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Live in KENT UK. (Not the USA) I am by nature a Dom looking for a Submissive Female in KENT or within 50-60 miles of Canterbury?
If you like what you see then tell me what your interests and boundaries are I love a bit of BDSM, you will have all your needs met (your rules) with a safe and caring, discrete healthy man, I would describe myself as firm but fair
For me BDSM comes alive when the physiological becomes as important as the physical,for both of us as I love both. I have a caring side, strange you may think in a Dom, there is another side to me in play, it's the part of me that turns me onto BDSM.
My Gentle side will make you feel Weak and Dominant side will make you Wet... my pleasure comes from yours, if you are comfortable, feel safe in whatever situation is of your choosing, then I am happy
If you have any questions just ask and I will give you a straight forward honest answers to anything you want to know.
By the way reference meeting up, if I say I will then I most defiantly will, I am not on here to waste my time of yours, there are too many key board warriors who talk big but when it comes to it, then chicken out. I ama fit and very clean Dominate straight male, I am married and have been for many years however my wife is very vanilla in the bedroom and does not share my tastes.
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No....means no..But if you say yes, I will reply "bend over I am going to make your arse very red" |
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Understanding the needs of your Sub. In my own experience and I am sure that I am not alone, we do not all have the same 'trigger' that starts us off on the road to an orgasm. In the past the only way one of mine was able to cum was in a vanilla way. To explain; she was completely into submissive play and would happily be tied spanked and other stuff, (no need to go into more detail) you get the idea, and I would edge her until she was exhausted, but still she could not cum. The first time it happened I was quite concerned as she was clearly distressed and desperate to cum. I stopped the session and we had cuddles and she slowly came down although it took a while as she was desperate to climax. We chatted and she told me how she managed on her own, so we agreed to end her session with us both naked and her laying on top of me. She ask me not to use my cock as she could only cum by grinding her pubic bone into mine. My god was it painful as she pushed harder and harder as I lay flat like a board hands down by my side and let her do her thing. She finally came and the release was fantastic. It was extremely painful for me but after the fun we had earlier I was happy for once!!! to be the one underneath. The message here is to listen to your Sub as it's a two way street when playing and we can both learn from each other. |
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What you can't see but can feel...what you hear but makes you feel uncomfortable
Touch is probably the most overlooked of our senses in play, when one is blindfolded, the touch of a feather can bring as much of a response and pleasure as the sting from a cane. And the unexpected silence when you wonder what will happen next and all you can here is breathing
We tend to forget that words play such a massive part in any relationship and it's my belief that they are included into any 'contract' (I hate that word) so I will use agreement between two parties.
An example might be the use of the word 'cunt. pussy, flower, twink, vagina (call it what you will) as long as it's acceptable to both of us. The same with cock, dong, prick, penis (now I bet there is at least one word that you are uncomfortable with) and that one word can spoil a relationship before it's even started.
Take care of the little things and everything else will fall into place. |
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So here is bit of background to my own BDSM kink which stated many years ago I had a girlfriend and we were in bed naked in the afternoon and just getting down to the sexy stuff and she starts wanting to wrestle me for fun. We are both all arms and legs and she tries to get on top of me, but I turn the tables and pin her down on the bed. She is still struggling so I say 'right I am going to tie you up, that will stop you wriggling' she calms down at once so I jump off the bed grab four ties out of the wardrobe, then tie one round each ankle and then her hands to the bed head. She is spreadeagled, exposed and totally helpless, (you know the position) and I go down on her and after about fifteen minutes she is ready to explode. Then for some reason, I can't explain why I just got up went to the door and said: "just going to make a cup of tea, do you want one" and shut the door. She went completely nuts, calling me every name she could think of, "You get back here I was just about to cum and you go off and make a cup of fucking tea, you just a fucking arsehole" etc etc...
When I got downstairs (forgot to add that I used to have a pub) the phone goes and its the brewery wanting the weekly beer order. I go straight into work mode and forget about her as the phone was just in the passage leading to the bar. I can still faintly hear the abuse, but having problems with one of the beers I needed to order and stayed on the phone for say; ten, fifteen minutes or so. Put the phone down and go back upstairs and he is still tied to the bed, (she missed out on the Houdini escape lessons) lol ... but she is no longer screaming at me...
She has a really big smile on her face: "Sam, I just came twice still tied up while you were downstairs and I now feel so fucking horny, Please fuck me now ....but please but don't untie me"...
And that is how I stated my BDSM kink, |
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