 9:36:39 PM
Well, this explains the lack of response from support and the overall site issues. If anyone needs to reach me, they can find me at sasinak1980 on FL.

5/8/2014 7:19:50 PM

"And you can tell everybody,

And you can tell everybody,

I'm the man, i'm the man.."

While you're at it, tell the NFL that halfway through round one if I hear this frakkin song again I will kill somebody. Gah! What great lyrics-

3/25/2014 11:21:34 AM

In today's Guardian:

"Angry Chinese relatives of the missing marched to the Malaysian embassy in Beijing today, where they threw plastic water bottles, tried to rush the gate and chanted, ‘Liars!’"

I get grief can make you do crazy things, but when citizens of China start accusing other governments of coverup and corruption?

Pot, meet kettle.

12/24/2013 7:32:45 PM

We interrupt our normal snarky programming to wish everyone a wonderful holiday season, and best wishes for a happy new year.


12/19/2013 12:21:36 PM

"I just ticked the lesbian box to discourage males."


And piss off lesbians.  Thanks for the clutter, ladies; you have managed to achieve the state of human spam.

11/3/2013 9:39:59 PM

Well, what is a week without another cold, another frakkin' hotel room, and another angry message from some guy who has already dumped his account?  I guess "Moe33" just wasn't def or fly enough-probably "Phoenix Dark Dirk" or something equally preposterous, like "Piers Morgan".(i mean, who names their kid after a jetty?)  Anyway, it's always fun to get an angrygram; the message isn't that important, it's just the usual sounds guys make at women they will never have sex with:

"blah blah blah BITCH blah blah blah FUCK blah blah blah BITCH blah blah blah FUCK…"

et cetera, ad naseum, but it's the thought-such as it is- that counts.  It's just funny, this weird sense of injury guys get when they realize you are a basketball hoop, and they are 5'1" and wearing lead sneakers -sorry, kid…no dunks for you here.  They get all pissy and lego-throwing suddenly, like they paid for a pizza and got handed some wilted brussel sprouts.  It never ceases to amaze me how guys can get so angry about something they never had-or will have.  As a favorite quote goes, "You can't give it, can't even buy it, and you just *don't* get it."

10/8/2013 5:04:31 PM

Well, "Persistence is it's own reward" but it also gets you in my journal:


"Mr Annoying" on 10/7/13 at 3:26 PM:

To this day I am still looking for my lesbian humiliation slut.


Sasinak on 10/7/13 at 4:06 PM:

Well, keep the faith!  



"Mr Annoying" on 10/7/13 at 4:08 PM:

ut no chance with you right?lol


{Utsamatta with me?  Utsammatta U, buddy!}


Sasinak on 10/7/13 at 5:10 PM:

Well, i am a lesbian looking for a committed lifetime relationship with a dominant woman-and while i am open to poly situations sexually, i don't do second place emotionally.  So, it doesn't seem like a fit, sorry-

Good luck in your search-


{There's that pesky "L" word again; just seems to be in 6 point font when guys read it}

"Mr Annoying" on 10/7/13 at 5:45 PM:

 Well the only thing I can say about that is for me you would not be emotionally second. I see love as equals in all ways. Enotionail equality is what I see.

{Apparently, the polite 'fuck off' isn't working, but...maybe...}

"Mr Annoying" on 10/8/13 at 3:42 PM:

 Do you have no faith in emotional equallity or is equal not enough for you emotionally?

{Nope, definitely not working}


Sasinak on 10/8/13 at 3:44 PM:

 i'm glad it works for you; good luck in your search.

{Not fire breathing, but certainly not encouraging{DON'T ENGAGE! DO NOT MAKE EYE CONTACT-SHIT, HE'S COMING BACK]}


"Mr Annoying"  on 10/8/13 at 3:46 PM:

An absolute no. Wish there was a way to chance your mind and show you the true of love. What pushes you away honestly?

{He got the 'absolute no', but he's still banging away (or trying to get to that point, despite all evidence to the contrary)}

Sasinak on 10/8/13 at 4:14 PM:

Obviously, a polite 'no' will not suffice.  I am NOT INTERESTED.  Moreover, i do not need to justify my decisions to you, or anyone else.  Play those elementary schoolyard games somewhere else.

Get it?

{That ought to do it, right?  Or should i just have said 'fuck off" which is rude, but...}


 "Mr Annoying"

zI never give up so easily until I have a reason to.


There is something to be said for 'fuck off'.

10/2/2013 12:55:22 PM

Well, no month should go by without some insightful conversation:

DomSpeedReader: on 9/28/13

Hi beautiful Loved reading your profile. Our needs seems to match in many ways . I am a very Exotic erotic Masculine alpha male with exciting fun side. I am looking for a fun loving feminine partner/princess/sub/and a few other things :) You will enjoy my companionship ! I would love to get to know u more. Would you like to text or IM first? - K :

Sasinak on 9/28/13 at 9:50 AM:


Glad you enjoyed the profile, but it appears you missed the 'lesbian' part.


Good luck in your search.


Well, let's hope 'a few other things' will include a search filter- or a dictionary.

10/1/2013 12:17:21 AM

I leave the country and get tied up for a few weeks - literally - and the government grinds to a halt.  Hopefully, somebody will remember to pay the ATC guys so I can get home.  Now, if I was a health care industry exec, I could be sure of proper treatment.  Hmmm... if I have trouble getting home, I should probably just talk to the execs I know at BC or Anthem, and cut through the middle men.

9/5/2013 11:28:19 PM

Now that i finally have recovered from seeing a recording of the VMAs, i finally understand the whole fascination with Miley Cyrus; I never really got the whole 'double life' thing until i saw her performance. It helped me understand this poor girl has been fighting these horrible seizures; the protruding tongue, spastic gestures and awful noises coming from her throat now make perfect sense, along with her plastic underwear to prevent public accidents.  


I can only hope her condition is curable before she turns completely into Lindsay Lohan's identical twin.

7/18/2013 1:28:47 PM

OK, so now i have another problem, and i need some advice.  i happened to notice a rather nice picture of a domme; it's from the back, and she's looking good in a thong.  However, the label is fully visible.  OK, now this is a touchy issue, in my experience: do i email and tell her that her great ass in the black thong is being somewhat detracted by the tatty image of the label sticking up?  i always find this problem to be a sticky situation; you are at a restaurant and some woman's skirt is caught in her belt, or the tag is sticking up on her neck-do you step in, and be embarrassed with her?  It's a bit awkward.  


So, solidarity and make the awkward gesture, or just stiff upper lip and pretend it doesn't exist?

7/18/2013 1:19:30 PM

And under the "Apropos of nothing" heading we have today:


<deep left field guy> on 7/18/13 at 12:53 PM

Then why don't you communicate with fme???????????

Sasinak on 7/18/13 at 1:12 PM:

Probably because:

A: i wasn't aware you exist.

B: i'm not sure that was a problem.


This is disturbing on so many levels.  First, that i am viewed as uncommunicative by "fme's", (which could be serious).  Second, that people are holding intense conversations with me, and i am coming in long after they started, and i'm not drinking.


Or maybe i am, and i haven't caught up with the 'fme's".

7/18/2013 12:51:37 PM

I always enjoy the profiles that 'demand' an 'explicit photo' of the respondents; invariably to a profile with pictures cropped from BDSM porn sites online.  It reminds me of religious whackjobs who insist they are divine instruments of the Great Fairy What Sits In The Sky, but demand incontrovertible proof from everyone else.

6/26/2013 2:53:00 PM

So, SCOTUS bravely decided NOT to decide on Prop8, but were willing to strike down DOMA.  Not a bad day at all; some days you get the bear, some days the bear gets you.


And some days, the bear decides to sneak out the back, bitching about state's rights all way way out.  But, if you're a bear on the way to a BBQ in North Carolina, it's the only way to get your BBQ.

6/2/2013 4:19:33 PM

Well, today's big story is about Steve Jobs and the eBook price fixing antitrust suit.

:::Deep breath, here comes the rant::::

Well, this is not surprising, since Jobs spent the last years of his life on electronic media subscription and distribution. The entire point of the iPad was to sell electronic magazine subscriptions, and Jobs made no secret about this whatsoever. Apple is trying to do with print content what they have been doing with music, TV programming and film. Is this a problem? Not really, because nobody puts a gun to your head and makes you buy this stuff. Jobs is setting a pricing schedule with the publishers that they preferred, because they make more money on their products. But at the end of the day, consumers will continue to set the price, because it's not really a market anyone can easily monopolize anymore-these days, in case you haven't noticed, anyone can pretty much publish anything. In the end, consumers will determine which will prevail, regardless of what the "latest batch of recent law school graduates who couldn't get a job elsewhere" contend in court. If you think Apple's ebook offerings are too pricy, go somewhere else. If all you care is about cheap pricing, go with Amazon. Of course, this means you can no longer whinge about the quality of literature available, or being treated like a complete chump, because that's what you get from Amazon-cheap. Little things like service, selection (BTW, 57,000,000 versions of the same book is not 'selection' to those of us who actually read), aren't on Amazon's radar. Amazon isn't running down prices for YOUR benefit, any more than a meth dealer giving you a few samples for free is 'helping you out". What this little imbroglio IS underlining is the essential battle in the consumer technology sector: Who owns the content, and who distributes it. Everything else: Hardware, OS, carrier-is just window dressing. Whoever becomes the primary source of electronic content will rule the consumer world-which is why companies like Microsoft and Google continue to flail about, because they don't even understand the objective of the game. Enterprises like Samsung prance around with handsets, and Knox, and all the other crap they throw at the industry, but the fact is they are an eminently replaceable cog in the tech sector-just like TI, or Sun, or SGI, or......(fill in the blank here). No matter what shakes out in court, consumers will decide-and they will invariably pick the LEAST option. My money is on Apple and Amazon, simply because they are the least option in this case.  In the mass market, cheap and convenient wins every time.

5/29/2013 11:08:07 PM

Well, well...such a busy news day:


It seems we are about to get 'the female viagra'.

Not surprisingly, hysteria is not far behind:…


i guess the question is which is more likely; the Zombie Apocalypse, or this drug being covered by insurance? Meanwhile, viagra will be introduced into the water supply any day now, since taking those insurance paid little pills is such a hassle.

5/29/2013 1:19:18 PM

Sad news today:

"U.S. Representative Michelle Bachmann, a former Republican presidential hopeful and a leader of the anti-tax Tea Party movement, said she won’t run for re-election, retiring from the House amid an ethics inquiry."
Apparently, Congress has stopped giving it's members free medication

"She said her decision to step aside wasn’t related to ethics inquiries into her presidential campaign and its staff."

It's just a stupendous coincidence.

“I have decided next year I will not seek a fifth congressional term,” Bachmann, of Minnesota, said today in a video posted on her website. “My future is full, it is limitless and my passions for America will remain.”

translation:  "Fox is paying me NOT to run."

"Bachmann’s district is the most Republican-leaning in Minnesota. While Republican presidential nominee Mitt Romney lost the state to Obama by almost 8 percentage points in November, he carried Bachmann’s congressional district by 15 percentage points."
Someone should have the water tested.

It's a sad day for America when an unqualified, self obsessed nutjob can't get the spotlight anymore.  


Maybe Kim Kardashian needs a nanny?  "Coming soon on FOX!"

5/20/2013 10:52:54 PM


I was recently asked what made the right woman for me, and i answered off the cuff, and thought i might as well add that to the journal:


The basics would be intelligence, strength, a good sense of humor, well read, active, perceptive, honorable, and generally of good character.  Sexually dominant, a bit manipulative, wickedly inventive, a big streak of sexual cruelty, and a consuming need to possess.  A woman who is not afraid of what she wants, doesn't make excuses for what she wants, but also understands the difference between sexual cruelty and emotional abuse-loves the first, and would never indulge in the second.

5/10/2013 5:55:05 PM

Help!  I have been hypnotized against my will!  Assistance!


Dated: 5/9/13 5:09 PM

The more times you read the more intense this becomes!

I want you to imagine that you are deep in the forest

in the middle of a clearing. {um, if i'm in a clearing, then i am 'out' of the forest}
You are relaxing on a blanket staring up into the night. 

{Actually, 'the forest' is not a place i tend to about Maui?}
The sky is clear and full of stars. 
It is a perfect night, cool and comfortable. 
It is so peaceful here, so quiet, except for the peaceful 
forest noises around you. {yes, yes...The Rattlesnakes rattling, the Bears growling, the Panthers panting...verrrry relaxing}
You are completely alone. 

{I would have to be seriously in love with someone to be in the fraking forest at night, so the alone part doesn't seem to likely-i have one word for camping and that's "Winnebago"}
The serenity of the night helps you to clear your mind. 
As you stare up into the night, your body begins to relax. 
You feel your breath begin to slow and become deeper. 
You stare up into the night and one star begins to grab your 
It seems to hang there peacefully, hanging effortlessly in 
the night. {It's probably a spy satellite, or Kim Jong DinGBat is getting the hang if it- not relaxing}
As you stare at the star, you feel yourself relaxing even 
more. {The spiders have probably gotten into the tent by now}
Each breath you take you find yourself holding briefly, then 
letting out. 
Breathing in and then releasing as your body relaxes. {The toxins racing through my blood as the mosquitoes get their fill, i want a refund on this SkinSoSoft crap-damn you Avon!}
You are beginning to feel your mind and body letting go as a 
soft sigh escapes your lips. 
Letting go now.


Oh, wait...i'm just bored.




1/28/2013 9:07:52 AM

I do love how people send you a one liner about how 'interested' they are in you-and if you try to start a conversation, they want an endless pic parade (nude, of course) so YOU can prove you're 'real'.


Aren't 12 year olds supposed to be in school?

1/23/2013 8:15:17 PM

-Ruminations on a Frozen Planet-

So, here i am, freezing my ass off in another hotel room somewhere not on "Lifestyles of the Rich and Shameless", pondering the Meaning Of It All.  Today, our Great White Father has decided to let women get Blown Up On The Front Lines On Purpose, instead of Blown Up Unexpectedly Because These People Don't Conduct War Right, And The Front Line Is All Over The Damn Place.  Had this momentous event occurred a few (ahem) years ago, my life probably would've taken a different path, by way of Maryland, theoretically followed by the glamorous Mid East.  And, the nice uniforms, and my agreeable nature notwithstanding, it's probably just as well.  Because, at the end of the day, it really doesn't matter whether i spent the last few years flying an F-18 or logging hours in a boardroom in the Fortune 500; it wouldn't really make much of a difference.  I've busted my ass for years with other really talented people to save a bunch of wealthy stupid people from losing lots of money, money that will sit in a bank somewhere so other even more stupid useless people can feel better about themselves.  As opposed to productively punching holes in the sky, keeping America safe from some people, so they can be robbed by other people, helped in large part by people like the one freezing her ass off in some hotel in BFN.

 We spend so much of our lives killing ourselves over what really doesn't matter much, and in doing so, we take ourselves away from what truly matters.  Nothing new here, really....just reminding myself that when i finally drop the Stuart Weitzmans and the rest of the armor at the end of the day, and fall into this sad little room, with the huge uber TV with nothing on, and the big, plush, empty bed, what truly defines what our life is about, and what really means something.


The rest is just another fucking commercial break, with a few words from our sponsors.

11/7/2012 7:47:58 AM

Well, another 6 months of peace and quiet until the next election starts.  Somehow, Akin and Mourdock didn't get re-elected after bestowing mystical pregnancy control on women; you'd think women would be more grateful for all that clarification on what 'real' rape is.  Ah well, they can always get jobs at planned parenthood.

11/5/2012 7:55:23 AM

Just caught "Cloud Atlas" this weekend; absolutely wonderful film, although i can see why it isn't a huge hit.  Good science fiction leaves you asking questions long after you leave, and it definitely is a thought provoking film.  Not your average forgettable $12 flick.

10/16/2012 6:29:08 PM

i simply cannot believe someone was enough of an ass to list ethanol as a 'renewable energy source'.


Apparently for some renewable energy = endless campaign contributions.

Meanwhile, dairies throughout the country are going out of business, because they can't afford to feed their cows anymore.

But ADM execs are making a fat profit, so i guess it's all part of the 'greater good'.

10/8/2012 9:15:52 PM

Back from Fashion Week, to find the election grinding towards it's final climax of ineptitude.


This may be the first election that is settled by penalty kicks.

8/20/2012 8:13:25 PM

Well, the laugh parade continues.  The GOP's Todd Akin, with a stunning sense of timing, has decided to educate the planet on biology.  And rape, if it actually exists, since, as we all know, to men in Missouri, rape is not having to say you're sorry.

It's having your lawyer call your victim, er, 'date' a tramp.

Akin bounced back later; "To quote my old friend John Paul Jones, I have not yet begun to fight."


Apparently, ""I wish to have no connection with any ship that does not sail fast; for I intend to go in harm's way." and "My mouth has fallen open, and i can't shut up." are pretty close, if you're hiding in Mike Huckabee's basement-or closet.


Meanwhile, the GOP's reaction has been somewhat...muted:

8/9/2012 4:25:21 PM

Ah, the Olympics.


A time where we settle back, cheer for the athletes, thrill to their accomplishments, take in the different cultures, root for our teams, and realize we really, really, really HATE countries that we've never even visited.

7/6/2012 1:49:49 PM

This weeks installment:  "Men: the Eternal Optimists" or, "Men on CM: Completely Full of Sh_t"


"Dom"  on 7/3/12 at 2:55 PM:

yummy pic ...i can do all you seek ....master "Modesty" ..../


Sasinak on 7/6/12 at 12:10 PM:

you can be a tall, dominant lesbian woman?


"Mr Flexible" on 7/6/12 at 12:20 PM:

yes i am and can be 4 u ...lets chat n voice my slut ..:)


This guy is AMAZING.  Why let a few chromosomes here or there mess up your chance at happiness?  Like the Army says, "Be ALL you can be"....if you can be full of shit.

6/28/2012 4:16:41 PM

SCOTUS upholds healthcare reform, and Roberts is the swing vote?


I am waiting for the hidden camera crew to pop out.

6/24/2012 9:57:20 PM

Well, another SF Pride Sunday spent on a plane, flying out to another sales gig.  Gotta just love my boss-he does this every frakking year-

6/1/2012 6:01:07 PM

And this Weekend's highlight:


"Mirror, Mirror, on the wall, who's the fairest one of-WTF!  KRISTEN STEWART!"

[Glass breaking]

"Seven years bad luck can kiss my ass."


If i was Charlize, i would want one SERIOUSLY big check to come in second in that one.

6/1/2012 12:02:07 AM

Well, it's official:  The Zombie Apocalypse is upon us.


We can now see the tragic damage all those GOP debates has had on the minds already weakened by faux christian hucksters, Facebook, Twitter, and The Jersey Shore.  Soon, the country will be overrun by brain eating zombies, Tea Party rallies, and episodes of American Idol.

Truly, the living will envy the dead, as small pockets of thinking humanity will be surrounded by mindless, shrieking imbeciles (rather like an intelligent person trapped at a Black Eyed Peas concert.)  


Donald Trump is going to get one hell of a ratings boost.



5/23/2012 11:19:37 PM

Well, it's a few months into Meg Whitman's tenure at HP, and they've announced they're laying off 27,000 workers.  What an incredible surprise-who could've possibly foreseen this?

Actually, just about anyone familiar with the way "Mrs. Potato Head" operates.  It's sad to see that the last engine of the US economy fall into the hands of imbecilic greedheads like Meg; despite the innovation, creativity, and hard work of developers, engineers, and visionaries, there will always be worthless, greedy corporate suck ups ready to weasel their way into tech startups by way of VC money.  Meg launched herself from obscurity at Hasbro (managing the complex Mr. Potato Head product was her job there) into the CEO role at a young eBay due to her astounding talent at kissing VC ass.  She couldn't tell you what HTML stands for, but she's a champ at taking someone else's ideas and whoring them out to bankers-then giving the jobs of the people who created the product to less expensive (and less talented and productive) workers elsewhere.  27,000 will lose their jobs, just so Meg can make back some of the $180 million she spent on losing to Jerry Brown, a man about as popular as psoriasis.  


Only in America.

5/16/2012 11:39:04 PM

It's 'Deja vu all over again':


From: Mr. "I am all about the details"

Dated 5/16/12 11:12 PM

"Hi You I loved reading your profile; Looks like a perfect match between what iam looking for and what you are and vice versa. I am a very sexy, firm, erotic, exotic alpha dom male. Can be a very fun loving and proper guy and yet a firm daddy in private. We live close to each other too. ' Would you like to chat, txt or im first? [name] aka "Mr. Observant"

I guess he 'loved reading' my profile so much he clean forgot the whole 'lesbian' thing.  This could explain so many deaths each year; "I was reading the sign about the man eating lions, and i was so swept away by the grammatical flourishes i just completely forgot about the whole 'death and dismemberment' think they can sew that back on?"

Now, i can appreciate 'sexy, firm' and 'erotic' (my first big crush was Lori Fetrick), but somehow the 'alpha dom male' seems a bit offputting for some reason...if only i could remember what he was talking about, that grammar.....whew.

But you have to appreciate the eternal optimism men are blessed with when they have an erection: "we live close to each other, too".  Most would feel miles of open water a BIT of an obstacle-but only when you're having your period, apparently.

Ah well, some guy swam the hellespont to get laid, i guess it's de rigueur.

And the cold water can explain things later.


5/15/2012 10:53:36 PM

This just in; Bob White, Romney supporter -and gay-, has decided not to continue his support for Romney for some strange reason-maybe he's worried about the safety of his new haircut?

"He told CNN

 he plays the field politically, supporting Ronald Reagan, George H.W. Bush, Bill Clinton and George W. Bush in the past,"

Yep, must be disillusioning to have supported all those progressives, and then find out Romney's not taking any calls to be this year's honorary Pride Marshall.  

Like any good rich guy, he's asking for last year's donation back.  Maybe he can get the rest of us a refund on the last 12 years of our lives, too.

"Therfore bihoueth hire a ful long spoon That shal ete with a feend."
- Geoffrey Chaucer

Sad when after a few years of letting the fox into the henhouse, he starts noticing your feathers.  There's just no loyalty anywhere, these days.



5/1/2012 9:39:10 PM

From Speed Reading HQ:


From: <Dom> " Hi Beautiful: Love your profile, we have a interesting match. I am very exotic erotic kinky masculine alpha male that loves to have fun with the right person. I have a great personality and can be very funny and make you laugh ur ass off :)"


Well, you would think he would have read it first to have 'loved it'.  Being a lesbian, i am not sure our 'match' would be defined as 'interesting' so much as 'improbable'.  Still, one can say when it comes to getting laid, men are eternal optimists.  I am sure he has a great personality (funny how that seems like a good thing in a guy, but purely toxic in a woman you have never met), and very probably funny too; but i think his sense of humor wouldn't extend to the  'no sex for eternity' extremes.  


it's odd; but the moment men find out they'll never have sex with you, they stop calling-who'd have thought an erection is a requirement for men who want to dial a phone number?


Ugh, remind me not to borrow anyone's cell.


3/12/2012 3:41:57 PM

<"dom"> on 3/12/12 at 3:03 PM

I'd like to fuck a lesbian: Master <so-and-so> here, come up to Seattle:<thisguymakes it toughtopreservehisidentity>@<domain>.com

 lol; you need some male training.


Sasinak on 3/12/12 at 3:38 PM:

I'd like to visit Mars-neither are likely to happen in our lifetimes.  By "male training" i presume you mean the same lobotomy most online male "Doms" have had; i'll pass.



And here i used to think Seattle was perfect.

2/14/2012 8:25:08 PM

This just in:  The latest literacy test results are in, and it doesn't look good:

on 2/14/12 at 5:58 PM:
I would piss on your face but you would need to come to Minnesota.

Wow-now Minnesota finally has that major tourism draw they've wanted for years.  Look out, NYC; the Lady Liberty is no match for Minnesota's yellow rain.
Book your dream vacation now-

2/12/2012 10:17:21 PM

 on 2/12/12 at 10:08 PM:

ill pay you 500 if you will piss on my face


kid, i get $500 an hour to listen to Fortune 500 CEOs bitch about information.  I'm not involved with D/S for money.  I am sure someone out there is willing to take your money, good luck in your search.

What is it with guys on this site?  Do i look like Lucy Van Pelt with the "Psychiatric Help, 5 cents" stand and the disappearing football when you try to kick it?


11/7/2011 7:37:04 PM

In another triumph for justice, the doctor 'attending' Michael Jackson (The Artist Formerly Known as "Wacko Jacko") has been found guilty of manslaughter, for apparently forcing drugs on his patient, who i am sure was horrified at the thought of taking more drugs.  While it's hardly stunning to find a Doctor suffering from a God complex to the point he'll try stuff he's fully unqualified for, one has to wonder why he's standing alone in the defendant's chair-he was hardly alone at assisting Jackson to his early exit.


  It's truly amazing how a small thing like death can transform a drugged out, baby juggling has been into 'The King of Pop' (apparently Elvis didn't 'allegedly molest' enough kids to stay on top.)  "Sure, he molested a few kids, but this is Michael Jackson"


Meanwhile, the 'family' is feeling better; LaToya chimed in with "Michael was looking over us."  If that was the case, LaToya should beware being clobbered by falling kids, but one wonders: if the Doctor is guilty of manslaughter for pandering to Jackson self destructive behavior, where are the charges against his family who did it his entire life?

11/6/2011 10:37:11 PM

Altered States of Consciousness-


Isn't it odd how happy cleaning house makes you AFTER you have started?  After traveling for thousands of miles to get home, lying on my couch and contemplating doing my 'pre-winter cleanup' nearly made me physically ill-the following morning made getting out of bed an act of sheer will.  Two hours later, grubby, sweaty, and music blazing away, i was singing along (not always a good thing) and happy as a clam.  At the end of the day, a long bath done, oddly smug and very satisfied-happy.  I could draw a thousand parallels with BDSM, but who needs them?  But it never ceases to fascinate me how the brain can turn molehills into mountains with no prodding whatsoever.  


"The only thing we have to fear is fear itself." -FDR

11/3/2011 4:40:53 PM

*****Further Signs of the Coming Apocalypse****


"The couple formerly known as the participants in the wedding of the century" have called it quits.  Yes, those mega-celebrities-sorta Kim Kardashian and Chris whatshisname have announced their divorce, proof once again that the fabric of civilization as we know it is quickly unraveling.  Fundamentalist ministers across the nation are campaigning  to ban "Same Level of Faux Celebrity" marriage, as a threat to the "Sanctity of Marriage".  The new proposed law requires that marriage be defined as "between a man with a real claim to being famous and a woman who isn't getting married because US or People will pay millions for the photo shoot."  Fundamentalists are convinced that "if Snooki were to marry Adam Sandler or some equally non-funny comedian, the world will split in two, or Lindsey Lohan will go on another bender and borrow another SUV.  Either way, the living will envy the dead" said Rev. Hap Hapablatt, founder of the "We Haven't Read the Bible, We're Waiting For the Movie" Baptist Church.  


Meanwhile, same sex marriage is banned in most states, because marriage is a serious business-best left to the professionals.


8/10/2011 3:18:53 PM

And the big news today is the GOP lost two seats in Wisconsin, but held onto the majority.  Should be interesting to see both parties trying to spin this into something positive.


plus ca change, plus c'est la meme chose.

7/28/2011 12:05:37 PM

And now, back to our regular "broadcasting":

[dom] on 7/28/11 at 12:00 PM:

*** The sender of this message has triggered our bulk content filter and has been prevented from sending additional messages at this time. We place these limits on our messaging system to prevent abuse and maintain the quality of our online community. You should not conclude that this user is fake or illegitimate merely because they have triggered the filter. ***



Sasinak on 7/28/11 at 12:02 PM:

No.  But i would call you desperate and sad.

Another example of the 'quantity vs. quality' approach; why read profiles when you can just mailbomb a lovely introduction like that?  interestingly enough, it did prompt a thought on my part; i would never call myself a whore, but i don't think i would be upset if my domme called me that-odd, i suppose.  If i ever find Ms. Right, i can test my theory out :)

7/20/2011 9:47:46 PM

So, just to prove i have my own judgement issues, i have been spending time on FL, and in a moment of complete insanity, i actually posted a question.  Naturally, the thread was overflowing with posts discussing how people 'didn't care' about the subject-literally, paragraphs of not-caring.  So, i decided to just clear it out to save them the trouble of not caring for 12 paragraphs-and wound up in trouble with the THREAD POLICE:

written 24 minutes ago:You have been in the group long enough to know that it is against the rules to deleted or alter your OP. It's also not fair to the women who bothered to respond in the first place.
Frankly, I can't even see why you bothered to delete it at all. Please do not do it again or you will be banned.

sasinak1980 30F

new message 

Frankly, i can't believe i was fool enough to post it in the first place-it was an amusing conversation topic with a bunch of women over the weekend, but i forgot humor takes a second place to building up your uber kewl cat credentials in this group. Sorry i caused so much distress.

[moderator]new messagewritten 5 minutes ago:

I didn't get in your OP - that you were trying to be humorous. It came across as if you were aligning an act from your past, to your submission. Hell, it's not like it hasn't been done before in the group.
Honestly, people were offering you their opinions and views on what you posted. There was no "one-up-manship" or anyone trying to be "uber cool".
Throwing a temper tantrum because no one "got" your humor and deleting your post, when no one was argumentative or snarky - is just juvenile.

sasinak1980 30F

new messagewritten less than a minute ago:

No, i wasn't being humorous, i was mentioning a topic some friends of mine found amusing-it's actually quite different. However, i forgot the need so many people have in this group to pontificate on a topic that they "Never cared " about -<user>, or "I don't care either." -<user>, I frankly deleted the post contents because i didn't want to waste everybody's time by apparently feeding this compulsion to post responses on subjects people don't care about-imagine the heartache that could've been avoided-all those long, involved responses telling everyone that "personally i don't care" and so on and so forth. Instead, think of all the time and effort will be wasted on posting that lack of interest. Again, like so many before me, i am sorry i had the audacity to post a topic in the group; i can assure you it won't happen again.

Is it just me, or does there seem to be a bit of the 'let's not forget who's wearing the paper hat here' mentality going on online?

7/17/2011 9:01:48 PM

well, another sunday night, another hotel in a town i wouldn't really visit by choice:


 on 7/17/11 at 6:32 PM:

thats right looking at some peoples profile can be downright painful

Sasinak on 7/17/11 at 8:53 PM:

it does seem to be one of those 'feast or famine' things.

(yep, you've recognized it; one of those "Oh sh__, have i spoken to this person before?" sort of answers...the electronic version of "   OH are  It's been............." (as you wait for them to helpfully fill in the blanks)

"domme" on 7/17/11 at 8:54 PM:

thats the 4th time you have looked slut

Sasinak on 7/17/11 at 8:55 PM:

i'll try to avoid a 5th transgression-it's a bit hard to remember every member.

OK, i admitted it.  Maybe we had chatted.  Maybe i blotted it out.  Maybe you don't blame me.  


I won't tell if you won't.

Let's leave it at that.


6/3/2011 8:21:32 AM

Well, once again i went and looked at somebody's profile-i really need to stop doing that, it causes so much stress here-

"domme" on 6/2/11 at 6:19 AM:   You look at my profile without saying hello. That makes me feel unattractive.

Sasinak on 6/2/11 at 2:11 PM:   you shouldn't, you aren't.
good luck in your search.

OK, so a bit dismissive, but honestly, the whiny boo-hoo "you didn't leave me a message" approach isn't exactly what i am looking for from an assertive domme, call me crazy.


This is followed by:

"domme" on 6/2/11 at 4:15 PM
Thank you, my dear.


Note:  This user does not have an active profile


Apparently, my non message has caused her profile to spontaneously combust.


Next week:  i bend salad forks with my mind.  It ought to get me my own show on the Sci Fi channel.

5/19/2011 3:30:36 PM

Well, tomorrow the world is going to end-again.  Guess it's time to find some tall, uber sexy domme and party like it's 1844!


Hugs to you Adventists with a sense of humor!

5/3/2011 10:51:59 AM

Just back from Europe, and the news is all about bin Laden.  I suppose it's all about priorities; Bush went looking for oil, Obama found him in an affluent suburb surrounded by pakastani military personnel in a couple of years.  Frankly, if Hillary had won, they probably would've found him in 09.  Kudos to the intelligence personnel that found him, but honestly, there didn't seem to be too much urgency during the Bush administration if he was hanging out in a huge house outside of islamabad.  Meanwhile, in Europe, they're busy ignoring the Libyan situation.  Is the priority there oil, or the people?  hmmmm.....the PTB's are saying they want Qaddafi out; exactly how hard is he to find?

4/4/2011 7:16:47 PM

 And the parade continues:

  <domme> on 4/3/11 at 8:40 PM:   I do not sweep that is my slaves job
     Sasinak on 4/3/11 at 8:54 PM:   In a traditional sense, yes. 

<domme>. on 4/3/11 at 8:58 PM:   k
So , i went to email back a thank you for dropping by - i know, i should've sooner- and found i was blocked.  Guess i am a bigger bitch than i thought.  Ah well, her home is either crowded or a mess, so it could be worse.

Maybe she vacuums?

3/1/2011 9:52:59 PM

Well, in the wake of the Academy Awards, i have to wonder about all the hand wringing about "The Social Network" not winning Best Picture.  Frankly, a PR film about a mediocre coder who stole an old idea from a trio of numbskulls and turned it into one of the worst wastes of rack space is not anything worthy of an Oscar.  No, "The King's Speech" wasn't the best picture of the year, but it was terrific, and Colin Firth truly deserved his award.  Watching four lames whine about trust in a room full of lawyers is not entertainment-it's torture.

1/1/2011 12:47:07 AM

Weird Message #39:

 <name> on 1/1/11 at 12:29 AM:

"may i be the toilet for you both? d"


So now apparently i have multiplied into two?  Multiple personalities, perhaps?  Or my evil domme twin from outer space??

12/1/2010 7:00:24 PM

12/1/2010 4:36:00 PM
I understand everyone is curious, and i have previously posted about the idiocy of creating a profile then complaining about people looking at it.  And, while i understand some lesbian's angst about men inundating them with emails, i have tried to be polite and friendly with everyone who drops me a message that isn't rude or otherwise unpleasant.
That being said, i would really, really, REALLY appreciate that if i am going to see your profile picture in my inbox or on my "Who's Viewing Me?" page, that it NOT be a picture of your hairy pale ass in a Speedo.
You know who you are.  Stop the insanity, now.

11/6/2010 2:10:06 PM

It is interesting to see the wide range of approaches from the dominants on this site; it tends to range from brief, poorly spelled orders to  almost plaintive, diffident entreaties.  i often think that it's a sign of the times that d/s is still continuing to increase it's presence in the country, even while the 'let's go back to the 19th century' political trend continues.


What seems pretty clear is that CM, like most kink oriented internet forums is providing a medium for people to introduce themselves to BDSM, and find their identity in that space.  And, while a new submissive's entry into the BDSM is certainly fraught with some peril (physical and otherwise) it seems to me to underline the difficulties for dominants of transitioning from a vague desire into a polished reality.

Unfortunately, the mental and emotional aspects of dominance can't really be taught, in my humble opinion; you can't really teach someone to want or even need that level of control or possession of another-you have it or you don't.  However, the method to that lovely bit of madness is another story entirely.  While quite a few doms or dommes seem to feel a leather vest, a well stocked toy bag, and a loud voice are all that is needed, in reality it's not easy to pick up the kind of experience as a well rounded dom or domme.  

Whatever the best approach might be, bluffing your way through is almost certainly the worst; you won't fool anyone for long, and for anyone with any experience in d/s, it's an instant turn off.  Sad, but hereabouts  it all seems to be about trying to impress in 60 seconds, rather than just initiating a conversation that might (heaven forbid) lead to something, even if it's just an insight or two.  I have certainly spent some time detailing my 'conversations' with doms/dommes who have unique concepts of d/s and human interaction to say the least.  I have to think that the biggest problem too many here have is the need to impress, rather than to connect, which OUGHT to be what this site-and others- are about.

10/20/2010 8:57:26 PM

And the fan mail keeps pouring in...

MistressKelly07 on 4/28/10 at 5:44 PM:

Hello bitch how are you doing ?

MistressKelly07 on 10/20/10 at 8:36 PM:

Hello cunt slut whore bitch how are you doing ?

MistressKelly07 on 10/20/10 at 8:38 PM:

cunt whore slut bitch

Now THERE's creativity for you.  Apparently, for some evolution seems to be stuck in 'Reverse' with the gas pedal firmly pressed to the floor.  

I wonder if Toyota can recall people?

10/18/2010 11:51:40 PM

And tonight, registering a 9.6 on the weirdness meter:

Master<"of something other than composing emails"> on 10/18/10 at 11:04 PM:

hello slave how are you

Sasinak on 10/18/10 at 11:04 PM:

fine, thank you-

Master<"InquiringMindsWantToKnow"> on 10/18/10 at 11:08 PM:

what is slave doing

Sasinak on 10/18/10 at 11:09 PM:

just working.

[OK, generally, i am open to intelligent conversation.  However, this is not an example of how to start one]

Master<"CutToTheChase"> on 10/18/10 at 11:09 PM:

what is your yahoo id

[WOW.  That was one slick segue; the email equivalent of the ol' seventh grade "yawn, stretch, and try to cop a feel move" at the matinee]

Sasinak on 10/18/10 at 11:14 PM:

Ok, so much for polite disinterest.  if you take the time to read my profile, you might notice the recurrence of the word 'lesbian'; the definition of which in this case would be 'a lack of interest in continuing this exchange further.'

good bye, and good luck in your search-

[I know, the classic snarky bitch move-what can i say, it's late, and i am still working on this f'n RFP]

Master<"OutOfOffice"> on 10/18/10 at 11:15 PM:

Thanks for writing to me!  I've received a large number of messages and am unable to respond to each one individually at this time.  I'll be responding to my messages in more detail when I'm better able to do so.
With regard,
Thanks for writing to me!  Please note that I'm presently involved in a relationship and am therefore unable consider other offers at this time.
With regard,
Thanks for the kind words and good luck in your search!
With regard,

OK, on a site where people telling you they want you to eat their bodily waste draws a yawn, this last part is like Queen Elizabeth sporting a purple mohawk.  Excuse me?  " Please note that I'm presently involved in a relationship and am therefore unable consider other offers at this time."  i can well imagine; with his astounding charm and smooth chat, women must be beating down his door.  What's really interesting is that his Tolstoy-esque form response dwarfs his actual conversation; it's like a 'hello' being followed by one of those auto lease disclaimers on TV.  I have visions of Helen Keller suddenly singing all of Wagner's "Der Ring des Nibelungen" on her deathbed.

Ah well, that image will put me to sleep (Wagner is useful in that way)-the rep can wait for the RFP one more day, anyway.

10/17/2010 11:03:55 PM

Heigh ho, another night, another hotel room in the saga of the weary software professional.  While constantly being on the road has it's disadvantages, being out of state does give me the blessing of seeing how other state's candidates smear each other mercilessly, while saying nothing of their own qualifications, plans, or (god forbid!) newfangled idears.

After watching a weekend's worth of Meg Whitman and Carly Fiorina attempting to pose as technology executives, i find myself missing Billy Mays.

It truly is sad, though; that two astoundingly incompetent, self promoting, and greedy women could managed to position themselves as 'tech leaders'.  Meg Whitman couldn't tell you what HTML stands for, and Carly couldn't spell 'HTML'.  One was a manager at playskool, struggling with the massive responsibility of handling the all important "Mr. Potatohead" product (no, i am NOT kidding).  The other managed to screw up 3 tech companies in just 18 months-and was fired by two for incompetence, leading to a well deserved position as one of the "20 worst CEOs of all time".  Neither, by the way, has ever voted in their lives, but i can see why it wouldn't stop them, since they were willing to violate the most cardinal rule of all technology enterprises: understand your business.

We have truly come to a pretty pass, if this represents the 'best' that 'today's woman' has to offer; self promotion, greed, spin, and phenomenal incompetence.


I enjoy abuse as much as the next sub-but this is a bit hard to swallow.


[November 6]


Well, as the dust settles, the numbers were pretty illuminating.  Both Meg and Carly were demolished by a pair of rather tired old professional politicians in the counties where there is a technology presence (in some cases 80-20 percent), but fared well in counties where manure is the primary investment with regards to future production.  Coincidence?  You make the call.  Overall, we now have GOP elected leaders carrying out the mandate of the wealthy and the special interests instead of Democrat elected leaders carrying out the mandate of the wealthy and the special interests.

"plus ça change, plus c'est la même chose."

9/24/2010 2:02:55 PM
Well, it never gets dull around here; unproductive, certainly-but never dull: "dom" on 9/24/10 at 12:18 PM: Hi, my name is , but you can call me sir or master. I'm looking for a new online Sub. After reading your profile I would like to get to know you to see if I want to be you online dom or not. I also want to know every thing about you, what you like from food to sex to TV to what you like to ware, what you like about BDSM... Why do you want to be a slave? Are you willing to any thing I ask "stuff your pussy and ass full of ice, spank yourself, poor hot wax on youself, pepper spray yourself "any where I tell you to" sit on a coke bottle, stand on rice, not take a bath until I say you can, eat out the fatest uglyest woman I can find online, lick there ass whole, put clamps on your nipples and clit, be gangbang by the uglyest men I can find, wear the same cloths ever day until I tell you to change them? Let me know either way Sasinak on 9/24/10 at 1:31 PM: Wow- Where to begin? Since i can't rumba, the Beguine is out-so i'll just take it from the top. 1. "you can call me sir or master". Gee, thanks; i was planning on something more colorful, but you've saved me a tough choice. 2. "After reading your profile I would like to get to know you" Somehow, i find this unlikely, since if you 'read my profile': A. You would know i am a lesbian B. You would know i am looking for real time C. You would know "why i want to be a slave" And, knowing that, you probably wouldn't "want to get to know" me. Frankly, if you really 'want to know every thing about me", reading my profile would be a logical place to start. 3. Am i "willing to any thing" you ask? Well, gee....after all the time you've taken to get to know me, and send me this lovely, spellchecked form letter, how could i say no? Answer: Very easily. My humble advice would be; if you want someone to read your email, extend them the small courtesy of reading their profile first- I would wish you luck in your search, but i suppose it's all about percentages. ("if you walk up to 1,000 women and ask them if they want to fuck, and .5% say yes, then...") sass Note to any suffering readers out there: I should point out that it's been suggested by another member on this site that my journal is probably not the most encouraging for dominants; that i was making myself as desirable as Lindsey Lohan borrowing your car. And, she was probably right. And, while i don't consider myself a SAM or brat, i am a bit of a smart ass. My desire to serve or be owned derives from the emotional bond i have with my domme; essentially, it's a need to prove my devotion to her-and the tougher or more extreme, the better for me to prove myself. Unfortunately, this is something you can't just turn on with the flick of the proverbial switch-and i could never love someone i don't respect. Additionally, despite the unlucky doms who have unwittingly added to my journal, i am not a man-hater; men are fine, i don't find them attractive emotionally. Simply put, just never met one i would spend the night with, much less the rest of my life. So-why the journal? Well, i have tried to 'change the names to protect the silly', but it strikes me that one of the benefits of sites like this is the hope or idea of better communication; and while i applaud people for saying what's on their mind ( one of the things i do appreciate about Doms is they aren't shy about communicating what they want; most women prefer the ESP or "20 questions" methods), listening (or reading) is just as important; it seems like we're all locked on 'transmit' here at times.

9/21/2010 2:37:44 PM
Heigh Ho, another day on Collarme: 'dom' on 9/21/10 at 2:02 PM: intrest in be a real pet, no rights , full control? Sasinak on 9/21/10 at 2:04 PM: yes, but i am only looking for women or domme couples 'dom' on 9/21/10 at 2:05 PM: so you not a real pet then , a pet cannot choose here master, bye Sasinak on 9/21/10 at 2:06 PM: aha-so a pet just sits around, waiting for you to show up? Or is it merely that no one has ever chosen you? 'dom' on 9/21/10 at 2:10 PM: a pet is a pet, lives nude, eat and sleep on the ground and need ask for all permission, or did you see ever a dog that choose what you look on tv or when he likes to go outside? i not Sasinak on 9/21/10 at 2:15 PM: i am well aware of how a pet lives. However, based on your approach, i suggest you buy a dog; perhaps it won't run off. maybe. 'dom' on 9/21/10 at 2:23 PM: your not real i see , you look i think more seks, buy succes then , i seek a real pet, full controll, well, i will just have to live with the incredible suspense of wondering what was coming after that last comma. Or not; maybe his keyboard is broken-or the dog ate the period. Still, i had no idea i was just supposed to wait around until someone just claimed me; rather like a forgotten hat left in a coat check at a restaurant. Hopefully a nice restaurant-i can't imagine what a coat check at Denny's would be like. I should've asked him-he'd probably know.

8/28/2010 10:41:59 PM
"I love the lifestyle,but this website is a joke.There are mostly of fakes here, so be ready to prove who you are immediately." I see this alot, really. "This site (fill in the blank with, bondage, collarme, whatever) is a joke, nobody's real, etc,," I have some news for you: out in the real world, the D/S scene has plenty of fakes-so don't take it so hard. Meanwhile, because 'dom' so-and-so has never met anyone from here, then everyone needs to do a nude cam session to prove their 'worthiness'. (of course, their cam is 'broke'.) Didn't that bit get old about 10 years ago?

8/7/2010 6:07:09 PM
"Dom" on 8/7/10 at 5:52 PM: IT WOULD HELP YOU DUMB FUCK TO READ AND FOLLOW THE RULES ON THIS SITE! FOR SOMEONE WHO "CLAIMS" TO BE A SLAVE, YOUR NOT ACTING LIKE ONE! MAYBE YOU SHOULD BUY A DOG! SINCE YOUR SO LONELY! Sasinak on 8/7/10 at 6:00 PM: tres charmant. Did they close the hospital, or did you just climb the fence during a power outage? Somehow, i keep upsetting these poor folks-how is something of a mystery, since reading doesn't seem to be one of their primary talents; their busy schedule in charm school seems to have precluded learning to read-oh well. Guess i will go buy a dog...nah, my profile gets chewed on and slobbered on enough here.

7/14/2010 8:09:14 AM
Well, as if i didn't have enough Virtual BDSM Transgressions, i have run afoul of the network scheduler: "Domme" on 7/13/10 at 8:37 AM: LOL , Unreal. I AGREE 110% on what you have on your journals. It sounds like Mine. Sasinak on 7/14/10 at 7:46 AM: thank you! i enjoyed reading yours as well. It is amazing how 'hello' has been replaced by a survey form. "Domme" on 7/14/10 at 7:48 AM: Meaning ? Sasinak on 7/14/10 at 7:53 AM: oh, i was referring to your journal post on 6/8. i get similar 'surveys' from people on here right off the bat. "Domme" on 7/14/10 at 8:01 AM: you must be at work, slow to reply. Message ME from home. Sasinak on 7/14/10 at 8:02 AM: my apologies; i am not used to conversations that are timed. good luck in your search. I suddenly have sympathy for the Oscar winners who are trying to thank every single employee of their studio while the band plays. Notice the 5 minute delay in one response-the East German judge really dinged me on that one-no "Cyber Olympics" Gold Medal ceremony here. I guess Wheaties will have to put someone else on their virtual cereal box. I'll get through it all without therapy, somehow.

6/8/2010 12:35:23 PM
Alert!!! Be on your guard; the Journal Police are out in force to make sure YOUR journal entries conform to the ONE TRUE STANDARD. Abandon all hope, all ye that might write down what you really feel! Those Journal entries not conforming to the standards enforced by the Journal Police will be in HEAP BIG COLLARME TROUBLE!!!! "Domme "on 6/8/10 at 12:23 PM: I saw where you viewed ME, I read your profile. the last comment told ME you Were NOT taught the True LifeStyle as I copied here >> ((i have 8 years rl training, focused on pet/pony training, and full domestic service.)) I would have talked to you in more detail. Hard to "untrain" one. "Domme" Sasinak on 6/8/10 at 12:29 PM: Sorry, wasn't aware my journal was being graded on a curve. Good luck with your search. Honestly, there must be a series in all this; kind of like that show where people fall off the big bouncy stuff into the mud pit. i wonder if Sci Fi channel could squeeze this in, between the Bigfoot vs. Nessie and the Giant Cobra movies?

6/7/2010 11:39:29 AM
OK- i get the views; one can't easily tell sexual orientation from a picture-but sometimes you have to wonder... Sasinak on 6/7/10 at 11:37 AM: sorry, but what part of 'lesbian' does 'we' not understand? good luck in your search. 'Dom' on 6/7/10 at 11:26 AM: we are a kind and caring master who is looking for a sub. we r strict when we need to be. I been in the lifestyle for over 13 yrs. we bring you to your limits and beyond.we hope we can talk and get to know each other better. Do you have yahoo messager if you do give me your name so I can Im you let talk

6/4/2010 9:12:59 AM
And the hits just keep on coming.... "goddess" on 5/31/10 at 5:04 AM: and what brings you my way? Sasinak on 6/2/10 at 10:24 AM: just checking to see who is on. :) "goddess" on 6/2/10 at 11:34 PM: that isnt the real reason you checked out my profile. i am not stupid Sasinak on 6/3/10 at 2:21 PM: That may be so; still, i would have to wonder about anyone who would assume to know the mind of someone they have never met. "goddess" on 6/3/10 at 6:06 PM: I am a Goddess. I know more than you realize.. Sasinak on 6/3/10 at 9:09 AM: OK-what's my favorite color? I'm hoping i get a correct answer. I would love to know who to bet on in the NBA finals-since i can't stand NBA basketball, i have no idea, but i could always use another pair of shoes.

6/2/2010 4:39:53 PM
The Circle of Life (the collar me version, anyway) continues. Again, working away, just checking to see who is online, when- Mistress on 6/2/10 at 2:35 PM: Hello bitch how are you doing ? (Always a lovely way to start a conversation-kids, if you're getting up the nerve to approach a woman for a date, fling, to sell her insurance, whatever-call her 'bitch'-you'll be AMAZED at the response, really. Seriously-just walk up to a woman you don't know, and just jump in-she'll really react. Definitely.) Sasinak on 6/2/10 at 2:42 PM: fine, thanks-how are you? Mistress on 6/2/10 at 3:11 PM: I am great thank you for asking bitch Mistress on 6/2/10 at 3:12 PM: How would you like to serve a 19 year old Mistress ? Mistress on 6/2/10 at 3:15 PM: If you have any questions do ask Sasinak on 6/2/10 at 3:34 PM: Generally speaking, i prefer women my age or older-but i'm willing to get to know someone first. Mistress on 6/2/10 at 3:43 PM: Ok i understand but with my mom traing me to be a Mistress it is like i have 30 years under my belt Sasinak on 6/2/10 at 3:57 PM: aha. your mom is training you? Mistress on 6/2/10 at 4:04 PM: Yes she has been Mistressh on 6/2/10 at 4:05 PM: Chat with me bitch (at this point, checking her profile i could see who her mom is, and was SIMPLY AMAZED to find that not only had we chatted before [what are the odds here?] but the conversation was one of the charming dialogues detailed in an earlier journal entry-again, WHAT A COINCIDENCE!) Sasinak on 6/2/10 at 4:05 PM: ah, yes-we've chatted Mistress on 6/2/10 at 4:06 PM: ok Mistress on 6/2/10 at 4:06 PM: Bitch i am telling you to chat with me now Sasinak on 6/2/10 at 4:12 PM: yes, i can see the resemblance. good luck in your search. Mistress on 6/2/10 at 4:24 PM: Bitch did i say you could leave ? Well, another fascinating day-i suppose i could sum this up as.....let's see: A. "A chip off the old schlock" or B. "The family that Brays together, stays together'? A chilling view of our future for either Emily Post or geneticists. Ah well-

5/28/2010 1:27:25 PM
Hi ho, another day in search of Ms. Right. So, diligently slaving away on a RFP, i start chatting with another 'domme'. About 5 minutes into our initial conversation, she wants me to take my panties off-as she's several thousand miles away, and i am at a clients office building, i am not sure what practical advantage this would provide. after telling her that, unfortunately, i can't do that, as it's a: unprofessional. b: unlikely anyway, as i hardly know her, and don't take orders from a strange text box in a browser window. Naturally, she's outraged, and i have done it again, been a BAD SUB. (oh, the shame of it) Once again, i seem to be living in a bizarre, parallel universe where people don't just submit to some poseur (sorry, "DOMME") after the requisite twenty lines of text, and where we don't risk getting fired for following the orders of some 12 year old complete stranger (sorry, "DOMME") over the internet. It must be nice, living in a place where there are no consequences, no cause and effect, no need for responsibility, commitment, or effort; you just do whatever sounds good at the time, and everything ends happy. A colleague once made the observation that the reason the circus is always traveling is that nobody wants to spend their life surrounded by f'ing clowns. He must have been a member here.

3/17/2010 9:54:39 AM
well, here i go again-looking at a DOUBLE SECRET PROFILE without advance permission: "domme" 7 on 3/17/10 at 9:23 AM: Hello "domme" on 3/17/10 at 9:23 AM: How can i help you ? Sasinak on 3/17/10 at 9:26 AM: hello Ma'am-just checking to see who is online-sorry to disturb you. "domme" on 3/17/10 at 9:31 AM: Kiss my feet for that cunt Sasinak on 3/17/10 at 9:51 AM: Unfortunately, i keep thinking people put their profiles on this server because they want people to read them. i suppose i will just have to learn the ability to know which profiles NOT to read before i read them. i understand you want to punish me for looking at your profile, but since i enjoy foot worship, i suppose i will just have to settle for depriving myself of your eloquent conversation. good luck in your search.

9/26/2009 12:48:38 PM
Ho hum, another day, another fascinating conversation with a 'domme' on the site: <'domme' on 9/26/09 at 12:11 PM: beiing a good little slave? Sasinak on 9/26/09 at 12:12 PM: doing my best-not having many opportunities to prove it these days. 'domme' on 9/26/09 at 12:12 PM: cant find a good owner slave? maybe u need to try new things have your limits tested? pushed? Sasinak on 9/26/09 at 12:18 PM: mostly just being on the road days a week. as far as the limits go, i have had them whittled down to the bare minimum by my last domme. 'domme' on 9/26/09 at 12:19 PM: maybe u need to feel a Master on you make u feel totally worthless and pitiful and nothing but a kept slave girl... [NOTE: i always love when "dommes" start talking about setting me up with someone else (amazingly, always male) who is JUST RIGHT FOR ME] Sasinak on 9/26/09 at 12:20 PM: no, i need to find a woman to spend the rest of my life with 'domme' on 9/26/09 at 12:21 PM: slave should not have preferences! your property nothing else. Sasinak on 9/26/09 at 12:23 PM: right [OK, i am a sarcastic bitch, mea culpa] 'domme' on 9/26/09 at 12:24 PM: a slave shouldnt care who she serves as long as she serves maybe u need more training slave??? Sasinak on 9/26/09 at 12:29 PM: you seem to have confused a slave with a desperate, mindless slut that can't get attention unless she throws herself at everyone who comes along. I am sure you will find your right level without too much difficulty, Ma'am. good luck with your search. 'domme' on 9/26/09 at 12:29 PM: your boring good bye BLOCKED Gosh, i hate being boring...and hate keeping people talking to me when i am boring-i really must remember not to be boring in the seems to attract 12 year old boys. Please, please, please, all you "dommes" out there, if i am boring you, don't message me-SAVE YOURSELVES!

9/11/2009 11:16:16 AM
New rant: YES, that IS my hair color. it's a bit darker these days, but NO, i don't color it. Tip for those just starting to speak to women: asking her if she dyes her hair is NOT, repeat NOT, a great conversation starter-unless you are the type on this site that enjoys getting a drink tossed in your face.

8/4/2009 7:34:51 AM
OK, my own lil journal entry (aka rant): why is it that dommes fill their profiles with a long 'don't email me unless" list, then hit me with an email telling me how rude i am for not emailing? if you don't want anyone to look at your profile, why post it?

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