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People ask me all the time what I am looking for? Although I have my personal perferances for age, nothing else is set in stone. Why would I limit my tastebuds by choosing only particular kinds of fruit when I could have the whole orchard to choose from? I am open to chatting with anybody with intelligent and interesting conversation without anything other than a common interest at heart.

I have also been asked if I double domme or take part in fetish parties and again, if the situation is offerred and right, count me in.

Location, gender, race, aesthetics have no place in finding somebody to inspire me although their obviously has to be an attraction for a relationship to form. Bearing in mind that attraction is not neccessarily initially physical as the first conversations occur via CM therefore its the persons prose that catches my attention, not their face or their cock.

Now would be a good place to mention that the greatest and most powerful way for me to fuck you, is through your mind, be careful what you wish for, sometimes your heaven is really your worst hell.

First and foremost I am a Woman, the Domme is part of that Woman.My life is not part of d/s, d/s is part of my life therefore only a part of the Woman.

I do not need to dress up in leather corsets and boots to be a Domme, jeans and t-shirt I am the same Woman. The same goes for submissives, I do not need to tie them up 24/7 nor drag their sorry arses around Tescos on a collar and lead, if they are Mine they know they are mine in whatever situation presents itself. One look, one whisper, they understand exactly what I want.

I believe a d/s relationship is born from mutual trust and respect, from that comes all else. A relationship of two people where both need to be happy and fullfilled for it to be a long lasting and meaningful relationship.

Psychological bondage is a deeper bond and where my interest lies. Any twit can tie up another person, beat the snot out them and get them to submit, bondage of the mind takes a much stronger person and will...few are up for the experience.

I am a BBW (ish) so if that is an issue, click next for further profiles. What people look like isnt of interest to me, how their minds work and bodies react is. Those of the vain up their own arses sort, keep walking, Im not interested in looks without brains.

I have a family life...hard to believe huh... therefore d/s is not always neccessarily at the forefront, again if you have an issue with that, the door is open for you to leave. My family are the most important thing in the world to me and nobody will alter that, get used to it ! For these reasons, I am looking only for submissives of over 30, preferably well over 30 but not being one to appear bound by rules, I'm willing to consider most sides of the spectrum if you prove you are grown up enough to deal with it.

Another misconception I will put right here to save the endless messages with the same question...being sadistic or having sadistic tendances does not always insinuate pain is involved... "hit me" he said, "no" I said.... "please hit me" he said, "no" I said... "please, i beg you to hit me" he said, I laughed and walked away.

For those that have got this far and brave enough to message me, take note of my journal entries, this may help your message be read rather than added as a new journal entry for twit of the day.

Anything else you need to know ask, sometimes I don't bite on the first date !


Self-respect cannot be hunted.� It cannot be purchased.� It is never for sale.� It cannot be fabricated out of public relations.� It comes to us when we are alone, in quiet moments, in quiet places, when we suddenly realise that, knowing the good, we have done it; knowing the beautiful, we have served it; knowing the truth we have spoken it.� ~Whitney Griswold

A bend in the road is not the end of the road... unless you fail to make the turn.� ~Author Unknown

"Chain of command: I say it. You do it! End of chain."

"I only hurt you because I love the way you scream my name."












 Dominant Female


 United Kingdom

 Willing to Relocate

 5' 4"






Actively Seeking:

Submissive Transgender

Submissive Female

Male Slave/sub

Sub/Sub Couples

 Lives For:

 Mental Bondage

 Complete control over your orgasms

 Dominating you with a strap-on


 You begging

 Blindfolding you

 You worshiping my body

 Tying you up


 Disciplining you with a cane

 Keeping you locked in tamper evident chastity at all times

 Collaring you

 Giving you corner time facing the wall


 Eye contact with me is not permitted

 Disciplining your private parts

 Rear End Play

 You massaging me

 Erotic touch

 You kissing my feet


 Hair Pulling



 You at the end of my leash

 Placing you in masks

 Training you to be completely
obedient to me and only me

 You worshiping me with recitations and rituals

 Sensation Play

 Outdoor Bondage

 Public Play

 Role Playing

 Sensory Play


 Spanking you

 Speech Restrictions



 Female Sovereignty


 Lifestyle BDSM




 G-spot Stimulation

 Local BDSM Community

 Going to munches

 Wax Play


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Journal Entries:
7/13/2013 5:40:34 AM
Im still alive... Watching from the shadows...

3/19/2013 5:34:29 PM

Evening folks...been a busy few weeks so although popping in and out reading mail Ive not been participating much in stuff here at the moment but still watching from the shadows.

Looks like a move South is on the agenda so leaving the Scottish cold behind and heading for the warmth of the South...bring it on!

Been a long time comming, Ive been threatening it for years but the time is right to slow things down, enjoy life and the things I enjoy so watch out England, the Biatch is comming!

2/24/2013 4:52:35 AM

Good discussion yesterday, thanks to those who participated. The discussion was taken to a private chatroom where peoples views were shared, made interesting reading.

Catch up sunday today so Im here and there doing stuff and will read messages as I have time.

Peace, out, SB

2/23/2013 1:10:21 PM

Lets have a discussion instead of any other rambling today...


Operant Conditioning : A fundamental concept within behavioural psychology......thoughts?

2/13/2013 6:20:33 AM


A greeting from the depths of snow in Killie, such a joy when out walking a dog and dealing with a newly aquired horse. mini me has been going on and on about it so we got one, except guess who is doing all the dam work! You guessed it...not me, my son!

Congratulations to a friend who is moving house soon, long awaited. Good luck in your new gaff and make sure its tidy when I come for coffee and cake!

Secondly, I have rekindled my pressence in Gor, albeit stuttered as and when time allows but for those I have encountered there, watch out, Im back!

On all other fronts, it toddles along merrily without too much bullshit and drama so all is well in the Sadistic household.

Amusement is still high on cm, reading profiles you see some things that just make you spit coffee at the screen before breaking out in hilarious laughter...

"im a shy submissive" quickly contradicted by pics that would look great on Apparantly they are only shy when talking, not when taking pics of places that shoving a camera makes interesting?

"im new to bdsm" with an array of toy pics that would make any decent  toy website weep.

The ones that still make me laugh the most are the pics taken in rooms that look like they should be on hoarders tv programmes. If you keep your place in that state you have no pride therefore why would I be interested in a sub who doesnt live in a clean house. It doesnt inspire me to assume you as a person have good hygiene.

Right, enough of this chattering, time for something productive... lunch!

Peace, out, SB




2/5/2013 5:15:56 PM

Hello folks, been awhile since I had anything worth writing about...not much has changed.

Life carries on, healing well from the op is somewhat stinted by various incidents but all in all, my mood improves daily.

Trust... a discussion that comes up regularly and one that I get sick to death beating around. Its very simple... without trust there are no foundations and without foundations there are no walls that will stand upright and strong. Eventually they crumble and fall into a heap of rubble...

Nobody says it happens overnight, its a gradual process but one that is an absolute for a relationship.

Would you trust somebody you met in a pub on the first night, would you get in a car with them, would you invite them into your home, would you give them personal details... no I didnt think so (least the sane amongst you) then why oh why do you assume that a person who puts a capital letter at the beginning of their name or demands you call them Sir/Madam/Your Honour/Miss Know it all..... should be trusted on a first meeting?

Life is precious and short enough, dont shorten it further with stupidity, live safe.

Peace n bedtime.. SB

1/10/2013 9:10:56 AM

Oh at last, life is getting back to normal after the "festivities". The return to school of mini me was much awaited and proved every bit as euphoric as I expected... dam that kid is far too like me!

As for other things, car is on its last legs, or wheels. Having hurried mini me and older mini me along to get out of bed and ready this morning, ran out door late as usual to discover the old girl wouldn't start...some twit left the door slightly open last night "ahem oldest mini me". A quick  call to my son screaming "we are all gonna die" had him over in a flash with jump leads and ability... on the road again, thanks C! I feel its time to finally retire the old girl and look for something more reliable... *thinks back to my divorce and nods enthusiastically" yes, definately some excitement to be felt there.

Otherwise life toddles on regardless, I have an op on 21st Jan which will put me out of order for 8-10 weeks, no work,  no driving, no hoovering and best of all, no ironing!

Not being one for the receiving end of pain no doubts my temperament will be tried tested and proved to be horrid so might be wise to choose your words carefully when approaching....

Otherwise, 2013 appears to be starting well.... don't dissapoint me!

Peace out, SB



12/18/2012 10:16:17 AM

Wishing friends old and new a wonderful holiday season.

Unfortunately I will be working through part of it however I will be making up for lost time while enjoying the festivities.

The dawning of a new year is time to reflect on what you could have done better previously and will strive to do better in the comming year.

Even somebody as perfect as myself can think of things that I could have handled better or percieved differently.

For the comming year I hope for the serenity and wisdom to do both better next year and for the continued love and support of my friends and family which is returned unconditionaly.

For those I have had the pleasure of enjoying this year I wish you a good year ahead, for those I am lucky not to have had the pleasure of enjoying I wish you a year of getting seeking professional help for your issues.

Love, Peace and Merry Holidays, Shari


11/2/2012 7:45:28 AM

I swear to god, one more nickname in reference to the 50 shades of shite books I will scream!

The books are fictional and based on the author having absolutely no real life experience within the Lifestyle and written solely from asking other people therefore about as much use as a fart in a spacesuit!

The books relate to two main characters with very flawed psychological health who indulge in some attempts at tie and tease scenarios. The readers, mostly non lifestyle, now believe this is how it is and therefore anybody with a fucked up mind must be into bdsm...really... move along and get real people.

To some extent most of us do have some kind of psychological malfunction, some more noticible than others but it does not dictate that we are all so completely fucked up as the characters in this book and it gives a hugely wrong impression of bdsm.

If looked at closely it also shows topping from the bottom...tsk tsk... apparantly many of you can relate to that. Personally, its a heap of shite and is really starting to irritate me, can you tell?

A twentieth century verion of mills n boon and really nothing to write home about. If people want real bdsm experiences, come talk to myself or others who actually are involved, I am sure we can make your toes curl.

Peace, out, SB

11/1/2012 4:52:36 PM

Still a lot of Men out there looking for their "lil ones"... one must question if they lose them so easily, are they really capable of having them in the first place?

On the other hand, also rather a lot of "wants" in messages from subs..again, one must question that..

Im not here to pander to wants, I am here because I dictate, I control, I make decisions...not my submissive/slave. If anybody has difficulty understanding that, come see me, I am sure I can indulge you with my wisdom... or something.

Peace, out, SB

10/30/2012 4:04:45 PM

Evening good people and otherwise. Update is things are improving for the moment so taking each day as it lands.

Thanks to those who have taken time to message, text,other.


10/8/2012 1:19:14 PM

A quick update for those who have taken the time to contact me via other venues other than CM. My health is still causing issues and is likely to be a long term thing...however...being the stubborn proud bitch I am, I am going out fighting!

I hope life and love is being good to you all.

Peace, out, SB

9/21/2012 12:01:44 PM

Health issues are keeping me at a distance currently, just when one thing seems to improve something else jumps out and bites you on the ass...

Normal service resumed when possible, until then, play nice people!

9/16/2012 2:58:30 PM

Ever sat in company and got so bored from the shit being spoken about ie my wife/husband did/didnt do this/that/the other and got to daydreaming about how these boring people would look gagged and hog tied?

9/15/2012 1:50:57 AM

I get the whole online domination thing as not everybody has the facility to meet in real life for sessions but would somebody explain to me why submissives hand over money online to people they have never even seen on a webcam or spoken to on a phone?

Is desperation taking over sanity or intelligence here? Surely if you are going to hand over your hard earned cash to somebody you want to at least know they are of the gender you expected or doesn't that matter to submissives?

I am sure if you instigated a real time meet and turned up with a laden wallet you would not hand over your money on spotting the dominant across the room with 2 days growth when you expected a refined lady or a pair of 38DD when you expected a 12" dick so why do you do it online?

I find the whole thing ridiculous and fail to understand the logic of it or what makes somebody so desperate they lose all ability to realise that they have been had!

9/10/2012 2:57:20 AM

Currently I am here only for the purpose of keeping up with people I already know/have met but in the good old sadistic tradition will keep posting on my journal for no other reason that I like to laugh at people just because I can.

Profile funnies: "service me".... the garage down the road is doing a special on old vehicles, perhaps you should enquire love?

"lesbian slave, no women, men only" - ehhhhhhh ?

brand new to bdsm but have a toy collection to rival the royal marine warehouse

I want a woman who will be leashed naked 24/7... makes tescos an interesting experience huh?

I will demand instant cam verification but I dont have one = I need a wank and you are it!

I need instant phone verification but cant talk cos I got earache = mummy might be listening through the wall and my grunt when I cum will arouse her suspisions Im not really playing dora the explorer on the xbox.

I want a Mr Grey.... Mr Grey is a fictional character based on somebody with severe mental health issues. Come to Kilmarnock on a weekend and you can have your pick of in training Mr Greys.

I am Mr Grey... where in Killie do you live?



8/28/2012 11:49:14 PM

Firstly today, why would anybody think the 50 shades books betrays bdsm? It identifies that both parties involved in the books are "damaged", they have dark and sordid pasts, they cannot exist in normal relationships and they both need intensive therapy to stop them becoming statistics of our mental health service so why would anybody aspire to be or want to identify with either of these people?


Isn't it strange how so many pics of ripped males on profiles can be traced back to gay porn sites? You got a lil secret love? Amusing to say the least!

Profiles that say "I will fill this in later"... that implies you either are very lazy, havent got time in your busy wanking over pics schedule to fill it in or are just a boring person who has nothing to say about themselves or their life?

Pics taken in messy rooms = Im a slob

Pics of cocks = this is what you will get, which in turn = no thanks, I want a good one!

Pics of arses = I have no facial pic but this is a good resemblance on a havent shaved day.

Males with pics of females on their profile = this isnt my sub cos I dont have one but should any super models be looking for me, Im right here wanking over this pic I found on a porn site.

Profiles with a whole paragraph of nasty words such as whoreslutcumburpingdickguzzlingfannylickingworthlesscuntwanker = desperate for anything that will take it so fit as many key words into one sentance as possible.

Profiles that say "I cant put a pic on here cos of my job" = Im a legend in my own lunch hour and havent realised that should any of my colleagues see my profile here, they are probably here for the same reason duh!

Profiles that say "Im not putting any information on here cos you are all fakes, email me at immafake@yapoopncostumoney.con

= speaks for itself!

8/28/2012 2:02:26 AM

A conversation with a fellow domme last night and a couple of subs this morning today Im pondering a discussion that came up.

Prior to creating a profile on cm or any other similar forum and I assume when not sat the pc pleading your case, submissives live in the real world right? By that I mean, they go to work (hopefully), they socialise with friends, they do the regulatory family visits and dinners, maybe even lunch on a sunday, they go to the gym (sometimes), they lie on the sofa watching tv (normally football or the simpsons lol), they have a wank whilst fantasising about being tied up/beaten/insert whatever your fetish is here and generaly get on with life.... maybe?

So why is it that when they get talking to a domme or indeed meet a domme their brain deserts them and all they want is 24/7 tied up/beaten blah blah? What happens in the interval that turns them from a normal human being into a fantasist?

Now we all understand that something new can be exciting and makes you want more of it but really, something is going horribly wrong here.

I love bdsm, I love the intensity and reality of it but I also have a job, a family, friends not in the scene, the odd soap I like to watch on tv blah blah so it doesnt consume me every moment of my life so what is causing this not so endearing trait in submissives?

I am a woman who just happens to be naturaly dominant but that doesnt mean it rules my life, its part of my life, its there always but not always at the forefront. If I am living with a sub its not a constant tie and tease session (ok so maybe locking them in a cock cage kinna heads towards that) but inbetween anything bdsm I deal with the kids, I cook, I have even been known to iron (hehhhhhhhhhh dont be getting ideas I said sometimes!), I walk around tescos looking blank because Ive forgotten what Im there for, make idle chat with people in the queue while I complain (anybody that knows me knows I hate queues!), I do what "normal" people do.

Its not a submissive I want, its a partner who just happens to have a submissive nature and who can actually function in real life, as a person, not as a puppet...puppets are reserved for bedroom or private time activities, not human consumption as I am almost positive my daughter would laugh her ass off (well she is a mini me afterall) at some of the activities submissives expect to happen whilst watching Eastenders.

Seperate fantasy from reality and you will find what you seek...keep living in the fantasy and its gonna be a long period of wanking ahead.

Peace, out, SB

8/27/2012 2:59:17 AM

Today I'd like to disperse some myths about myself and probably many other dommes who like myself, are not only genuine but human.

I lay no claim to being the queen of all bdsm knowledge, I find no solace in treating people badly through over inflated ego, I seek honesty, integrity and loyalty just as I give, I have no agenda outwith any I make clear from the off in conversations, I have no secrets that betray another side of me, I bleed red blood the same as everybody else, I get my heart broken just like everybody else, I see this lifestyle as an extension of me, not wholly who I am therefore I seek a partner not just a submissive. I am not infallable and I make mistakes just like everybody else but I stand up to those errors and learn to move forward as a better person from them. I don't expect anybody to trust me without reason nor allow me to cause them harm either physically or psychologicaly. I have pictures on my profile which prove beyond anybodys doubt, bad eyesight or not that I am not a page 3 model and life has given me more lumps and bumps than I care to have but I wouldnt change it for the world as they make me who I am, they are the legacy of my beautiful children who in turn have given me the gift of grandchildren. I believe communication is vital, without it there is only assumption and we all know where that leads. I am the Queen of my own heart, the Princess of my own mind and the Ruler of my destiny. I am who I am I make no apologies for that.

8/25/2012 4:47:10 AM

I had an interesting exchange of messages from a domme this liners which don't normally catch my interest however being as it was a fellow domme I like to see what they have to say, afterall they could be catching out some lil sub who is telling porkies?

However, this one wasn't that exciting, asked if Id ever wear my own cuffs, the reply no..asked if I would enjoy sensual bondage, the reply no...asked if I would enjoy sensual bondage if they were between my legs, guess what, the reply was no!

Having explained quite clearly I wasnt interested I suggested she saved e-ink and looked elsewhere...apparantly she did as I haven't heard from her since.

On the flip side of that conversation I recieved another message from another domme with the same thread....interesting but did make me chuckle somewhat.

So to save e-ink Ill make it quite clear here... I have not, do not, will not switch or be a submissive to anybody, male or female...

On the whole a decent week in the world of me, some great telephone conversations with a sub followed by a cam conversation, things are on the up!


8/23/2012 1:06:22 AM

A reminder for some or a first glance for attention...

I hate mushrooms...I fancy Johnny Depp...I love to walk in the rain...I raised 5 kids alone and still like them, sometimes...I hate bad manners in people...I cry at The Lion King...I dislike arrogance in people...I drive...I traced my family back to travelling people...I work in a job I love...I wear size 5 shoes/boots...I am passionate...I sing constantly...I dislike war but understand why it is neccessary and am greatful for the men and women who risk their life for us, thank you...Bananas make me throw up...I am a dominant woman by nature...Lilies are my favourite flowers...My grandkids make me smile...As a kid when asked what I wanted to be when I grew up I would reply a fairy because they are magic...I love Ireland...I hate liars...sunshine makes me happy...I visited South Africa...I have green eyes...I have a degree in cognitive psychology...I dont believe politicians...I drink coffee...I am impulsive...I like to snuggle on the sofa watching movies...My kids make me proud...I used to have my tongue, navel and hood pierced...I am a Leo...I wear my heart of my sleeve...I dont like spiders...I am a realist...I drink morgans and coke...My Father died this year...I've never been to Amsterdam...Sometimes even my overdraft is overdrawn...I am stubborn...I have no appendix...I believe in miracles...I want to go to Egypt...I dont watch Jeremy Kyle...I believe commitment is the key to any relationship...I am proud to be me...When Im drunk I do crazy things...I like midnight...I dislike dark chocolate...I like reading in the bath...Im not skinny...I love and love to be loved...Peanut butter should be illegal...I like holding hands...I need to win the lottery...I was born in Glasgow...I have a thing for vampires...Im currently studying for a BA degree...I like smooth genitals...I dont like dishonesty...Ive been on an elephant...I can wallpaper...I like intimacy...I like having a suntan...I love Italian food...Im not a pro domme...Green tea makes me sneeze...I don't take regular medication...I like the beach...I love jammy dodgers...I am bisexual...I like being me...I cant work my phone but my 10yr old can...Im divorced...I dislike men who scratch their balls in public...I like hugs...I wear contact lenses...I dont need to tie up a sub to get them to do what I want...Ive swam with dolphins...I have compassion...I don't need a sub but I want one, there is a difference...I've been in love...Ive sang in public...Ive never passionately kissed a married man...marmite stinks...I believe in live, love, laugh...Ive been on Arnold Clarks yacht...I smoke...I will never stop learning...I have erotic dreams...I like Christmas...purple is my favorite colour...I like kisses...Loyalty is a must...I like poetry...I would rather see a face than a cock in a picture...I love the sound of laughter...I talk to myself sometimes...I just killed a spider...Im running out of things to write...Im finished !

8/22/2012 1:44:21 AM

A new day and yes, I'm still on one.

Liking rough sex doesn't mean you are a) dominant or b) submissive

Liking my boots doesnt' mean you are automatically accepted to be kicked in the balls by them.

Sending me a one liner doesn't mean we are now in a relationship.

I do not bow down to males of any orientation therefore that will be a no Im not and wont ever be your bitch.

I do not bow down to females of any orientation above.

Dominant males who message me wanting to be dominated but can I please not tell anybody make me laugh.

People with a profile stating dominant and another stating submissive always get caught.

People who tell lies always get caught.

I'm in a bad mood, can you tell?

Somebody just called me an evil bitch....well observed love!

8/21/2012 3:53:28 PM

Just because I am on one....

It has come to my attention recently that there are an awful lot of daddys who are looking for their little girls.... is this bad parenting having lost them in the first place?


8/21/2012 2:48:12 PM

They all complain about not finding genuine people.....about financial dominants...about not being given a chance....

I have one thing to say...and Im going to....cos I can....

There really are some piss poor excuses for submissives, a term I use loosely...on this site.

******** additional note*****

It has just been pointed out to me I may not have been totaly correct in my statement and I had in my funk forgotten one very important I'll make it now..

Not only are they piss poor they are also full of shit!

Peace, Out... SB with a headache

8/21/2012 10:08:27 AM

An interesting telephone conversation with a fellow Domme earlier brought to light something that probably happens more than I think.

Having spent time chatting on cm, moved onwards to text, phone, webcam etc with another and at the point of realising there is enough in common to arrange a face to face meeting. At what point does either person imply that they are talking to several other people with a view to the same face to face meeting or does it matter?

Personally, honesty works for me and I expect it in return. If I am taking time to give my attention to somebody I expect the same in return. Should I be arranging other meetings I will be respectful and honest enough to admit it so therefore, replication is expected.

It seems there are many on here who are in a group called "multiple meeters with no intention of anything but quick get offs" LOL

I won't be playing this game....take note...I will find out.

8/21/2012 7:16:42 AM

Just a quick update on life in the Sadistic household.

My health is improving daily so Im feeling wicked!

A definate possibility on the horizon so for now not looking to undertake any new conversations past general hello and hows your father....

I have lost my military cap...not a happy bunny...if anybody knows of its whereabouts please return for a reward!

On the upside, I found two hats I forgot I had, cool as you like leather biker hat and my police hat... maybe Ill put up pics later if I get time....

Otherwise, its sunny in Ayrshire!

Peace, out. SB

8/19/2012 12:17:32 PM

Online shopping is much least until the bank manager notices..arghhh!

There should be a law against shops advertising pretty dresses, drop dead gorgeous corset dresses and beautiful shoes... really there should !

Now Im waiting for all my new things to arrive and its time to go out and show them off!

8/18/2012 2:11:05 PM

Today I thought since I am on so many pills for this pleurisy and whooping cough I would do something that didn't involve too much effort and/or alcohol.  Having been nagged all week about getting an extension to the desk im my daughters room I finally gave in and agreed to a trip to Ikea to get said piece of furniture at a cost of approx a tenner it was worth the piece and quiet.

After wandering around Ikea for several hours, having lunch and refilling the trolley twice we finally made it through the checkout and towards the fight of trying to fit it all in the car. Now bearing in mind the bit we went for was priced £10, I ended up £281 lighter... with nothing but crap to show for it however, there were smiles all round so worth the explanation to the Bank Manager on monday.

Heaving it all up the stairs unpacked the "bit" to discover this £10 addition had over 12 seperate pieces and 40+ screws! What is that all about, it took an hour to build the thing up and attached to current desk... need!

Now Im shatterred but the kid is happy so all is well..

Motto of the story is... enjoy the shopping trip to Ikea but get some other silly bugger to build it all when you get home!

8/16/2012 1:36:53 PM

Having had a "summer cold" of recent as those I have spoken to are no doubt sick of hearing I found myself several days ago considering if I had another bout of pleurisy which hospitalised me for a few days last year due to fluid on my lungs. A neccessary hospital trip during the night confirmed I do indeed have a severe case of pleurisy along with...wait for it...the whooping cough virus!

Not convinced the doctor was serious and possibly had watched far too many episodes of ER and Grays Anatomy, or perhaps found a great self diagnosis website on google, I looked around various sites and nhs information sites and lo and behold, a recent post was on the sudden number of cases of whooping cough in the UK in recent months.

A month off work, rest and relaxation alongside 7 variations of prescribed drugs I am now home and still wondering how I managed to aquire this virus.

I am now in an almost drug induced stupor whereby I am hoping that tonight I sleep and tomorrow or sometime soon, my pain will have reduced and my mood improved!

Peace, pills rock and out. SB


8/16/2012 1:36:50 AM

I would like to point out once and for all, for want of getting royally fed up repeating myself on this subject, take notes, make bookmarks, tatoo it on your forehead if you need to remind yourself....

MY OPINION and not neccessarily of the public in general is due to MY PERSONAL OPINIONS, VIEWS, THOUGHTS, INSERT ANYTHING ELSE THAT IS MY PERSONAL RIGHT HERE < ........>

I am not interested in people who are married, partnered, living together, etc etc etc.

All the stories of how down trodden you are, how your sex life is non existant, how he/she doesn't understand you, its for the sake of the kids, none of it matters to me, Im not interested full stop.

Commitment, loyalty and honesty are everything and whatever way you try to justify your actions for seeking something outside of an existing relationship, its disloyal, dishonest and unloyal.

If you cannot enbrace these things in your current relationship, you sure as hell won't in any other.

I have the right to decide who I want to enter into a relationship with and calling me names because I don't or won't listen to your sob story doesnt cut the mustard, nor does accusing me of being ignorant for not understanding.

I have no need to understand why your current relationship is bad or failing or why you think its perfectly ok to cheat on another person and expect me or anybody else to believe you will be 100% loyal..bullshit.

Deceit is deceit no matter what excuse you make for it.

No more needing said on the subject, messages from those in the above category will not be responded to.

Normal Service now resumed.....

8/15/2012 4:35:53 AM

I recieved a message from a self imposed "princess" asking if I had any subs I could point in her direction that would pay her for online domination. Had I the energy to even begin to rant about using a royal word and assocciate it with a teenage trollop I would however, its been a trying day already so I shall have a mini rant instead.

First off, a person of 19 hasn't, can't and really doesn't have a "long time experience" of bdsm unless of course a long time means the 4 days it took them to read 50 shades. A girl of this calibre who demands money for buckfast, phone top ups and lingerie from primark attracts those who are gullable and desperate enough to indulge them. In return for parting with their cash (I would say hard earned but people who enter these ridiculous scenarios probably recieve benefits for mental incapacity or similar), recieve one or two abusive emails, called piggys and wank over the mere thought an 18 yr old would want them.

This isnt bdsm, it isnt our craft, it certainly isnt the Lifestyle we enter into, its plain and simple extortion without service and I wonder if these self imposed princesses declare their illegal earnings to the Inland Revenue? Maybe Ill start taking names, paypal accounts etc and forwarding them on and recieve the legal £50 for doing so... could make me a rich woman in a very short space of time!

Really love, go back to school and gain qualifications in something other than stupidity and get out into the real world and find a job.

8/15/2012 12:30:27 AM

Having stumbled, staggered and almost made it out of bed intact this morning I thought I would turn on cm whilst I shoved ridiculous amounts of washing in the machine, unloaded the dishwasher from last night, fed the pup, hoovered the lounge, swept & washed neccessary floors, answered 4 emails, checked how overdrawn I was in the bank, made comments to myself and the pup about a lottery win, attempted to wash glass door in kitchen smudged with said pups slobber in refusal to stop barking at anybody who dares walk past the house and ending up locked within, read a beautiful note mini me had left me last night to tell me how awesome I was and could she go to yet another drama/acting class when term starts (this chick really is going to be a force to be rekoned with when she grows up, watch out boys!) even although she already attends 3 at a crazy assed cost but heh, kids need structure and focus right? I thought about cleaning the bathrooms, note I said thought because I haven't as yet actually done it but I will today, maybe tomorrow, sometimes soon, tidied up the garden from the pups onslaught yesterday (bearing in mind he rips up anything that moves or has a fetish for the crotch in panties this is no mean feat!), almost paid the lil lad devivering the morning newspapers to undertake the task of lifting the dog poop from the pups toilet space but declined having seen the look on his face when the dog barked at him assuming he would probably shit himself and make more of a mess than the dog in the bloody first place so I held my breath and did the job like a true poopy trooper! Ive held down the washing machine as it made a bid for freedom across the kitchen floor (I really need to get this sorted soon) whilst trying to quieten the cooker from sounding like unfriendly machine fire from the vibrations, grabbed a glass threatening to cause untold damage to my mental health by crashing to the floor from the worktop whilst supping my first cup of coffee of the day. Planned todays activities for mini me and my nephew who I graciously accepted child minding duties for today since our childminder has a sick child and cannot oblidge...wait, I do that every bloody day and unpaid, be grateful oh sister of mine! (she pays in wine, works for me), excuse me a moment while I once again rescue the kitchen from washing machine vibration disaster!!!!!

Returns wiping grease off left hand (makes note to clean cooker top sometime soon), now where was I? oh yeah, planning todays activities for the still off school children that I keep meaning to find good boarding schools for. As the pup runs past me I realise that the rag it has in its mouth actually isnt one of its toys, its a pair of my knickers that used to say "Friday" (nightshift makes me forgetful, I need a reminder what day it is so in emergancys I can peer down and see the day) however no longer will they be a reminder, more a pair of crotchless "f i a y" knickers (sighs and wonders what I shall do on Friday now, when is Friday by the way?)

Washing machine has now stopped doubling as a vibrating machine and it appears its time to hang out the 2nd load of the day so fairwell fellow kinksters, work to be done!

oh yeah, the point of this journal entry... wish I could remember!

8/14/2012 12:11:45 PM

For all you doubters....comming up soon...for one night only....

Pics of the talked about jammies!

8/14/2012 10:15:32 AM

Recieved a lovely message from a dom male a few moments ago, his prose was poetic?

"I am looking for a nasty worthless cunt, do you have one?"

My reply..... "I divorced him 12 years ago but I am sure he is still available"...

He blocked me...pmsl.

8/14/2012 1:43:24 AM

submissive profile... day 1 - brand new to bdsm, day 2 - now has a Dom, day 3 - back to original wording, day 4 - has a Dom, owned and collared....   oh dear

since I'm on a roll today...or rant..

into rough sex does not equate to being a dominant

playing the role of either dom or sub to make somebody happy isnt bdsm

allowing yourself to be beaten to a pulp doesnt make you a masochist, makes you need medical attention and possibly psyciatric intervention

beating somebody to a pulp doesnt make you a dominant....see above for possible remedies

castration... enough said



8/14/2012 1:00:43 AM

There seems to be a reduction in the number of cocks waving at us from profile pics...the tide has turned....we are now being assaulted by pics of male subs bent over baring their arses....gross!

I have been jiggy with the "hide profile" button therefore should your hairy arse be on display, I dont have to endure it.

Really... enough already!

8/13/2012 11:46:56 AM
I have a confession to make. Some people may already have guessed while some will be completely surprised at whatI am about to reveal. For those I have met previously in social environment I may already have spoken to you about this but unfortunately I now have to be honest with myself and those I have been talking to. It may alter how some people see me and make or break our relationship but I've always preached about honesty so feel at this point in time I should make it known publicly ... I sometimes like to . . . Wear pink winnie poo jammies There, now its out in the open for everybody to know, I feel free!

8/11/2012 10:41:32 AM

In view of todays earlier journal entry, thank you to those who took the time to respond with your views/opinions and to those who it helped to rationalise their own inner struggle, hang on in there, eventually, with the right person, it will all fall into place and the mist will rise exposing a clear and beautiful horizon.

Peace, out. SB

8/11/2012 12:48:14 AM

Having spent time talking with a sub I have previously met in real life briefly and one who has been struggling with the whole ds/nilla changes that may occur should he descend into ownership I thought it was a good subject to discuss.

I don't have or see a line between me as a domme and me as a friend/mother/work colleague/family member. I am who I am in any situation but what does alter is the intensity or "appearance". That said, I don't mean by putting on the corset and boots it makes me a better domme, it merely exhibits me in a different way. Does that alter the way I feel psychologically? Does it make me feel more powerful dressed to impress or does it make me feel more in control? For me personally no, I do not need to feel powerful or in control, I already am.

I don't walk around in my place of employment barking demands, using medical implements for teaching naughty patients a lesson nor do I walk into tescos to find no carrots the size and shape I want so grab the nearest male and demand he strip and kiss my feet in regret of unacceptable carrots but I am still the same woman I am should the situation be altered and medical instruments are used on my sub or he/she has displeased me so they are kept on the floor at my feet to consider their actions.

Its not a turn on/off game we are playing here, its real, its peoples lives, its our character. What many struggle to understand is that yes it is possible to go to a pre arranged appointment, hand over x amount of £ and spend the next however many hours getting what you want done to you by a dominant but that isnt how it works in reality or in the real world. You leave that situation slightly bruised and batterred and return to your "normal" life.

I have no issued with pro dommes, I have in the past dabbled but I do have an issue with those who think this is what ds is all about and how it should be, wise up and smell the coffee!

Intigrating ds and nilla is a natural course, it isnt two seperate lives, its the one life that allows both situations to live, grow, flourish.

Will it change a subs life being owned? Dam right it will but in a positive manner. Structure, guidance, respect, trust, control will give them purpose in their life and expose them to physical/psychological experiences that are not wrong or deviant, they are life changing, they are character building and they most importantly, are positive but they do not stop you being a work colleague/friend/family member...

8/10/2012 4:48:46 AM

Gloriously sunny in Kilmarnock yet again today. Isnt it strange how a neighbour who you exchange pleasantries with, general chit chat etc, suddenly wants to strike up a long winded conversation about nothing while you are lying out in the garden without a top on, whats with that! LMAO

Bless....if he wasnt the wrong side of 70 I maybe tempted but alas, something younger without hearing issues so he can hear my demands and  eyesight issues that could account for him almost falling out the window to talk to me (maybe it was more a boobs on display issue?) but heh, I am sure it made his day!

8/7/2012 4:38:16 PM

Isn't it just plain old fashioned nice when you find somebody you connect with... tonight whilst fighting on through this horrid cold I'm smiling...somebody knows why...

8/7/2012 7:00:02 AM

Anybody know of a venue in Ayrshire or driving distance that would be willing to hold fetish nights minimum once a month. Having somewhere to play would be a bonus as would having an alcohol licence although byo would suffice. Message me if you know of suitable premises.

8/7/2012 12:49:20 AM

Still feel like I've been on the receiving end of one of my own sessions, however, before all the messages start, no I don't switch and no I don't want your grotty hands or other bits anywhere near me, its an analogy as to how I feel with this blasted cold thing going on.

On a brighter note, its not raining today and that does make the looming nightshifts somewhat more bearable, maybe.

Last few days on CM has been enlightening, spoken to several intelligent men who contrary to my belief in males using cm, have proven to be amusing and intelligent and yes, can hold a conversation past beat me whip me treat me badly. I am so relieved there is intelligent life out there, I was beginning to be a doubter!

The thing is guys, the one liners or even less, two worders don't cut the mustard. "hi Miss" or "can I be your slave" isn't going to endear me to as much as browsing your profile. At the opposite end of the frame the messages that take over an hour to read containing every detail of your past encounters and how wonderful you are and how many deviances you have, including writing long boring messages, again, isnt endearing and certainly does nothing for confirming you are submissive with a list of "i wants" longer than the bloody message!

Catch my attention, make it long enough to be interesting, show your character, humour, intelligence, insight and please please please have taken the time to read my profile and browse my journal to ensure I am what you seek and vice versa. Lets make an effort to save e-ink and keep it real!

Peace out, SB

8/6/2012 12:08:59 PM

I woke up this morning feeling fine... average morning made great by the news I had secured the job I had an interview for last week, well done me!

Afternoon was enlightening and spent talking to an intelligent and insightful sub, thank you j.

However, this evening, from nowhere, I seem to have aquired a throat that feels like somebody cracked glass with it, a nose that refuses to allow air upwards and a head that feels like I ran into a is going on with that !

8/6/2012 2:32:41 AM

I think far too much, it makes my head dizzy!

In a D/s or M/s relationship the dominant is obvious (I hope).

What if the a D or M is drawn to a counterpart D or M (gender not an issue).

Where does the power lie within a) the relationship in general? and b) sexual intimacy?

Does one or other have to relinquish that dominance or power for the relationship to work?

How do two similar dominant characters make that decision and does it then undermine the dominance of the partner who relinquishes that control?

I myself cannot see a situation whereby I would give up the control that is neccessary for my natural character to thrive and am interested on others views on this dizzy head enciting question.

8/6/2012 12:24:38 AM

My mailbox this morning contained several begging messages from subs who most obviously hadn't read my profile, a couple of enquiring "do you do blah blah" messages which again proves not reading profiles is their thing, one pic of a cock that made me almost revisit breakfast and more than an ample amount of pay to play messages.

Now my question is... had I openly put on my profile I wanted pay to play or money for key holding services, how many would now be jumping up and down screaming "she only wants my money"? Clearly there are many financial dommes out there and as far as I am concerned, kudos to them, however, not having anything remotely to do with payment on my profile still invokes messages of the same.

Are these financial dommes rubbish or are the subs messaging me just plain thick?

I think I might advertise for payment and see if reverse psychology is the way to go on CM...

On a side is with all this rain !

Peace, out, SB

8/5/2012 9:26:38 AM

Having previously delved into tpe relationships I feel drawn back. The piss poor excuses for subs around currently makes me think that those within the tpe category must be of a higher quality... maybe?

I also believe that in whatever category the relationship falls that structure, guidance and rules are a must so if you are adverse to these things, move along...

8/5/2012 4:39:23 AM

There really are some dellusional people on this site. To expect a relationship to revolve around their fetish is not only shallow but also ridiculous. Its almost as though they have the whole bdsm scene in a cocoon that shuts out life as we know it and the world in general where nothing exists except a play scene.... they have to work to keep me in the means I'm accustomed to for heavens sake so no, I am not interested in those only looking for a quick thrill or beating. There are plenty on this site who are therefore take out your wallets, check your balance and get texting them your details and I am sure they will happily and greedily oblidge!

8/3/2012 12:22:24 PM
back after another successful move, no broad band yet so relying on phone to keep me here so relying is sporadic rather than instant. Time away from cm also gave me time to re evaluate what Im looking for so those that message beware, if you haven't read my profile and glimpsed my journal entries to get a grasp of who I am then you are heading straight to the delete pile! Onwards and upwards!

7/27/2012 1:15:54 AM

Thank you for all the lovely birthday messages yesterday. I had a fab day and was spoilt rotten!


7/16/2012 3:01:31 AM

A serious number of "doms" suddenly finding a feminine side and wanting to be on the other side of the coin... Hmmmmmm something is amiss me thinks !

On the same note, a serious number of subs I have spoken to/met previously suddenly realising they were assholes and I was the best thing they should have begged to hang onto...

On a similar similar note... ok so there isnt one, I was just being pedantic....

Peachy mondays... SB

7/16/2012 1:52:08 AM


7/10/2012 4:55:09 PM

Not much to report in the life of SB, well nothing Im likely to put in print here anyway.

Several things in the pipeline that are taking up much of my time currently so time both online and in the real world for full on ds is sketchy to say the least.

Normal service will resume at a later date....

Please leave a message after the bleep.... bleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeep

Peace, out, SB

6/26/2012 6:37:02 AM

Recieved a message this morning from a "dominant" male offering me advice on how to project myself positively to submissives.... ahem !

Lets start with his profile... "key words" affluent.... influencial....professional.......likes .

Let me rephrase.... shops at aldi....bully....manual worker.... babysham on special offer.

Lets get something straight love.... the pic you "project" on your profile of a filthy untidy bedroom, a bed with no cover on the matress, a duvet that my dog would turn its nose up at sleeping on and various pieces of unwashed clothing lying around the floor really doesnt "project" the words you type...

So thanks for the words of wisdom but I am sure I am more than capable of projecting myself in a true and honest light, reflecting who and what I am, without the help of yourself...however... I am always available for house keeping tips, apparantly you need them... or maybe you need a housekeeping sub, I can send a couple your way if you are desperate....

peace, tidy house and out....SB

6/25/2012 1:51:45 PM

Lovely long weekend in was bearable but still a beautiful city...I think maybe I'll relocate to Ireland, its definately somewhere that touches my heart....

On the home front back to work tomorrow, short week followed by a much needed weekend with the other half of my heart....

Peace out...SB

6/17/2012 2:47:43 PM

I've discovered a lost art on CM.... ability to read profiles and make intelligent judgements from same....

If you read my profile and meet my requirements then whoopeedoo, by all means message me with an interesting introduction rather than the bore the arse of me "hi i want to be your slave"... that will get zero attention.

If you read my profile and you don't meet all my requirements but think you are such a super duper sub I should consider you anyway, give it a go, worst that can happen is I say no.

If you read my profile and you meet none of my requirements, save us both some time and don't bother...trying to persuade me that Im looking for everything you are won't win you any favours.

Also take into account not only do you have to get my attention but also that of my partner as he will be involved one way or another and this isnt about you, its about us.

Now lets see how many intelligent people are out there !

Peace, ice cream and out ! SB

6/9/2012 4:31:16 PM

Update on last update...

Weather changeable as is my mood

Work bearable as are irritating subs

Otherwise not much to report....I'm all Jubilee'd and Olympic'd out this week. Spent more time watching british flags waved this week than I have in years, nice to see so many suddenly British rather than specific countries...its team GB after all and that includes all the countries in GB, not just one !

All else SSDD ....

Peace, morgans n coke, out... SB

5/23/2012 1:11:25 AM

Scotland is bathing itself in higher than average temps of around 25 degress so apart from being somewhat singed around the edges having participated in the great scottish tradition of sitting out in the midday sun like a lunatic and now suffering the consequences. Todays first task is a visit to town to obtain some soothing aftersun for the scorched skin which hopefully will also alleviate the crabbit mood LOL

Otherwise all going well in my warped world, happy as things are and not looking to change things currently, should that change, Ill let you know.

Peace, out.... Sadistic and Singed.

5/11/2012 3:35:14 AM

Crazy week, mini me away on school trip so decided, in my wisdom to tackle her bedroom. No mean feat when an 11 yr old mini me has been in it !

Due to some kind of brain fart I then decided rather than just clean lets decortate.... arghhhhhhhhhhhhhh

Having hoisted everything into the middle of the floor I proceeded to get at it, fancy dancy metalic paint, looks bloody great on the tin, however, looks shit on walls that are not very flat... back to homebase and new choice of paint, bubblegum....another name for neon pink which I was wearing on every available surface, eyelashes included...not a great look !

Walls painted I then had some kind of seizure and decided a new carpet was in order (although I am sure the half tin of paint I spilt on it would have looked like modern art lol). Having trapsed around finding a carpet to go with the neon pink eventually got it to submit and got it in house from car and up stairs to attic. Then I realised... how in the name of a doodlebug was I going to lift a carpet and lay a new one with everything in the room !

So it started, everything, which is a whole lot when you are 11, was carted down the stairs before carpet lifted, new one laid and everything back up. Another triumph considering the stairs up to her room in the attic are now exactly wide and too dam steep.

Three days later, room looking braw even if Im the lil shit best be really appreciative when I pick her and her 4 days of dirty washing up from school later today!

On the upside, I was offerred a new job on a contract I have to admit is tempting...wait a minute, I have a job...ut oh, two jobs now... so much to do, so little time !

Peace, out from a bubblegum coloured domme!

5/4/2012 2:02:58 AM

Fifty shades of grey trilogy, golly, bdsm in fiction books, tame by sadistic standards but kept me awake during a nightshift...

5/1/2012 6:24:54 AM

Having had a conversation with a submissive earlier he brought up the subject of me having to be physically stronger than him... why?

The need for physical strength might be something to consider if you were hoisting a sub above your head and using it for weight training or turning it upside down and using its head to flatten out concrete but in other situations why would I need to be physically stronger?

The fact is, I am actually fairly physically strong due to the nature of my job... being able to restrain and control violent and aggressive patients is just part of the job so via training and job experience I do happen to be able to control physical strength but unless a sub decides to become one of my patients, again, why?

The psychological strength I have outweighs any need for physical strength...displeasing me is more likely to get a look or a verbal reprimand than any physical punishment. Why would I give a sub what they want and the pain they desire? tsk tsk.... you should know me better by now boys and girls.

Should I inflict pain its because it amuses me, not because you desire it and its not something your poor or negative behaviour will elicit.

It also brings the question of if a submissive acts in the manner I need to physically throw him to the floor and beat the crap out I really want him....nah, pass, Ill take those who when I say jump, ask how high LOL

5/1/2012 1:32:17 AM

My brain is slightly less confuzzled due to two days away from nightshift however it wont last, back at it shorty. As much as I love my job, it seems to be taking over....really not good for a Domme ! LOL

Work aside, life is paddling along nicely in the sadistic household, lil bum bum is settlling in well albeit still not understanding the garden is for peeing in and not my shoe box ! His first set of immunisations out the way it wont be long before we are hurtling along the beach tiring him/me/both out, bring it on !

Here is where I would normally inject some kind of rational thought or silliness or words of wisdom but today I have none other than LIVE, LOVE, LAUGH !

Peace, out... SB

4/26/2012 12:22:34 AM

Nightshift really has a lot to answer to......

I thought yesterday was Thursday, today was Tue and inbetween times had to ask my youngest daughter what her name was... arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

The next person to mention that may be due to old age rather than nightshift, if I had the energy, Id smack around, however, I don't therefore I will simply ignore ! LOL

4/18/2012 4:46:27 AM

Thanks to all who offerred puppies for sale... We are now the proud owners of the most handsome 8wk old border collie. Named Alfie Bumble MacAulay Jamieson he is cute enough to warm even my cold heart !

Having registered bum bum with the vet and gasped at the cost of initial vacinations, puppy socialisation classes etc etc its now off to the pet shop with credit card at the ready for puppy training mats, chew toys and food ! Bloody puppy is more expensive than a sub !!!

Peace, out, SB

4/15/2012 10:39:58 AM

I am looking for a puppy !

Hold the messages right there and let me finish for goodness sake !

Im not looking for a two legged one to be dragged around on a leash although that does amuse me occassionaly, I am looking for one with four legs n goes woof woof lol

Im looking for a yorkshire terrier or white west highland terrier if anybody knows anybody selling any please message me with details.

Thanks in advance.

Peace, out, SB

4/12/2012 3:28:11 PM
Now available via my new fancy all dancing all singing android, now i just need to figure out how to work it!

4/8/2012 5:58:05 PM

The angels came and wrapped you up

Into their arms enclosed with love

It broke my heart to see you go

The pain it left you will never know

You clung on tight and flew so high

Now watching down from blue laced skies

The aching heart will never cease

Fly high with angels, rest in peace


4/3/2012 2:41:05 PM

Another fine upstanding citizen... must be upstanding citizen Tuesday in the Uk !

Alpharhythm also parading as Wolvesdommesissy... messages from both accounts pretending not to know who the other is... really, not everybody is as stupid as you appear to be. If you are going to play with two profiles at least have the intelligence to alter the profile information and how you type in messages.. psssssst, it gives you away !



4/3/2012 2:37:33 PM

Note: mountainbiking, male slave age 29, Glasgow.... fine upstanding citizen who having repeadedly being told the same thing resorts to childlike abuse then blocks you scared of the reply... Im sure your mother must be very proud kiddo.

3/31/2012 4:17:21 PM

Well folks its been awhile.... stuff outside of CM has been keeping me busy but here I am, alive n kicking !

One thing that hasn't changed in my absence is the bullshit and lies that are told across this service... it beggars belief sometimes.

Just when you think maybe there is hope, somebody shits in your cornflakes....

Its time to treat this forum with the respect it deserves...NONE.

Do not expect pleasantries or nicities from me, until somebody proves worthy of my time and respect, there will be none....if that makes me as bad as them then so be it, such is life...

Having re-read a conversation with said bullshitter from earlier, Im actually laughing now, probably more at myself than the actual conversation. Having enquired re his suddenly removed profile I actually believed his reasoning... I hope his new owner has a sharp knife to cut through the bullshit... shame really, he was potentially something I could keep.

3/16/2012 5:31:07 PM

bi or gay/lesbian submissive male/female/couple wanted for occassional play in Scotland and/or Derbyshire with Dom/Domme.

3/12/2012 3:51:12 PM

Had a blast with my first ever paid phone session.... never realised I could elicit such a response with just my voice... said slave was such a compliant lil bitch I was in my element and even got the pics in email to prove he had carried out my demands....

Onwards and upwards !

Otherwise life is just life, here n there, bit of this n that, ssdd....

Peace, out.... SB

2/17/2012 6:30:59 PM

Translation of abusive message to Dominant Females from Dominant *coughs* Men...

You are fat actually means... look at me, Im of an average nursery school intelligence and can make a deduction from a picture!

You need to brush your hair actually means... Im jealous of your hair as my own hair is thickest up my left nostril and sprouting from my rt ear rather than on my head.

Nobody would want you actually means... I am lonely because people have realised I am of below average intelligence and one step up the food chain from an oyster therefore nobody wants me.

I bet you are a man actually means....My winkie is so small it is sometimes mistaken for a clit and people think I am female.

You arent a Domme actually means... I am not actually a Dominant, I am simply an attention seeker who cannot gain the interest of a Domme due to having no personality, low intelligence and a large amount of nose hair so I find getting negative attention is the only kind I can gain and being the pitiful person I am, will take anything.

You need a good f*** actually means... Im still a virgin but have read a few Mills n Boons books that mamma lent me so I know what that means so there!

Bitch! actually means... Ive ran out of abusive comments because I only have 6 that I know how to spell correctly and anyway, bob the builder is about to come on the tv and I never miss an episode!

Live, Love, Laugh...SB



1/26/2012 1:10:57 PM

Due to real life commitments my time online is limited therefore I am not looking for or seeking, wanting or needing subs/slaves/any combination of....

Live, Love, Laugh. SB

1/24/2012 7:46:38 AM

Never thought I would get bored of looking at winkies but heh, there is only so many winkies a person can have thrown at them in oneday before you seriously begin to wonder why such small things apparantly hold so much interest for so many?

Is it something about splashing your inadequacy in everybodys face that you enjoy or are you simply trying to look all macho? It aint working dudes, especially the dom ones...dignity and integrity goes a long way towards self respect. If you have no self respect how can you expect others to view you with any?

Really, its not neccessary to have winkies waving on main profile pics, put em away and save an old dommes eyes from tearing up with laughter.

On all other fronts, life is good in my sadistic world....

Peace, out, SB

1/21/2012 5:26:40 PM

A thought.... yes even I have those sometimes !

On browsing profiles as I normally do I see a lot of "age, size, colour, looks not important, anybody who wants to be used in all holes will do" ...

Is that really the words of a dominant or just somebody who wants sex from anybody who will give them it regardless of anything else or somebody who simply is not able to get any by genuine means therefore will take anything on offer?

I am far from concerned about how people look, their age, gender etc but there does need to be an attraction for me to indulge in anything past coffee and a good gossip. That doesnt mean they have to be Johhny Depp although if available Im sure not going to say no, its nothing more than something that attracts me to a person.

Maybe its not attraction that is the issue, but surely somebody compatible in more than sexual use would be something to consider?

For somebody to be more interested in getting their leg over than anything else doesnt sing ds to me, it sings desperate !

1/21/2012 4:44:00 PM

To further save me from repeating myself... I have a perfectly good working toilet, it flushes well and so far its caused me no issue, clean it, toss bleach down it and give it a good scrub with a brush and its dealt with... now show me a slave that is as easy to keep and Ill consider it, until then, Mr Shanks wins !!

1/21/2012 11:05:04 AM

Thought for today.... what is a mind fuck? where does it take you, where does it leave you?

1/21/2012 10:06:16 AM

Today I've found myself repeating myself several times which really irritates me so lets have a discussion about age.

Being an... ahem, mature lady, I firstly seek men/woman from the age of 30 upwards, there is no upper age limit but visiting my sub in a care home isnt on my agenda so alive and kicking would be nice.

I like many on cm have a family/friends/career outside of ds and whilst its very much a part of my everyday life in that its not something I turn on or off with the dressing up play thing, I do not feel the need to throw it in the faces of those who do not understand the lifestyle.

For this reason I do not believe that subs younger than 30 fit into my lifestyle. Whilst functioning alongside my family life is a good thing, I do prefer my sub isnt of the same era as my eldest sons who are 23 and closer to my youngest daughter of 11 than they are to me...

This being personal choice of how I believe a healthy ds relationship works in my life its annoying the hell out of me that subs on cm cannot respect my personal choice and assume they are the special one who at the grand age of 20 something or younger, will change my mind.

While I am more than happy to indulge myself in play with young subs at a club or similar, I am not interested in a relationship with that age range.

I am positive there are young dommes out there who would be delighted to have you in their servitude and control but unfortunately Im an old one set in her ways, respect this !

That said, there are a couple of thirty something subs who currently have peaked my interest....

I always feel so much better after a rant LOL

Peace, happy weekend and out...SB

1/18/2012 1:23:33 AM

Whoever sent the flowers and card wishing me luck for my new home, thank you !

A nice start to a rather dull and damp Ayrshire day so if whoever sent them messages me, I am sure I can find you some packing of boxes to do LOL !

1/17/2012 12:41:33 PM

List of tradesmen compiling, thanks to all who offerred help one way or another, its greatly appreciated!

While Im on things wanted if anybody has a free or cheap car please message me. A child learning to drive is a dangerous thing and having had my car in the garage twice already after small bumps I am looking for another car to let them loose on rather than mine !

Willing to drive to wherever it is to collect.

Peace out, SB

1/16/2012 3:58:53 PM

Having spent the last few days contemplating the renovations to my new abode, Im in the process of compiling a list of jobs to do and in what order...complicated process even for an ocd person like myself.

What is apparant is I will be in need of confident trades people to carry out these renovations as and when required therefore I think now is a good time to see just who can do what.

I will definately need a joiner for laying wooden floors, renewing woodwork, doors and other general woodwork type stuff.

Plumber I have by means of competant brother in law so not needed.

Painter and decorator definately.

Gardener, landscaper type person for garden that looks like a jungle, also laying of decking/slabs etc.

All materials supplied obviously but bring your own tools... I will supply the refreshments and whatever reward your work deserves

On a slightly similar but different not I am also looking for premises in Scotland, preferably within easy distance of Ayrshire to set up a dungeon/club where I can set up some pro sessions. Will be looking for people to help construct/install equipment.

Peace out, SB

1/15/2012 10:02:56 AM

An awful lot of dommes viewing my profile today..... guess they all just wanna be me... if I wasnt me, Id wanna be me too !!

1/13/2012 1:29:36 PM

Deal is done, no more having to move every 6 months, house bought, signed just need to be delivered on 1st feb... I knew this year was going to be a happier one than last year. New gaff certainly not a patch on size of this monster Im renting but the one huge difference is, it will be MINE and HOME SWEET HOME...or at least it will be when Im done spending around 10k on upgrading it LOL.

Busy few weeks ahead so won't be loitering here much so see you all on the flip side !

Peace, happiness, out...SB

1/10/2012 5:19:55 PM

todays lunacy...

"i can make you submit" - oi luv, any idiot can "make" somebody do something through fear/bullying etc, you ain't got this whole dominance/submission thing yet do you huh ! Ponder for a moment make you do man and consider that whether you or any other silly person realises or not, slavery or similar in the UK is illegal and most definately comes under "consensual"... you and your painfully weak mind cannot make anybody do anything they don't want to... try simple natural dominance, works for me. Oh wait, I forgot, you aint got any ! pmsl

"I wont answer any messages unless you call me Sir" - fabulous bit of authority from a self proclaimed "experienced 20yr old" - my my this one makes me realise why cm is fast becomming a joke.

"dont message me if you are a fake" - woah, that sure will stop them eh

"i wont ever send you pics or cam but you will cam for me on demand so i know you are real" - ehhhhhh pot, kettle????

"only contact me between 10pm and midnight" - now I aint no sherlock but this one has a tinge of "my wife/gf/mother goes to bed at ten and Im expected to be in it at midnight so dont contact me inbetween"

1/9/2012 5:57:25 PM

Still here at this ridiculous hour of the night house hunting... OMG yes, its due again !

Somebody somewhere anywhere find me a god dam decent 4 bed house in Ayrshire and rent it for me, Im so flakey bored with this short term lease shit, I dont want to move again...EVER !

Search the web, find me a house, rent it and then you get to clean my nice is that !

*throws the latest pile of schedules in the trash and gives up for today*

1/9/2012 5:32:12 PM

Todays annoyances....

"barney is looking for...." "goofy thinks that...." - whats the shit with all that? Is somebodies secretary writing their profile or are they suffering from a good old dose of schizophrenia whereby one of them is writing about the other?

"I see on your profile you only want 30+, Im 19 is that too young? - Didn't you do counting at school luv?

"your profile says you dont do distance relationships, is the most southern point of England/Ireland/Cambodia too far?" - obviously went to the school of lets not do georgraphy, do you know the previous dude by any chance?.

"I want to ...... " - I dont give a flying starfish what you want, its what I want that matters in this relationship dear !

"I need....." - see above dipshit.

"you are mean" - NO SHIT SHERLOCK !

1/6/2012 2:32:00 PM

Firstly I would like to wish each and every one of you who follow my journals a happy and prosperous new year. I hope all your dreams come true and your desires are fullfilled to their potential.

It's been a busy few weeks for me, sometimes chaotic, mostly mayhem but some of the best times of my life. As those who know me in real life already know, this year has been one that has taken me to moments of happiness and laughter to rivers of tears that although have ceased still leave a pain in my heart and a gap in my life that will never be filled.

Whilst the holiday period was tinged with that sadness I spent it with my family, my mother who has shown me how strong a woman can sister who when times are tough is there with a smile and a children who I am more proud of than they will ever know, each having their own ways of being everything I ever wanted for grandchildren who give their love unconditionaly, a love that cannot be replicated nor tarnished....friends who have been here through thick and thin, sadness and joy, good or bad... to you all I wish that 2012 is one that brings happiness, love and life. I love you all dearly and cherish every moment we spend together.

The start of a new year always brings those "must get round to doing" and "definately this year I will..." things so this year rather than make promises that I know I will drift away from I have decided that this year I will make no promises, instead I will live, love and laugh....

Who knows what 2012 will bring but I will continue to be me, to be passionate about what and who I care about and will throw myself headlong into continuing to be a proud and strong woman knowing that those I am not taking forward into this new year, are watching down on me and smiling.

Peace out, SB

12/18/2011 8:33:43 AM

Gosh, never did I realise my journal entries were so awaited or expected. Amazing how many messages I have had asking if everything is ok as there has been no fresh reads for awhile. Normal service will resume shortly !

While I am here I may as well write one so here goes....

Christmas is almost upon us, actually once I have dug my way out of the ass deep present wrapping situation I am sure new year will be upon us.

Not only is my bank account a chunk, make that a large chunk, lighter, my sanity is slowly slipping away, mingling in with the crowds of folks out in town acting like christmas dinner is actually the last supper and all supplies to the UK will be cut off after tuesday...did somebody forget to mention to these people that Asda is only shut for one day and not until July 2012???

There I am fighting my way around the card shop for those oversized christmas bags that are filled to the brim with presents until when lifted the handles fall off and everything crashes through the arse that fell out of it...yet every dam year I buy them...anyway, I digress..there I was eventually in the queue trying to stop said bags assaulting anybody who walked past as I juggled them with the various other bags I was carrying... ok now actually I cant remember the point of telling you this LMAO...

OK onto next thing... the weather....just plain nasty here in Scotland. We went from gale force winds to snow to rain and wind and now have the joy of ice. Only yesterday I watched my bags of presents taken out the car and watched them gaily slide off down the driveway in the arms of my son. Now normally somewhat agile yesterday he looked remarkably like bambi with legs wandering off different directions while his arms, laden with my shopping, waved and attempted to keep him upright. Hysterical as it was my thoughts were with what was in the bags, had I bought anything breakable? On telling him to slow down before he landed up in the lounge of the house across the road he yelled back, omg somebody help me and I had this instant urge to laugh harder, which I duely did. At this point he negotiated a car comming down the hill sideways, made it up onto the pavement across the road and was stopped only by the good fortune of a neighbours conifer tree as he straddled it ! Moral of the story, dont let your son carry your shopping bags, daughters are much more agile on their feet !

My sister and brother in law arrived this afternoon laden with the christmas dinner food we had decided was going to fit into my freezer in the utility room... oh how wrong we were ! After wrestling with a turkey, jammed in some chipolatas and almost decapitated brussell sprouts in the door, we decided perhaps I shouldnt have gone to Iceland earlier this week to stock up on frozen food... oops?

The rest of the week is looking almost idylic, one shift tomorrow then Im done work for 3 weeks, a couple of days working on a uni essay that is due early january but realising that as from christmas day onwards I will be floating in alcohol, I should do it now and the rest of the week will be chaos free...Oh I bet I regret saying that !

Anyway, I wish you all a wonderful christmas and new year and if not before, see you all in 2012!!

Peace, alcohol and out...SB

12/8/2011 11:34:57 AM

Made it to work at 7am this morning through floods and winds that had my lil puddle jumper skipping across lanes on the A77 only to about turn and head home to collect mini me from closed school, bless the council for letting us know in advance...not !

Having collected mini me headed to mums for her hospital appointment that she couldnt not go to even although 90% of the staff probably didnt make it to work anyway, however, continuing onto shop, which again, simply couldnt wait until hurricane bawbag passed, I watched as mother did a rather good impression of mary poppins across the car park almost lifting high enough to impale herself on the sainsbury sign atop the building. Oh golly I hear you say, didnt you help her? Well once I had stopped laughing long enough to take a pic on my phone to send to my sis, I did rescue her from amidst the trollys only to make another dash after mother now attached to a trolley as it headed across the car park at break mother speed. Another bout of hysterical laughter later as her hat took across the road and we finally made it through the automatic doors which where opening and closing all of their own accord and almost jammed poor mother between them. The return to car was like something out of monty phython as mother and bags did a superb impression of some ballet scene aka legs and arms everywhere, the messages deposited in boot of car the next hilarity was getting mother in car and door shut while contents of car ie rubbish mini me left lying around, swirled around the inside of the car like a tornado. Never did I believe a crisp packet could hit my head with such force! Finally making it back to mothers house and depositing her and shopping safely I headed home along the most open stretch of road in Ayrshire. Arriving home I successfully dodged wheely bins making a bid for freedom out the street, a tesco delivery van that obviously assumed driving sideways was the norm, several cats clinging to lamposts, to finally make it to my house only to find the driveway was no longer suitable for the car as it contained the shed from the back garden! Not that peculiar you might think but considering there is a 6ft high fence between back and front garden I am considering entering my shed in the guiness book or records as the highest jumping garden shed in Scotland. Even stranger was it was fully intact and without a scratch !

Abandoning car at the side of the house, struggling inside with shopping I threw myself on the sofa and hollered anybody available to get the kettle on. It couldnt get any worse, or could it? Well no sky television due to the satellite dish that once was bolted to the side of the house now being 3 houses up, a sudden thud of garden fence throwing itself against conservatory windows causing it to crack sent freshly made cup of coffee across lounge floor closely followed by screaming of varying degrees of "we are all going to die" by the kids as the electricity went off.

Now the task of making it to tescos is at hand, the wellies are out, the canoe oars intact I maybe sometime due to the issue of it may well be tescos Carlisle I end up in rather than Kilmarnock depending on the direction of the wind. If I have not returned in a week, somebody feed the kids !

12/2/2011 12:59:05 AM

Sometimes you just have to re-visit the past to clear the path for the future.

On doing that occassionally you find something that was there all along but you couldn't see it for looking.

This weekend will kill or cure....

Happy Friday folks...SB

12/1/2011 1:37:45 AM

Well its the 1st of December and the party season is upon us. Unfortunately I have been out of action for a couple of weeks due to an unexpected op on my mouth that didnt go to plan and I ended up fairly poorly for awhile but now on the mend thankfully.

Thanks to all who sent their wishes for a speedy recovery.

Health aside all is well in the sadistic household, christmas trees are up...notice the plural there, not only did mini me want the ceiling height all singing all dancing tree up this year she insisted we put one up in the conservatory so it could be seen from the back of the house, one on the front porch incase people couldnt see in at the fancy dancy one and oh yes, there just HAD to be one in her bedroom for her friends to dance round...why they want to dance round the tree is beyond me but then what do I know, Im old !

Shopping is well underway and as always I gave into the hype and went bananas on the kids and grandkids whilst all the time reminding myself its just one day...didn't help much and  I will still have the bank manager making that face, yes you know the one... the "what the fecking hell have you been doing woman" face!

Keeping back from the crowds and enjoying the tranquility.....

Peace, out, SB 

11/22/2011 4:02:56 PM

Re-evaluating what I want... seems cm isnt spitting it out... normal service resumed in the near future.... SB has not left the building, merely watching from afar....

Peace, out, SB

11/20/2011 2:41:42 PM

Note: should you (you being a sub/slave/combination) message me and imply intent to want something more than chat please ensure you are serious. Should you ( see previous definition) then suddenly disappear and return a week later with some sob story about being dumped by the love of your life, assume that I (Me) will tell you to fuck off and find some other mug. Getting all pity and woe is me (being you) on me (I) wont work and telling me to fuck off will just make me laugh harder... get a life people (yes that is you sub type people) and learn what RESPECT is before getting yourself into shit. While you (yes, thats you sub/slave/combination folks) are under the impression that dommes dont talk to each other, you will continue to find yourself without an owner and get caught out. you (here we go again, subs/slaves/combinations) whine, moan and complain till your balls are blue about lack of genuine dominants on cm yet from where I'm sitting there are far fewew genuine subs and even fewer who understand the word LOYALTY.

Now.... next?

11/20/2011 4:01:15 AM

Todays replies to messages that made me chuckle...

"my Master wants to see me with another woman to show my submission to him" - no luv, he just wants some girl on girl action like he saw in porn movies when he was 15 !

"i live at the other end of the country but i can be available to you 24/7" - who the hell are you, spiderman or richard branson??

"hi im looking for my domme" - eh, where did you leave her, if you cant remember I am sure as hell not going out on a date with you !

"im lost" - are you related to the numbnuts who lost his domme luv?

As much as I detest cock pics as an introduction today I did recieve one that actually wasnt the size of a mini mars bar or anything similar, this was was definately of above average size and looking at the date/time on the pic, relatively acceptable as real, so there does exist a genre of subs with non worm like cocks, there is a god !!



11/20/2011 3:29:07 AM

Well.... went from club on thursday to sandwiched between my grandson and grandaughter in bed watching dvds last night...

Have to say, loved the club but equally I loved the time with the kids, one smile and "i love you" from them is priceless...

As for today.... well that involves cleaning up the carnage of having my grandkids run riot alongside my youngest daughter who had two friends for a sleepover, I must be bonkers!

The life of a domme eh....

Peace out, SB

11/18/2011 8:06:24 AM

Had a great night in Sheffield, great company and met some interesting people, oh...and some strange ones ! How come in a club full of "deviants", I still attract the loopies! arggggggggghhhhhhhhhh LMAO !

However, had a good night, thanks A for the invite.

I should also add that all of a sudden I seem to have this need to be less than gentle on subs...not like me some would say but there just comes a time, that moment when I think, wtf am I being so soft for, give it to em!... NOW is that moment, the Sadistic Biatch is back as is her mojo ! Whether is fucking your mind or fucking you with toys, aint no quarter given from now on, my way or keep on walking !

Now off for a well earned bath, glass of something alcoholic and a nap before Im back hot to trot !

Peace out, SB

11/16/2011 2:57:56 PM

Finally got last shift this week over and paper submitted so its all good !

Looking forward to Nemesis tomorrow night, if you are going, come say hi !

Keeping it real and funky, SB

11/14/2011 7:49:08 AM

Busy week ahead, working tue/wed, heading to Nemisis on Thursday night, dash home for movies on Friday night and what the weekend holds, who knows! Currently got my head stuck in text books trying to finish a paper due Thur that I didnt actually start till yesterday...who says us Dommes are organised..arghhhhhhhhhh

Only one thing to say about cm the bloody profile before messaging me, Im trying to work and endless shitty no point messages isnt helping my cause dudes !!

Peace out, SB

11/13/2011 8:23:08 AM

Its said that if you have nothing nice to say, say nothing at all so today....I'm saying nothing at all....

11/12/2011 2:06:46 PM

Nemisis on Thursday.... playtime woot woot !

11/12/2011 9:16:28 AM

Having spoken to jaggedhalo in depth it has been decided that he is no longer held in 24/7chastity, he is free to go.

11/11/2011 2:55:06 PM

when you put statements like "im desperate for an owner" " ill do anything you want if.." "i beg you to use me" "im worthless".... do you really have a leg to stand on and complain when you are contacted by this that and probably the other ?? No luv, didnt think so therefore stop whining and remove the drivel from your profile to attract serious dominants.


18yr old male who "used to be a dom but couldnt find a sub maybe due to my age so now I want a Mistress"...  no shit sherlock !    

11/11/2011 2:25:18 PM

An observation made purely on the amount of "subjects" waving around on cm....

winkies really are strange looking things. I mean, look closely, there is nothing pretty or beautiful about them, they are just "there" hanging around, or for those trying to be macho, stuck up with nowhere to go, sort of like a lil doormouse keeking out from a bush since the majority arent even clean shaven... nope, not pretty at all !

Good lord I must be bored, Friday night and I am observing the differences in winkies !


11/11/2011 1:46:05 PM

Whats with all this U/us M/me Y/you H/her H/him S/shit !!!!!

11/11/2011 10:40:56 AM

Having been laughing hysterically for the last 3 weeks regarding a conversation with a friend, I can now talk about it as what she proposed has been achieved.

Said friend found herself pissed off by the amount of financial youngsters on cm who had found an easy route to take money from stupid men so... she spent the last few weeks gathering their tribute addresses, email addresses, websites and even made a few messages to several getting mobile phone numbers and believe it or not, several home addresses...along with capturing pics of their profiles (if they are actually real pics) and has forwarded the whole lot to the benefit fraud offices and the inland revenue... now all I can say to that is..


So ladies of that persuasion... watch out for the fraud squad, they maybe comming for you!

I should say this isnt financial dommes who do actually work for their money, this is the send me money now you worm and I will call you a worthless frogs leg type.

11/11/2011 10:05:38 AM

Todays nonsenses.....

19yr old (coughs) domme "been into the scene awhile"

69yr old dom "only accept girls 18/19 (yeah we know youre game luv)

Dom seeking "no limits slave for scientific experimentation (again...we know youre game luv)

18yr old financial domme who accepts only vodaphone topups (at least she is specific?)

18yr old male slave will "be done by a dog or a horse if its Master wants" (do I even need to comment on this one?)

Message in my inbox - would you sit on my face and fart ... sorry luv, I dont fart I am a Lady, I merely pimp !

19yr old domme asking for "non tribute or slaves who want money" ( you got mixed up dear!)

Todays winner : 38yr old domme with a pic of a 18yr old on her profile, when questioned by a friend replied "its cuz i get slaves to buy me cream"when asked to verify via cam replied "I cant, I have cream on my face" (when I'm done laughing I will think of an appropriate response to todays winning nonsense)

11/11/2011 2:23:53 AM



This time of year brings sadness for many, including myself. Not only is it the rememberance of those lost in battle, for myself, it brings the sadness of knowing a Man who I respected, loved and cherished as my best Friend, passed on.


He fought for his country through many campaigns, one of the first men in and last out. He showed bravery when many would run, courage beyond measure but most of all, he had humanity and respect for life. This might sound strange for a Man of His position but along with millions of other military men and woman, he did what he did for His country and to keep those within it safe from terrorists and those causing threat.


To all the Men and Women doing just that, I salute you.


To all the Men and Women lost during those times, I salute you.


To TJ, above all else, a Man, I miss you.


I cried when you passed away. I cry today still. Although I loved you dearly, I couldn't make you stay. A golden heart stopped beating, hard working hands at rest. God broke my heart to prove to me he only takes the best.

11/10/2011 3:43:07 AM

Somebody has just pointed out I have dimples when I smile which makes me cute... Cute Sadistic Biatch just isnt going to work luv !

Nice compliment anyway, cheers !

11/10/2011 2:30:35 AM

Knowing you have somebodys life in your hands is one that excites and thrills....

Lunch at Holybush today, intelligent company and good food... a nice day ahead...

11/9/2011 3:12:34 PM

The last few days suddenly don't seem so bad.... first somebody who has darkened my life for the last year, has gone, finally realised that everybody knows him for what he is, such a relief for all real people out there. Secondly, I have a new shock collar on its way, how dam exciting is that ! For J who is sending it, the trial run is on you! I am most definately smiling tonight!

11/8/2011 3:33:38 PM

Sometimes, just sometimes, I get really tired of all is one of those days...


11/8/2011 7:48:11 AM

Another strange phenomena that is appearing on several profiles

"I am the man/woman your mother warned you about"

Well I dont know about you chuck but when I was a lil bitsy domme my mummy warned me about taking sweeties from strange men or accepting invitations to go see their puppies... as I grew into my boots my mummy warned me about boys who were out for one thing and one thing only, the dreaded quick fumble behind the bike shed or against the garages behind the chip shop where admit it, we all hung out at one time or another. There was also the warnings from mummy about the boys/men who are abusive and end up in prison as alcohol or drug dependant criminals who will never hold down a job and certainly never function in a relatinship...

Now that said, which one are you professing to be?

11/8/2011 7:39:22 AM

something I read on a profile earlier whilst attempting to sleep after a horrid nightshift so it has taken me awhile to actually find the write button to make and entry, I so need a secretary !

The profile started off semi normal, usual shit we all put about who we are etc etc then it turned into this.....

"the most important thing for me about bdsm is.... "

Now there I was, glued to the screen, anticipating a person who actually understood bdsm and the funademtal dynamics...only to be let down badly, to the point of hysterical laughter when I read the remainder of the sentance...

" anal"

Listen up luv, we all love shoving things up peoples bottoms but really, you dont need to call yourself a dom to do that, its readily available on the nilla side of life and to be honest, if being a dom is only to get some of the rear end action, you need to be re-thinking your strategy and reasons for being in the lifestyle...

If said fool is reading this, get in touch, I will enlighten you as to the difference between dominant and shoverupperbottomlovers.... no cost, its free information !

11/7/2011 5:28:01 AM

A lesbian dominant making sure she? very clearly states to me she? is female, is there any other kind of lesbian?

Me thinks something is amiss here, get a life love and go twiddle your twinkie as I really dont believe you have a foo foo !

11/7/2011 1:43:54 AM

This time of year brings sadness for many, including myself. Not only is it the rememberance of those lost in battle, for myself, it brings the sadness of knowing a Man who I respected, loved and cherished as my best Friend, passed on.

He fought for his country through many campaigns, one of the first men in and last out. He showed bravery when many would run, courage beyond measure but most of all, he had humanity and respect for life. This might sound strange for a Man of His position but along with millions of other military men and woman, he did what he did for His country and to keep those within it safe from terrorists and those causing threat.

To all the Men and Women doing just that, I salute you.

To all the Men and Women lost during those times, I salute you.

To TJ, above all else, a Man, I miss you.

I cried when you passed away. I cry today still. Although I loved you dearly, I couldn't make you stay. A golden heart stopped beating, hard working hands at rest. God broke my heart to prove to me he only takes the best.


11/7/2011 1:14:43 AM

Self-respect cannot be hunted.  It cannot be purchased.  It is never for sale.  It cannot be fabricated out of public relations.  It comes to us when we are alone, in quiet moments, in quiet places, when we suddenly realize that, knowing the good, we have done it; knowing the beautiful, we have served it; knowing the truth we have spoken it.  ~Whitney Griswold

11/6/2011 6:33:45 AM

I am considering having a "meet and greet" night at my home in Ayrshire for those I already know from the local area and those I have spoken to here on cm but have not yet met. This extends to Dominants and submissives. Logistics not decided yet, this is just an initial thought to see who would be interested. Nothing heavy, just a relaxed evening to meet local people and a safe place to meet initially. Anybody interested message me with your thoughts and I will get back to everybody.

I do have an integral garage that can be used for hook ups etc so nearer the time I will get some sub friends over to "fix" the place up for the night if anybody wants to bring along their kit and play around a bit.

Since I am being asked so many questions Ive listed below some stipulations that are non negotiable. Any other questions message me.

All dominants/switches/subs must be single/unattached/no hidden partners no matter how much you say they know and understand (exempt for couples attending obviously)

Play is available at my discretion

Overnight is possible but I live in a modest 4 bed house, not a castle so expect to huddle up and share if neccessary LOL

There will be a selected few who will attend the guests needs for food/drinks etc.

Dress code is relaxed so fetish/bondage wear not neccessary but feel free to wear if its your choice.

This isnt a free for all, all attending will be known to me beforehand.

And for the several messages I had asking ..... outside the UK does not qualify as local, local means Ayrshire, Glasgow and surrounding.

The invitation extends to experienced, novices and those new to the Lifestyle so whether dominant, submissive or unsure, feel free to indulge.


11/6/2011 4:13:11 AM

Yesterday I wore fluffy pink pyjames

Today I'm chasing my grandson around the house, him dressed as spiderman, me as some kind of warped fairy

Tomorrow I think I will polish my boots then work on my study

Thursday I'm having lunch with a submissive

Friday I am working a 14h shift with people who need me

All week I will love my kids, grandkids and those I call friends

I am just a woman

I tell you everything that is really nothing, and nothing of what is everything, do not be fooled by what I am saying.  Please listen carefully and try to hear what I am not saying.  ~Charles C. Finn

11/4/2011 3:11:25 AM

"We are all a little weird and life's a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love."


Having taken stock of cm in all its glory and those who loiter its depths I have come to the conclusion that there are many types of people here...

The obvious large % that have no concept of bdsm and what it stands for, those who are here simply to extract money with no service in return. In that I don't mean the pro dommes, those that have established businesses and provide a service for those who seek such, I mean those who are phone top up bunnies or heard on faceyb that there were some ridiculously silly men on cm who part with cash just because some bimbo tells them to.

Taking these people out of the equation, that leaves those who are married/attached and here to seek something missing in their life, well the majority of them, some are just looking to have cake and eat greedy !

Another % taken away that leaves those who have failed at relationships and think by either bullying others or being bullied and beaten within an inch of their lives, somebody will want them...

Discarding those sorts that leaves those who dabble, here and there, when the notion takes them, not looking for anything other than a quick play and off back to the pub and their mates, their choice and absolutely nothing wrong with that.

Now what we have left are those who seek something more than a quick thrill, those who understand the concept of a ds relationship and how it intigrates into "normality", a word I hate but easy for most to understand. Some seek full tpe relatonships, some more relaxed scenarios but ultimately want to be owned by a dominant.

Having looked at the number of messages in my inbox over the last few days I would say the % of those in the latter category, those that it quite clearly states on my profile and journals that I am looking for is approx 7% of what is being sent which means 93% of people sending me messages havent bothered to look at what I want or am looking for...not a great ratio.

To make it easier and allow me to spend time talking to people who are looking for the same thing as me, I am no longer going to spend endless hours messaging back and forth with people who although nice enough, are not compatible with my needs.

So for the 7% of people who have messaged me recently that are compatible, we shall continue talking and exploring the possibilities, the other 93% thanks for the messages but its a waste of e-ink continuing to message me with "hi, how are you" "i want to lick your boots" or the one that irritates me more than any other "i wish we didnt live so far apart". I live in Scotland, for those unsure where that is, Google do a great range of maps you can look at, its in the UK, thats United Kingdom for those who struggle with that concept. I live in Central Scotland, Ayrshire, 30 mins from Glasgow airport or 15 mins from Prestwick Airport, RyanAir do some great cheap flights. We have a very efficient rail and bus service that actually makes it past county borders too so should any of those transport choices not be available to you then dont complain I live too far away, perhaps it is you who lives too far away??

I am very clear on what I am looking for and I am not going to up sticks and relocate at this moment in time due to family/work commitments but that is not to say that some point in the future that will change.

It is not neccessary to live within jogging distance of somebody to have a relationship nor is it neccessary to live 24/7 together from the off, things take time and with time grows trust and depth.

If you have issue with these things then why are you bothering to message me in the first place, would it not be sensible to target dominants that fall into the category of how far you are willing to travel?

Now moving on.... next !

11/3/2011 12:57:05 PM

Announcement: I am really seriously bored with people who don't read profile and neglect to think before they let their fingers loose on a keyboard !

There must be some kind of authority that can sanction removal of fingers for this crime... somebody somewhere send me the address !!!

From now on, messages of this sort wont be answered, such a waste of e-ink and of my time.

Now, on with business.... NEXT !

11/3/2011 4:46:13 AM

Gosh, had I realised the messages my previous entry would elicit I would have held back on the panty wash this week and sold them off to the highest bidder.

For this weeks panties, make me an offer and I will post the winning bid !

If nothing else it will save me money on washing powder and electricity and then I can meander off to buy some new pretty knickers with the proceeds...

11/2/2011 5:14:18 PM

Message of the day....

dom male: I will brainwash you into being my whore

Me: Sorry, I had somebody do all my laundry only yesterday but I still have some unwashed panties you could wash if you like

dom male: bitch

Me: good observation, well done you, now hurry along and find somebody elses laundry to be doing

dom male: you are my whore

Me: if that is as good as your brainwashing gets you sure as hell aint doing my knicker laundry!


11/2/2011 4:16:13 PM

Even more "hard masters" appearing today, due to inflation perhaps?

Another strangeness going on over last few days... previous profiles of submissives are now labelling as dominants... hmmm


11/2/2011 3:46:37 PM
“Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.”
Maya Angelou

11/1/2011 7:51:44 AM

noticed a lot of "hard Masters" online today...does that mean its general erection day??

10/31/2011 5:22:22 PM

Gutted, totaly and utterly know who you are, cheers !


A short message for all you sub/slave types out there.... Dommes talk, do coffee, discuss subs, gossip... YOU WILL BE CAUGHT OUT !

Due to the amount of people on here who seem to have this ability not to be honest and upfront its time to take a back seat to all this and let you all get on with it.

I wish you all luck in deceiving each other and know that karma is a real bitch so in time, she will bite your arse good and proper. When you all finally realise that this isnt a game and real people with real feelings are involved, maybe you will all step up to the mark and stop behaving like teenagers, you are adults ffs !

Over and out for the last time... Shari

10/29/2011 10:49:18 AM

Having a sudden influx of messages from people I've not previously spoken to I thought I would repost two of my journal entries of sometime ago to give a brief outline of me and what I am looking for.... Both will give you a good insight into the woman, not just the domme part.

101 Interesting or not so interesting facts about me:

I hate mushrooms...I fancy Johnny Depp...I love to walk in the rain...I raised 5 kids alone and still like them, sometimes...I hate bad manners in people...I cry at The Lion King...I dislike arrogance in people...I drive...I traced my family back to travelling people...I work in a job I love...I wear size 5 shoes/boots...I am passionate...I sing constantly...I dislike war but understand why it is neccessary and am greatful for the men and women who risk their life for us, thank you...Bananas make me throw up...I am a dominant woman by nature...Lilies are my favourite flowers...My grandkids make me smile...As a kid when asked what I wanted to be when I grew up I would reply a fairy because they are magic...I love Ireland...I hate liars...sunshine makes me happy...I visited South Africa...I have green eyes...I have a degree in cognitive psychology...I dont believe politicians...I drink coffee...I am impulsive...I like to snuggle on the sofa watching movies...My kids make me proud...I used to have my tongue, navel and hood pierced...I am a Leo...I wear my heart of my sleeve...I dont like spiders...I am a realist...I drink morgans and coke...My Father died this year...I've never been to Amsterdam...Sometimes even my overdraft is overdrawn...I am stubborn...I have no appendix...I believe in miracles...I want to go to Egypt...I dont watch Jeremy Kyle...I believe commitment is the key to any relationship...I am proud to be me...When Im drunk I do crazy things...I like midnight...I dislike dark chocolate...I like reading in the bath...Im not skinny...I love and love to be loved...Peanut butter should be illegal...I like holding hands...I need to win the lottery...I was born in Glasgow...I have a thing for vampires...Im currently studying for a BA degree...I like smooth genitals...I dont like dishonesty...Ive been on an elephant...I can wallpaper...I like intimacy...I like having a suntan...I love Italian food...Im not a pro domme...Green tea makes me sneeze...I don't take regular medication...I like the beach...I love jammy dodgers...I am bisexual...I like being me...I cant work my phone but my 10yr old can...Im divorced...I dislike men who scratch their balls in public...I like hugs...I wear contact lenses...I dont need to tie up a sub to get them to do what I want...Ive swam with dolphins...I have compassion...I don't need a sub but I want one, there is a difference...I've been in love...Ive sang in public...Ive never passionately kissed a married man...marmite stinks...I believe in live, love, laugh...Ive been on Arnold Clarks yacht...I smoke...I will never stop learning...I have erotic dreams...I like Christmas...purple is my favorite colour...I like kisses...Loyalty is a must...I like poetry...I would rather see a face than a cock in a picture...I love the sound of laughter...I talk to myself sometimes...I just killed a spider...Im running out of things to write...Im finished !

Responsibility of care.

When a dominant person takes responsibility for a submissive, whether within the few hours of a play scene, within a part time relationship or as a full time commitment, with that responsibility comes the care of that submissive.

The basis of the relationship has no matter, whether one of sadism, basic bondage or just play sex, it’s a responsibility that some appear to be lacking.

Instances of submissives being tied for hours and left unsupervised, practises such as cbt, flogging, whipping etc relentlessly without checking the submissives wellbeing, blood drawn without correct aftercare...they leave me speechless and in despair of peoples humanity.

I have been referred to as a Sadistic Domme and as happy as the rest to get my thrill from sadistic practises yet some of these situations leave me with a complete lack of understanding of where these so called dominants are coming from.

It is one thing to be thrilled by humiliation or power control, we all delve into that in various situations but to treat another human being with such lack of responsibility defies all notions of what bdsm is all about.

A submissives state of mind and physical state after such times is paramount, it should be cared for, subdued, treated with respect and given the aftercare/medical care required, not left tied or in a heap on the floor to “come out of it when its ready”... that is not appropriate or responsible care.

Within a committed relationship that responsibility of care has to be take further than general aftercare of a scene, a submissive has given the gift of submission, something to be treasured, respected and treated with love and care, here too so many fall on their arses and assume because they own a submissive they have the right to treat the person with a lack of any morals, after all they are the boss...

Those that claim submissives are property, animals and worse, each to their own but unless the laws of the UK have changed, slavery/submission of any sort is consensual, rant all you like about it but that is what the law states and those breaking those laws will be penalised.  So the law aside, we look at the state of mind of the person treating another human being with the lack of care or morals that I have seen, read and more worryingly witnessed previously...

Having worked within the genre of mental health for many years, I have come across patients with psychological dysfunction who have little or no concept of morals and what is right or wrong or even acceptable in society, some I might add, with more responsibility than I have seen in so called Dominants treating submissives so disgracefully.  These people I treat are taken out of society, put through various psychological tests, therapies and so forth, kept away from society until they are no longer seen as a threat or dysfunctional....yet we allow these dominants to have free reign over vulnerable human beings?

I have a responsibility of care for people in my care at work which is a written legal document that states no matter my moral beliefs, I will and must give these clients the care needed to keep them safe, to offer treatment as required and ensure that they can be successfully integrated back into a “normal” society to live within the boundaries of what is deemed acceptable by the law.

Perhaps it is time to consider a similar programme for dominants who have completely lost the concept of responsibility over that of ego stroking or control issues... get a grip people and think about what you are doing and the long term damage you are doing to people who have given you the greatest gift possible...themselves, fully and completely in the hope that you will love, care and treat that gift responsibly... stand up to the mark and stop hiding behind so called titles, calling yourself Dom or Domme or Sir or Ma’am does not make you so, it merely is a title to hide behind when you are unable to control your own psychological state never mind a submissives.

This isn’t about your kink or what turns you on or what you like to do to get your rocks off, this is about the responsibility you take whilst practising.

The fundamentals of bdsm are being lost and we stand back and watch it happen.... I for one have and will always stand up and speak out about what I believe are wrongdoings within our craft, I hope others also vocalise themselves to bring bdsm back in a positive light.

10/27/2011 2:02:28 PM

Having almost recovered from my alcoholidays its back to earth with a bump and at work tomorrow through to monday except for saturday when I am attending an adult halloween party. Decisions on what to dress up as took time but we have settled on a fallen angel...seems somewhat apt for a wicked lady like myself. Long white dress split to the thigh, thigh high boots topped with beautiful lacy stocking tops, of course the obvious halo although somewhat tilted and subjected to an assault by devil horns. Of course I will be taking along the appropriate "tools" of the trade for a fallen angel, lovely red flogger to match the red horns... how cute !

Happy Halloween to fellow revellers and party goers !!

10/24/2011 2:07:30 PM

Back to earth with a bump, or hangover or something. Spent a fabulous alcohol drenched week in corfu and when the fuzz wears off I'll get to answering the messages.

Good...ish to be back although I think I need another one very soon...all offers considered !!

10/16/2011 9:52:55 AM

In Corfu until Monday 24th October... woot woot

10/15/2011 2:07:57 PM

Just had the strangest phone call... normally a number witheld I wont answer as people who dont want their number revealed are up to no good, however, having grabbed the ringing phone I hit answer without thinking...

No hello was given in response to mine, instead, somebody sang to me... absolutely fabulous voice and a beautiful song. It definately was whoever was on the phone singing and not a recording so well done, I loved it.

I have no idea who this was but if you read this...thank you, made my night !

Keeping it real and funky... SB


10/10/2011 2:30:49 PM

Seems my rants are missed LOL

Life has been crazy over last while so Im spending less time here on CM and more time trying to find enough hours in the day to do what needs done. Unfortunately until I win the lottery work comes first and foremost so endless 12 hr shifts is the way currently.

I have recovered from my concussion and kidney injury although as of today nursing soft tissue damage to my knee and leg having had a wide screen tv launched at me... now had my colleague not ducked and missed the flying object, it would have hit her straight on the noggin and I wouldnt be limping around ! No consideration L.... you owe me girl! LOL

Keeping it real and painful as always... SB

10/5/2011 3:58:31 PM

Irritating phrase of the week....

"I can play at being a dominant or submissive"... PLAY???? Its not a game like hide and seek or doctors and dont play at being anything, you are or you arent..get a grip !

9/27/2011 2:30:42 PM

Can I just say one thing.... videos of older ladies holding open their legs to expose their "bits" is just gross, gross and more gross. There is absolutely no need to upload videos of that nature on any public website. Where is your pride and dignity ! Being a submissive does not mean being a nasty webcam star or neccessary to gain interest. If you feel the need to show such gross videos then please send them directly to the person you are trying to gain the interest of or impress because quite frankly, unless somebody is desperate, they are not going to think anything other than yuck. Exposing bits that quite honestly should be kept under cover at a grand age is nothing less than desperate.. Gods I was almost sick in my mouth ! yuck !

9/20/2011 12:46:06 PM

Its been a hectic kind of few weeks. Launching myself back into my BA Degree has highlighted to me how easy I had it all those years ago completing my first degree as a budding psychology student. Living a life of social interaction (student night at the pubs) mingled with the odd bit of study here and there is definately something I took for granted back then. Now having kids and a full time stressful job as well as the degree work is proving to be more complicated than I had imagined however I shall triumph !

This week itself has been one of interest. Having an "incident" at work I am now working, living and studying with bruised kidneys, suspected cracked ribs and some very unsightly bruising to my normally perfectly flawless cheek and jaw so not only am I peeing blood, I feel like I have been kicked by a horse or rather run over, trampled and stamped on by a horse!

On a brighter note, I have found myself somewhat more relaxed since taking a step back from cm and related sites. I am happy chatting to those I have become close to on messenger or via phone and no longer ploughing through endless mind numbing messages from people who have no concept of bdsm or have taken time to read my profile and rambling to discover what I am looking for before sending me a message.

I am also off on holiday in a few weeks for a much deserved break, food and alcohol in endless supply I am going to chillax and wind down from what has been a hectic year.

On the relationship front, I'm smiling and time will tell....

Keeping it real and funky even if it does hurt to laugh, cough, sneeze or indeed breath...SB

9/12/2011 1:17:36 PM

Have a good old dose of the...... FLU... even my bloody eyelashes hurt arghhhhhhhhhh !!

Had a very surreal conversation with a... ahem... dominant male earlier today. After the nicities of hi how are you, how is your day going were over he launched into a very poor "get on your knees bitch" rant of how women were the weaker sex, should all be slaves to men blah blah yada yada.

Now being somewhat doped up on so called quick fix flu remedies I held back more than normal and let him finish before responding.

Having told me I should be on my knees at his feet begging his devine wisdom he then launched into the next piece of dogs bolloks that had me coughing, sneezing, choking and laughing all at once. He is married and will remain so, I should be completely loyal and devoted only to him and share myself with no others.

Obviously by this point I was doubled over trying desperately not to pee laughing so it took me a moment or three to compose myself before responding to his poorly worded and awful effort at the english language, not to mention his grasp of bdsm.

After responding to his definition of loyalty and faithfullness, bearing in mind this is a man who is decieving his wife by playing away from home, I thought I was rather diplomatic in my reply.

I considered everything he said, thought about it for all of 10 seconds then replied appropriately..... one word summed it all up.... TWAT !


9/11/2011 3:55:07 AM

Now I lay me down to sleep

One less terrorist this world does keep

With all my heart I give my thanks

To those in uniform regardless of rank

You serve our country and serve it well

With humble hearts your stories tell

So as I rest my weary eyes

While Freedom rings our flag still flies

You give your all, do what you must

With God we live and in God we trust.

RIP to those who were taken 10 years ago today and thank you to those who fight everyday to keep our country free and safe, I salute you !


9/6/2011 1:51:17 AM

Good morning world ! Two points today just because I can...

Firstly an update on the house that jack built... finally settled in around the "still to be done" stuff we now at least have a functioning kitchen although nobody to actually function in it so chefs please feel free to come try it out !. Having spent the last 15 mins fiddling with the ring for the towel on the wc door I finaly triumphed and its now hanging on the ring rather than the radiator. Still no stair carpet so be mindful of your tootsies on the smooth edge and staples that apparantly enjoy the scream of pain everytime I dam well stand on them ! The shower in the en-suite finally gives up more than a dribble of water so showering doesnt take 1 hr 30 mins anymore although still not a power shower strength its definately a plus on what we had. The whirlymagig thing in the garden was erected with a whoop of joy however its now leaning at an angle that would put the leaning tower of pisa to shame and I believe that very soon it will be a vertical whirlymagig rather than a horizontal one ! Otherwise, all is well in the new sadistic household !

My second thought today is that of body image. I spoke to a beautiful and intelligent female sub last night who was almost distraught at the thought of having to meet a dominant face to face and they would be disgusted by her body shape. Now being from the larger side of the spectrum myself I found this somewhat disturbing. This young woman has a beautiful personality and has been tormented by several dominants from this site on her body image. Shame on you !

First impressions certainly have an impact on how we percieve somebody, but it is not how we account for that person. Is somebody who has curves or some extra padding any less intelligent or submissive/dominant than somebody who is size 0? I for one can vouch that having met many people of varying sizes and shapes, intelligence has nothing to do with how they look and those who take that as given really need a reality check.

This beautiful young woman is now scared of meeting possible dominants simply because a few of you stupid men out there are so fixated on having a perfectly formed girl at your feet you forgot that you yourself are far from perfect. Perhaps you may look handsome or work out at the gym but listen here buddy, your intelligence levels are most obviously below average!

I am definately attracted to a certain kind of person as most people are but that it not solely based on how they look. While having adonis at my feet is nice to look at, his ability to converse intelligently is much more appealing and attractive to me.

I am comfortable with how I look, I am not everybodys cup of tea nor is everybody my cup of tea however I will not judge others on their body image nor expect any dominant worth their title to do the same.

I have spent a lot of time with this young lady helping her overcome some very serious image issues and borderline eating disorder due to complete and utter idiots on this site who have found a vurnerable young woman and exploited their title as a dominant. I do know who these men are and should I run across you, be warned, my tongue is sharper than any knife and you will be under no illusions of exactly what I think of you and your stinking attitude. I will also post your names and comments made so that any submissives considering messaging you will be fully aware of your actions to a vurnerable and beautiful submissive.

People are people, do not judge them without knowing them, you have just missed the opportunity of getting to know a submissive who unlike yourself, is intelligent and understands what bdsm is all about and that ISNT her body shape.

Keeping it real and funky, SB

9/3/2011 9:16:58 AM

I know what I want, I always get what I want, I have what I want... consider it done.

8/30/2011 9:40:00 AM

Lets settle this issue once and for all....

Ownership by me is not half assed, no half measures, no part time or when you can be arsed, not when there isnt footy on the tv or you want to hang out with the lads... its total, complete, nothing left untouched, all or if that isnt what you are looking for...feel free to not message me asking for the easy option of here and there, Im not interested !

Keeping it real and funkworthy...SB

8/28/2011 5:45:35 AM

Well fellow cm'ers....

It's that time of the month again....

that time that all women dread...

men run and hide from the onslaught of screaming, yelling, hollering and all kinds of awful cussing....

Its time do attack the ironing pile which alas unless done will mean those within the Sadistic household will either be wearing last months unironed clothes or simply have to go without....

I maybe some time and there maybe some horrid language but Im on it !!

8/26/2011 7:35:55 AM

Thunder and Lightening storm like you wouldnt believe over Kilmarnock...if anybody is looking for me, Im under the bed !!!

8/26/2011 3:54:36 AM

Happy Weekend to everybody, may it be filled with wicked things !

8/25/2011 1:21:11 PM

URDOORMAT, sublifeboy and any other aliases...

Having spoken to a domme recently regarding this person as it doesnt even deserve to be called a sub or slave, please note that it is a fake and a player.

It says its from Falkirk area in Scotland, runs its own business, age approx 50 years however it is full of bullshit and having bombarded me with texts, messages etc says he doesnt think online people are real until he has met them face to face so having spoken to a domme he had financial agreements with recently, I set up a face to face meeting...guess what, unheard from since an hour prior to the meeting... now why doesnt that suprise me.

Myself and another domme he has had dealings with have various contact details, screen shot web cam captures etc so if any other dommes out there want the information please get in contact with myself.

One thing it didnt take into consideration... messing with me was the stupidest thing it ever did and its life is about to change.

8/22/2011 12:21:37 PM

Everybody will be glad to know my toothache has gone so normal service is now resumed.

I am beginning to realise why people on cm are wary of looking for long term relationships outwith those that are financially controlled situations. There really is a whole lack of commitment, love and care on these sites, its all bullshit, made up fantasies and people who really need to take a look at their motives before moving into other peoples lives and then thinking its ok just to walk away into the blue yonder with a "sorry".

So I used to pro domme, so I was involved in financial slavery of one form of another but heh, guess what, I am still looking for that one relationship that goes beyond all that, the one that fullfills me emotionally and physically and you people out there who play games are really starting to piss me off big time.

If this is what its all about then Im as game as the next person, those looking for quick fixes, one off sessions and financial slavery get in touch and Ill give you my terms, isnt that what this site is all about and what everybody is looking for?

For those that are genuine and want more than that, make it real or don't bother wasting my time. I really am sick fed up to my boots with you all and am wasting no more time on people who are all cock and no walk.

Unless you have something I am interested in hold back on the mindless messages as I am now simply not replying to them unless I believe you are for real.

Apparantly one of the very few keeping it real and funky, SB


8/21/2011 11:43:59 PM

Has cm gone bonkers???

37 views by non uk dominants overnight... now that is just ridiculous !!!

Not even my boots are that popular lol

8/20/2011 9:20:10 AM

Arghhhhhhhhhh the toothache returns with avengance... dont teeth know I dont do pain! Rolling around here like somebody possessed and the doc sends me to the dentist who sends me to another doc to tell me I need a dentist... I know I need a fecking dentist !!

Now waiting for doc to phone dentist to arrange appointment, hours of back and forth and I still got toothache, what a flipping day !!!

8/20/2011 4:28:59 AM

"I've got a feeling....."

8/19/2011 6:34:23 AM

Public Warning: I have toothache !

Not just any old toothache, no I have to have the kind of toothache that makes even breathing fecking hurt !

So somebody will pay.... no I dont mean pay for the dentist treatment ffs, I am more than capable of that, I mean for the fact this really cant be my fault for forgetting I had the dentist last week, somebody made me forget and when I remember who I told to remind me I had a dentist appointment for the once occassional toothache that has now turned into the worst toothache on the planet anybody has ever suffered ever, they will pay !!

Somebody get me paracetemol now !

Add to my "must be able to" list for subs: MUST be organised enough to remind me to remind them to remember I have a dentist appointment or all hell will break loose !!

8/18/2011 5:12:48 AM

101 Interesting or not so interesting facts about me:

I hate mushrooms...I fancy Johnny Depp...I love to walk in the rain...I raised 5 kids alone and still like them, sometimes...I hate bad manners in people...I cry at The Lion King...I dislike arrogance in people...I drive...I traced my family back to travelling people...I work in a job I love...I wear size 5 shoes/boots...I am passionate...I sing constantly...I dislike war but understand why it is neccessary and am greatful for the men and women who risk their life for us, thank you...Bananas make me throw up...I am a dominant woman by nature...Lilies are my favourite flowers...My grandkids make me smile...As a kid when asked what I wanted to be when I grew up I would reply a fairy because they are magic...I love Ireland...I hate liars...sunshine makes me happy...I visited South Africa...I have green eyes...I have a degree in cognitive psychology...I dont believe politicians...I drink coffee...I am impulsive...I like to snuggle on the sofa watching movies...My kids make me proud...I used to have my tongue, navel and hood pierced...I am a Leo...I wear my heart of my sleeve...I dont like spiders...I am a realist...I drink morgans and coke...My Father died this year...I've never been to Amsterdam...Sometimes even my overdraft is overdrawn...I am stubborn...I have no appendix...I believe in miracles...I want to go to Egypt...I dont watch Jeremy Kyle...I believe commitment is the key to any relationship...I am proud to be me...When Im drunk I do crazy things...I like midnight...I dislike dark chocolate...I like reading in the bath...Im not skinny...I love and love to be loved...Peanut butter should be illegal...I like holding hands...I need to win the lottery...I was born in Glasgow...I have a thing for vampires...Im currently studying for a BA degree...I like smooth genitals...I dont like dishonesty...Ive been on an elephant...I can wallpaper...I like intimacy...I like having a suntan...I love Italian food...Im not a pro domme...Green tea makes me sneeze...I don't take regular medication...I like the beach...I love jammy dodgers...I am bisexual...I like being me...I cant work my phone but my 10yr old can...Im divorced...I dislike men who scratch their balls in public...I like hugs...I wear contact lenses...I dont need to tie up a sub to get them to do what I want...Ive swam with dolphins...I have compassion...I don't need a sub but I want one, there is a difference...I've been in love...Ive sang in public...Ive never passionately kissed a married man...marmite stinks...I believe in live, love, laugh...Ive been on Arnold Clarks yacht...I smoke...I will never stop learning...I have erotic dreams...I like Christmas...purple is my favorite colour...I like kisses...Loyalty is a must...I like poetry...I would rather see a face than a cock in a picture...I love the sound of laughter...I talk to myself sometimes...I just killed a spider...Im running out of things to write...Im finished !

8/18/2011 1:01:57 AM

Having been around these sites and the lifestyle in general more years than many of the people here have been on this earth, I think its time to take a breath and re examine what I am looking for here.

Along the way I have met some great people, met some shitty people, made some lifelong friendships, laughed, cried, felt loved, felt alone, loved, lost, discovered things both good and bad about others and more importantly about myself, seen things from other peoples perspectives, agreed or disagreed with peoples views, stuck solidly to my personal morals and beliefs, questioned others and also myself about our motives for being here.

Over the next few entries I am going to ramble, rant, express myself in regards to who I am and my beliefs on life, bdsm and anything else that comes to mind at the time of writing because lets face it, I do ramble somewhat when I get on a roll so bear with me and feel free to pick out the bits that interest you and disregard the going off track bits that probably have absolutely nothing to do with the lifestyle but popped into my head in random moments of thought.

Those of a nervous disposition look away, the 101 on SB might just tip you over the edge!

Keeping it real and random, SB 


8/16/2011 11:52:56 PM

"Give me everything tonight...."

8/16/2011 1:16:31 PM

"Grab somebody sexy  tell them HEY"

8/12/2011 11:09:53 AM

Random thoughts today, things that I've thought about and forgot to put in my journal or just random things that have come to my attention over the last week...

The fact that I am a dominant woman doesn't mean I have no manners or respect for other people. Whatever your "role", "label" or whatever else you wish to call it, there is no reason to expect anything other than a polite and respectful reply from me, even if it is a polite bugger off.

I am more than happy to chat to anybody who takes the time to message me respectfully, that said it doesn't mean I instantly want to own you or make demands on you, simply I enjoy good conversation with genuine people.

I have been asked several times recently to mentor both submissives and dominants. Again if the request is genuine and its reasonable to do so, I have no problem in sharing my knowledge and experience but I am far from an expert and lay no claim to that, only my personal experiences which I am happy to share. On the physical side again if its reasonable I am happy to work with submissives or dominants within what is possible therefore distance is something to be considered.

Married people - I have no issue with those who come to these sites in search of something outside their current relationship but as I seek a fully commited relationship, its not for me. I am happy to chat and talk in general about the lifestyle.

I am not instantly attracted to somebody because they send me a pic of their dick, probably quite the opposite. I am attracted to intelligent minds, realistic expectations and a genuine belief of what is possible and what is merely fantasy. If your mind doesn't seduce me, your dick sure wont !

In summary, be real, be honest and be realistic and I am happy to exchange conversation.

Keeping it real and funky, SB

8/10/2011 1:29:20 PM

A beautiful vase of flowers and chocolates were delivered while I was at work yesterday, a long stressful day ended with a smile. Thank you, you know who you are.

A few days off now so normal service will be resumed.

Keeping it real and chaotic, SB

8/8/2011 8:44:42 AM

Message of the day " im not in the uk, im in ghana but they didnt have ghana on the list so i put uk"..... not even dignifying that with a response !

8/8/2011 8:10:59 AM

I have made a decision..... I hate fecking nightshift !!!

I need to be kept in the means I am not used to, this working for a living is insane and wrong !!

If there is such a thing as a sugar daddy sub, bring them on !! LMAO

Keeping it real if somewhat hazy from lack of sleep...SB

8/7/2011 10:12:13 AM

something that describes itself as worthless, maggot, worm, useless, scum, piece of shit, pathetic.... do not assume that I would  want anything that thought that of themselves. I would not look to buy the crappiest pair of boots in the shop, I want the best shiniest pair. If you describe yourself as any of these former words then I am not interested, I want pride in my sub, not self hate.

A sub who is proud of who they are, of their achievements, of their potential, bring them on....

8/6/2011 5:32:01 PM

Before I add todays thoughts might I just mention something that irritates the hell out of me.

You talk to a submissive for weeks, maybe months, they are so keen its almost ridiculous, then all of a sudden they dissapear into thin air or into the cm void, never to be heard of again. Not so long later you recieve a message from a "new" member on cm and guess what, very quickly you figure out its the same person who bottled it why come back for more ?? your silly head games dont work, simply because I am so much more intelligent than you.

Then comes those who want to meet quickly, so you agree, you meet, its all fine and dandy, they are full of all the right words and actions, then a few weeks later, suddenly they do the not hearing from them in days and then the "dear domme" message... at least be honest in your reasons and that way at least a friendship can be maintained, lying like some school kid really doesnt cut the mustard.

Honesty it seems is a dying trait along with respect and commitment and very quickly Im becoming bored with the whole shebang.

OK now Im over the irritating things today, lets move onto the thought for the day...

Not only some and probably most but the majority of people on here are full of shit !

8/5/2011 10:07:46 AM

My thought for a previous day was "some people are full of shit"

My thought for today is "a whole lot of people are full of shit"

Run along and talk your piffle to somebody who cares, I am no longer interested in people who throw themselves face first into something then crawl away with pitiful excuses. If you can't be real and honest, don't bother me.

On a much pleasanter note, somebody has caught my attention for the right reasons...lets see....

8/1/2011 7:08:36 AM

Whoever suggested getting a house with 3 bathrooms needs leathered... I've just spent the morning cleaning them...where are all the fecking domestic sluts when I need one !!!

I am bored of this cleaning shit, somebody get their arse over here and do it for me before I do somebody some serious damage with a bottle of bathroom cleaner and a toilet brush !

I also need somebody who can cut trees, not to the ground but overhang and general neaten up. The general hedge cutters arent cutting the mustard never mind the branches.

That aside, its raining so not a good day on any front so lets hope todays messages dont irritate me further.

Keeping it real and clean, at least bathroom clean.. SB

7/30/2011 3:48:56 PM

Thought for the day....

So many people full of shit....

7/28/2011 2:21:23 PM

checking in for this week...

Been a hellish week between run off my feet at work and trying to unpack the house around useless good for nothing but kicking builders !!

Lets hope next week improves along with my mood !!

Keeping it as real as feeling like a burst couch allows, SB

7/25/2011 11:14:57 PM

Happy Birthday to me !!!!

Another year older but probably not much wiser LOL

Wouldn't it be nice if I actually got to move into my new house today? Guess what??

I am going to ready or not !! (Sounds almost like a bdsm version of hide n seek the sub)

Builders beware, the Sadistic one is taking no more bullshit, your tools are out and I am moving in !

7/22/2011 10:13:18 AM

Somethings should be made clear to save any confusion.... As a Domme I will talk to whoever I feel like talking to, I will do whatever I feel like doing, I will meet whoever I decide to meet and play with whoever I take a notion to play with. Should I be talking to a submissive, slave or anything close, until said person submits to my control and I accept, they do not belong to me and I have no say in their life unless it has been discussed previously and agreed on.

If I am talking with a sub I expect 100% honesty from them and therefore the same is returned. Should I feel the need to tell them about somebody else I shall, I do not need a stroppy git telling me what I should and shouldn't do.

It gets really tiresome when people strop or throw tantrums the moment they find out I am talking to somebody beyond general hello and hows your father. If I am talking to you in the same way then you will realise that they are not "mine" just as you are not "mine" until I say so.

If you are one of these stroppy subs then chances are that is one of the reasons why you are not mine LOL.

Now thats cleared up.... its Friday !!!!!!

Keeping it real and funky, SB

7/17/2011 3:24:51 PM

In the midst of an emergancy house move, unfortunately the new house I am moving into has no floors, kitchen or bathrooms therefore we appear to be living in the garage until next weekend. Today Ayrshire had flash floods, thunder and lightening worse than they have had in 10 years and we moved in an open top van. Now 23.25 and we are still at it in cars back and forth, if there was a nightmare house move, this is it ! arghhhhhhhh

I will be offline until after 29th July but those who know me can contact me via phone/text until then.

If I dont return its probably because I am doing time for beating up some builder who cant finish a job when he is supposed to so all visitors to jail welcome !!!!

Keeping it as real as a bad day allows, SB

7/14/2011 9:24:44 AM

Had a lovely morning coffee with R today, not to mention enjoying the look on his face when the boots came out, yes the very same boots in the profile pic..the conversaton went a bit weird then, for some reason he couldnt seem to concentrate or string words together in a sentance...strange that. I almost think he was glad when I left LOL


7/13/2011 11:09:14 AM

Something strange is going on today....

Had more views and messages from non UK members today than all year, over 40 in total, so unless my location has weirdly changed, cm is having a flunky !!

Nothing else to report today, house move definately not happening this weekend so lets hope its next weekend or there is going to be one really pissed off Domme tapping the toe of her boot on some builders arse !!!

Keeping it real and funky, SB

7/12/2011 2:00:06 AM

Reading profiles and journals I read about all the fakes, scammers and genuinly shitty dominants and subs around (of which I am as guilty as the rest of complaining about) so why dont I see the names of those who are genuine and real? Maybe I will start the trend and list genuine people I have come across....

Keeping it real, SB

7/10/2011 2:05:16 PM

The question of authenticity is one thats asked a lot. Just because you are submissive it doesnt mean you dont have the right to ask quesitons of a dominant you are talking to. Ask them to verify on cam, ask for a telephone number, and dont assume you havent got that right. Establish early on what they are looking for, what their agenda is, what are their expectations of a submissive. If they refuse to give the answers the chances are they are not genuine. If you establish you have common ground and interest in getting to know each other better, ask for a meeting. Its easier to get to know somebody face to face than chat endlessly on cm messages. Again, if their excuses sound dodgy, they probably are too.

Too many people dominant and submissive on this site who get off fucking around with peoples heads and its not big and its not smart, it just proves what a waste of time you are.

Three seperate people have come to me today with the same story of being fucked around by dommes which gives all us genuine dommes a bad name...go play roleplay games on your playstation and leave the real people along ffs.

7/10/2011 12:03:52 PM

Having been talking to a Domme newish to the scene earlier she had asked me some questions about the ups and downs of cm... Im probably the wrong person to ask but heh, she asked a question I answered but thought I would throw out for general opinion.

A Domme talks to a sub, they appear to get along, the conversations move to phone/text etc. At what point does the Domme and sub make it known to others that they are moving on from general talk to something else? Is it acceptable for the Domme/sub to continue talking to others with a view to taking things further and should they make it known to reply messages they are not currently looking to take things further than a friendly chat?

I gave her my opinion that if I was talking to a sub and it was moving on, I would still chat in general to others but make it known I was not looking for anything else at that time. I would expect the sub to do the same.

If a Dominant/sub does not have the respect for the other at this point, they wont ever have it.

Ive asked a few Dommes and subs this question today and most agree with my opinion but I am interested in hearing others.

Keeping it real and crazy....SB


7/10/2011 9:29:10 AM

I am beginning to think the only person that understands me, is me......

7/9/2011 1:14:24 PM

Lovely day out in Glasgow sitting outside the bars, drink in hand, sun shining and great company. Thank you R, even if you were somewhat distracted by my beautiful pink toenails LOL.



7/9/2011 1:45:11 AM

I am a Woman with a dominant personality. That doesn't mean I am rude,disrespectful or abuse my control.

So many submissives apologise for messaging me, why? If you want to "break into" bdsm or deepen your already gained knowledge surely the best way to achieve this is to talk to others who have their own ideas, experiences and knowledge to share?

Entering into discussions on the lifestyle is not seen as disrespectful or wasting my time, if you are wasting it, or I am busy elsewhere, I will tell you and ask we continue at another time.

I am not here to empty wallets or treat any other person, whatever their role, badly. I have seen the unsavoury side of cm and similar sites and can quickly get a grip on who is genuine and who is just looking for a quick wank.

For those that do seek the instant gratification there are your equals in opposite roles so again, each to their own but it is not what I am looking to share on this forum.

On the flip side of that, should we engage in conversation via cm, messenger or on occassion phone/meet, that doesn't mean I own you nor will ever do so. I do not take ownership lightly and neither should you. If I am interested in getting to know you are a person it maybe I am doing so to see if we have the same morals, values and views on bdsm rather than instantly want to throw a collar around your neck and call you mine.

I am sure the genuine submissives on this site are more than capable of figuring out who and what I am and have no need for me to act like some power hungry domme to prove it, sometimes its simply the aura of a person that draws you closer.

I am happy to chat to anybody with sensible intelligent conversation and should I feel there is a possibility of the relationship moving forward, I am sure I am capable of letting you know.

Talking to a sub twice in general has led to him proclaiming me as his owner which is amusing but silly. Should I take a submissive into my collar then I will make it known to others.

Keeping it real and fun, SB

7/8/2011 2:17:15 AM

"r u lookin fur a slave an wuld u lyke to hav ur boots liked clean"


I would like a submissive that can spell, knows how to use proper sentances and doesn't remind me of my 10yr old daughter on a facebook outing !!


7/7/2011 11:33:25 PM


7/7/2011 12:01:27 AM

naked.....chicken feathers....yankee doodle... 

ring a bell, or should I say, shake tail feathers with anybody?

*whistles n saunters off*

7/6/2011 8:41:29 AM

Coffee went very well, couple of hours flew in while we put the ds world to rights LOL

Nice to have good things to say for a change, things are looking up !

Keeping it real and funky...SB

7/6/2011 12:28:48 AM

A conversation this morning whereby we were chatting in general about the Lifestyle and how as I see it, being dominant isn't something I switch on an off, whatever situation I am in, its there. The reply I got was along the lines of "i can play dom or sub because i know what both roles are" hmmmmm. Playing anything is not what ds is about, it isnt a game nor can you play it, its real and comes from within. Yes I am sure people can roleplay certain roles but that is what it is, roleplay, make believe. Switches will all start jumping on my case but that isn't what I am referring to, I refer to the "game" aspect that he was implying.

Perhaps that is where I struggle in finding a sub who gets that its not a life made up of pre appointed play sessions (there are some perfetly good pro dommes for that purpose), its not about turning anything on or off, its about a lifestyle, the way you live, the purpose of pleasing your owner doesnt end when you are untied from chains, it continues with every action and every word that comes from you.

Sat in the pub with nilla friends or sat in ds company makes no difference, your aim and purpose is to please and attend....

Now I am off for coffee.... lets see....

Keeping it real and funked, SB

7/5/2011 1:21:58 AM

Early morning observations (bearing in mind I'm almost awake)....

people go to great lengths in taking profile and subsequent pics, their hair arranged just so, their faces bright, smiley or however they assume they should project themselves, their position is posed, in the case of males, cock placed "just so" to view to its best advantage, in the case of females, boobies thrust out to show perky nipples.. BUT on taking a closer look at their surroundings, the room is a shit heap! Now surely somebody who projects themselves with such precision might have thought to at least pick yesterdays knickers up off the floor or shove the used condom under the bed before taking the pic? Added to that issue there are the beautifully orchestrated profile pics, the beauty of the sub obvious, the well posed and taken photographs that are nothing less than stunning, angles perfect, smile perfected. Then you get subsequent pics posted or they send updated ones and suddenly they have aged 20yrs overnight, put on/taken off 30lbs and have grown/lost hair (must be due to the stress of cm??). Keep it real people, if you are going to post pics keep continuity and make sure you steal the same persons pics and not alternate between various people, it makes you looks stupid ! Why assume anothers identity if you are hell bent on looking for a ltr, guess what, eventually you are going to meet in the flesh and all will be revealed !

Somebody messages you full of the joys, vocalising how genuine they are, how real they are, how they are sick to death of fakes and agree wholeheartedly. You dare to mention chatting on the phone, turning on webcam (dressed face pics, nothing more) and god forbid you say those fearsome words "lets meet for coffee" the tide turns, suddenly they have an impending appointment that they forgot about, they fidget for 2 mins with a webcam then declared defunked or the best yet, they remember they have two broken legs encased in plaster and cant leave the house for at least 3 months !

And people wonder why I get irritated arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

On the end of this somebody asked me what makes it bearable.... thats easy... licking the yogurt off the lid of the pot !!

Keeping it real as always... SB

7/5/2011 12:05:28 AM
"Every day you may make progress. Every step may be fruitful. Yet there will stretch out before you an ever-lengthening, ever-ascending, ever-improving path. You know you will never get to the end of the journey. But this, so far from discouraging, only adds to the joy and glory of the climb."

Sir Winston Churchill

7/3/2011 11:26:37 AM

Whats with all this consideration shit on profile? Either you want a submissive or you dont. Thats like walking into a shop and asking for a chicken kebab with all the trimmings to take home and consider whether its fit for consumption before returning to shop days/weeks later when Im sick of the smell and telling them sorry, that kebab isnt for me...

Easy way for quick thrills I suppose if you are that desperate.

Make the decision, do you want it or do you want a kfc instead.... not rocket science !

7/2/2011 3:58:34 AM

I simply refuse to have a battle of wits with an unarmed male.... especially one who quite clearly is anything but of the dominant nature he example of his dominating ways....

"you will end up kneeling for me because I will force you"   oh that is sooooooo such an indicator of the fact you couldnt make anybody do jack shit unless you forced it...gee get a fecking life mate.

The mere fact you have "Master" in your name shows people you are so unsure of what you are you need reminded in your name lmao.. duh !

7/1/2011 12:47:20 PM


Moving house is so stressful... I'm painting, laying carpets and putting back what I took out when I moved in and thats just the house I'm leaving !!!

Why am I laying carpets when there are a zillion perfectly able dam submissives out there who could be doing it !!

Now Im having a very un domme like tantrum so cover your eyes subby types until normal domme like service is resumed !!!!

Gods if this is pre move, god help the world when its move week, will be no living with me.

6/30/2011 8:56:11 AM

Having already done a journal entry today I was going to leave this till tomorrow but as the day goes on I'm getting more irritated by newfound irritating words, phrases or sentances...please try and avoid the following in your messages as it only irritates me...have I got a fetish with the word irritated today??

"its a shame we are so far away"... distance is in your mind, virgin spent millions on updating their rail service to cover the whole of the UK, use the facilities (well maybe not the dining car cos its crap). Distance will not always be an issue if a relationship works.

"can i submit to you online"... simple answer, NO

"if I send you money can i submit to you online"... as I am not a pro or financial domme its another simple answer... NO

"if i put a chastity device on my cock can i submit to you online" FFS NO!!!!

"do you/will you do blah blah blah to me"  - what I do is dominate men/women, anything else you need to know will be within conversation should we get to the point past me looking at your message and thinking FFS.

Now I feel all non irritated since I got that out I'' go back to sensible conversation with sensible people..anybody know any???

ps.. it doesnt matter to me whether your dick is 1" or 10" as long as you got a tongue, hold back on the "my cock is..." comments.



6/30/2011 6:45:48 AM

Great conversation topic earlier.... penile dysfunction... can it be caused by psychological control? Is sub space a similar scenario to hypnosis and can suggestion become instilled via sub space?

Im interested in opinions and reasoning then I will offer my experiences.

6/30/2011 12:02:34 AM

If something is pathetic and so worthless, why would I want it?

Why would I surround myself with people who have no pride in themselves?

Why would I want somebody who is ruled by fear of me rather than by love of me?

Weakness is not a strength, strength is realising your weaknesses.

Love is not unapproachable in ds.

Commitment is a must.

6/29/2011 1:35:28 PM

Having secured the 3 bathroomed house with insitu whirlymagiggy that caused me so much issue previously...I should add in here, sun lounge and decked area making it just adorable...a brand spanking new house is about to become mine. Having discussed this with a friend M on cm, it came to me that since I will soon be Lady of my Manor, I should not be hanging out less than new undies on the new insitu whirlymagiggy therefore I am now opening up a lingerie bank where donations towards new and posh undies can be made, please feel free to donate as required. I am sure you folk would agree that in order to maintain my posh exterior I need posh interior therefore undies without the days of the week on them or hello kitty pics really wont do anymore and will have to relegated to being used as dusters... gosh, is it acceptable to use hello kitty knickers as dusters in a posh abode? ok... posh duster fund now open for donations too !!!!!

6/27/2011 4:09:26 PM

Having browsed profiles for the first time in ages, I came across some that made me think, some that made me laugh and some that made me scream WTF !

Having wrestled with one of those whirly giggy things that is supposed to fan out and be capable of hanging washing on (inccidently that really should be a subs job so line up) I discovered the concreting it in place was somewhat of a challenge...that wasnt a statememt about me being challenged in any way, merely the logistics of holding this thing whilst trying to pour concret in predug hole (ok so maybe it wasnt predug more a brick taken out of the lawn and tossed aside beforehand)..anyway... it was a task that I undertook with a huge amount of cussing and use of non repeatable language to the ends of throwing the stupid thing on the ground (its still lying there incidently) and giving up on it till some useful sub comes along and does it for me. Anyhow, the reason for this story is haviing read of somebody who wants to be fully encased in concrete I did use some of the same unrepeatable words as when tangling with the thingymajig. What in the name of a rubber duck would possess somebody to get off on being encased in concrete which in itself would be somewhat difficult as attaining an erection in such circumstances would prove somewhat challenging..however... WTF !

Another strange one... loss of both arms... another WTF moment, simply because how would they fetch my morgans and coke with no fecking arms !!!!

Really....people... get real and out of the fantasy in your head.

6/25/2011 2:12:52 PM

Anybody else noticed the large amount of Masters/Mistresses and subs that have been left bereft due to their owner/sub leaving to go abroad? If this keeps up the UK will soon be empty !!!

6/25/2011 12:34:41 PM

Life goes on...... back to reality rather than normality so lets see what this week brings...

6/21/2011 6:01:41 AM

Just a short entry to day to thank those of you who have sent messages in response to the passing of my Father. From those I have met in real life through those I have spoken with at length in messages and texts to those I have never had the pleasure of meeting, your kind messages are truly appreciated. For all people complain about the fakes and players on CM, this week has shown there are genuine people with an absolutely astounding amount of humanity and care. Thank you all again.

On a lighter note, even when things get at their darkest, children say the most beautiful things. My 10 yr old daughter on seeing me a bit upset this morning came over, hugged me and said "dont be sad mummy, at least gramps wont need to wear his wellies today like I will, it is always sunny in heaven"... how could I not smile at a childs innocence.. H you are my little princess. xxxx

6/19/2011 10:35:17 AM

For those of you who know my Father was ill and were here supporting me, he passed this morning after a brave battle that was just too much for him. He fought hard but it wasn't to be. My Hero, my Inspiration and most of all, my best friend is not suffering anymore. Today is not only Fathers Day, its the day my life will change forever.

We will be taking him home (Island of Dreams) as he called it where he will roam free and happy. Thank you to everybody for your support, phones calls and texts, it shows that people here do care.


6/15/2011 4:59:00 AM

Tough few days maybe even weeks ahead with personal matters so my time here will be limited and spent keeping those who understand up to date. To those who know what is going on I thank you for your support, wisdom and friendship. M for making me laugh even at myself, J for being my friend whatever our situation and special thanks to my awesome B just for being him, unfaltering in his desire to please me and become mine.

Im available on phone/text for those in the know, otherwise happy hunting and normal service resumed as and when possible. Shari x

6/13/2011 6:52:14 AM

Oh I think I have figured out where I am going wrong here !!

I should be putting in my profile that I am an "extremely" dominant woman, or a "real" dominant woman or even a "very very very" dominant woman... gosh, how silly of me to miss such an important part out of my bio.

Add to that the "genuine" word and I should be pulling them in by the hoards... oh wait.. I already am without the need to stroke my ego or convincing myself more than anybody of just how dominant I am *insert appropriate smug look here* since that appears to be something else I am missing...

Ill add all these needless words to Sadistic, Woman, Domme and see the floodgates open...

Otherwise its been a pleasant day talking to some submissives who actualy get the whole power exchange thing and a couple of other Dommes to compare notes...sure does throw up some particular regular losers on CM.


6/12/2011 9:08:03 AM

Weekends sensational quotes:

"I want my slave to be submissive" well duh !

"I used to be a Master"  who are you trying to convince, yourself or the general viewing public?

"I want to be completely tpe owned but I dont want to be told what to do" ummm I think you are missing the point here dude!

"Ive been a domenatrex all my life" too busy being that to attend school and learn spelling then apparantly eh?

"I see from your journal you dont do married men, would you be interested in me?" let me see, quite clearly from the profile this person is married, it says so in black and white... that will be a big fat NO then huh?

6/10/2011 3:44:08 AM

Today I am somewhat more calm than yesterday, I think returning to the chaos that is CM was just too much to handle all in one sitting LOL

Today the sun is shining and so far, all seems well in the world of Sadisticness.

Seems CM is a great playground for people advertising for things so I am going to compose a list of things/services I want and see what responses I get. If its good enough for the princesses then its dam well good enough for the Sadistic Biatches too !

Items/Services required:

Tree cutting

Cure for stupidity

Bottle of morgans to replace one that appears to have evaporated all by itself?

Weed picker (urgent)

Holiday home somewhere hot for a week in October (do actually want this one so if anybody has a nice one for rent let me know, canaries or similar will suffice)

Next weeks lotto numbers

Various amounts of money paid into a paypal account for just being me

Toothpaste since Im on the last squirt and still haven't remembered to buy some

Toilet roll although abundant currently is something else I regularly go for and forget

Lunch somewhere nice

Reasons why many on cm are oblivious to the obvious

A new set of nipple clamps with a nasty bite

Relief of world poverty

Something that will make me smile without having to ask for it, I love suprises

Last but not least, sanity, in huge amounts and an endless supply of



6/9/2011 8:27:06 AM

I feel the need to further my entry of earlier, moreso just because the longer I spend on here the more irritated I become with the so called intelligent lifeforms displaying themselves.

What has this place become recently ??? we now have "financial submissives" who want money to be trained or did they have for breakfast, brave pills?

To add to the apparant loss of minds we also have Dominant Males who are telling us, sometimes even showing us, they have trimmed or shaved their dicks... again... WTF and who the feck is interested !

Why would any self respecting Dominant Man feel the need to put up a picture of his dick or himself naked and mid wank for the viewing public?

Now had a Domme displayed such pictures I am sure the name calling would commence, the most common view would be she was a sub rather than a Domme.... Men, if the hat fits !

While Im on one, lets go back to the one that irritates me most regularly....if you are going to message somebody READ THE PROFILE first before making a complete wombats penis of yourself and implying you have when its perfectly clear from the crap message you send, you havent ! Its not rocket science ffs, its common sense and although I am aware common sense is very much lacking in many on CM, please make an effort.

Thank god for morgans n coke, the only thing keeping me sane while here... bottles nearly empty so somebody bring me another !

6/9/2011 3:00:22 AM

It's been awhile since I had a good rant here and I am sure those who avidly follow such ramblings are missing my personal view of CM and life in general.

Chaos still follows in life and work so I haven't been spending much time on these forums to expell my frustrations at ridiculous situations so bear with me while I catch up on things.

For today my favourite word is WOMBAT.... for those of the less than intelligent nature, this DOES'NT mean I am looking for one so dont be sending messages offering your services as a furry fiend, they won't be looked upon are out there and you know I am talking about you !

Wombat also has no bearing on my fetishes, beastiality ISN'T one of them so hold back on those messages too,  I have no intention of shoving anything belonging to any animal up any of your orifices while demanding you honk like a piggie !

Now, that said, wombats are somewhat cute, I have the pics to prove it thanks to somebody on here who kindly oblidged my weirdness in talking about them, thank you M !

Right, time to be off to where I was supposed to be before beginning this ramble so have a good day y'all !



5/24/2011 2:09:41 PM

It's been a strange sort of week, highs and lows, ups n downs, life is like that sometimes. Personal side of things has been hectic between work which was as always, chaotic, other commitments took hold and before I knew it, I was chasing my tail, another thing that happens a lot, control? structure? dammit I am the one bashing that home that everybody needs it so some self practise needs to be prioritised me thinks !

For those who I havent responded to messages I will when time allows, those who are close know where I am should they need me, only ever a phonecall or text away !

Off till next wednesday now so things should hopefully be slightly more relaxed in the Sadistic household although I'm not holding my breath, I'd probably be bored to death in a few hours if things were quiet and without the normal mayhem, in a weird sort of way I like it like that... maybe I should analyse that and dig into the reasons why or on the other  hand, maybe I shouldn't, I might not like what I find out about myself LOL

On a happy smiley note, CM threw up a gem and I'm happy with how things are going so watch this space !

Now its back to the bedlam of paperwork and washing.. I so need a submissive here to help out !!!

5/20/2011 5:05:14 AM

Has CM suddenly opened up profiles or has the world gone completely mad???

Whats with the sudden influx of USA and beyond folks viewing profiles and sending messages???

Had more USA views this morning than I've had in previous years and apparantly their reading ability is no better than those of the UK when they obviously dont understand words in profiles, specifically UK ONLY duh !

5/19/2011 11:06:06 AM

a sub is for life, not just for christmas

5/19/2011 9:50:45 AM


5/18/2011 6:27:12 AM

rapidly getting bored to death with cm....


send me money and Ill tell you online what a good lil fucktoy you are or come closer and I'll beat your ass into oblivion !!


No luck being nice and finding sane sensible people, lets try a different approach for today and see what happens

5/17/2011 11:16:55 AM

Today spent upping the game in my search for a new house, some have been icky, some okish and the rest not suitable for my exacting standards but today I found one exactly as I want it to be so looking to settle soon and move end june/july. All big strong men, especially those with a van keep time free for my move !!!

Otherwise a good day...finally somebody "gets it"... you know who you are, well done !

5/16/2011 12:39:00 AM

Its Monday again ..  where does the time go !

Dreary miserable rainy morning brightened only by the fact I am having coffee this morning with the develishly handsome Marcuz who will no doubt blind me with his dazzling smile and woo me with his verbal ability as usual.

Quick dash into work following this rendevous then home to the bliss of still having no small people around to indulge.... my own indulgance shall follow !

It is a good day, nobody spoil it (insert suitably sadistic look here)

5/15/2011 9:37:16 AM

Still hungover and crabbit so time for a much needed rant !

Lets get this straight from the onset so you get it, understand it and keep it in mind when you message me....

I do NOT want some pathetic piss poor excuse for a man who cannot think for himself, I WANT intelligent conversation that doesnt revolve around how many links on the chain that I am about to sting you up on and how many hits of a whip before you call me a fucking bitch !

I do NOT want somebody who has no clue what submission means and figures its somewhere between going out with his mates to the pub and during commercials on the TV.. submission is 24/7, its in your head, not your fucking dick !

I want a submissive I can take to the pub and who will remember the way home when I cant (happens often so get used to it), somebody I can send to make coffee and breakfast when Im hungover and know they will come back with something special simply because they want to please me, not because McDonalds were doing a special offer on breakfasts !

I want a submissive who I can elbow in the ribs when we are watching a horror movie on tv and the guts fly (strange for a sadistic domme not to like huh) and they say ouch (I like that word!)

I do NOT want a submissive who cries when they are not beaten every hour on the hour (tears when you are beaten will win you lots of extra points though so listen up)


5/15/2011 5:35:19 AM

Hungover, crabbit.... need amused... deal with it !

On the upside, footy on tv, game and league over in 6 mins...woot woot for my team !!

5/12/2011 11:37:13 AM

a sub who has a fetish for the words "trust me" has just made my day, I am actually sat here laughing having seen the name of a pro domme on his dick n posted on a new profile.... bet most of you can already guess who I'm talking about huh !! TOO FUNNY ! Even funnier thing is none of his other profiles on other sites reflect this nor mention he is being considered by a pro domme, go figure. Up until this very moment he still pleads for another chance, that would be the 3rd by the way so more likely hell will freeze over but heh. I wonder if his new domme has figured this out yet or is oblivious to his fetish for lying and being the victim, oh the stories I could tell her ! hahahaha this has really amused me and will keep me laughing right through the weekend !!

Otherwise life is peachy, its the weekend !

5/10/2011 1:33:42 AM

Mood - blah

Motivation - zilch

Weather - blah

Today - lazy, sofa, crap tv, junk food, be irritated by a plumber who has twice tried to fix an issue with the waterworks without success.

Tomorrow - more of the above unless inspiration appears in the form of something or somebody to amuse me.

Rest of week - Interesting coffee meeting thursday am, possible drunkeness fri/sat evening, ok so more than likely rather than possible applies, huge hangover sunday with a promise to never even sniff morgans again. Depending on mood and events of fri/sat perhaps the toys will come out on sunday while nobody is home and some lucky dude will get the wrath of my hangover and blah mood of late, apply within !

Now - thoughts of doing housework, decision made to find some other silly bugger to do it while I watch crap daytime tv !

5/8/2011 1:02:29 PM

Weekends 3 best and 3 worst things...

Best: morgans and coke, submissives who know who they are and what they need, Saw the final chapter.

Worst: hangovers, annoying submissives, Britains got talent.

Looking forward to an interesting week filled with an eager submissive and no work, life is good !

5/6/2011 1:42:29 AM

Fridays three favourite things...

Commitment - for those who appear challenged on this word, go look up the definition.

Honesty - much used word, little shown action

Monogamy - it exists in my world, it better in yours too

Happy weekend to everybody !

5/5/2011 2:15:36 AM

Today my three favourite things....


Grown Ups....

The word "ouch" either ouch in a whimpered breath through a hood.... ouch screamed while dancing from foot to foot...ouch you fucking bitch.... they all work for me


4/28/2011 3:07:51 AM

Isn't it interesting when somebody messages you with a mutual interest in another person or persons.... oh the fun I am having with this conversation.


Sun is shining, its almost the weekend,  good times ahead !

Latex gloves are also great for gardening, saves another trip to the nail salon.

4/27/2011 3:39:25 PM

Todays journal is for somebody who knows who they are, or should do. You spent time talking with me, we got to know about each other, you were there for me and supported me when things got tough, I thought we were friends... you leave without as much as a goodbye.... WHY !

4/26/2011 8:44:13 AM

Orange smarties are the funk !!!

4/26/2011 4:22:40 AM

Do you ever ask yourself WHY ? Don't, its never a good answer !

4/25/2011 10:54:41 AM

Time to move on and step over the crap (yes you rubbersmudge), onwards and upwards. To make this whole thing easier, new plan of action. Whilst I am chatting to submissives online I have no rights over their time nor real life HOWEVER should that chatting move forwards to meeting then I want to know that said submissive is free of other commitments. To ensure this, any submissives I am meeting with I WILL post their names on my profile. If said sub has nothing to hide, no issues should occur as if they are serious about commiting to me this is proof,  however should they jump up and down about it, I'll look further. Should any name appear that somebody has previous intent with or awaiting a collar to be delivered with said subs name engraved on it, I would be obliged if you let me know. Another episode of bullshit lying good for nothing wankers will really piss me off ! Next week is already looking promising, lets hope things improve !!

Oh good point somebody, maybe I will start giving references for subs I meet but who do not progress with me, how cute would that be, like a interview reference LMAO...sure would put the fakers out on a ledge ! "said sub has very cute arse, takes a lovely hiding and glows wonderfully, posture needs work but looks great on his/her knees begging, sounds amazing when they scream my name etc etc.. oh I think Im liking this reference idea, well done jodie for suggesting it !

4/24/2011 2:20:21 AM

Today this journal entry read very differently from what it does now.... rubbersmudge, you were proven to be a lying excuse for a submissive yet again.... you begged and pleaded for me to give you another chance, to let you prove worthy of my trust and my collar.... I allowed you that trial and what did you do...YOU FUCKED UP AGAIN 

Honesty is one of the morals I brought up my kids to adhere to, along with that of integrity, self belief and an awareness that their actions have reactions and they should always consider how what they do or say will affect others. All in all I have strong, independant and socially aware children who make me proud with everything they do. Sometimes they have "moments" when they let themselves down but they know they are loved unconditionaly and with the love that will support them through whatever life throws at them which gives them the strength to right their wrongs.

Trust is something that in any relationship is important, being a Domme doesn't mean I havent been lied to or cheated or treated badly, I am human just like every other person in every other lifestyle and I hurt, bleed, cry just like everybody else.  In a D/s relationship the emotional bond is deeper, the connection is deeper which leaves you in a deeper state of despair when it all goes wrong.

Is it my fault, did I do something wrong, is there something I could have done better? In the position of a Dominant it is my role to support, care and protect those who give me their submission yet I can never take that for granted. I cannot just sit back and let it happen, I too have to work at and within the relationship to be the strong one, the one who is supposed to know everything and be able to fix even the most broken elements of a person or mind... well you know what, sometimes I fail and am not that person, sometimes I don't see whats staring me in the face or maybe I just refuse to believe it..

For those of you who are out there behind screens and those who are allowed into others lives beyond that screen... please understand that you are playing with real people and real lives. Behind each person you speak to here is a person, with feelings, with families who are involved in the reality of any relationship be it D/s or otherwse so before you type those words or speak them in person, think about the effects it will have on those who have taken you into their lives.

If it stops one person feeling like I do and I am sure the other Domme involved does, then its worth it.

I am not infallable, I am just a person like you.

Shari (written as me, not SB who some see as invcible, sorry to shatter your illusions)


4/23/2011 12:59:45 AM

Whoever stole the sunshin3e best put it the words of a famous person... I AM NOT AMUSED !

Great game to play, when doing the click "home" page to view profiles of people online, while collarme is working on it a few words from the persons profile pops up on the bar, guess who it is from the words, its great, I managed the first 8 this morning and remembered who the person was, then some silly bugger decided to be new and my winning streak was doomed.

This makes me sound like a sad profile browser...I'm not, really, just like to read profiles in moments of boredom !


4/22/2011 10:48:12 AM

Well that worked well....inbox overflowing with offers of money to abuse subs, even one wanted to pay me to kick him in the balls... hell Ill do that for free if its the right sub...I WAS JOKING !

Onto my next rant because I feel I should and being the boss, I can so.... stop with the cock pics in profiles and in messages... I know what a dick looks like, I really don't need it waving in my face everytime I open a message or a profile.  If you are male I assume you have one, its size is insignificant as is its ability to remain hard for 19 hrs (somebody actually messaged to tell me that!) If I want to see a cock there are plenty I can see in real life, seeing pics of faceless dicks doesnt turn me on.  I would rather see the face of the person I am talking to than their bits, however it does seem to be a male thing so stop it boys !

Might add there seems to be a fair amount of Doms with the same practise... why would a Dom need to plaster a pic of his dick on the internet? Answers on a postcard from those who I just know are going to respond with retorts of the nasty kind... Im not scared, really, Im not, its the internet, its real easy, its called ignore.

Other than that, everybody have a great Easter weekend !!

4/22/2011 3:55:07 AM

Well..... just been told by a submissive? that I am too nice to be a Domme?

So from now on throw money, gifts and tributes at me before you expect me to play with you?

Is it working yet?????(Goes to check the paypal account)

4/22/2011 1:30:27 AM

Happy Easter weekend to my friends here on CM !

On the subject of friends, it seems there are more rants about fakes, players and pretenders than any other kind, personally I rant about peoples intelligence rather than their motives but thats me...anyway, I do digress a lot don't I... hmmm... ok so where were we, yes, friends and players...

I have found many new friends on CM and many who I have met since met in a real life situation either for coffee, lunch, general socialising or clubs. From that initial CM message I now have some very sincere and honest friends, both Dominant and submissive/slave and can enjoy their views, opinions and beliefs on bdsm and the world in general.  Even as a Domme I can still learn from others, I am not so up my own arse I think I know everything although I do know most of it (lol) and as a person, woman and Domme I can grow from others and their knowledge.

People disappear for various reasons, it may not neccessarily be they are a fake. I was talking to a young female submissive in the early hours of this morning who after a long discussion on the dynamics she was looking for she opened up and told me she had previously been on CM with another name. Having taken up a friendship with a Dom who lived relatively close to her, things were progressing from CM messages to telephone calls, a suggested meeting to talk face to face etc, when out of the blue he became threatening. Perhaps this was just his way but the girl became somewhat worried that perhaps the Mans intentions were not quite as honourable as she first thought and she took a few steps back in the messages and talk of meeting until she could verify his personal details and his agenda.  Said Dom was not forthcoming with the required information so the girl politely excused herself from talking with him and sent no further messages. The Dom continued to bombard the girl with messages, texts and voicemails showing behaviour that was childish to say the least, accusing the girl of being a fake and having no intentions of ever meeting him. Eventually the girl changed her CM name and blocked the Mans numbers from her phone. Does this make the girl or the dom a fake or player? In my opinion it makes her a girl who had the good sense to look out for her safety and interests and ensure she was involving herself in a healthy relationship and not one she felt bullied into.  I cannot answer for the Doms motives as I havent spoken to him firsthand, as yet but perhaps he too was genuine and that was just his persona to behave as he did, perhaps he thought the girl would respond to cruel demands. Maybe it was just a case of wrong personalities reacting to each other.

As I say so many times and yes probably it gets boring but slavery in any form in the UK is CONSENSUAL, nobody can make you do anything you don't want to do, you have a right to say no. Even withing a tpe type relationship that voice to speak is there. I have had submissives who have had no safe words and no limits beyond sane ones but had they felt they were getting in too deep or I was not assuring their safety, they had a voice to speak.

Sometimes perhaps we should look at our own motives, us that call ourselves real and genuine, how we speak to people, our expectations from those who are not as experiened, what seems perfectly sane and logical to us may seem threatening or illogical to those without the knowledge and experience. Its not always what we say, its how we say it and sometimes even I admit to getting into a relatively deep conversation with a submissive then suddenly thinking ok Missy, take a step back and breath.  Its not the first time I have been in what I see as a general conversation with a submissive and suddenly they pipe up with a comment that I think woah, that wasn't where this conversation was going or no that doesnt mean I now own or control you, it means we have been talking about a mutual interest not a lifetime commitment.

The responsability to behave and act appropriately lies with us all and perhaps we should look at our own conduct before destroying others with labels of fake or player. Yes I do believe these people exist on CM and on any other forum that makes these practises easy but there are still some genuine and real people out there who are being labelled wrongly.

If in doubt of somebodys authenticity, its simple, ask them to take a pic holding a particular object or a piece of paper with something of your choice written on it, everybody has access to some kind of camera be it phone or webcam (£4.50 from asda wont break the bank) so if they are genuine they will. If they don't, it is then your informed choice to continue the conversation/relationship.

4/21/2011 12:33:59 PM

today.... I can't think of anything nice to I shalln't say a word...makes a bloody change huh !

4/20/2011 11:53:18 AM

What to do tonight..... I don't do boredom, it bores me !!

First person to name 3 things I like and 3 things I dislike in a sub...gets to try out my newest toy (and no Im not going to tell you what that is !)


1.....2.....3.... GO!

4/19/2011 3:33:55 AM



As from this moment, would all members of the general public PLEASE stop buying clothes from manufacturers who obviously delight in pissing me off by making clothing that needs ironed. This is NOT acceptable and causes uneccessary stress to my already stressful day of keeping the incarnation of evil (mini me) from causing bedlam. What is it with you guys that you feel the need to make me iron !!!

If the public stop buying these dam items of clothing the manufacturers will soon get the message and invent non iron clothing, or at the very least, wear and bin after use clothing, which will in turn cater for those pvc, plastic fetishists at the same time!

New house rules:

If you know it needs ironed after washing - DONT put the bloody thing on !

If  you think it might need ironing after washing - err on the side of caution and DONT put it on

If you are unsure if it needs ironing - take no chances, bin it, it didnt suit you anyway !

If you KNOW it needs ironing and put it on anyway - be prepared to accept the consequences which are harsh ie NO DINNER BECAUSE IM TOO BUSY BLOODY IRONING THE CLOTHES YOU KNOWINGLY WORE !!!!!

4/19/2011 1:59:32 AM

Today lets consider positive issues, seems I spend much time "ranting"... such a rantful (is that a word?) Domme that I am !

This morning the sun is shining, I am hurtling, well more ambling really, you know how lazy us Domme types can be, around after my 3yr old grandaughter who is currently hell bent on creating chaos and mayhem in my lounge. She is way too much like me its almost eerie! However, inbetween trying to keep furniture in place, food from becoming the flooring and the odd picture of great beauty in crayon off my walls, I thought I would list some things that I DO find endearing in submissives rather than those I don't, which in comparisson, the latter seems to prevail in journal here goes lets look at positive traits for a change !

Honesty is a must, telling me upfront of potential hurdles or issues is always best, should I find out later something you should have told me initially, it won't do your cause any good, infact it will probably not do your arse any good either when its kicked out the door.

Integrity, humility and pride are also important. Being a submissive does not mean you do not take pride in who and what you are, how you present yourself and your levels of hygiene and cleanliness. I have no desire to have to demand a submissive showers, brushes their hair or remembers to cut their nails, that is basic personal hygiene and should be adhered to at all times. Pride in yourself shows pride in being owned, remember your presentation, actions and words reflect on the person who owns you.

Spirit, I adore spirit in submissives. Doormats have no place in my world, I want to own a submissive I can communicate with past the odd grunt or yes Mistress no Mistress type conversation. Having an opinion isnt wrong, its an entitlement. I will listen to that opinion, whether I act on it is a different matter but you will always be heard and feel able to come to me with issues or concerns, this applies both to the relationship and outwith. I am not here simply for the bashing your arse, its a support and care that goes beyond that.

Trust is another non negotiable. If I cannot trust you, you are of no use to me. There will be times where we are not in the same place and tasks will be issued. I expect these tasks to be carried out and proven. This trust also works both ways, I do not expect a submissive to trust me with their life from the off, that is blatantly silly and holds no respect for safety. Trust grows over time and with the relationship, its not a given on either side.

Loyalty is another positive trait. I expect and demand that from my submissives. Should you have the urge to go off and indulge yourself with another dominant then I am obviously not fulfilling your needs, talk to me and if these issues cannot be resolved I will happily release you to go explore other situations.  This loyalty extends to myself also, I do not need a stable of submissives to keep me amused, one owned submissive is sufficient if they are engaging in the relationship as they should BUT I will introduce others to the relationship here and there, but always on the level of play toys rather than a loved and cared for submissive. This is where some throw the jealousy tantrum, stamp feet and generaly act like children. There is a huge difference in "owning" a submissive and "playing" with another. For me there is no sexual thrill from the other, that is what my submissive is for. The scenario is simply to help my submissive grow, add another dimension to the relationship or simply amuse me. To settle minds lets make it clear now I am not going to "elope" or decide they are a better submissive and collar them, its not going to happen. I carefully choose my owned submissive so that we complete each other, had I thought otherwise it wouldn't have happened !

Family values I also like in a submissive. I have a family, they are important to me, nothing will change that nor will a tantrum throwing submissive get my attention or pull me away from my children/grandchildren. A submissive is more than welcome to interact in family time if they are so inclined or the relationship is more than an occassional whopping but they will never demand my attention over it. End of, non negotiable.

Now I believe I am rambling, another Domme trait? well... to keep it from becomming a book Ill just list quickly other traits that dont need long explanations:

Confidence without arrogance......Open to exploring/pushing limits.....Tears, tears are beautiful and submissives should never be afraid to shed them. Tears during play are not a negative.....communication, talk to me, I do listen.....Initiative, it is nice to see or hear something a submissive has done to please me without being told to do so...

I could go on and on but the majority of people will have stopped reading awhile ago so I will stop and get back to the protecting my lounge from the incarnation of something !!


4/18/2011 11:42:53 AM

Having amused myself with my ultimate title of famous, or perhaps infamous lets move on....

Today I would like to further save e-ink and precious time for those who message with the one liners such as "will you use me as a toilet". While I understand this is some peoples thrill, its not mine. I have a perfectly good toilet in great working order, it even flushes on occassion without being kicked !  It has a beautiful shape, perfect form and comes with shiny handle, even has a matching tag of ownership that says "shanks". Had I stated I was interested in this fetish I am sure I would be responding more positively to such messages of need to be pissed or otherwise used but for me...Ill stick to the compliant obediant one I keep locked upstairs in the bathroom.... Im sadistic like that !


4/18/2011 7:39:37 AM

It has happened at last ...... I AM FAMOUS!!!

Here I was, flicking or clicking should I say, through profiles as you do in moments of complete boredom when no amount of housework can inspire you, kids off out playing and nothing better to be doing than amusing yourself with CM..anyway, I digress... yes there I was in that situation and lo and behold, I saw my name on somebodys journal !

Of course I had to hover for a moment just to bask in the glory before laughing my ass off.

It appears I am a fake...a male by the accounts of this twit. A twit I might add who obviously doesnt know its arse from its elbow and realise that I am active in the ds community in my area therefore am known to other genuine people, unlike those afflicted with the inability to think past the word "dick".

I am amused, thank you mindless fool who I have never spoken to never mind given the time of day, it must be sad in  your world when you have to make up people to talk about since nobody actually does talk to you... hilarious, I am indeed amused !

Wanders off to preen my famous self before the press arrives for an interview.....

4/17/2011 3:35:29 PM

My newest pet peeve !!!

Whats with the word "very" do people think it makes them seem more real or better than the next?

" I am a very very experienced dominant" "i am a very very very submissive submissive"

Experience counts for jack shit in my book, absolutely no indication of a persons sanity or reputation as a dominant/submissive.

Its almost as bad as " i am a very very beautiful attractive absolutely must own me submissive" or " I am the most beautiful/handsome dominant this side of christmas"... does it make you a better person ? certainly makes you look like a complete twit if nothing else. Where has the whole dynamic of relationships gone? Perhaps its down to the number of fake fools on CM that people feel the need to put one over on the next person, maybe it will get them noticed?

Well it did and I am still laughing !!

4/17/2011 12:01:55 PM

As we go through life we learn many lessons, some good, some bad, some remain with us for always, others fall by the wayside... if we grow as people from any of these lessons then good or bad, they are worthwhile.

While there are many fakes and idiots on CM and similar sites there are also many genuine people who are lost or not seen behind the facade of twits who manipulate, cheat and hurt others. They would do well to remember that Karma is a bitch and you just walked right into her... Im watching and waiting

4/14/2011 11:27:32 PM

Away till Sunday 17th March, I will respond to messages after that time.......

3/30/2011 11:49:24 AM

Sometimes a single moment changes a lifetime.........

3/29/2011 9:05:01 AM

Yesterday and today have been somewhat interesting. I have spoken to a beautiful intelligent lady (L) and several similarly intelligent males who have renewed my faith in submissive mankind.  It seems not all on CM are the products of too much wanking over spiderman comics or watching too much eastenders for their thrills.  Integrity, humility and good old fashioned manners go a long way in my world. Those I speak of know who they are so thank you for the conversations and laughs, long may it continue (she says in hope).

That aside, the lunatics are still out in force, today the enquiries have been as strange as normal, shoving a lit cigarette up somebodys bottom is such a waste of a fag and having seen said bottom in a picture that will give me nightmares for days and possibly put me off dinner tonight, it would be like putting fire to paper, there would be an awful stench of singed bottom hair, of which there was apparantly a lot of (reasons unknown and would prefer it stayed that way). 

On a brighter note I do believe if I took up all the offers of boot licking and toe sucking, I would have the prettiest feet and cleanest boots in Scotland, shiny shiny boots and soft pretty toes, how cute !

Back to reality... no not of messages and what not, of REAL reality, time to clean out the hamster cage *insert suitable groan here*... anybody out there have a fetish for hamster poop??????

Enjoy your day all your avid journal readers !


3/26/2011 1:45:39 PM

Why do people feel the need to offer material objects along with their submission? Today so far I have been offerred a car, several thousand pounds and even the deeds to a house.... Now had I not been the Woman I am, I may well have been tempted by these offers, however... material objects/money/any other sign of desperation... does not make me inclined to think that you as a person are enough to be what I want if you feel the need to seduce me with something else.  Surely your submission is enough to give? or do you not believe that is enough or sufficient? maybe you are so used to the financial or tribute dommes on these sites you think it is neccessary to offer extras to entice dommes to respond? Whatever your reason you are going down the wrong road with me, I am not interested in tributes or financial gain from something that is nature to me therefore, save your eink to add to your pot of financial incentives being offerred and take them elsewhere. I am here because I am a woman with a dominant nature and enjoy the benefits of that which happen to be more powerful than any amount of money or gifts or tributes.... a full and complete submission of mind, body and soul. I do wish you the best in your search and please remember to lift your list of potential goodies and take it with you, its not needed here.

As always... SB

3/25/2011 10:45:50 AM

Sorry fellow CMers, my list of pet hates is expanding...todays messages added a few more to the list....

"I am a 19yr old dom with vast experience" ... experience in what? wanking to porn clips?

"I am new to this" huge array of toys in profile pic..well duh

"I dont do married men and I have to keep my life here secret from my husband"

"I am a lesbian but happy to play with men" rethink needed I think !

 and todays message of the day goes to......


wait for it....


hold back the excitement....


"hi i read your profile from start to finish and i think i am the slave you have been looking for. i would love to be taken by you and tortured with your implement of choice till death"   WELL WHAT FUCKING GOOD IS A DEAD SLAVE TO ME !!!!

3/24/2011 1:22:24 AM

Today is..... sunny....bright....invigorating....and the ssdd on CM ! Waking up to the sun shining through the window always brings a smile to my face, thoughts of what to do today taking the remainder of the "omg I really dont want to get up this early" from my mind as I decide what the day holds. Then I log onto my laptop to check out my mail and lo and behold, another pile from CM takes control of my outlook inbox. A second of excitement grips me until I then remember the usual content of such messages so in my eagerness to hold onto the thrill of a beautiful day I decide to leave it till later. Instead I open CM at homepage, a brief look through profiles that present themselves in this place I begin to wonder..."I used to be a Master now I have come back as one" "i was a submissive 10 years ago" "I gave up being a Domme but now Im back" "slavery wasnt for me but now i decided to give it another go"... WTF... is nature not inherant? are we not born with our individual nature and traits? do we learn this skill as a child? is this something we can read a book on and decide its us? In my train of thought our nature is not defined by outside influences, it is defined by who and what we are born, how we progress through life, how we flourish into what is something we cannot change or alter. I know if I wanted I could pretend to be something I am not and give "the look" or say the right words in type to somebody who wanted to hear it but that does not make me that person, that nature or that inherant person. I am a Woman with a dominant nature, nothing in this world or beyond will change that. What brings a person to "give up" being something then return however long later and deem themselves "genuinly absolutely extremely experienced" in the ways of domination/submission... comments will be read with interest.

That aside....its a beautiful day outside...enjoy yours !

As always....SB

3/14/2011 9:04:29 AM

Has somebody suddenly opened the gates on CM and they have come flooding in??? My message box is overwhelmed today and I have seen none of the profile previously on CM, or certainly recently...

For those who are heating up my inbox, please be specific about what you are seeking, this "imma subbie" doesnt enthrall me to respond.  I don't need a life history but c'mon folks, show me there is intelligent life there !

So it is clear, I have no preference to physical attributes on a submissive, I am more interested in their intelligence over cock size or facial features...many things I am, shallow I am not.

Now...back to the inbox...

3/14/2011 6:14:03 AM

Spot the deliberate??? mistakes...


Hello Ma'am... i am the most submissive slave type dog slut you will ever meet. i will do anything and everything you make me.  i have listed below what i like and dont like and what i will or wont do.


Hi, i am loyal and trustworthy and very honest but my wife/husband doesnt know i do this so please dont leave marks on me.


Need I say more...........


3/8/2011 3:37:03 PM

I feel a rant fast approaching but unfortunately its all about me and my inadequacies therefore I think I will keep it to myself rather than be detrimental to my own reputation, if I actually have one, which I am sure if I do, it will be anything but eventful. However on that note, no visible rant... an invisible idealology, gets it out your system but remains silent... I fear for my sanity !

2/5/2011 2:57:08 AM

Thank you all for the responses to my previous post where opened up "abuse" for discussion. There were some very interesting takes on what constitutes abuse and where the "line" is crossed. I have responded to most seperately.


Its the weekend !


Nothing planned this weekend, a quiet one for a change. My boy is poorly so will be tucked up in bed under orders not to move until he is better, take heed mine as I know you will read this LOL.


My vac bed still hasn't arrived so Im pushing towards pissed off and will be contacting said company early next week to cancel my order and find somebody who can deliver their promises.  Name and shame to follow !


Ok, back to the drudgery of "normality" housework.... kids....argggghhhhhhh

2/2/2011 3:32:11 AM

Its been an interesting few days, mostly fun although there have been the odd moments where I think "WTF" but then thats life in general.

Today I am going to open up discussion, its always good to get peoples minds to look at other peoples situations and thoughts...

Having discussed this last night in a chatroom as the topic I would like to open it up for general discussion, out of interest..

Where does the fun stop and abuse begin?

Many questions were asked...

Where is the line that is crossed?

If its consensual is it still abuse?

What exactly constitutes abuse?

Is it more prevelant in bdsm than in a vanilla relationship?

What do you do if you suspect abuse?

Is violence an acceptable method of controlling submissives/slaves?

Who is responsible for safety?

How do you deal with the aftermath of abuse to stop if becomming a vicious circle?

All these questions and more were asked and answered by various people with very varying answers, all relevant and in some cases an example of just how powerful psychological abuse can be in leaving a person without self respect for themself.

I am not going to give my personal opinions on this topic just yet as I am interested in how others who read my rants and journals think and their morals on this.

Please feel free to message me with your thoughts...



1/24/2011 4:24:11 AM


Todays musing is in response to a recent conversation I had with a submissive on previous ownership....


Responsibility of care.

When a dominant person takes responsibility for a submissive, whether within the few hours of a play scene, within a part time relationship or as a full time commitment, with that responsibility comes the care of that submissive.

The basis of the relationship has no matter, whether one of sadism, basic bondage or just play sex, it’s a responsibility that some appear to be lacking.

Instances of submissives being tied for hours and left unsupervised, practises such as cbt, flogging, whipping etc relentlessly without checking the submissives wellbeing, blood drawn without correct aftercare...they leave me speechless and in despair of peoples humanity.

I have been referred to as a Sadistic Domme and as happy as the rest to get my thrill from sadistic practises yet some of these situations leave me with a complete lack of understanding of where these so called dominants are coming from.

It is one thing to be thrilled by humiliation or power control, we all delve into that in various situations but to treat another human being with such lack of responsibility defies all notions of what bdsm is all about.

A submissives state of mind and physical state after such times is paramount, it should be cared for, subdued, treated with respect and given the aftercare/medical care required, not left tied or in a heap on the floor to “come out of it when its ready”... that is not appropriate or responsible care.

Within a committed relationship that responsibility of care has to be take further than general aftercare of a scene, a submissive has given the gift of submission, something to be treasured, respected and treated with love and care, here too so many fall on their arses and assume because they own a submissive they have the right to treat the person with a lack of any morals, after all they are the boss...

Those that claim submissives are property, animals and worse, each to their own but unless the laws of the UK have changed, slavery/submission of any sort is consensual, rant all you like about it but that is what the law states and those breaking those laws will be penalised.  So the law aside, we look at the state of mind of the person treating another human being with the lack of care or morals that I have seen, read and more worryingly witnessed previously...

Having worked within the genre of mental health for many years, I have come across patients with psychological dysfunction who have little or no concept of morals and what is right or wrong or even acceptable in society, some I might add, with more responsibility than I have seen in so called Dominants treating submissives so disgracefully.  These people I treat are taken out of society, put through various psychological tests, therapies and so forth, kept away from society until they are no longer seen as a threat or dysfunctional....yet we allow these dominants to have free reign over vulnerable human beings?

I have a responsibility of care for people in my care at work which is a written legal document that states no matter my moral beliefs, I will and must give these clients the care needed to keep them safe, to offer treatment as required and ensure that they can be successfully integrated back into a “normal” society to live within the boundaries of what is deemed acceptable by the law.

Perhaps it is time to consider a similar programme for dominants who have completely lost the concept of responsibility over that of ego stroking or control issues... get a grip people and think about what you are doing and the long term damage you are doing to people who have given you the greatest gift possible...themselves, fully and completely in the hope that you will love, care and treat that gift responsibly... stand up to the mark and stop hiding behind so called titles, calling yourself Dom or Domme or Sir or Ma’am does not make you so, it merely is a title to hide behind when you are unable to control your own psychological state never mind a submissives.

This isn’t about your kink or what turns you on or what you like to do to get your rocks off, this is about the responsibility you take whilst practising.

The fundamentals of bdsm are being lost and we stand back and watch it happen.... I for one have and will always stand up and speak out about what I believe are wrongdoings within our craft, I hope others also vocalise themselves to bring bdsm back in a positive light.


As always, SB

1/21/2011 1:50:50 PM

Today I feel a more relaxed attitude, an almost laidback approach to journal entries....

Oh dont despair all you lovers of my rantings, normal service will be resumed as soon as I plough through the next batch of messages that accumulate in my inbox like flies round shi... oh wait...that would be a wrong analogy since its me we are talking about, Miss Super Domme.... *insert suitable smart assed sadistic face here*

Anyway...todays entry goes something like this....


I feel goooooooood da na na na na, like I knew that I would now da na na na na...


Ok, relaxed entry over, back to business...

Im sadistic like that....


1/20/2011 5:56:01 AM

Todays musing...

I was messaged earlier, polite introduction then it went to shits in the second paragraph.

No sooner had they delighted my senses with the indepth descriptions of their cock, the absolute no limit policy they adopted and the "oh god if i dont serve you i will die" personalised statement they proceeded to make themself look even further from anything resembling sane by glancing into the "fundamentals" of bdsm. The lack of knowledge evident in every word, didnt even make it to a sentance... *insert wistful sigh here*

However, things brightened up when they continued to illuminate me with their understanding of the whole bdsm scene and even of my own motives, all this from reading my profile, wow, we have indeed found a messiah in the bdsm world.

What gave it away you ask yourselves right???

The word BBW, as in my profile...meaning on the larger end of the scale having no hang-ups about it and being happy with who and what I am...

Their version.... in all seriousness.... boys bottom whipper.... HILARIOUS !

Oh my day has been made, thank you to the male who sent that message, my day is complete !



1/18/2011 6:30:36 AM

I feel a rant fast approaching...the content of such a rant will be revealed when Im finished laughing..

I'm sadistic like that


1/11/2011 5:39:41 AM

Todays short but meaningful entry....

cramming numerous cock picks into an attachement isnt' going to get you into my "amusing" category, whether your dick is clit sized or small elephant sized matters not, its about my amusement from the pain inflicted that counts...

I'm sadistic like that...


1/10/2011 8:33:40 AM

What to talk about today....the possibilities are endless....yet I find my mind wandering to other things... perhaps today is not the day to get philisophical and just think plainly...


Its a good day....

1/8/2011 9:02:39 AM

I find myself once again at a loss at the complete and utter stupidity shown by some in their messages and posts.


Safety is uppermost in any situation whereby you put yourself or others at risk of psychological and/or physical damage.


If this is a general consensus, it is a ridiculous and idiotic comment to post that you will put yourself at my mercy on the first meeting.  Who am I? What are my motives? Have you even bothered to confirm my identity or contact details? Am I qualified to use a flogger, a whip or even a feather duster?


Please use common sense and not assume that offering to become pulp is what will draw my attention to you, infact it will do quite the opposite and I will have no further contact.


Todays rant over.




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