The kinky world seems different from the vanilla, but if you take away all the trappings it really isn't. There are cliques, unspoken rules and people who betray themselves so that they can belong. It's human nature, whether you are kinky or not.

I see a lot of girls describing themselves as 'natural submissives', but who are really into this because of low self-esteem. They crave being wanted, while wrapping themselves in the word submissive or slave. The trade off is sex with the trappings of kink, and the price is validation; it's make believe D/s. They get their intimacy, and the price of admission is a sore ass.

Many of the masters aren't much better. They're unable to master themselves let alone another. Where is the power in that? It's part of the 'power exchange' - they get their power from their sub, all for the low price of a little after care.