I have been on CM for awhile now and have met some wonderful creatures all of them individuals in their own right.  They all search for their golden one the one who can capture their inner self and hold it dear to them as a Master or Mistress should.  Some have the great fortune to find that one and it warms my heart when I see such on their profiles.  Others still search and they shall find their one amongst all the ones here but it is a struggle to move thru the masses trying to decipher if they are true or not.  Others are so wrapped up into their wants that they will never find the one they seek for they set the standard or criteria to which they search by some vanilla means and miss the point all together and I find that so sad.  Since being in this lifestyle I have evolved and I hope it has been a positive evolution to view ones not by  what they project on the outside or look like on the outside but to touch and feel what is inside them.  That at least to me is the true meaning of all who search no matter which side of the whip you are on.  It is so wonderful and powerful when I interact with ones that have this understanding.  Why I think some long distance relationships have stood the test of time as well as the long physical abstinence.  Others I see still struggle inside themselves to make the commitment until they have the perfect plan or person and not knowing the perfect plan is the one that never is acted on so it never has any faults and the perfect person has long since left this world to sit beside his father.  I see the new ones entering full of energy and innocence and have a zeal and are driven only to see them fall into the wrong arms and become disillusion and then are gone.  Ones who have had this misfortune and still follow their inner feelings become guarded but move on to fine their one being more educated in their search.  I have gone though some these initiation rites myself and say it has made who and what I am today.  In every step taking time to understand what happened and how to correct myself and be a better Master for it or what ever you may call me.  Yes it has been trying more down moments than up but I can say it takes over a thousand down moments to even come close to when you have that certain person at that certain time and the minds meet and develop that bond well it is just hard to describe that wonderful moment.  So for the ones who read this do not despair you will have your glorious times and moments and when you do cherish them and  when you have  the thousand other moments that are not that just think back to one of the glorious ones and smile and say yes it is worth it a thousand times worth it.