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Isn't attraction incredible! Imagine relaxing into strong arms, feeling safe, intimate and appreciated. Knowing that the One you have found is totally right, the One that you want to spend the rest of your life with? Do you want to be one of those old couples that you see walking hand in hand still truly, madly, deeply in love with each other after all their years together? This is what I am looking for, the right person, the one that will the last great love of my life.
The qualities I seek in my match, someone that I am attracted to and respect, someone that acts kindly and loves me, intelligent and emotionally stable, and is outgoing, adventuresome and open minded. Of course there are other qualities that I am looking for in a mate, but those are of a more flexible nature. I like to have a 1950's style relationship, this is a little hard to explain in just a few words, but its like most of our parents had, and it just involves respect and clear definition of dominate and submissive roles. Yes, it is a little old fashion, but then again look at the length of those marriages, and the love and respect they had for each other. They must have been doing something right.
Now about me. I am 6' tall about 200 pounds, shaved head for the last 8 years. Well educated, well spoken, comfortable in jeans, loves an excuse to dress up in a suit, knows the difference between the forks at a fine restaurant. I love food, going out to restaurants or cooking at home. I consider myself a good cook, anything for the BBQ grill to 7 course gourmet meals. I like to have a good social life, good conversation with good friends, going dancing even though I am not a great dancer, I like to make time to stay at home and cuddle on the couch, or spend a lazy day in bed. I am a movie fan I love movies from the 40's and 50's, and going to the theater. I love Saints football, travel for an intimate weekend with someone special. Spending a day fishing, the slow old fashioned live bait and a cork kind, or a day in the yard gardening. My plans for the near future is to semi-retire in a couple years and spend the time working at home and traveling.
If you are looking for a strong, emotionally literate, able, man with 30 years lifestyle experiance who is willing to listen, and knows how to treat a woman, please feel free to contact me. I know that my search may be a long one, but finding the One is a prize worth all the world.
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I do not know the Author of this... But enjoyed it and thought it was worth sharing.
A confused sub came before a wise Master who adored her. She felt that to submit to him would mean she would open her heart to unbearable pain should he ever leave her. She hungered for him and needed him, but was ready to walk away in panic.
The gentle Master knelt her before him and started a tale of love and devotion. As she looked up at him his arms began to widen and open like a large tree stretches its branches to the sky. At that moment the Master appeared rooted to the floor and his impressive size towered above her like a giant tree. Then he began to speak.
I'm here for you, now and always no matter how far time and space takes us. Whether you walk away from me today or you stay and serve me I will not turn from you. I am as patient as time itself; I will take not from you unless you give freely and completely of yourself, but I give onto you regardless -- for my love is unconditional.
Like the olive tree that can both feed you and shade you, I am there seemingly eternal to your short life on this earth. If you need my fruit to feed your hunger I will give you all the fruit you need. If your skin grows dry and loses its luster, the oil from my fruit will restore it and make it glisten. When you need comfort my leaves will gently caress your face with the slightest breeze. When you need discipline my branches will correct you when the wind blows strong. If you just need my shade to protect you from the sun, my branches will shade and protect you. If you need warmth at night my fallen branches will fuel the fire to keep you warm and safe. If you need a refreshing breeze my leaves will fan you and cool you. You are my gardener.
When you submit to me, you tend that which keeps me vibrant and full of life. When you kneel under me and till the soil, you give breath to my roots. When you water me, my sap flows strong through me raising my limping Branches. When you soil yourself collecting fertilizer with your bare hands, you strengthen and humble me with your devotion.
Although my life will go on, life would not be the same without you.
Your dedication and unconditional care for me keeps me vibrant and nurtures my very core. The sustenance and protection I give you seems little reward for your servitude. Still the gardener serves the tree from her heart and the tree gives to her heart all that he can!
I am planted firmly on the ground and cannot follow you if you walk away from me. . But be assured I will survive. One hundred years later and two of your lifetimes; I will still be there, waiting for you in the same spot to offer you all that I do now.
Stay with me and be my gardener. You cannot get lost in me for we are complementary to each other. I am your devotion, and you give meaning to my existence. Apart we live life and survive; together we bloom eternally!
As the Master finished his last words the sub cried herself to sleep at his feet. That night, he stood planted there like the Olive tree offering her his unconditional love and protection as she slept. As she would tend to him with her devotion the next day and everyday |
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A two part answer on my nick, and being a sadist.
First, the classic definition of a sadist is someone that get sexual pleasure from causing pain. But more to the point, a sadist enjoys the struggle or response caused by their actions. For me the response to my actions is paramount, meaning its not so much what I do, but the reaction that get back in return. The worse thing for me is to have a non responsive partner. I don't tend to be a hard player, I fall somewhere in the middle as a player. I can adapt my style to match that of my partners, I get as much pleasure from tickling or orgasm control as I do from using a single tail. I like to have fun when I play, and I am very attentive to my partner as this makes for better play. It is a symbiotic relationship, better play makes for more feedback, more feedback makes for better play. Playing too hard or playing just for my pleasure and having someone safe word or be non responsive would be counter productive.
Second I started learning BDSM somewhere around 1979 in the leather community around Chicago. This was long before the Internet, and the protocol was socially driven because it was mostly used in the bar scene. One of the rules is addressing someone as a person not as there role. Everyone was on equal footing unless they where in a relationship. So all the honorifics for the most part where not used. About 12 years ago I got Internet access, and that was an education in itself. People who had read a couple Anne Rice books came up with nicks like Sir_____ , Master _____, and _____Dom and expected strangers address then as such. I am sure you have seen those types online. I have used this nick for about 11 or 12 years now and it describes what I am. Sometimes people immediately make assumptions because of the nick, and I know it costs me contacts. But it is unique, and I don't presume to be anyone's Master or Dom until a relationship develops.
A sadist does not have to be cruel, mean, or unfeeling person. I am far from any of those things, but I do take great pleasure in some of the simplest things. The shiver and moan I get from tightly grasping a hand full of hair, the struggle I get from a couple minutes of tickling at bed time, or just watching TV and saying she can't orgasm as I play with her clit.
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