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Hetero Male Master, 64,  Chatham, Virginia
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 Dominant Male



 5' 9"

 275 lbs






Actively Seeking:

Submissive Female





 Breast Binding/Play



 Hair Pulling


 Mental Bondage

 Obedience Training

 Orgasm Control





 Intellectual Discourse



 1950s Household




 Flea Markets

 Garage Sales



 Anal Play


 Body Worship


 Corner Time

 Eye Contact Restrictions


 Outdoor Bondage

 Pony/Puppy Roleplay

 Sensory Deprivation

 Serving as a Maid/Butler

 Speech Restrictions


 Board Games

 Card Games

 Historical Shows

 Science Fiction






 Conservative Politics





 Lifestyle BDSM

 Victorian Household





 Curious About:






Greetings all who enter here with a sincere heart.
  I am here to find a female to serve me in a long-term TPE relationship.  I am also willing to provide shorter term shelter for one or more females who need shelter, a temporary haven, respite or escape from whatever situation she/they are burdened by.
I am into Control, Bondage & Discipline, Sensual Domination and the mental, emotional and physical exploration and domination of my submissive.   Simple:  if it is your nature and you find fulfillment in this we might fit wonderfully.

Both Master and submissive-slave have responsibilities.  We have different natures which compel us to different roles; roles with vastly different prerogatives, expectations, rights and responsibilities.  As the submissive lives to serve her master, so the master  must protect her and guide her life.  How else can she entrust him with her life?  I am both a nurturing caring man and a forceful, taking control man. 

This life requires intelligence, honesty and trust. 



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Journal Entries:
7/19/2016 6:50:23 AM
We have to recognise that there cannot be relationships unless there is commitment, unless there is loyalty, unless there is love, patience, persistence. — Cornel West
Does this apply to those who believe in unequal power relationships? 
I would like to know others' thoughts.

4/13/2013 6:20:51 AM

A wise slave has this on her profile:

E mails must lead to vid chat by 1 week max. I am cautious, you are cautious but after 3 or 4 emails its time to meet or move on. Don't you agree. Wink

what a wise and sensible person; a means to at least do a simple verification and allow the relationship to flow onward.  Body language, facial expression and voice inflection reveals much that cyber words alone can not.       thank you GIRL FROM YOUR PAST

4/11/2013 5:29:38 AM

There is no division necessary between being s truly submissive, slave-nature girl owned by a strict, intense, controlling man and love between them.   How could I not love a woman who offers me what I need to be complete or allows me to be the One who enables her also to be complete, both of us with free-flowing natures, fulfilled?

It  need not be romantic love  (though it may grow to that) or maybe the people connect first and discover both love and the connection of power exchange symbiosis.  

It is hard in the logical-rational-linear sense to see how enslavement is liberating, but it is a truth and reality for many.  you let go responsibility for your life, and learn to live for another, from imposed conditioning to be a manipulative, selfish woman in this world to existing to be what your Sir requires you to be.  your mind free to focus on deep matters, to find beauty in simplicity, to rejoice with a gentle touch or soft word, in your owner's desire for you or approval of you or pleasure in you.

3/12/2013 9:50:12 AM

I seek a slave--property whose nature is consistent with those fabulous words:

  • "I am seeking a dominant to own and collar me and turn me into his perfect doll, slut, maid, servant, toy or whatever he desires.

  For me slavery is all about putting the needs of my owner first, obeying His Will without question, trusting them implicitly and being there to make his life easier."

I am  Intense, Controlling, Forceful, Responsible.   If you can live, must live, owned and always seeking to please, serve and suffer for Me, your owner-master-Sir, then reply with a truly revealing, insightful meaningful email.  Real communication is required, anything less is BULLSHIT.

3/2/2013 12:58:42 PM


It is simple enough.


 First, this life is About the relationship, Master owning slave, slave serving master, Total Power Exchange, built on vulnerability and trust.  Sex and BDSM are important elements of this life, but the life is About us as people, being able to live our natures, fulfilled and free-flowing, to be complete while enabling the other to be complete.

Second, the best slaves are intelligent, strong, capable, have deep ethics, are hard-working, truly and intensely submissive with a slave-soul.

Third, as you embark on this journey the first serious obstacle is the societal conditioning that is imposed on all of us and works as an anchor, but not an anchor that protects you, one that limits your free movement and discovery.   Society fills us with prejudices, judgments, expectations and a tendency to seek conformity all of which creates conflict within folks whose natures compel them to different paths.

 Fourthmost people discover that as time and experience grow the things you now consider too extreme no longer feel that way... almost everyone's recognition and understanding of their own inner natures intensifies and grows deeper.  Perhaps you are beginning and it is risky, frightening even, to consider being bound and helpless, at another's whim...  but as you accept and acknowledge the truth of who you are,  this will be normal and the next thing, once taboo in your mind, will be excitingly risky and beckon you.


Fifth, individuals often have unrealistic expectations of a perfect master or slave, ideal interaction, perfect blending of lives, etc.  I am not perfect.  I do not expect you to be.  Neither should you expect another to be or be expected to be yourself.  And yet, it Is what you should strive for, always.

Sixth, what fits in one relationship may not fit in the next.  Rigid thinking should make one a little wary.

Seventh, Although it gets less conversation than the BDSM and sexual aspects of this life, the responsibility of a master towards his slave are considerable.  A master is always 'On'; I would ensure your well-being and growth; not necessarily your comfort.  To me it is a privilege to be entrusted with another's life and balance, guidance and discovery.   And it  should be the slave's true nature to serve her Master, in every way. 


And ask yourself:


Is it your true, inner nature to be owned and controlled by another?  Can you let go?  Are you open to discovering facets of your self that you were taught to avoid, deny, suppress?

Can you be vulnerable all the time, open, exposed and entrust your life to another's control, care and protection?

Are you willing to communicate honestly and meaningfully? 

Do you recognize this is about much more than fun and games, kinky sex and BDSM?

Are you serious, sincere and ready to Live this intense and challenging life?

Should I trust you?



If you truly are here for relationship, to be Owned, live to delight, serve and suffer for your Owner, then we have a starting point..

you Must be able to communicate effectively, willing to share yourself : life, nature, thoughts, etc.  Anything less is bullshit.



12/7/2012 8:42:43 AM

The terms "submissive", "slave" and "pet" do not actually have universally agreed upon meanings or use.   There are subs who live chained and slaves who are doctors and run businesses.   It is the intensity of the relationship and how each couple uses the terms that makes the meaning.   Good luck to you

11/23/2012 7:49:50 AM


first lesson should always be respect, knowing your place and relative position.  a slave without respect is useless.

you need to be able to communicate and also to be vulnerable.  brief and superficial replies indicate you either have not put sufficient thought into living this life, are too immature or a deceitful person.

if you have an age range or race ,  gender  or other mandatory criteria, put that in your profile.  To not do so and just delete people enmasse is irresponsible.

If someone writes to you, shouldn't you appreciate that sufficiently to at least use an automated reply?  How submissive are you if you do not Want to be courteous and respectful to sincere and respectful dominants?

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