To everyone who's tried to contact me the past several months, I apologize for taking so long to respond. Family and hospital issues have kept me very bizzy and it's RARE I get on here. Things are a lot better than they've been lately, so I'm finally able to slow down a bit and can finally get back here to chat.

Bear with me as I get back into mode. ;)

Seriously considering a career change. Maybe a Pro Domina? NOT on here. In an actual dungeon perhaps.  Input/suggestions anyone?

Once again I've become a tad behind on answering messages. Tis the season to be run ragged after all, so please bear with me. I hope everyone had a funnn holiday(whatever one is your preference/choice/belief) and wish you all a safe, happy and healthy New Year!

Ohhhhhh I am SO done! The "Y" chromosomes have officially gone off the deep end and have made me wonder WHY I feel the need to find someone else to share my life with in ANY capacity!!! Time to become a hermit...with 50 cats!!! That's it! I'll be the local "Crazy Cat Lady"!

Another observation...why are so many people using the word "normal" when they describe their non kinky personas? "Normal" is such a subjective word that there is NO concrete definition of it. What is "normal" to one may be exotic/strange/scary to another. If you're talking about your public life, might I respectfully suggest that you use the word "vanilla" instead?

O-kay. It would seem I need to clarify something here. "Switch" does not mean "bi". Ladies? I'm flattered, but...no.

FYI ladies and gentlemen. If you can't be civil when corresponding with me, you WILL be BLOCKED.

To anyone and everyone who has sent me messages in the past several weeks, THANK YOU! And I'm sorry it's taking me so long to get back to you, but I've been out of work for the past couple of months on workman's comp. To try and sit at my computer for more than 2-3 minutes was EXCRUCIATING, so I simply haven't been going online...AT ALL.

I am now TONS better and can finally sit at my comp and go through everything, so rest assured I WILL be answering my messages. It will just take a little while for me to do so.

In closing I would just like to say that the new limited smiley menu sucks!

Thank you to everyone who volunteered an opinion and a friendly word of advice towards my dilemma. You're all sweethearts!

Based on what you all mainly had to say, I'm going to address my issue here in my journal.

The thing that's been niggling at my conscience for some time now is the fact that I put 'submissive' on my profile. This is not entirely true. In actuality, I'm a switch. I do NOT, however, have ANY desire/need to find a sub/slave. I already have mine and neither want nor need anymore! I came on here to find MY Dom. In essence, I am catering to the needs/wants of MY submissive side and so thought going by the title of 'submissive' was appropriate. I still believe it IS, but it still nudges my conscience when I log on that the title 'switch' is neither addressed nor represented on here in the interest of full disclosure. I hope this entry remedies that.

I am a switch who is looking for HER Dom-NO ONE ELSE! I am NOT looking for someone I can 'top from the bottom'. I have NEVER been interested in that. Rest assured, when I am with the 'right' man, I am COMPLETELY submissive.

Again...thank you everyone for your input and advice. It was MUCH appreciated.

All right. So, being the 'honest and forthright to the best of my ability' person that I am, I find myself faced with a bit of a dilemma(or, as a mutual acquaintance of mine who is NOT the brightest bulb in the chandelier says, "dilemmIa"). There is a certain aspect of me that has NOT been mentioned in my profile because I personally feel it has no bearing on what I am personally searching for. I KNOW for a FACT that if I choose to include it in my profile, I will be inundated with messages from those I am NOT seeking. In the interest of honesty and full disclosure, when I am exchanging messages I will at some point mention this aspect...but I do wonder if I shouldn't just mention it from the get-go in my profile.

Thoughts? Suggestions? Comments? Anyone?

To all my chat buddies, I am soooooooooo sorry I've been a tad anti-social this week! I got the head cold from HELL and, normally, this would not deter me from coming on here and reading/responding to messages...however, I have an issue with a pinched nerve and, unbeknownst to me(never had one before), the simple act of SNEEZING is E X C R U C I A T I N G ! ! !

It wasn't until today I could finally sit at my keyboard for more than 2 minutes to properly respond to my e-mails and messages. I PROMISE I will respond to your messages. Just please give me some time to do it.

What is WITH the amount of Daddy Doms who like to call themselves "Big Daddy"??? Are you ALL a fan of the movie "KICK ASS"???

O-kay. I HAVE to ask because this is confusing to me. What, exactly, is the appeal to being a 'financial' slave? What is so euphoric about working your a$$ off ALLLLLLL week long to earn $$$, so you can, in essence, GIVE IT AWAY to an unappreciative c**t with an overinflated ego and an obviously distorted sense of self worth?

If you REALLY do NOT want to keep your $$$, then give it to ME! I'll be MORE than happy to put it to GOOD use(a couple of down on their luck families immediately spring to mind)! Give it to someone who can appreciate the hard work that went into EARNING it! 

JERK ALERT!!!

If the following individual contacts you claiming he has something for you, be warned that he's a SCAMMER! He apparently is in Malaysia and a customer wants to send him a check, but he can't cash it there and he will give you 10% of it if you help him. PUH-LEEZE!

His CM name is: jamesdioubate 

Okay. So I was bored this past weekend and decided to dye my hair...but what color? While contemplating a new shade and browsing the shelves, a really light blonde one jumped out at me...LITERALLY! Damned thing fell off the shelf and just missed my noggin!

Looked at it before re-shelving it and liked it so much I bought it. This is the FIRST time I've ever done BLONDE. Turns out I have so much natural red in my brunette that I came out a strawberry blonde...mostly. That's okay. I still like it. Definitely getting a couple of more boxes when I get paid.

Enjoy the pix!

I want to wish everyone a happy holiday NOW while I still can. I'm a tad late with my cable payment, so I'm more than likely losing my cable/comp/phone after this weekend and won't be getting it back until January 6th...when I'll finally have money. So if anyone tries to contact me and I don't answer, please don't take it personally. As soon as my comp's up and running again I WILL answer you.

Whatever holiday it is that you celebrate-Christmas, Chanukah, Festivus, etc.-I hope you all have a WONDERFUL time!

   <---I couldn't find a Star of David, so I made due with this

I read this on someone's profile on FL and just HAD to share:

"Life is a sexually transmitted disease and the mortality rate is 100%."

Okay...I know only those who have NY/no preference as their distance settings will see this, but I feel the need to do this:

WELCOME NEWBIES!!!!!

Welcome to the insane asylum! Browse, read and search to your heart's content, but NEVER forget that you ARE on a website. You're gonna have a LOT of sifting to do to find the gold nuggets...but it's sooooooooo worth it.

Good luck everybody!

Again I feel the need to share with everyone an observation I have recently made(stop rolling your eyes).

It would seem there are quite a few individuals on here(Dom/Master and sub/slave alike) who are of the misconception that BDSM is ONLY a pain oriented lifestyle. Not so! There are PLENTY of us who get off on the aspects where pain is not even a factor! For example: the "B" and "D" in BDSM are "Bondage" and "Discipline". Pain is NOT mandatory for either of them. I have been bound on several occasions and loved it...as did the Dom who bound me. There was absolutely NO pain involved and we STILL had the D/s relationship. As is the case with the Dom who was big on disciplining me without even laying a finger on me!

There are many of us who are drawn to the more cerebral aspects of the lifestyle like discipline, obedience, dominance and control. The bondage aspect is appealing as well since pain is NOT necessary for it, but rather, trust.

Face it...TRUST is the BIGGEST turn-on for a nice amount of us...and if you are in this lifestyle, but are not trustWORTHY, then do us all a favor and get out.

O-kay. I'm very confused. Does NO ONE use spell check? There was a profile on the home page recently that immediately caught my attention...and NOT in a GOOD way. The first sentence caught my eye because of the atrocious spelling. That in itself is not the reason for my little tirade here. Oh no-the fact that the first sentence was touting his own perceived 'intilijanse'(I can only presume he was trying to 'say' INTELLIGENCE) was the reason why I HAD to read the rest. Reading the rest of that drivel as he butchered the written word required massive doses of migraine medication when I was finally done! Talk about TORTURE! Text speak would have been preferable! 

How does he expect ANY self respecting sub/slave to take him seriously as a Dom when he comes off as either A.) an idiot, B.) mildly mentally challenged or C.) inbred???

Is it just ME, or do a LOT of Doms pix on here just SCREAM "Serial Killer"? Does no one review their pic choices BEFORE putting them on their profile?

HAHAHAHAHA...REALLY?

 YOU initiate conversation with me and, simply because you don't like something I said during this conversation, you BLOCK me??? Can you BE more PATHETIC?

 I was more than willing to continue the discussion and listen to your viewpoints/opinions/theories/etc. and possibly enter into a healthy debate with you about it, but I guess that was just too much effort on your part. Right? And if having a simple dialogue with me is too much effort, what does that say about your Domming capabilities?

 Thank you for saving me the grief of finding out later, rather than sooner, what a loser you actually ARE! And thank you for saving me from wasting my precious time on you...time I would have regretted wasting and would have never gotten back...THANK YOU!

Well, it would seem that one of the wanna bes has been demonstrating just HOW much of a scumbag he is. Considering how ESSENTIAL trust is in this lifestyle, it makes my skin crawl to know that someone this UNtrustworthy is here amongst us. It is unfortunate that all sites draw unsavories and it is regrettable that this site is no exception.

 To anyone who has been told by this POS(Piece Of S**t) that my former Dom beat and abused me, I am here to set things straight. I have NEVER been in ANY kind of situation where I feared for my safety EVER. Nor have I been beaten and abused.

 My former Dom is in actuality a good friend who initiated me into the lifestyle with my first play session.

 He was the perfect gentleman, a patient teacher and above reproach in his behavior. Anyone who accuses him of anything less is NOT to be believed and should be shown nothing but contempt for such lies.  

I've had an overwhelming amount of messages telling me I should make one of my new pix my profile pic, so I HAVE.

 Thank you everyone for all of the lovely compliments. You are VERY good for a gurl's ego.  

Just a little note to let everyone know that I have updated my pix. The first 2 pix are my original ones I'd taken when I first created this account back in Jan/Feb. I was bored, so I played with my webcam(that I finally got working again  ) and took some pix today. They came out better than I thought they would, so I decided to add them to my photos as more current and up to date pix. Hope you like.